I am so excited for this episode. This is going to be a really good one. We have a special guest on today. Welcome back to another episode of Hot Mess with Alex Earle. I've been moving like a hot mess.

I don't want no cover, I want checks. I don't wantI have to be the one to... I have to change Everything. And you just get to do what you do. And you just live this, just how you were living. And now I have to move. I have to pay to move. It's really a fucked up situation.Yeah. Holy shit. When did you speak? Did he come back home and you weren't there? Did you warn him? Were you just...He called me that night, and And I think my gut was preparing me a little bit because of what I was feeling in Paris. Something just felt so wrong. I don't know what was going on. So when it happened, I was in shock for a moment. So when he was like, Can I call you? He called me the next night when I told him that I was ending it. He called me after, and he almost worded it as I was staying. He was like, I'm going to do the work. And I was like, Oh, Buddy.Babes.Babes. I'm out of here. And I hope he did.Was he shocked that you put your foot down?Not sure. I think he knew all along if anything were to happen again, I'd be gone. I think he knew. But I think since he proposed, maybe it was like an added layer of like, oh, we're going to be fine. I'm assuming. Maybe. I don't know. But I was like, no, this obviously ain't the one. I mean, I gave you freaking everything and still not and pretend I can fix people anymore.I feel like that's such a hard thing, and you always want to believe that they're going to change or be better. You're like, Oh, this was just a one-time thing, and it's like, Oh, God.I know.To any girls who are going through a breakup right now or maybe in a position, is there anything you say or advice, words of wisdom, anything you've learned? Because there's so many people that are going to hear this and you're going to change their lives. Do you have any advice?At first, I was really embarrassed. I was really embarrassed by how much I loved this person, and I was really embarrassed by how much I put into this relationship. I was like, Why did I Why would I put so much into something that- Just unembarrassing. Yeah. And it's not embarrassing. It's not embarrassing to love wholeheartedly with everything you have. In fact, I think I would have a lot of regrets right now sitting here with what I've gone through, I would still have regrets if I didn't put everything on the line. I did everything I could. I gave it my all. And I get to lay my head down at night knowing I did everything. And I think the scariest thing right now is I'm scared I'm not going to trust again. I'm scared that I'll never look at a relationship the same. And all I can do is just give myself grace that if I get hurt again, it's okay. All I can say is love without fear of getting hurt. Because it's a whole lot better of a feeling than having walls up and not giving everything you could and regretting it after.This is something I've struggled with because I'll go into things and I'm like, I can't or something's going to happen. And it's like, fuck, you just need to almost let yourself get embarrassed if it happens. It's like you have to do that. Otherwise, it's like you don't really know wholeheartedly if the relationship is going to work or not. If you're not like a 110% in. So that's personally something. You're speaking to me right now. Alex. But it is scary. Yeah.No, I know.I know. I want to thank you for being so open and honest about this because this is like... And trusting me with this because this is such a big story and a big part of who you are. But it's like you are going to do so much good with this. And I hope you know that. And you are thriving and you're amazing. And even your energy, you walked in the room and I'm like, you're just an amazing person. I feel the same about you. I hope that you feel good. And I just want to say thank you for trusting me with this.No, thank you for having me. I've never been on a podcast before, and I've always wanted to meet you. I know.I'm I'm happy we did this.I know. Me too. I feel like you were such a huge inspiration for me starting out doing content. You are for a lot of people, and I just admire you a lot. I'm so happy to be here.I know. We're going to have fun, and we're going to have fun after this, too. And before we finish, I feel like we'll end on a fun note. Should we play a little game of Fuck, Marry, Kill? Yeah. So do you have... Because I feel like these people are all over the place. Do you have a type, would you say, normally or no?No, I don't think so. I've been all over the board.Yeah. I'm a personality girl. I do have a type. I'll say, if someone's walking down the road, who I would say. But I think actually getting to know someone and someone I need the personality there or I'm like, I cannot do it.I'm the same way.Okay. Fuck, marry, kill. This is the crucial part of the interview right now. Okay. This is the real tea. Timothée Chalame, Jacob Alorty, Noah Santana, Cintineo. I don't know if I'm saying that right.Centineo, I love him. This is hard. That's really hard.Yeah, I know that. Okay.Timothée Chalmet is my number one. He has been my number one for years, which is wild because it's such a drastic opposite.I was going to say that's I feel like the opposite. I thought he would have been cut first.He is my Mary. I would marry Timothée Chalmet. I think I would... I think I'd kill Noah, even though he was my number one for a couple of months back in the day. And then I think I would... I think I'd fuck Jacob Alortia. I just feel like he knows what he's doing. I can tell.Okay. Michael B. Jordan, Zac Efron, Dylan Dylan O'Brien.Kill Dylan O'Brien. Just because I just never knew.I feel so aggressive. She was really passionate towards that. Kill him. He's all.Only because I... Wasn't he on Disney channel?Was he? I don't actually know.I don't know him much as an actor. Okay. Okay. Fuck Zac Efron, Mary Michael B. Jordan. Okay. Love.Justin Bieber, Benny Blanco, Lil Dicky.Mary Justin Bieber, Fuck Lil Dicky, Kill Benny I don't go. Sorry, Benny. I know. I hope you're treating my girl right.Yeah. Love you, Selena. He's for Selena, the Queen. Okay. This is a fun Gossip Girl one. Penn Badgley, Chase Crawford, Ed Westwick. Did you watch Gossip Girl?I never watched Gossip Girl. I know.She's like, next question, please.But really? But really? Penn's Daddy.You think? Yeah.Okay. Yeah, I would marry him.Okay. Love. Do you know the other two or you're like, who is that?No, I don't.Okay. Bad Bunny, Machine Gun Kelly, Bruno Mars.Kill Bruno Mars. Marry Bad Bunny and Fuck Machine Gun Kelly.I love how passionate you are with the kill. It's like every time... Kill. Kill first. No thought, kill. Harry Style's, Sean Mendez, Noah Khan.Mary Harry. What was the second one?Sean Mendez.Kill Sean Mendez. Okay. Fuck Noah Khan. Okay. Love him.Well, thanks for coming on Hot Mess. This was so much fun. And I'm looking forward to going out tonight. I'm so excited.We're going to have so much fun. Thank you for having me. And I love you and you're amazing.Love you. Oh my God. This was so fun. So Tiana just left, and we're going to do a little What Would Alex Do? And then I'm hosting a party tonight, actually, in Montauk, which I'm a little A bit scared about. I mean, I love hosting, but I feel like you get a little bit of host anxiety. I'm the type of host that I'm like, everyone needs to be having the most fun night of their entire lives. A little stressed out right now, but she's going to become meeting me at the party later. All my friends are here. It's going to be a really fun night. Hopefully, it's a Sunday night, but I feel like it'll be chill. We're on a boat. I don't know. We'll have some DJs playing. But let's get into what would Alex do. Hi, Alex. This guy I have always been interested in, He finally asked me out. I said yes, but have since found out that he, one, cheated on his last girlfriend, and two, also asked two other girls besides me for different days this week we're supposed to go out. We all go to the same college. Is it bad that I still want to go on the date?What would Alex do? This guy, I don't think you're going to be dating him. I don't ever think it's really a good sign if someone's cheated on their past ex. I don't he couldn't commit, but we were still hooking up. I ended up kissing a close friend of his and he lost his shit on me. I feel bad about it, but we were never together. What should I do? Well, first of all, I feel like if you didn't ask to be in a relationship and he said that he couldn't commit, then I feel like I could see where maybe he could be a little offended and the lines were a little blurry.But if you were like, I want to be in a relationship, and he said no, what the hell else are you supposed to do? Then you're basically just dating without the label of dating. That makes zero sense to me. I don't think you should feel bad for that. I think it's sounding like he wants to have his freedom, but also control you at the same time. I just feel like, especially what we've learned about in this episode as well, just you're not crazy. If something's pissing you off, I feel like all these questions, it's like, if you have a gut feeling or something's pissing you off, you shouldn't think that you're crazy for that. Maybe I'm crazy for saying that, but I don't know. If he won't be in a relationship with you, then what the hell else are you supposed to do? You're either in a relationship or you're not. I understand if there's a phase before the relationship, before you're dating, that's like it can throw the other person off if you get with someone because then I feel like you shouldn't really be doing that. But if he said he doesn't want to date you, then I literally don't know what else you're you're supposed to do in that situation.How do you not feel worried/insecure about who your partner has been with in the past? Even though they're not in his life anymore, I can't help but compare myself to girls my boyfriend has been with. What would Alex do? Well, that's always a tricky situation because you never want to know. I mean, maybe you want to know. Sometimes I want to know. But you never want to hear about who your boyfriend had been with in the past or your partner being with anyone else other than you. That's never going to be a comfortable feeling. But that's also just You know what I mean? There's nothing you can really do about that. I sometimes I'm like, well, maybe it would be weird if he's, like Braxton's 28 years old. I'm like, If he had never dated another girl in his life or been with another girl or kissed another girl, I'd probably be like, Well, I don't know how I feel about that either. So it's just life. It happens. And weirdly, we were in a situation where I was recently with a girl that Braxton used to get with, and she came up to me.And I was being so chill with her because that was years ago. And I don't care. It doesn't bother me. But Braxton told me just to warn me. He's like, I just want you to know. I had gotten with this girl in the past, which I thought was very respectable of him to do because I would have had no idea otherwise. And she came up to me. And this is after we had been spending, I don't know, this was a few, maybe four events that we had gone to together. And I've always been so nice to her, never said anything. And she came up to me and was like, I just want to let you know that I had gotten with him. I hope nothing's weird. Almost like trying to sense the vibe of she wanted to know if Braxton had told me or not. And then she also made a comment to Braxton alone before she said something to me like, I really hope Alex is fine with this. Like, whatever. I was like, Give me a break. At that point, you're just fishing for me to know that you had gotten with him.This is not necessary at all. That was years and years ago. I haven't given you a problem. I thought that was a little weird. Obviously, That's a situation where you never want to hear that. But it's just life and what we have to deal with. So you just have to know you're with him. He's your man. Everyone has done something in the past, and you cannot hop on that unless they're doing something weird with this person, there's nothing you can really do about that, but just have confidence in yourself and your relationship. On that note, that's the end of this episode. I'll see you guys next Thursday for another episode of Hot Mess. Love you guys. Don't forget to and subscribe to this podcast. Bye.I've been moving like a hot mess. I don't want no couple, I want checks. I don't want the second, I want best. I'm all in my head, I'm a wreck. I've been moving like a hot mess. Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jauzy here, host of the new video podcast, Boyfriend Material.Dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s, it's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where Boyfriend Material with Harry Jauzey comes in. Every Tuesday, I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations, and honest advice on them all. Watch Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi every Tuesday here on Spotify.You might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. 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I have to be the one to... I have to change Everything. And you just get to do what you do. And you just live this, just how you were living. And now I have to move. I have to pay to move. It's really a fucked up situation.

Yeah. Holy shit. When did you speak? Did he come back home and you weren't there? Did you warn him? Were you just...

He called me that night, and And I think my gut was preparing me a little bit because of what I was feeling in Paris. Something just felt so wrong. I don't know what was going on. So when it happened, I was in shock for a moment. So when he was like, Can I call you? He called me the next night when I told him that I was ending it. He called me after, and he almost worded it as I was staying. He was like, I'm going to do the work. And I was like, Oh, Buddy.

Babes.

Babes. I'm out of here. And I hope he did.

Was he shocked that you put your foot down?

Not sure. I think he knew all along if anything were to happen again, I'd be gone. I think he knew. But I think since he proposed, maybe it was like an added layer of like, oh, we're going to be fine. I'm assuming. Maybe. I don't know. But I was like, no, this obviously ain't the one. I mean, I gave you freaking everything and still not and pretend I can fix people anymore.I feel like that's such a hard thing, and you always want to believe that they're going to change or be better. You're like, Oh, this was just a one-time thing, and it's like, Oh, God.I know.To any girls who are going through a breakup right now or maybe in a position, is there anything you say or advice, words of wisdom, anything you've learned? Because there's so many people that are going to hear this and you're going to change their lives. Do you have any advice?At first, I was really embarrassed. I was really embarrassed by how much I loved this person, and I was really embarrassed by how much I put into this relationship. I was like, Why did I Why would I put so much into something that- Just unembarrassing. Yeah. And it's not embarrassing. It's not embarrassing to love wholeheartedly with everything you have. In fact, I think I would have a lot of regrets right now sitting here with what I've gone through, I would still have regrets if I didn't put everything on the line. I did everything I could. I gave it my all. And I get to lay my head down at night knowing I did everything. And I think the scariest thing right now is I'm scared I'm not going to trust again. I'm scared that I'll never look at a relationship the same. And all I can do is just give myself grace that if I get hurt again, it's okay. All I can say is love without fear of getting hurt. Because it's a whole lot better of a feeling than having walls up and not giving everything you could and regretting it after.This is something I've struggled with because I'll go into things and I'm like, I can't or something's going to happen. And it's like, fuck, you just need to almost let yourself get embarrassed if it happens. It's like you have to do that. Otherwise, it's like you don't really know wholeheartedly if the relationship is going to work or not. If you're not like a 110% in. So that's personally something. You're speaking to me right now. Alex. But it is scary. Yeah.No, I know.I know. I want to thank you for being so open and honest about this because this is like... And trusting me with this because this is such a big story and a big part of who you are. But it's like you are going to do so much good with this. And I hope you know that. And you are thriving and you're amazing. And even your energy, you walked in the room and I'm like, you're just an amazing person. I feel the same about you. I hope that you feel good. And I just want to say thank you for trusting me with this.No, thank you for having me. I've never been on a podcast before, and I've always wanted to meet you. I know.I'm I'm happy we did this.I know. Me too. I feel like you were such a huge inspiration for me starting out doing content. You are for a lot of people, and I just admire you a lot. I'm so happy to be here.I know. We're going to have fun, and we're going to have fun after this, too. And before we finish, I feel like we'll end on a fun note. Should we play a little game of Fuck, Marry, Kill? Yeah. So do you have... Because I feel like these people are all over the place. Do you have a type, would you say, normally or no?No, I don't think so. I've been all over the board.Yeah. I'm a personality girl. I do have a type. I'll say, if someone's walking down the road, who I would say. But I think actually getting to know someone and someone I need the personality there or I'm like, I cannot do it.I'm the same way.Okay. Fuck, marry, kill. This is the crucial part of the interview right now. Okay. This is the real tea. Timothée Chalame, Jacob Alorty, Noah Santana, Cintineo. I don't know if I'm saying that right.Centineo, I love him. This is hard. That's really hard.Yeah, I know that. Okay.Timothée Chalmet is my number one. He has been my number one for years, which is wild because it's such a drastic opposite.I was going to say that's I feel like the opposite. I thought he would have been cut first.He is my Mary. I would marry Timothée Chalmet. I think I would... I think I'd kill Noah, even though he was my number one for a couple of months back in the day. And then I think I would... I think I'd fuck Jacob Alortia. I just feel like he knows what he's doing. I can tell.Okay. Michael B. Jordan, Zac Efron, Dylan Dylan O'Brien.Kill Dylan O'Brien. Just because I just never knew.I feel so aggressive. She was really passionate towards that. Kill him. He's all.Only because I... Wasn't he on Disney channel?Was he? I don't actually know.I don't know him much as an actor. Okay. Okay. Fuck Zac Efron, Mary Michael B. Jordan. Okay. Love.Justin Bieber, Benny Blanco, Lil Dicky.Mary Justin Bieber, Fuck Lil Dicky, Kill Benny I don't go. Sorry, Benny. I know. I hope you're treating my girl right.Yeah. Love you, Selena. He's for Selena, the Queen. Okay. This is a fun Gossip Girl one. Penn Badgley, Chase Crawford, Ed Westwick. Did you watch Gossip Girl?I never watched Gossip Girl. I know.She's like, next question, please.But really? But really? Penn's Daddy.You think? Yeah.Okay. Yeah, I would marry him.Okay. Love. Do you know the other two or you're like, who is that?No, I don't.Okay. Bad Bunny, Machine Gun Kelly, Bruno Mars.Kill Bruno Mars. Marry Bad Bunny and Fuck Machine Gun Kelly.I love how passionate you are with the kill. It's like every time... Kill. Kill first. No thought, kill. Harry Style's, Sean Mendez, Noah Khan.Mary Harry. What was the second one?Sean Mendez.Kill Sean Mendez. Okay. Fuck Noah Khan. Okay. Love him.Well, thanks for coming on Hot Mess. This was so much fun. And I'm looking forward to going out tonight. I'm so excited.We're going to have so much fun. Thank you for having me. And I love you and you're amazing.Love you. Oh my God. This was so fun. So Tiana just left, and we're going to do a little What Would Alex Do? And then I'm hosting a party tonight, actually, in Montauk, which I'm a little A bit scared about. I mean, I love hosting, but I feel like you get a little bit of host anxiety. I'm the type of host that I'm like, everyone needs to be having the most fun night of their entire lives. A little stressed out right now, but she's going to become meeting me at the party later. All my friends are here. It's going to be a really fun night. Hopefully, it's a Sunday night, but I feel like it'll be chill. We're on a boat. I don't know. We'll have some DJs playing. But let's get into what would Alex do. Hi, Alex. This guy I have always been interested in, He finally asked me out. I said yes, but have since found out that he, one, cheated on his last girlfriend, and two, also asked two other girls besides me for different days this week we're supposed to go out. We all go to the same college. Is it bad that I still want to go on the date?What would Alex do? This guy, I don't think you're going to be dating him. I don't ever think it's really a good sign if someone's cheated on their past ex. I don't he couldn't commit, but we were still hooking up. I ended up kissing a close friend of his and he lost his shit on me. I feel bad about it, but we were never together. What should I do? Well, first of all, I feel like if you didn't ask to be in a relationship and he said that he couldn't commit, then I feel like I could see where maybe he could be a little offended and the lines were a little blurry.But if you were like, I want to be in a relationship, and he said no, what the hell else are you supposed to do? Then you're basically just dating without the label of dating. That makes zero sense to me. I don't think you should feel bad for that. I think it's sounding like he wants to have his freedom, but also control you at the same time. I just feel like, especially what we've learned about in this episode as well, just you're not crazy. If something's pissing you off, I feel like all these questions, it's like, if you have a gut feeling or something's pissing you off, you shouldn't think that you're crazy for that. Maybe I'm crazy for saying that, but I don't know. If he won't be in a relationship with you, then what the hell else are you supposed to do? You're either in a relationship or you're not. I understand if there's a phase before the relationship, before you're dating, that's like it can throw the other person off if you get with someone because then I feel like you shouldn't really be doing that. But if he said he doesn't want to date you, then I literally don't know what else you're you're supposed to do in that situation.How do you not feel worried/insecure about who your partner has been with in the past? Even though they're not in his life anymore, I can't help but compare myself to girls my boyfriend has been with. What would Alex do? Well, that's always a tricky situation because you never want to know. I mean, maybe you want to know. Sometimes I want to know. But you never want to hear about who your boyfriend had been with in the past or your partner being with anyone else other than you. That's never going to be a comfortable feeling. But that's also just You know what I mean? There's nothing you can really do about that. I sometimes I'm like, well, maybe it would be weird if he's, like Braxton's 28 years old. I'm like, If he had never dated another girl in his life or been with another girl or kissed another girl, I'd probably be like, Well, I don't know how I feel about that either. So it's just life. It happens. And weirdly, we were in a situation where I was recently with a girl that Braxton used to get with, and she came up to me.And I was being so chill with her because that was years ago. And I don't care. It doesn't bother me. But Braxton told me just to warn me. He's like, I just want you to know. I had gotten with this girl in the past, which I thought was very respectable of him to do because I would have had no idea otherwise. And she came up to me. And this is after we had been spending, I don't know, this was a few, maybe four events that we had gone to together. And I've always been so nice to her, never said anything. And she came up to me and was like, I just want to let you know that I had gotten with him. I hope nothing's weird. Almost like trying to sense the vibe of she wanted to know if Braxton had told me or not. And then she also made a comment to Braxton alone before she said something to me like, I really hope Alex is fine with this. Like, whatever. I was like, Give me a break. At that point, you're just fishing for me to know that you had gotten with him.This is not necessary at all. That was years and years ago. I haven't given you a problem. I thought that was a little weird. Obviously, That's a situation where you never want to hear that. But it's just life and what we have to deal with. So you just have to know you're with him. He's your man. Everyone has done something in the past, and you cannot hop on that unless they're doing something weird with this person, there's nothing you can really do about that, but just have confidence in yourself and your relationship. On that note, that's the end of this episode. I'll see you guys next Thursday for another episode of Hot Mess. Love you guys. Don't forget to and subscribe to this podcast. Bye.I've been moving like a hot mess. I don't want no couple, I want checks. I don't want the second, I want best. I'm all in my head, I'm a wreck. I've been moving like a hot mess. Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jauzy here, host of the new video podcast, Boyfriend Material.Dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s, it's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where Boyfriend Material with Harry Jauzey comes in. Every Tuesday, I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations, and honest advice on them all. Watch Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi every Tuesday here on Spotify.You might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. 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and pretend I can fix people anymore.

I feel like that's such a hard thing, and you always want to believe that they're going to change or be better. You're like, Oh, this was just a one-time thing, and it's like, Oh, God.

I know.

To any girls who are going through a breakup right now or maybe in a position, is there anything you say or advice, words of wisdom, anything you've learned? Because there's so many people that are going to hear this and you're going to change their lives. Do you have any advice?

At first, I was really embarrassed. I was really embarrassed by how much I loved this person, and I was really embarrassed by how much I put into this relationship. I was like, Why did I Why would I put so much into something that- Just unembarrassing. Yeah. And it's not embarrassing. It's not embarrassing to love wholeheartedly with everything you have. In fact, I think I would have a lot of regrets right now sitting here with what I've gone through, I would still have regrets if I didn't put everything on the line. I did everything I could. I gave it my all. And I get to lay my head down at night knowing I did everything. And I think the scariest thing right now is I'm scared I'm not going to trust again. I'm scared that I'll never look at a relationship the same. And all I can do is just give myself grace that if I get hurt again, it's okay. All I can say is love without fear of getting hurt. Because it's a whole lot better of a feeling than having walls up and not giving everything you could and regretting it after.

This is something I've struggled with because I'll go into things and I'm like, I can't or something's going to happen. And it's like, fuck, you just need to almost let yourself get embarrassed if it happens. It's like you have to do that. Otherwise, it's like you don't really know wholeheartedly if the relationship is going to work or not. If you're not like a 110% in. So that's personally something. You're speaking to me right now. Alex. But it is scary. Yeah.

No, I know.

I know. I want to thank you for being so open and honest about this because this is like... And trusting me with this because this is such a big story and a big part of who you are. But it's like you are going to do so much good with this. And I hope you know that. And you are thriving and you're amazing. And even your energy, you walked in the room and I'm like, you're just an amazing person. I feel the same about you. I hope that you feel good. And I just want to say thank you for trusting me with this.

No, thank you for having me. I've never been on a podcast before, and I've always wanted to meet you. I know.

I'm I'm happy we did this.

I know. Me too. I feel like you were such a huge inspiration for me starting out doing content. You are for a lot of people, and I just admire you a lot. I'm so happy to be here.

I know. We're going to have fun, and we're going to have fun after this, too. And before we finish, I feel like we'll end on a fun note. Should we play a little game of Fuck, Marry, Kill? Yeah. So do you have... Because I feel like these people are all over the place. Do you have a type, would you say, normally or no?

No, I don't think so. I've been all over the board.

Yeah. I'm a personality girl. I do have a type. I'll say, if someone's walking down the road, who I would say. But I think actually getting to know someone and someone I need the personality there or I'm like, I cannot do it.

I'm the same way.

Okay. Fuck, marry, kill. This is the crucial part of the interview right now. Okay. This is the real tea. Timothée Chalame, Jacob Alorty, Noah Santana, Cintineo. I don't know if I'm saying that right.

Centineo, I love him. This is hard. That's really hard.

Yeah, I know that. Okay.

Timothée Chalmet is my number one. He has been my number one for years, which is wild because it's such a drastic opposite.

I was going to say that's I feel like the opposite. I thought he would have been cut first.

He is my Mary. I would marry Timothée Chalmet. I think I would... I think I'd kill Noah, even though he was my number one for a couple of months back in the day. And then I think I would... I think I'd fuck Jacob Alortia. I just feel like he knows what he's doing. I can tell.

Okay. Michael B. Jordan, Zac Efron, Dylan Dylan O'Brien.

Kill Dylan O'Brien. Just because I just never knew.

I feel so aggressive. She was really passionate towards that. Kill him. He's all.

Only because I... Wasn't he on Disney channel?

Was he? I don't actually know.

I don't know him much as an actor. Okay. Okay. Fuck Zac Efron, Mary Michael B. Jordan. Okay. Love.

Justin Bieber, Benny Blanco, Lil Dicky.

Mary Justin Bieber, Fuck Lil Dicky, Kill Benny I don't go. Sorry, Benny. I know. I hope you're treating my girl right.

Yeah. Love you, Selena. He's for Selena, the Queen. Okay. This is a fun Gossip Girl one. Penn Badgley, Chase Crawford, Ed Westwick. Did you watch Gossip Girl?

I never watched Gossip Girl. I know.

She's like, next question, please.

But really? But really? Penn's Daddy.

You think? Yeah.

Okay. Yeah, I would marry him.

Okay. Love. Do you know the other two or you're like, who is that?

No, I don't.

Okay. Bad Bunny, Machine Gun Kelly, Bruno Mars.

Kill Bruno Mars. Marry Bad Bunny and Fuck Machine Gun Kelly.

I love how passionate you are with the kill. It's like every time... Kill. Kill first. No thought, kill. Harry Style's, Sean Mendez, Noah Khan.

Mary Harry. What was the second one?

Sean Mendez.

Kill Sean Mendez. Okay. Fuck Noah Khan. Okay. Love him.

Well, thanks for coming on Hot Mess. This was so much fun. And I'm looking forward to going out tonight. I'm so excited.

We're going to have so much fun. Thank you for having me. And I love you and you're amazing.

Love you. Oh my God. This was so fun. So Tiana just left, and we're going to do a little What Would Alex Do? And then I'm hosting a party tonight, actually, in Montauk, which I'm a little A bit scared about. I mean, I love hosting, but I feel like you get a little bit of host anxiety. I'm the type of host that I'm like, everyone needs to be having the most fun night of their entire lives. A little stressed out right now, but she's going to become meeting me at the party later. All my friends are here. It's going to be a really fun night. Hopefully, it's a Sunday night, but I feel like it'll be chill. We're on a boat. I don't know. We'll have some DJs playing. But let's get into what would Alex do. Hi, Alex. This guy I have always been interested in, He finally asked me out. I said yes, but have since found out that he, one, cheated on his last girlfriend, and two, also asked two other girls besides me for different days this week we're supposed to go out. We all go to the same college. Is it bad that I still want to go on the date?

What would Alex do? This guy, I don't think you're going to be dating him. I don't ever think it's really a good sign if someone's cheated on their past ex. I don't he couldn't commit, but we were still hooking up. I ended up kissing a close friend of his and he lost his shit on me. I feel bad about it, but we were never together. What should I do? Well, first of all, I feel like if you didn't ask to be in a relationship and he said that he couldn't commit, then I feel like I could see where maybe he could be a little offended and the lines were a little blurry.But if you were like, I want to be in a relationship, and he said no, what the hell else are you supposed to do? Then you're basically just dating without the label of dating. That makes zero sense to me. I don't think you should feel bad for that. I think it's sounding like he wants to have his freedom, but also control you at the same time. I just feel like, especially what we've learned about in this episode as well, just you're not crazy. If something's pissing you off, I feel like all these questions, it's like, if you have a gut feeling or something's pissing you off, you shouldn't think that you're crazy for that. Maybe I'm crazy for saying that, but I don't know. If he won't be in a relationship with you, then what the hell else are you supposed to do? You're either in a relationship or you're not. I understand if there's a phase before the relationship, before you're dating, that's like it can throw the other person off if you get with someone because then I feel like you shouldn't really be doing that. But if he said he doesn't want to date you, then I literally don't know what else you're you're supposed to do in that situation.How do you not feel worried/insecure about who your partner has been with in the past? Even though they're not in his life anymore, I can't help but compare myself to girls my boyfriend has been with. What would Alex do? Well, that's always a tricky situation because you never want to know. I mean, maybe you want to know. Sometimes I want to know. But you never want to hear about who your boyfriend had been with in the past or your partner being with anyone else other than you. That's never going to be a comfortable feeling. But that's also just You know what I mean? There's nothing you can really do about that. I sometimes I'm like, well, maybe it would be weird if he's, like Braxton's 28 years old. I'm like, If he had never dated another girl in his life or been with another girl or kissed another girl, I'd probably be like, Well, I don't know how I feel about that either. So it's just life. It happens. And weirdly, we were in a situation where I was recently with a girl that Braxton used to get with, and she came up to me.And I was being so chill with her because that was years ago. And I don't care. It doesn't bother me. But Braxton told me just to warn me. He's like, I just want you to know. I had gotten with this girl in the past, which I thought was very respectable of him to do because I would have had no idea otherwise. And she came up to me. And this is after we had been spending, I don't know, this was a few, maybe four events that we had gone to together. And I've always been so nice to her, never said anything. And she came up to me and was like, I just want to let you know that I had gotten with him. I hope nothing's weird. Almost like trying to sense the vibe of she wanted to know if Braxton had told me or not. And then she also made a comment to Braxton alone before she said something to me like, I really hope Alex is fine with this. Like, whatever. I was like, Give me a break. At that point, you're just fishing for me to know that you had gotten with him.This is not necessary at all. That was years and years ago. I haven't given you a problem. I thought that was a little weird. Obviously, That's a situation where you never want to hear that. But it's just life and what we have to deal with. So you just have to know you're with him. He's your man. Everyone has done something in the past, and you cannot hop on that unless they're doing something weird with this person, there's nothing you can really do about that, but just have confidence in yourself and your relationship. On that note, that's the end of this episode. I'll see you guys next Thursday for another episode of Hot Mess. Love you guys. Don't forget to and subscribe to this podcast. Bye.I've been moving like a hot mess. I don't want no couple, I want checks. I don't want the second, I want best. I'm all in my head, I'm a wreck. I've been moving like a hot mess. Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jauzy here, host of the new video podcast, Boyfriend Material.Dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s, it's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where Boyfriend Material with Harry Jauzey comes in. Every Tuesday, I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations, and honest advice on them all. Watch Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi every Tuesday here on Spotify.You might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. Follow Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi on Spotify.

he couldn't commit, but we were still hooking up. I ended up kissing a close friend of his and he lost his shit on me. I feel bad about it, but we were never together. What should I do? Well, first of all, I feel like if you didn't ask to be in a relationship and he said that he couldn't commit, then I feel like I could see where maybe he could be a little offended and the lines were a little blurry.

But if you were like, I want to be in a relationship, and he said no, what the hell else are you supposed to do? Then you're basically just dating without the label of dating. That makes zero sense to me. I don't think you should feel bad for that. I think it's sounding like he wants to have his freedom, but also control you at the same time. I just feel like, especially what we've learned about in this episode as well, just you're not crazy. If something's pissing you off, I feel like all these questions, it's like, if you have a gut feeling or something's pissing you off, you shouldn't think that you're crazy for that. Maybe I'm crazy for saying that, but I don't know. If he won't be in a relationship with you, then what the hell else are you supposed to do? You're either in a relationship or you're not. I understand if there's a phase before the relationship, before you're dating, that's like it can throw the other person off if you get with someone because then I feel like you shouldn't really be doing that. But if he said he doesn't want to date you, then I literally don't know what else you're you're supposed to do in that situation.

How do you not feel worried/insecure about who your partner has been with in the past? Even though they're not in his life anymore, I can't help but compare myself to girls my boyfriend has been with. What would Alex do? Well, that's always a tricky situation because you never want to know. I mean, maybe you want to know. Sometimes I want to know. But you never want to hear about who your boyfriend had been with in the past or your partner being with anyone else other than you. That's never going to be a comfortable feeling. But that's also just You know what I mean? There's nothing you can really do about that. I sometimes I'm like, well, maybe it would be weird if he's, like Braxton's 28 years old. I'm like, If he had never dated another girl in his life or been with another girl or kissed another girl, I'd probably be like, Well, I don't know how I feel about that either. So it's just life. It happens. And weirdly, we were in a situation where I was recently with a girl that Braxton used to get with, and she came up to me.

And I was being so chill with her because that was years ago. And I don't care. It doesn't bother me. But Braxton told me just to warn me. He's like, I just want you to know. I had gotten with this girl in the past, which I thought was very respectable of him to do because I would have had no idea otherwise. And she came up to me. And this is after we had been spending, I don't know, this was a few, maybe four events that we had gone to together. And I've always been so nice to her, never said anything. And she came up to me and was like, I just want to let you know that I had gotten with him. I hope nothing's weird. Almost like trying to sense the vibe of she wanted to know if Braxton had told me or not. And then she also made a comment to Braxton alone before she said something to me like, I really hope Alex is fine with this. Like, whatever. I was like, Give me a break. At that point, you're just fishing for me to know that you had gotten with him.

This is not necessary at all. That was years and years ago. I haven't given you a problem. I thought that was a little weird. Obviously, That's a situation where you never want to hear that. But it's just life and what we have to deal with. So you just have to know you're with him. He's your man. Everyone has done something in the past, and you cannot hop on that unless they're doing something weird with this person, there's nothing you can really do about that, but just have confidence in yourself and your relationship. On that note, that's the end of this episode. I'll see you guys next Thursday for another episode of Hot Mess. Love you guys. Don't forget to and subscribe to this podcast. Bye.

I've been moving like a hot mess. I don't want no couple, I want checks. I don't want the second, I want best. I'm all in my head, I'm a wreck. I've been moving like a hot mess. Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jauzy here, host of the new video podcast, Boyfriend Material.

Dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s, it's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where Boyfriend Material with Harry Jauzey comes in. Every Tuesday, I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations, and honest advice on them all. Watch Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi every Tuesday here on Spotify.

You might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. Follow Boyfriend Material with Harry Jaisi on Spotify.