It is finally time to recap the past three weeks that I've had in Europe. Welcome back to another episode of Hot Mess with Alex Earl. Don't forget to follow, like, subscribe to this podcast. I've been moving like a hot mess. I don't want no cabo. I want checks. I don't want the second I want mess. I'm all in my sway. I'm alright.

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Guys, it's kind of been a minute because last week we did the anxiety rerun episode, and I wanted to wait to do the Europe recap until we have been to, like, every destination in Europe. And we could do it together. And Braxton's also gonna come on this episode and guest star. So we're gonna go over everything that's been happening on this trip, and I've been having the best time ever. So I feel like all these spots we've been to. So we started in Cannes, and then we went to Venice and then Capri and then Saint Tropez, and I've never been to any of these places before. Growing up, my family, we would vacation, but I feel like it was just kind of like, beachy vacations or we'd go to Florida. Like, we never came to Europe when I was growing up. So I think the first time I came to Europe was maybe like, two years ago when I was visiting my friends who were abroad my junior year of college. And I love it over here, honestly. Like, ashton went abroad this past year. She was like, I want to move over here. Like, it's just so fun.

It's just so different. But one bone I have to pick is, what is with the bottle caps here? Like, I I don't know how to explain it to you guys, but, you know, when you twist off a water bottle cap, it, like, comes off here. They're, like, all connected. And then I keep going to pull it off and then thinking it's, like, stuck, but it's really disconnected. And then I'll, like, go to sip the water, and you have to, like, hold the cap down to, like, drink the water, otherwise the caps, like, scratching you in your face. And I just. I I don't know why I never noticed that. Is that a new thing in Europe? Can you guys tell me any real girls over here? But I've literally had, like, a million bazillion water bottles since being here. And every time I open it, I still go to try and rip the cap off, and it's just stuck. I was like, okay, this is interesting. So, this trip is really, really giving me flashbacks to last year when I did a big Europe trip with all my girlfriends after we graduated college, which is a crazy thing to say that we do, but a lot of people, when they graduate from the University of Miami, do a Europe trip.

And I know this happens at other schools, too, but we knew, like, literally since freshman year that we were gonna do this, and we been planning it out for so long. Last year, we went to Positano, Ibiza, Mykonos, and Santorini, and that trip actually ended up getting pretty viral online because there was just so much stuff that went down. And I I know I've, like, told the story a few times, but I don't think I've ever really gone in depth, because Braxton and I were in Capri, and we were doing a boat day to go to Positano. So we're looking at Positano, and it's very, like, a big mountain with, like, houses, like, everywhere you look, and it's all colorful. It's so pretty. And Braxton was like, wow, I've never seen anything like this before. We're looking, and I was like, do you see that, like, huge mansion in Positano right there at the top? That, like, pink reddish one? And he was like, yeah. Like, that house is insane. Oh, my God. And I was like, that's where me and my friend stayed last year on our college graduation trip. Literally twelve girls staying in the nicest mansion in Positano.

And, no, we did not pay for it. That was not our original plan. But I have to tell you guys this story because it's actually so insane, and it's so crazy to the point that people thought this was, like, premeditated, and it was, like, some scheme with Airbnb, but we were basically stranded. So this all started when we had landed in the Naples airport, right, in Italy. We're coming back from Ibiza, and, you know, after three days in Ibiza, like, we were all kind of, like, dying. And we're in the airport, and I actually was in the Naples airport again this year with Braxton. I was like, I'm having PTSD from being back here last year because me and my friends almost got kicked out of the airport. So we're, like, delusional. We're getting off the plane from Ibiza, landing in Naples, and, you know, in the airport when there's, like, a security exit, like, past the baggage claim, and it's, like, exit, like, no return. Like, there's ten signs that literally say big red letters, like this exit, like, you cannot come back in. Me and my friends are dumbasses. And we all walked out of the doors, and none of us got our bags yet, besides one of my friends.

So we walk out, and now we see, like, the doors to the street, and we were like, oh, shit. Like, we didn't get our bags. And we go to turn back around, and there's these security guards standing there in the police uniforms in the airport, and they're, like, stopping us, and they're yelling at us in italian, and none of us understand. We were like, wait, what? We were like, wait. But we didn't get our bags, like, looking like Donna, and they wouldn't let us in. So now we're like, wait, what do we do? Because none of us got our baggage. They literally didn't care. They were like, go home. Get out of here. And the one friend, I think she was going to the bathroom. She was on the other side of the doors. So we're standing behind these doors with the police in front of us yelling at each other. We're like, wait, really? Can you grab all 13 of our bags, the checked bags from the carousel, and, like, bring them through? And she was like, guys, like, this is so ridiculous right now. Like, how did you all walk past the sign that says, like, don't walk past this sign, point of no return.

And all twelve of us are just like, do do do do do do. So the one friend that was left on the other side of the doors, she had to get all of our bags, and she couldn't, like, wheel, obviously, like, twelve or 13 suitcases at once, and she couldn't walk them out to us because if she walked through the door, the security was gonna yell at her. The security was watching us, like, scream at the door through each other. And they were like, can these bitches please shut up? So my friend is taking the suitcases off the carousel, and she's pushing them through the door. So, like, letting the suitcases just, like, roll through the doors, like, you can't come back in. And the security is watching this happen. And we were like, what? We're like, we're not walking through. She's not walking through. And, like, they couldn't really say anything, but they were like, oh, we were on their last nerve. So after, like, an hour of pushing these bags through, like, it was literally a game. She had to, like, slide them through the door, and she finally got through. Our one other friend didn't go to Ibiza.

She was going straight to Italy. So she got there, like, 2 hours prior to us landing there, and we were like, okay, you go. We booked this house on, like, booking.com. we were like, you go. You check out this villa that we rented and, like, check in. We've been texting the owner. Like, he has the keys. Like, go meet him. It was my friend Sophia, and she gets to this villa that we had supposedly booked, and she's like, guys, I'm at the address. Like, I've asked everyone in town, like, this is the correct address. She's like, I'm literally just, like, at a field. She was like, there's no house here. It doesn't exist. And we were like, okay. Like, that's weird. Like, the owner must have said the wrong address, or, like, I don't know. There must be, like, different directions to get there, because in positano, everything is, like, stairs and hills. And we were like, maybe there's, like, a little pathway you haven't taken yet. So now we're texting the owner of this villa that doesn't exist, and we're like, hey. Like, we're having a little trouble finding it. Like, can you give us some feedback directions?

Like, does this happen when people stay here? Ghost mode. Literally nothing. wine. I had, like, dirty martinis, apparel spritz.Well, a lot of them, like, this is, like, their, like, conference, right? Like, this is like their, like, vacation. Like, they're away from home, away from.I guess, my type of networking. I was in front of a CEO. It's with a drink and a tequila shot in my hand, because I will. I will have a fun time.Yeah, well, it's like that. That first night, it started out a little, like, stuffy, right? Like, the dinner was kind of to themselves. Everybody was nice.Yeah, Joel.But, like, you could tell, you know, people were trying to feel.We were. We were at a dinner with, like, ten other people. We're like, oh, damn, is this gonna be fun? Or whatever. Just like, what are the vibes of this? And by the end, fast forward, we were shaking ass on the table, and.We know you don't bring me into that one.They handed out, like, roses at this restaurant, and I was just, like, having the time in my life dancing. And the owner of this restaurant comes into the little room we were in, and I have a rose, and I'm smacking him in the face with this rose. Do you remember that?Yeah, that was.And then I woke up, and I was like, I have the worst carries right now. That's when I posted a TikTok. I posted this TikTok. I woke up with a. My tank top, which I was, like, my favorite white tank top from brandy Melville was, like, so good. It's just like, that was, like, my go to white tank top. And, like, I feel like if you're a girl, you'll get it. Like, that was the one. Just always fit the best. It was, like, comfy. It was great. And I woke up with orange.You're really sad about this?All over it. And I was like, wait, what the fuck happened last night? And it's because of these damn work dinners and blame the work dinner. I'm a good drunk, though. Yeah, I'm a good time. Like, I'm never, like, you have to, like, take care of me. Besides, if I want you to carry me.Yeah, I've had to take care of you a couple times, but you are not, like, yeah, but by definition, you're a very good drunk. Yeah, you're fun drunk.Yeah. Yeah.You're not like, oh, shit, she's drinking.Yeah. Yeah, I'm always a good time. Like, another thing I do that I think scares Braxton a little bit is when I drink, I like to just, like, get naked. I don't know why. It's always been my thing. And, like, we were in can running. I was running through.That was, like, your thing.Hotel. I don't know, floor every night in my heels. And once we got off.Once we got off the elevator, you take your heels off, and then you'd either pull it up or pull it down and start running.I'm a free bird. Let me fly.And the funny thing is, like, you didn't have the room key, so when you ran and got to the door, you just had to stand there.It's so funny because I have videos even from, like, freshman year of college. Hannah has videos of me running through the dorms the same exact way I would get off the elevator, strip down, and run. Like, there's just something about, like, it's so free being naked when you're drunk. Anywho, so the way that we got to this point was we started at the work dinner. Things got a little crazy. We're smacking the owner of the restaurant in the face with the roses. And then I was like, let's be responsible. Let's go to bed. So there was after parties, and we politely declined because I knew that we had, like, meetings the next day. So it was like, let's go to bed. We had a good night. Like, let's chug some waters, and let's get out of here. At this point, like, I was, like, coherent to the point where I was, like, we're going to bed. This is gonna be fine. Then we.How'd that work out?Well, we got to our hotel, and our hotel was, like, one of the main hotels on the strip, and can. It's like. I don't know. It's like, hotel, hotel. All these parties, all these networking things. Activations, brand activations on the beach. And we're right across from the beach, and I guess we had, like, one of the, like, popular bars in our hotel, which I did not know. And we get out of our uber, and I hear music, and I was.Like, well, we walk into the lobby, and we're, like, eight steps from the elevator, and she looks at me. I look at her, and we're like, one drink fine.Yeah. Because I was like a kid in a candy store. I was like, yeah, but it was.Also, like, it was so packed that we thought it was, like, some event. Let's just. Let's go check it out.What's. What's the problem? If we go in for one drink and then we go upstairs, what's the.Worst that could happen?What's the worst that could happen? It got very dark. It got very dark very quickly, because, one, we went in to this place, we both got, like, pulled apart in a matter of minutes. Someone we know ordered, actually, we didn't know them.No, we didn't know them. They said. They said, we're gonna buy your drink. What do you want? And they were like, rose. They kind of answered for us. And we're like, yeah. And then loaded a bottle two minutes later, big bottle of rose. And it was just two other people. So we, like, not felt obligated, because they're a good time, but we felt obligated not to, like, take a drink and run.Yeah.And then we got pulled apart, and then.No, no.All the wheels.Braxton's getting this bottle of Rose for us. I'm still in networking work mode, and I need these girls. And they were like, hey, like, we're here. Like, we're on an internship, and the one hands me Florida. The one hands me, like, a business card. I'm just wondering. Poor guy has done this flight a thousand times.You never know. I. You know, I know you.I know your theory.So anyhow, but.So we get to Capri.We made it there.Beautiful.We.Gorgeous view. Like, it was. She actually did love. Nothing more than that.No. Like, is seeing Braxton just, like, because it was definitely, like, an embarrassing moment.She didn't ask if I was okay.No.She didn't ask if I needed anything because I saw.Maybe because I saw. But, like, come on. I always embarrass myself. And the one time he does something like, it was so funny that I was like, oh, my God. Like, imagine him just, like. Like, hanging out of the way.I don't think we need to run through it again. I don't think they get the.I wish I had a video.I think they get the.But you did great, sweetie.Thank you so much. Love you too.We are now here for another wedding, which, the first day, there was, like, a little white party for it, and then there was yesterday, we did, like, a beach day party for it, and that was so much fun. And then today's the actual wedding. So right after we're done recording this, we're gonna get dressed for the wedding. But this wedding has been so much fun. Like, there's a lot of, like, little kids at this wedding or, like, the events that we've been going to, and it's like. It's so sweet. Like. Like, granted, I came as a plus one to Braxton. Cause this is Braxton's friend getting married. But, like, this family is so nice. Like, I've become friends with all of them, I think.Yeah, no, it's been such a good group, and it's a big group, too.It is, and it's really fun. And the sisters were giving wedding speeches, and I was bawling my eyes out, like, literally sitting in the corner. And I had to take Braxton.Mind you, she's never met these sisters.I've never met her.Which is probably the sweetest part of the whole thing. It was the white cocktail party, the speeches, and we got there, like, pretty recently, so, like, you know, like, we're, like, fresh there, right? Like, we've seen a few people, whatever speeches start, and. And all of a sudden, I look over, and she's just dreaming I was.Crying because sweet speeches make me so. I love a good speech. Like, I love speeches, and they make me so emotional. I actually said a good speech to you.You had a great toast. Yeah, I was not expecting that. I said, let's toast. And you said, I got this one.We were in Capri, and I pulled out the toast of my life.It was. I wish we. Like, I wish we had it, like, where we could hear it again.I don't know. I was jumping all over the place with it, but it didn't flow. But I said a lot of nice things.You said a lot of nice things, and it felt really good.And for me, like, being emotional. I'm into it now. I'm emotional now.She's leaned in, guys.I've leaned in.She's leaned in.This trip has been so amazing. Thanks, Braxton, for booking it all.You're welcome. And, no, it has been incredible, and it's gone. Every part has gone better than I think we expected it.Yeah. And, like, we're just, like, such great travel partners. I would say we are. Like, we. Like, we both get things done. We're good at being on time to the airport, flowing through things, like logistics. Like, if I don't have. If I don't know something, you know it, and if you don't know it, I know it. Like, I feel, like, very good at, like, balancing each other.I feel like that's a huge test and a relationship. Like, travel together. Like, go to the airport together. Yeah, because there's.There can be five times with ten suitcases through Europe for three. That's actually two weeks that I lied about everyone. But even just, like, I feel like we've been, like, pretend living together on this trip. You just, like, haven't gotten rid of me.No. And it's been easy. It's been fun.It's been so easy.I've loved it.Besides, when I get hungry, it was.Hungry hot and tired.Well, we should probably get ready for this wedding now.Yeah. What time is it? We can't be late.It's time to get ready to wedding. No, we won't be late because I actually have been so good. I I need to, like, write everything down. So I had a little notepad today where it's right now. I was like, okay, we have this amount of time for the beach, this amount of time to set up the cameras for the podcast, this amount of time to podcast. Then it's gonna take me this long to get ready. I allotted, like, hair, makeup, outfit, like, filming everything in there.We're very productive when you, like, write things down like that.No, I am. You stay on good with. With my life.Yeah.So now sticking to the list, we're gonna jump into what would Alex do? We're gonna change and get ready right now. Thanks, Braxton, for coming on the Earl girls missed you, and, yeah, let's do some. What would Alex do? Now it's time for what would alex do? Where you guys write in on the hot mess Instagram. Hot mess TikTok. There's a little section that says, what would Alex do? You guys write in your questions or your stories, and I give you my advice on what Alex would do. Maybe it's not the best advice, but it's just what I would do. Hey, Alex, my friend is dating a gnome player. Someone told me that he cheated on her by another girl, but the source told me that this has previously been a little unreliable. Should I tell her even though it's alleged, or should I stay out of her business? Mmm. Tell her. Always tell her. I. That's my personal opinion, though. But I just, like, I cannot imagine if I was dating a guy, say, and we broke up or something came out that he cheated on me and you, my friend, knew and didn't tell me.Like, I literally would slice your head off. Like, that's not okay. Like, I always think you need to tell the friend. And there's always situations where girls are like, mmm, but I don't want to get involved, or maybe I don't want to say anything, but it's like, wouldn't you want to know? Like, I would always say, tell them. Hey, Alex, I just relistened to your anxiety episode. I've been struggling really bad, but haven't wanted to take medication to interfere with my social life. Do you drink on these meds? If not, how do you balance medication and your social life? I'm 24, and I want to live my life, but I'm not sure what to do. So I talked about this a little bit in the episode, but I still drink, obviously, on the medication I'm taking. I take Lexapro for my anxiety. If you don't know what we're talking about right now, go back. It was the last episode. I did a rerun of the anxiety episode, but I started taking Lexapro at 15 years old, like, freshly 15. And that was something I was really scared about at the time because obviously, like, you're getting into high school, people are having some drinks, and I didn't want that to be a major factor for me.And honestly, it really hasn't affected me. But everyone's different, so I'm not gonna say, like, hey, if you're on this medication, like, you can definitely drink. I would say, try it out. Take it slow at first. Talk to your doctor. But it also depends. The medication you're on might affect you differently, but personally, I've been fine with it. And I would say, like, I know you're saying you don't want to affect your social life, but for me, the anxiety was, like, so crippling to the point that I couldn't have a social life. So it's like, at least if I couldn't even drink, like, at least I could be with my friends, because, like, I wasn't even able to, like, leave the house because my anxiety was so bad. So I feel like it depends, but I would say, fix yourself and your mental health, and then you can figure the rest out from there. Hey, Alex. I'm thinking about reaching out to my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay, wait. Ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay. He and I broke up last week, and I'm struggling to work through all the shit he put me through. I want someone to talk to who will get it.What would Alex do? No, no, no, no, no. Maybe eventually. I feel like this is a thing where, like, sometimes, like, ex girlfriends of the same guy, like, get together and they're like, holy shit, we were going through the same thing. But I wouldn't, like, fresh out of the breakup be like, hey, girl. Because honestly, she probably doesn't really like you. So if you need someone who will get it, maybe, like, talk to a therapist, talk to your friends. And I think if you make it known that, like, you went through a breakup or you post some, like, salty TikTok or, like, something shitty, I mean, that's what I would do. I'm always like, whatever, I'll expose them. I think maybe she could reach out to you. And then you go about it that way. But I don't think, like, you reach out to her unless you're, like, close with her and you know her and she's, like, somehow in your same friend group at school. But I don't think I would, like out of the blue, like, dm this girl and be like, hey, but maybe if you know her in, like, social settings and you guys are cool and you guys talk, but if you don't talk at all, like, I think that may be a little alarming to reach out to her.So maybe, like, hire a therapist. Hi, Alex. I feel like me and my super close friend are growing in part, and it's kind of awkward when we are together because we've run out of things to say and kind of just sit in silence. I don't want to drop her because she is a good friend, but I feel like our friendship is ending. Help. Okay. I kind of talked about this in one of the past episodes I did with Ashton where I had a friend that, like, we literally just, like, weren't keeping up with each other anymore. And it, like, wasn't anyone's fault. We just, like, weren't putting in the time to, like, reach out to each other and talk, and, like, things started to drift, and in my mind, I was like, was like, alex doesn't want to be close with me. Alex doesn't want to be my friend. So we literally just, like, had a conversation. But it feels like if you guys are, like, talking and hanging out and you don't really have anything to talk about, like, maybe you could be growing apart.And I'm going to give, like, two different scenarios here because I think there's times with, like, friends and stuff that you, like, grow apart. You change. You're like, I haven't had the same friends forever. Like, I've had maybe two or three friends that are still from, like, high school, but a lot of the girls I was friends with, like, we kind of grew apart because you change. And, like, especially when I'm assuming maybe you're younger, in your teens or early twenties or even when you're older, like, you change in different aspects of your life change, and it's like, okay, maybe you have a boyfriend or you move somewhere or you're going to college or, like, you have different interests in things or you got married and you have kids now it's like, there's so many different circumstances where, like, you may be just, like, changing as people. And, like, I think about that a lot with, like, friends I had from college because I feel like in college, it's very, like, okay, like, we're all gonna go out together. Like, sigma kai is having a party, so, like, we're all gonna get ready and put on our crop tops, and we're all gonna go to the party together.But, like, then there's the part where it's, like, after college, it's like, maybe you guys have different interests in, like, actual things going on in life rather than, like, a frat party. So, like, maybe you're growing apart as people. But I think there's another part where maybe things are just, like, getting awkward for some reason or another. And, like, maybe she has, like, maybe she's mad at you for something and she's not telling you and there's, like, a weird little, like, shtick going on between you guys. And, like, that's where I would say just, like, sit down and, like, talk about it. But I always think, like, sitting down, addressing the situation, talking about it, is so much better than not, because then, if anything, you're just gonna continue to grow apart. And at least if you talk to her, like, maybe you'll then have some clarification. Hey, Al. The guy I'm talking to asked me to make him a summer playlist, and I have no idea what type of songs to put on it. Should I put what I actually listen to, like, taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter or put, like, cool indie songs that will impress him?Why is this so stressful when guys ask about, like, music? I I remember specifically when I was talking to this guy that I had ended up dating him, but in the beginning, he was like, oh, like, who do you like to listen to for music? And I was, like, trying to think, like, so hard. I was like, okay, well, who's someone I can say, like, I feel like Frank Ocean. It's always, like, a safe answer. It's like, everyone likes Frank Ocean. So I was like, oh, my God, like, what do I say? My friends were like, alex, you should just say, like, something. Like, you like something that you like to listen to. That's, like, niche. That, like, just see what he says. And I was, like, really trying to go for more the, like, blanketed answer. And I was like, um, megan thee stallion. And he actually took it very well. But I was so scared in the moment because, like, in the beginning stage of talking to a guy, you're like, I don't want to scare them off. Like, what are they gonna think? But, like, if he's asking you to make him a summer playlist, like, he probably doesn't want to listen to Taylor Swift or Sabrina Carpenter, but, like, maybe he does because I've turned Braxton into a Sabrina Carpenter fan.He's walking around saying, please, please, please. I'm like, okay, Braxton, but he wants you to make him a playlist. I feel like this is, like, a type of test. So I think, don't put music that you don't like because then that defeats the whole purpose. I feel like the point of this is something that you guys can, like, listen to together. Like, I don't know if you guys are gonna listen to, like, Taylor Swift songs about, like, a breakup and, like, be crying together. Like, I feel like that's not really the vibe. But, like, maybe play some, like, fun music that you like. If you like indie music, play indie music. But if you don't, don't. But that is so stressful. I'm not gonna lie. At least, though, it's, like, a playlist and not, like one song or one genre. Like, you can make it a bunch of different things. But I feel like a summer playlist is, like, I'm trying to think of, like, songs you would want to listen to with, like, the windows down, you're driving in the car together along the beach, or you're, like, sitting on the beach together. I don't know, though, honestly, I would probably block him and run away after that question because that would just be way too much stress for me.Okay, well, that was all for this episode, guys. I love you. Thanks for listening. And now we are off to Montauk for the whole month. We are going to have a summer house there with my girlfriends and my sister, and I'm so excited to see them. I miss them so, so much. Like, I could cry. So I can't wait to get back home to them. Well, not really home, but you know what I mean. Don't forget to follow, like, subscribe to this podcast, follow the hot mess, TikTok, the hot mess, Instagram. I love you guys, and I'll see you next Thursday. Bye. 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wine. I had, like, dirty martinis, apparel spritz.

Well, a lot of them, like, this is, like, their, like, conference, right? Like, this is like their, like, vacation. Like, they're away from home, away from.

I guess, my type of networking. I was in front of a CEO. It's with a drink and a tequila shot in my hand, because I will. I will have a fun time.

Yeah, well, it's like that. That first night, it started out a little, like, stuffy, right? Like, the dinner was kind of to themselves. Everybody was nice.

Yeah, Joel.

But, like, you could tell, you know, people were trying to feel.

We were. We were at a dinner with, like, ten other people. We're like, oh, damn, is this gonna be fun? Or whatever. Just like, what are the vibes of this? And by the end, fast forward, we were shaking ass on the table, and.

We know you don't bring me into that one.

They handed out, like, roses at this restaurant, and I was just, like, having the time in my life dancing. And the owner of this restaurant comes into the little room we were in, and I have a rose, and I'm smacking him in the face with this rose. Do you remember that?

Yeah, that was.

And then I woke up, and I was like, I have the worst carries right now. That's when I posted a TikTok. I posted this TikTok. I woke up with a. My tank top, which I was, like, my favorite white tank top from brandy Melville was, like, so good. It's just like, that was, like, my go to white tank top. And, like, I feel like if you're a girl, you'll get it. Like, that was the one. Just always fit the best. It was, like, comfy. It was great. And I woke up with orange.

You're really sad about this?

All over it. And I was like, wait, what the fuck happened last night? And it's because of these damn work dinners and blame the work dinner. I'm a good drunk, though. Yeah, I'm a good time. Like, I'm never, like, you have to, like, take care of me. Besides, if I want you to carry me.

Yeah, I've had to take care of you a couple times, but you are not, like, yeah, but by definition, you're a very good drunk. Yeah, you're fun drunk.

Yeah. Yeah.

You're not like, oh, shit, she's drinking.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm always a good time. Like, another thing I do that I think scares Braxton a little bit is when I drink, I like to just, like, get naked. I don't know why. It's always been my thing. And, like, we were in can running. I was running through.

That was, like, your thing.

Hotel. I don't know, floor every night in my heels. And once we got off.

Once we got off the elevator, you take your heels off, and then you'd either pull it up or pull it down and start running.

I'm a free bird. Let me fly.

And the funny thing is, like, you didn't have the room key, so when you ran and got to the door, you just had to stand there.

It's so funny because I have videos even from, like, freshman year of college. Hannah has videos of me running through the dorms the same exact way I would get off the elevator, strip down, and run. Like, there's just something about, like, it's so free being naked when you're drunk. Anywho, so the way that we got to this point was we started at the work dinner. Things got a little crazy. We're smacking the owner of the restaurant in the face with the roses. And then I was like, let's be responsible. Let's go to bed. So there was after parties, and we politely declined because I knew that we had, like, meetings the next day. So it was like, let's go to bed. We had a good night. Like, let's chug some waters, and let's get out of here. At this point, like, I was, like, coherent to the point where I was, like, we're going to bed. This is gonna be fine. Then we.

How'd that work out?

Well, we got to our hotel, and our hotel was, like, one of the main hotels on the strip, and can. It's like. I don't know. It's like, hotel, hotel. All these parties, all these networking things. Activations, brand activations on the beach. And we're right across from the beach, and I guess we had, like, one of the, like, popular bars in our hotel, which I did not know. And we get out of our uber, and I hear music, and I was.

Like, well, we walk into the lobby, and we're, like, eight steps from the elevator, and she looks at me. I look at her, and we're like, one drink fine.

Yeah. Because I was like a kid in a candy store. I was like, yeah, but it was.

Also, like, it was so packed that we thought it was, like, some event. Let's just. Let's go check it out.

What's. What's the problem? If we go in for one drink and then we go upstairs, what's the.

Worst that could happen?

What's the worst that could happen? It got very dark. It got very dark very quickly, because, one, we went in to this place, we both got, like, pulled apart in a matter of minutes. Someone we know ordered, actually, we didn't know them.

No, we didn't know them. They said. They said, we're gonna buy your drink. What do you want? And they were like, rose. They kind of answered for us. And we're like, yeah. And then loaded a bottle two minutes later, big bottle of rose. And it was just two other people. So we, like, not felt obligated, because they're a good time, but we felt obligated not to, like, take a drink and run.

Yeah.

And then we got pulled apart, and then.

No, no.

All the wheels.

Braxton's getting this bottle of Rose for us. I'm still in networking work mode, and I need these girls. And they were like, hey, like, we're here. Like, we're on an internship, and the one hands me Florida. The one hands me, like, a business card. I'm just wondering. Poor guy has done this flight a thousand times.You never know. I. You know, I know you.I know your theory.So anyhow, but.So we get to Capri.We made it there.Beautiful.We.Gorgeous view. Like, it was. She actually did love. Nothing more than that.No. Like, is seeing Braxton just, like, because it was definitely, like, an embarrassing moment.She didn't ask if I was okay.No.She didn't ask if I needed anything because I saw.Maybe because I saw. But, like, come on. I always embarrass myself. And the one time he does something like, it was so funny that I was like, oh, my God. Like, imagine him just, like. Like, hanging out of the way.I don't think we need to run through it again. I don't think they get the.I wish I had a video.I think they get the.But you did great, sweetie.Thank you so much. Love you too.We are now here for another wedding, which, the first day, there was, like, a little white party for it, and then there was yesterday, we did, like, a beach day party for it, and that was so much fun. And then today's the actual wedding. So right after we're done recording this, we're gonna get dressed for the wedding. But this wedding has been so much fun. Like, there's a lot of, like, little kids at this wedding or, like, the events that we've been going to, and it's like. It's so sweet. Like. Like, granted, I came as a plus one to Braxton. Cause this is Braxton's friend getting married. But, like, this family is so nice. Like, I've become friends with all of them, I think.Yeah, no, it's been such a good group, and it's a big group, too.It is, and it's really fun. And the sisters were giving wedding speeches, and I was bawling my eyes out, like, literally sitting in the corner. And I had to take Braxton.Mind you, she's never met these sisters.I've never met her.Which is probably the sweetest part of the whole thing. It was the white cocktail party, the speeches, and we got there, like, pretty recently, so, like, you know, like, we're, like, fresh there, right? Like, we've seen a few people, whatever speeches start, and. And all of a sudden, I look over, and she's just dreaming I was.Crying because sweet speeches make me so. I love a good speech. Like, I love speeches, and they make me so emotional. I actually said a good speech to you.You had a great toast. Yeah, I was not expecting that. I said, let's toast. And you said, I got this one.We were in Capri, and I pulled out the toast of my life.It was. I wish we. Like, I wish we had it, like, where we could hear it again.I don't know. I was jumping all over the place with it, but it didn't flow. But I said a lot of nice things.You said a lot of nice things, and it felt really good.And for me, like, being emotional. I'm into it now. I'm emotional now.She's leaned in, guys.I've leaned in.She's leaned in.This trip has been so amazing. Thanks, Braxton, for booking it all.You're welcome. And, no, it has been incredible, and it's gone. Every part has gone better than I think we expected it.Yeah. And, like, we're just, like, such great travel partners. I would say we are. Like, we. Like, we both get things done. We're good at being on time to the airport, flowing through things, like logistics. Like, if I don't have. If I don't know something, you know it, and if you don't know it, I know it. Like, I feel, like, very good at, like, balancing each other.I feel like that's a huge test and a relationship. Like, travel together. Like, go to the airport together. Yeah, because there's.There can be five times with ten suitcases through Europe for three. That's actually two weeks that I lied about everyone. But even just, like, I feel like we've been, like, pretend living together on this trip. You just, like, haven't gotten rid of me.No. And it's been easy. It's been fun.It's been so easy.I've loved it.Besides, when I get hungry, it was.Hungry hot and tired.Well, we should probably get ready for this wedding now.Yeah. What time is it? We can't be late.It's time to get ready to wedding. No, we won't be late because I actually have been so good. I I need to, like, write everything down. So I had a little notepad today where it's right now. I was like, okay, we have this amount of time for the beach, this amount of time to set up the cameras for the podcast, this amount of time to podcast. Then it's gonna take me this long to get ready. I allotted, like, hair, makeup, outfit, like, filming everything in there.We're very productive when you, like, write things down like that.No, I am. You stay on good with. With my life.Yeah.So now sticking to the list, we're gonna jump into what would Alex do? We're gonna change and get ready right now. Thanks, Braxton, for coming on the Earl girls missed you, and, yeah, let's do some. What would Alex do? Now it's time for what would alex do? Where you guys write in on the hot mess Instagram. Hot mess TikTok. There's a little section that says, what would Alex do? You guys write in your questions or your stories, and I give you my advice on what Alex would do. Maybe it's not the best advice, but it's just what I would do. Hey, Alex, my friend is dating a gnome player. Someone told me that he cheated on her by another girl, but the source told me that this has previously been a little unreliable. Should I tell her even though it's alleged, or should I stay out of her business? Mmm. Tell her. Always tell her. I. That's my personal opinion, though. But I just, like, I cannot imagine if I was dating a guy, say, and we broke up or something came out that he cheated on me and you, my friend, knew and didn't tell me.Like, I literally would slice your head off. Like, that's not okay. Like, I always think you need to tell the friend. And there's always situations where girls are like, mmm, but I don't want to get involved, or maybe I don't want to say anything, but it's like, wouldn't you want to know? Like, I would always say, tell them. Hey, Alex, I just relistened to your anxiety episode. I've been struggling really bad, but haven't wanted to take medication to interfere with my social life. Do you drink on these meds? If not, how do you balance medication and your social life? I'm 24, and I want to live my life, but I'm not sure what to do. So I talked about this a little bit in the episode, but I still drink, obviously, on the medication I'm taking. I take Lexapro for my anxiety. If you don't know what we're talking about right now, go back. It was the last episode. I did a rerun of the anxiety episode, but I started taking Lexapro at 15 years old, like, freshly 15. And that was something I was really scared about at the time because obviously, like, you're getting into high school, people are having some drinks, and I didn't want that to be a major factor for me.And honestly, it really hasn't affected me. But everyone's different, so I'm not gonna say, like, hey, if you're on this medication, like, you can definitely drink. I would say, try it out. Take it slow at first. Talk to your doctor. But it also depends. The medication you're on might affect you differently, but personally, I've been fine with it. And I would say, like, I know you're saying you don't want to affect your social life, but for me, the anxiety was, like, so crippling to the point that I couldn't have a social life. So it's like, at least if I couldn't even drink, like, at least I could be with my friends, because, like, I wasn't even able to, like, leave the house because my anxiety was so bad. So I feel like it depends, but I would say, fix yourself and your mental health, and then you can figure the rest out from there. Hey, Alex. I'm thinking about reaching out to my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay, wait. Ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay. He and I broke up last week, and I'm struggling to work through all the shit he put me through. I want someone to talk to who will get it.What would Alex do? No, no, no, no, no. Maybe eventually. I feel like this is a thing where, like, sometimes, like, ex girlfriends of the same guy, like, get together and they're like, holy shit, we were going through the same thing. But I wouldn't, like, fresh out of the breakup be like, hey, girl. Because honestly, she probably doesn't really like you. So if you need someone who will get it, maybe, like, talk to a therapist, talk to your friends. And I think if you make it known that, like, you went through a breakup or you post some, like, salty TikTok or, like, something shitty, I mean, that's what I would do. I'm always like, whatever, I'll expose them. I think maybe she could reach out to you. And then you go about it that way. But I don't think, like, you reach out to her unless you're, like, close with her and you know her and she's, like, somehow in your same friend group at school. But I don't think I would, like out of the blue, like, dm this girl and be like, hey, but maybe if you know her in, like, social settings and you guys are cool and you guys talk, but if you don't talk at all, like, I think that may be a little alarming to reach out to her.So maybe, like, hire a therapist. Hi, Alex. I feel like me and my super close friend are growing in part, and it's kind of awkward when we are together because we've run out of things to say and kind of just sit in silence. I don't want to drop her because she is a good friend, but I feel like our friendship is ending. Help. Okay. I kind of talked about this in one of the past episodes I did with Ashton where I had a friend that, like, we literally just, like, weren't keeping up with each other anymore. And it, like, wasn't anyone's fault. We just, like, weren't putting in the time to, like, reach out to each other and talk, and, like, things started to drift, and in my mind, I was like, was like, alex doesn't want to be close with me. Alex doesn't want to be my friend. So we literally just, like, had a conversation. But it feels like if you guys are, like, talking and hanging out and you don't really have anything to talk about, like, maybe you could be growing apart.And I'm going to give, like, two different scenarios here because I think there's times with, like, friends and stuff that you, like, grow apart. You change. You're like, I haven't had the same friends forever. Like, I've had maybe two or three friends that are still from, like, high school, but a lot of the girls I was friends with, like, we kind of grew apart because you change. And, like, especially when I'm assuming maybe you're younger, in your teens or early twenties or even when you're older, like, you change in different aspects of your life change, and it's like, okay, maybe you have a boyfriend or you move somewhere or you're going to college or, like, you have different interests in things or you got married and you have kids now it's like, there's so many different circumstances where, like, you may be just, like, changing as people. And, like, I think about that a lot with, like, friends I had from college because I feel like in college, it's very, like, okay, like, we're all gonna go out together. Like, sigma kai is having a party, so, like, we're all gonna get ready and put on our crop tops, and we're all gonna go to the party together.But, like, then there's the part where it's, like, after college, it's like, maybe you guys have different interests in, like, actual things going on in life rather than, like, a frat party. So, like, maybe you're growing apart as people. But I think there's another part where maybe things are just, like, getting awkward for some reason or another. And, like, maybe she has, like, maybe she's mad at you for something and she's not telling you and there's, like, a weird little, like, shtick going on between you guys. And, like, that's where I would say just, like, sit down and, like, talk about it. But I always think, like, sitting down, addressing the situation, talking about it, is so much better than not, because then, if anything, you're just gonna continue to grow apart. And at least if you talk to her, like, maybe you'll then have some clarification. Hey, Al. The guy I'm talking to asked me to make him a summer playlist, and I have no idea what type of songs to put on it. Should I put what I actually listen to, like, taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter or put, like, cool indie songs that will impress him?Why is this so stressful when guys ask about, like, music? I I remember specifically when I was talking to this guy that I had ended up dating him, but in the beginning, he was like, oh, like, who do you like to listen to for music? And I was, like, trying to think, like, so hard. I was like, okay, well, who's someone I can say, like, I feel like Frank Ocean. It's always, like, a safe answer. It's like, everyone likes Frank Ocean. So I was like, oh, my God, like, what do I say? My friends were like, alex, you should just say, like, something. Like, you like something that you like to listen to. That's, like, niche. That, like, just see what he says. And I was, like, really trying to go for more the, like, blanketed answer. And I was like, um, megan thee stallion. And he actually took it very well. But I was so scared in the moment because, like, in the beginning stage of talking to a guy, you're like, I don't want to scare them off. Like, what are they gonna think? But, like, if he's asking you to make him a summer playlist, like, he probably doesn't want to listen to Taylor Swift or Sabrina Carpenter, but, like, maybe he does because I've turned Braxton into a Sabrina Carpenter fan.He's walking around saying, please, please, please. I'm like, okay, Braxton, but he wants you to make him a playlist. I feel like this is, like, a type of test. So I think, don't put music that you don't like because then that defeats the whole purpose. I feel like the point of this is something that you guys can, like, listen to together. Like, I don't know if you guys are gonna listen to, like, Taylor Swift songs about, like, a breakup and, like, be crying together. Like, I feel like that's not really the vibe. But, like, maybe play some, like, fun music that you like. If you like indie music, play indie music. But if you don't, don't. But that is so stressful. I'm not gonna lie. At least, though, it's, like, a playlist and not, like one song or one genre. Like, you can make it a bunch of different things. But I feel like a summer playlist is, like, I'm trying to think of, like, songs you would want to listen to with, like, the windows down, you're driving in the car together along the beach, or you're, like, sitting on the beach together. I don't know, though, honestly, I would probably block him and run away after that question because that would just be way too much stress for me.Okay, well, that was all for this episode, guys. I love you. Thanks for listening. And now we are off to Montauk for the whole month. We are going to have a summer house there with my girlfriends and my sister, and I'm so excited to see them. I miss them so, so much. Like, I could cry. So I can't wait to get back home to them. Well, not really home, but you know what I mean. Don't forget to follow, like, subscribe to this podcast, follow the hot mess, TikTok, the hot mess, Instagram. I love you guys, and I'll see you next Thursday. Bye. 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I'm just wondering. Poor guy has done this flight a thousand times.

You never know. I. You know, I know you.

I know your theory.

So anyhow, but.

So we get to Capri.

We made it there.

Beautiful.

We.

Gorgeous view. Like, it was. She actually did love. Nothing more than that.No. Like, is seeing Braxton just, like, because it was definitely, like, an embarrassing moment.She didn't ask if I was okay.No.She didn't ask if I needed anything because I saw.Maybe because I saw. But, like, come on. I always embarrass myself. And the one time he does something like, it was so funny that I was like, oh, my God. Like, imagine him just, like. Like, hanging out of the way.I don't think we need to run through it again. I don't think they get the.I wish I had a video.I think they get the.But you did great, sweetie.Thank you so much. Love you too.We are now here for another wedding, which, the first day, there was, like, a little white party for it, and then there was yesterday, we did, like, a beach day party for it, and that was so much fun. And then today's the actual wedding. So right after we're done recording this, we're gonna get dressed for the wedding. But this wedding has been so much fun. Like, there's a lot of, like, little kids at this wedding or, like, the events that we've been going to, and it's like. It's so sweet. Like. Like, granted, I came as a plus one to Braxton. Cause this is Braxton's friend getting married. But, like, this family is so nice. Like, I've become friends with all of them, I think.Yeah, no, it's been such a good group, and it's a big group, too.It is, and it's really fun. And the sisters were giving wedding speeches, and I was bawling my eyes out, like, literally sitting in the corner. And I had to take Braxton.Mind you, she's never met these sisters.I've never met her.Which is probably the sweetest part of the whole thing. It was the white cocktail party, the speeches, and we got there, like, pretty recently, so, like, you know, like, we're, like, fresh there, right? Like, we've seen a few people, whatever speeches start, and. And all of a sudden, I look over, and she's just dreaming I was.Crying because sweet speeches make me so. I love a good speech. Like, I love speeches, and they make me so emotional. I actually said a good speech to you.You had a great toast. Yeah, I was not expecting that. I said, let's toast. And you said, I got this one.We were in Capri, and I pulled out the toast of my life.It was. I wish we. Like, I wish we had it, like, where we could hear it again.I don't know. I was jumping all over the place with it, but it didn't flow. But I said a lot of nice things.You said a lot of nice things, and it felt really good.And for me, like, being emotional. I'm into it now. I'm emotional now.She's leaned in, guys.I've leaned in.She's leaned in.This trip has been so amazing. Thanks, Braxton, for booking it all.You're welcome. And, no, it has been incredible, and it's gone. Every part has gone better than I think we expected it.Yeah. And, like, we're just, like, such great travel partners. I would say we are. Like, we. Like, we both get things done. We're good at being on time to the airport, flowing through things, like logistics. Like, if I don't have. If I don't know something, you know it, and if you don't know it, I know it. Like, I feel, like, very good at, like, balancing each other.I feel like that's a huge test and a relationship. Like, travel together. Like, go to the airport together. Yeah, because there's.There can be five times with ten suitcases through Europe for three. That's actually two weeks that I lied about everyone. But even just, like, I feel like we've been, like, pretend living together on this trip. You just, like, haven't gotten rid of me.No. And it's been easy. It's been fun.It's been so easy.I've loved it.Besides, when I get hungry, it was.Hungry hot and tired.Well, we should probably get ready for this wedding now.Yeah. What time is it? We can't be late.It's time to get ready to wedding. No, we won't be late because I actually have been so good. I I need to, like, write everything down. So I had a little notepad today where it's right now. I was like, okay, we have this amount of time for the beach, this amount of time to set up the cameras for the podcast, this amount of time to podcast. Then it's gonna take me this long to get ready. I allotted, like, hair, makeup, outfit, like, filming everything in there.We're very productive when you, like, write things down like that.No, I am. You stay on good with. With my life.Yeah.So now sticking to the list, we're gonna jump into what would Alex do? We're gonna change and get ready right now. Thanks, Braxton, for coming on the Earl girls missed you, and, yeah, let's do some. What would Alex do? Now it's time for what would alex do? Where you guys write in on the hot mess Instagram. Hot mess TikTok. There's a little section that says, what would Alex do? You guys write in your questions or your stories, and I give you my advice on what Alex would do. Maybe it's not the best advice, but it's just what I would do. Hey, Alex, my friend is dating a gnome player. Someone told me that he cheated on her by another girl, but the source told me that this has previously been a little unreliable. Should I tell her even though it's alleged, or should I stay out of her business? Mmm. Tell her. Always tell her. I. That's my personal opinion, though. But I just, like, I cannot imagine if I was dating a guy, say, and we broke up or something came out that he cheated on me and you, my friend, knew and didn't tell me.Like, I literally would slice your head off. Like, that's not okay. Like, I always think you need to tell the friend. And there's always situations where girls are like, mmm, but I don't want to get involved, or maybe I don't want to say anything, but it's like, wouldn't you want to know? Like, I would always say, tell them. Hey, Alex, I just relistened to your anxiety episode. I've been struggling really bad, but haven't wanted to take medication to interfere with my social life. Do you drink on these meds? If not, how do you balance medication and your social life? I'm 24, and I want to live my life, but I'm not sure what to do. So I talked about this a little bit in the episode, but I still drink, obviously, on the medication I'm taking. I take Lexapro for my anxiety. If you don't know what we're talking about right now, go back. It was the last episode. I did a rerun of the anxiety episode, but I started taking Lexapro at 15 years old, like, freshly 15. And that was something I was really scared about at the time because obviously, like, you're getting into high school, people are having some drinks, and I didn't want that to be a major factor for me.And honestly, it really hasn't affected me. But everyone's different, so I'm not gonna say, like, hey, if you're on this medication, like, you can definitely drink. I would say, try it out. Take it slow at first. Talk to your doctor. But it also depends. The medication you're on might affect you differently, but personally, I've been fine with it. And I would say, like, I know you're saying you don't want to affect your social life, but for me, the anxiety was, like, so crippling to the point that I couldn't have a social life. So it's like, at least if I couldn't even drink, like, at least I could be with my friends, because, like, I wasn't even able to, like, leave the house because my anxiety was so bad. So I feel like it depends, but I would say, fix yourself and your mental health, and then you can figure the rest out from there. Hey, Alex. I'm thinking about reaching out to my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay, wait. Ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay. He and I broke up last week, and I'm struggling to work through all the shit he put me through. I want someone to talk to who will get it.What would Alex do? No, no, no, no, no. Maybe eventually. I feel like this is a thing where, like, sometimes, like, ex girlfriends of the same guy, like, get together and they're like, holy shit, we were going through the same thing. But I wouldn't, like, fresh out of the breakup be like, hey, girl. Because honestly, she probably doesn't really like you. So if you need someone who will get it, maybe, like, talk to a therapist, talk to your friends. And I think if you make it known that, like, you went through a breakup or you post some, like, salty TikTok or, like, something shitty, I mean, that's what I would do. I'm always like, whatever, I'll expose them. I think maybe she could reach out to you. And then you go about it that way. But I don't think, like, you reach out to her unless you're, like, close with her and you know her and she's, like, somehow in your same friend group at school. But I don't think I would, like out of the blue, like, dm this girl and be like, hey, but maybe if you know her in, like, social settings and you guys are cool and you guys talk, but if you don't talk at all, like, I think that may be a little alarming to reach out to her.So maybe, like, hire a therapist. Hi, Alex. I feel like me and my super close friend are growing in part, and it's kind of awkward when we are together because we've run out of things to say and kind of just sit in silence. I don't want to drop her because she is a good friend, but I feel like our friendship is ending. Help. Okay. I kind of talked about this in one of the past episodes I did with Ashton where I had a friend that, like, we literally just, like, weren't keeping up with each other anymore. And it, like, wasn't anyone's fault. We just, like, weren't putting in the time to, like, reach out to each other and talk, and, like, things started to drift, and in my mind, I was like, was like, alex doesn't want to be close with me. Alex doesn't want to be my friend. So we literally just, like, had a conversation. But it feels like if you guys are, like, talking and hanging out and you don't really have anything to talk about, like, maybe you could be growing apart.And I'm going to give, like, two different scenarios here because I think there's times with, like, friends and stuff that you, like, grow apart. You change. You're like, I haven't had the same friends forever. Like, I've had maybe two or three friends that are still from, like, high school, but a lot of the girls I was friends with, like, we kind of grew apart because you change. And, like, especially when I'm assuming maybe you're younger, in your teens or early twenties or even when you're older, like, you change in different aspects of your life change, and it's like, okay, maybe you have a boyfriend or you move somewhere or you're going to college or, like, you have different interests in things or you got married and you have kids now it's like, there's so many different circumstances where, like, you may be just, like, changing as people. And, like, I think about that a lot with, like, friends I had from college because I feel like in college, it's very, like, okay, like, we're all gonna go out together. Like, sigma kai is having a party, so, like, we're all gonna get ready and put on our crop tops, and we're all gonna go to the party together.But, like, then there's the part where it's, like, after college, it's like, maybe you guys have different interests in, like, actual things going on in life rather than, like, a frat party. So, like, maybe you're growing apart as people. But I think there's another part where maybe things are just, like, getting awkward for some reason or another. And, like, maybe she has, like, maybe she's mad at you for something and she's not telling you and there's, like, a weird little, like, shtick going on between you guys. And, like, that's where I would say just, like, sit down and, like, talk about it. But I always think, like, sitting down, addressing the situation, talking about it, is so much better than not, because then, if anything, you're just gonna continue to grow apart. And at least if you talk to her, like, maybe you'll then have some clarification. Hey, Al. The guy I'm talking to asked me to make him a summer playlist, and I have no idea what type of songs to put on it. Should I put what I actually listen to, like, taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter or put, like, cool indie songs that will impress him?Why is this so stressful when guys ask about, like, music? I I remember specifically when I was talking to this guy that I had ended up dating him, but in the beginning, he was like, oh, like, who do you like to listen to for music? And I was, like, trying to think, like, so hard. I was like, okay, well, who's someone I can say, like, I feel like Frank Ocean. It's always, like, a safe answer. It's like, everyone likes Frank Ocean. So I was like, oh, my God, like, what do I say? My friends were like, alex, you should just say, like, something. Like, you like something that you like to listen to. That's, like, niche. That, like, just see what he says. And I was, like, really trying to go for more the, like, blanketed answer. And I was like, um, megan thee stallion. And he actually took it very well. But I was so scared in the moment because, like, in the beginning stage of talking to a guy, you're like, I don't want to scare them off. Like, what are they gonna think? But, like, if he's asking you to make him a summer playlist, like, he probably doesn't want to listen to Taylor Swift or Sabrina Carpenter, but, like, maybe he does because I've turned Braxton into a Sabrina Carpenter fan.He's walking around saying, please, please, please. I'm like, okay, Braxton, but he wants you to make him a playlist. I feel like this is, like, a type of test. So I think, don't put music that you don't like because then that defeats the whole purpose. I feel like the point of this is something that you guys can, like, listen to together. Like, I don't know if you guys are gonna listen to, like, Taylor Swift songs about, like, a breakup and, like, be crying together. Like, I feel like that's not really the vibe. But, like, maybe play some, like, fun music that you like. If you like indie music, play indie music. But if you don't, don't. But that is so stressful. I'm not gonna lie. At least, though, it's, like, a playlist and not, like one song or one genre. Like, you can make it a bunch of different things. But I feel like a summer playlist is, like, I'm trying to think of, like, songs you would want to listen to with, like, the windows down, you're driving in the car together along the beach, or you're, like, sitting on the beach together. I don't know, though, honestly, I would probably block him and run away after that question because that would just be way too much stress for me.Okay, well, that was all for this episode, guys. I love you. Thanks for listening. And now we are off to Montauk for the whole month. We are going to have a summer house there with my girlfriends and my sister, and I'm so excited to see them. I miss them so, so much. Like, I could cry. So I can't wait to get back home to them. Well, not really home, but you know what I mean. Don't forget to follow, like, subscribe to this podcast, follow the hot mess, TikTok, the hot mess, Instagram. I love you guys, and I'll see you next Thursday. Bye. I've been moving like a hot mess I don't want no combo I want.Checks I don't want the second I.Want this I'm all in my three I'm alright I've been moving like a hot mess.Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jowsey here, host of the new video podcast boyfriend material dating, sex, and relationships in your twenties. It's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where boyfriend material with Harry Jowsey comes in every Tuesday. I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations and giving you honest advice on them all. Watch boyfriend material with Harry Jazzy every Tuesday here on Spotify. You know, you might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. Follow boyfriend material with Harry Jazzy on Spotify.

She actually did love. Nothing more than that.

No. Like, is seeing Braxton just, like, because it was definitely, like, an embarrassing moment.

She didn't ask if I was okay.

No.

She didn't ask if I needed anything because I saw.

Maybe because I saw. But, like, come on. I always embarrass myself. And the one time he does something like, it was so funny that I was like, oh, my God. Like, imagine him just, like. Like, hanging out of the way.

I don't think we need to run through it again. I don't think they get the.

I wish I had a video.

I think they get the.

But you did great, sweetie.

Thank you so much. Love you too.

We are now here for another wedding, which, the first day, there was, like, a little white party for it, and then there was yesterday, we did, like, a beach day party for it, and that was so much fun. And then today's the actual wedding. So right after we're done recording this, we're gonna get dressed for the wedding. But this wedding has been so much fun. Like, there's a lot of, like, little kids at this wedding or, like, the events that we've been going to, and it's like. It's so sweet. Like. Like, granted, I came as a plus one to Braxton. Cause this is Braxton's friend getting married. But, like, this family is so nice. Like, I've become friends with all of them, I think.

Yeah, no, it's been such a good group, and it's a big group, too.

It is, and it's really fun. And the sisters were giving wedding speeches, and I was bawling my eyes out, like, literally sitting in the corner. And I had to take Braxton.

Mind you, she's never met these sisters.

I've never met her.

Which is probably the sweetest part of the whole thing. It was the white cocktail party, the speeches, and we got there, like, pretty recently, so, like, you know, like, we're, like, fresh there, right? Like, we've seen a few people, whatever speeches start, and. And all of a sudden, I look over, and she's just dreaming I was.

Crying because sweet speeches make me so. I love a good speech. Like, I love speeches, and they make me so emotional. I actually said a good speech to you.

You had a great toast. Yeah, I was not expecting that. I said, let's toast. And you said, I got this one.

We were in Capri, and I pulled out the toast of my life.

It was. I wish we. Like, I wish we had it, like, where we could hear it again.

I don't know. I was jumping all over the place with it, but it didn't flow. But I said a lot of nice things.

You said a lot of nice things, and it felt really good.

And for me, like, being emotional. I'm into it now. I'm emotional now.

She's leaned in, guys.

I've leaned in.

She's leaned in.

This trip has been so amazing. Thanks, Braxton, for booking it all.

You're welcome. And, no, it has been incredible, and it's gone. Every part has gone better than I think we expected it.

Yeah. And, like, we're just, like, such great travel partners. I would say we are. Like, we. Like, we both get things done. We're good at being on time to the airport, flowing through things, like logistics. Like, if I don't have. If I don't know something, you know it, and if you don't know it, I know it. Like, I feel, like, very good at, like, balancing each other.

I feel like that's a huge test and a relationship. Like, travel together. Like, go to the airport together. Yeah, because there's.

There can be five times with ten suitcases through Europe for three. That's actually two weeks that I lied about everyone. But even just, like, I feel like we've been, like, pretend living together on this trip. You just, like, haven't gotten rid of me.

No. And it's been easy. It's been fun.

It's been so easy.

I've loved it.

Besides, when I get hungry, it was.

Hungry hot and tired.

Well, we should probably get ready for this wedding now.

Yeah. What time is it? We can't be late.

It's time to get ready to wedding. No, we won't be late because I actually have been so good. I I need to, like, write everything down. So I had a little notepad today where it's right now. I was like, okay, we have this amount of time for the beach, this amount of time to set up the cameras for the podcast, this amount of time to podcast. Then it's gonna take me this long to get ready. I allotted, like, hair, makeup, outfit, like, filming everything in there.

We're very productive when you, like, write things down like that.

No, I am. You stay on good with. With my life.

Yeah.

So now sticking to the list, we're gonna jump into what would Alex do? We're gonna change and get ready right now. Thanks, Braxton, for coming on the Earl girls missed you, and, yeah, let's do some. What would Alex do? Now it's time for what would alex do? Where you guys write in on the hot mess Instagram. Hot mess TikTok. There's a little section that says, what would Alex do? You guys write in your questions or your stories, and I give you my advice on what Alex would do. Maybe it's not the best advice, but it's just what I would do. Hey, Alex, my friend is dating a gnome player. Someone told me that he cheated on her by another girl, but the source told me that this has previously been a little unreliable. Should I tell her even though it's alleged, or should I stay out of her business? Mmm. Tell her. Always tell her. I. That's my personal opinion, though. But I just, like, I cannot imagine if I was dating a guy, say, and we broke up or something came out that he cheated on me and you, my friend, knew and didn't tell me.

Like, I literally would slice your head off. Like, that's not okay. Like, I always think you need to tell the friend. And there's always situations where girls are like, mmm, but I don't want to get involved, or maybe I don't want to say anything, but it's like, wouldn't you want to know? Like, I would always say, tell them. Hey, Alex, I just relistened to your anxiety episode. I've been struggling really bad, but haven't wanted to take medication to interfere with my social life. Do you drink on these meds? If not, how do you balance medication and your social life? I'm 24, and I want to live my life, but I'm not sure what to do. So I talked about this a little bit in the episode, but I still drink, obviously, on the medication I'm taking. I take Lexapro for my anxiety. If you don't know what we're talking about right now, go back. It was the last episode. I did a rerun of the anxiety episode, but I started taking Lexapro at 15 years old, like, freshly 15. And that was something I was really scared about at the time because obviously, like, you're getting into high school, people are having some drinks, and I didn't want that to be a major factor for me.

And honestly, it really hasn't affected me. But everyone's different, so I'm not gonna say, like, hey, if you're on this medication, like, you can definitely drink. I would say, try it out. Take it slow at first. Talk to your doctor. But it also depends. The medication you're on might affect you differently, but personally, I've been fine with it. And I would say, like, I know you're saying you don't want to affect your social life, but for me, the anxiety was, like, so crippling to the point that I couldn't have a social life. So it's like, at least if I couldn't even drink, like, at least I could be with my friends, because, like, I wasn't even able to, like, leave the house because my anxiety was so bad. So I feel like it depends, but I would say, fix yourself and your mental health, and then you can figure the rest out from there. Hey, Alex. I'm thinking about reaching out to my ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay, wait. Ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Okay. He and I broke up last week, and I'm struggling to work through all the shit he put me through. I want someone to talk to who will get it.

What would Alex do? No, no, no, no, no. Maybe eventually. I feel like this is a thing where, like, sometimes, like, ex girlfriends of the same guy, like, get together and they're like, holy shit, we were going through the same thing. But I wouldn't, like, fresh out of the breakup be like, hey, girl. Because honestly, she probably doesn't really like you. So if you need someone who will get it, maybe, like, talk to a therapist, talk to your friends. And I think if you make it known that, like, you went through a breakup or you post some, like, salty TikTok or, like, something shitty, I mean, that's what I would do. I'm always like, whatever, I'll expose them. I think maybe she could reach out to you. And then you go about it that way. But I don't think, like, you reach out to her unless you're, like, close with her and you know her and she's, like, somehow in your same friend group at school. But I don't think I would, like out of the blue, like, dm this girl and be like, hey, but maybe if you know her in, like, social settings and you guys are cool and you guys talk, but if you don't talk at all, like, I think that may be a little alarming to reach out to her.

So maybe, like, hire a therapist. Hi, Alex. I feel like me and my super close friend are growing in part, and it's kind of awkward when we are together because we've run out of things to say and kind of just sit in silence. I don't want to drop her because she is a good friend, but I feel like our friendship is ending. Help. Okay. I kind of talked about this in one of the past episodes I did with Ashton where I had a friend that, like, we literally just, like, weren't keeping up with each other anymore. And it, like, wasn't anyone's fault. We just, like, weren't putting in the time to, like, reach out to each other and talk, and, like, things started to drift, and in my mind, I was like, was like, alex doesn't want to be close with me. Alex doesn't want to be my friend. So we literally just, like, had a conversation. But it feels like if you guys are, like, talking and hanging out and you don't really have anything to talk about, like, maybe you could be growing apart.

And I'm going to give, like, two different scenarios here because I think there's times with, like, friends and stuff that you, like, grow apart. You change. You're like, I haven't had the same friends forever. Like, I've had maybe two or three friends that are still from, like, high school, but a lot of the girls I was friends with, like, we kind of grew apart because you change. And, like, especially when I'm assuming maybe you're younger, in your teens or early twenties or even when you're older, like, you change in different aspects of your life change, and it's like, okay, maybe you have a boyfriend or you move somewhere or you're going to college or, like, you have different interests in things or you got married and you have kids now it's like, there's so many different circumstances where, like, you may be just, like, changing as people. And, like, I think about that a lot with, like, friends I had from college because I feel like in college, it's very, like, okay, like, we're all gonna go out together. Like, sigma kai is having a party, so, like, we're all gonna get ready and put on our crop tops, and we're all gonna go to the party together.

But, like, then there's the part where it's, like, after college, it's like, maybe you guys have different interests in, like, actual things going on in life rather than, like, a frat party. So, like, maybe you're growing apart as people. But I think there's another part where maybe things are just, like, getting awkward for some reason or another. And, like, maybe she has, like, maybe she's mad at you for something and she's not telling you and there's, like, a weird little, like, shtick going on between you guys. And, like, that's where I would say just, like, sit down and, like, talk about it. But I always think, like, sitting down, addressing the situation, talking about it, is so much better than not, because then, if anything, you're just gonna continue to grow apart. And at least if you talk to her, like, maybe you'll then have some clarification. Hey, Al. The guy I'm talking to asked me to make him a summer playlist, and I have no idea what type of songs to put on it. Should I put what I actually listen to, like, taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter or put, like, cool indie songs that will impress him?

Why is this so stressful when guys ask about, like, music? I I remember specifically when I was talking to this guy that I had ended up dating him, but in the beginning, he was like, oh, like, who do you like to listen to for music? And I was, like, trying to think, like, so hard. I was like, okay, well, who's someone I can say, like, I feel like Frank Ocean. It's always, like, a safe answer. It's like, everyone likes Frank Ocean. So I was like, oh, my God, like, what do I say? My friends were like, alex, you should just say, like, something. Like, you like something that you like to listen to. That's, like, niche. That, like, just see what he says. And I was, like, really trying to go for more the, like, blanketed answer. And I was like, um, megan thee stallion. And he actually took it very well. But I was so scared in the moment because, like, in the beginning stage of talking to a guy, you're like, I don't want to scare them off. Like, what are they gonna think? But, like, if he's asking you to make him a summer playlist, like, he probably doesn't want to listen to Taylor Swift or Sabrina Carpenter, but, like, maybe he does because I've turned Braxton into a Sabrina Carpenter fan.

He's walking around saying, please, please, please. I'm like, okay, Braxton, but he wants you to make him a playlist. I feel like this is, like, a type of test. So I think, don't put music that you don't like because then that defeats the whole purpose. I feel like the point of this is something that you guys can, like, listen to together. Like, I don't know if you guys are gonna listen to, like, Taylor Swift songs about, like, a breakup and, like, be crying together. Like, I feel like that's not really the vibe. But, like, maybe play some, like, fun music that you like. If you like indie music, play indie music. But if you don't, don't. But that is so stressful. I'm not gonna lie. At least, though, it's, like, a playlist and not, like one song or one genre. Like, you can make it a bunch of different things. But I feel like a summer playlist is, like, I'm trying to think of, like, songs you would want to listen to with, like, the windows down, you're driving in the car together along the beach, or you're, like, sitting on the beach together. I don't know, though, honestly, I would probably block him and run away after that question because that would just be way too much stress for me.

Okay, well, that was all for this episode, guys. I love you. Thanks for listening. And now we are off to Montauk for the whole month. We are going to have a summer house there with my girlfriends and my sister, and I'm so excited to see them. I miss them so, so much. Like, I could cry. So I can't wait to get back home to them. Well, not really home, but you know what I mean. Don't forget to follow, like, subscribe to this podcast, follow the hot mess, TikTok, the hot mess, Instagram. I love you guys, and I'll see you next Thursday. Bye. I've been moving like a hot mess I don't want no combo I want.

Checks I don't want the second I.

Want this I'm all in my three I'm alright I've been moving like a hot mess.

Listen up, you naughty little pelicans. It's Harry Jowsey here, host of the new video podcast boyfriend material dating, sex, and relationships in your twenties. It's messy, confusing, and sometimes you just want the male perspective. That's where boyfriend material with Harry Jowsey comes in every Tuesday. I'll let you in on what the male brain is thinking, breaking down all of your relationship questions and situations and giving you honest advice on them all. Watch boyfriend material with Harry Jazzy every Tuesday here on Spotify. You know, you might potentially land the guy of your dreams or the red flag, but there's no judgment here. Follow boyfriend material with Harry Jazzy on Spotify.