I feel this energy and this truth that comes through you. It just gets me so choked up to be in the presence of somebody that has such a gift. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on what you believe most of us need to hear and be reminded of.

Most people underestimate how necessary their existence is in the world. And as a result, assume a posture of resignation that leaves the world less than what it could be. Our lives are not random. They are not coincidence. Experiences. We were all given these lives to make the world better. I feel like most people underestimate howI know what I didn't have because I sat with myself. And when you're in a family, my parents have their lives exploded overnight. People talk about mega churches, mega pastors. No one sets out for it to be mega. People keep coming, and it's like, I guess we need a bigger building. You know what I mean? And so you make these big buildings, and I guess we're supposed to do stuff in the communities. You respond to the need. And while they were so busy dealing with whatever it meant to be thrust into the spotlight, they thought we were okay. They really did. They thought we were okay. But we were lost in a sea of people. And overnight, our lives went from having this family church where we knew everyone to all of a sudden people sending death threats and we need security. And we weren't okay. No one was helping us process what was happening. They couldn't process it. And so I was lonely. I was angry. I didn't fit. So when I think about who I was when I got pregnant, if I just look at me rubbing my belly at 13, I could say, Oh, so cringy.I could say, Man, that girl was really heartbroken. That girl really needed someone who could see her. That girl really needed someone who would tell her where she fit in this world, or to take her out of that world and to help dive into her own world. I didn't have those things. And as a result of that, I tried to self-suit youth, and I made some choices that I wish I could have done differently, mainly for the sake of my son not having to grow up with me at the same time I was growing up. But I don't feel bad about that anymore because I see the movie. And so if you're watching this or listening to it, I want you to know that you do not have to look at your life one scene at a time, that the greatest gift you can give yourself is to look at it from the opening credits to where you are now and understand that anyone who had what you had in the cabinet would have probably made the same choice. They would have likely ended up addicted, too. Maybe they would have been heartbroken as well.Maybe they would have been... Whatever whatever your thing is that makes you cringe, if you look at the whole movie, given what you had to work with, I want you to know that you did the best that you could.I love that you are reminding us to go back to the beginning. Because we not only freeze the frame and we cut us off from the rest of the story, but we also freeze the frame, and we don't even consider the plot line that led up to this. And so we judge it from a frozen moment in time when you do have the full story. And as I listen to you over and over and over again, and just really to each word, the thing that keeps coming up for me is Is this ability to look at the whole movie of your life. The fact that it's so easy to forget, isn't it? This is also your parents' first time being human beings. Yeah. That they're doing the best that they can with what they had in the cupboard, based on what your grandparents had in their cupboard. Hello. That doesn't mean that any of it is justified. It just means like- No, this is what they had. This is what they had. There is this level of My daughter has this term open arms. There's open arms people, which is the physical version of an open heart.You have this ability to make us want to look at our own movie and story with an open heart and compassion for self. How important is that loving understanding, I guess, is how I would describe what compassion Yeah, for sure.I would. Looking at your life through a lens of love, not judgment, is an incredible definition of what it means to have compassion. And I think it's responsible to do that when you're going to engage in relationship with other people. Because if you can't look at your life through the lens of love, but you can look at other people's life through the lens of love and feel compassion for them, then you cannot even receive the love that you're pouring God into the world. Or worse, we are harsh with other people because we're harsh with ourselves. Because I can't see my life through a lens of love, I'm definitely not going to see yours. And if I went through this and you went through that, baby girl, grab them bootstraps, and that ain't nothing. Now we're in the struggle Olympics. Who's got it worse? Who's got it worse? You know what I mean? Or we're jealous or we're envious, and we just are not the best people to be in relationship with when we haven't figured out what compassion for our own journey. And especially for doing the work of raising children, loving partners. There is an obligation, I feel, that we have to bring more love into the world.And love isn't going to come from pursuit. It's going to come from us digging a well within ourselves. And when we dig that well and we hit that spring of love, not just for ourselves, it overflows into how we care for other people. We were at Starbucks the other day, and my daughter, she's 14. She's not aware of anything except for herself. And she slings the door open and she hits the car of the person beside us. And he's coming out of Starbucks at the same time. And he calls her a dumb. He's called her something ignorant, crazy. So I heard him say it, and I go, Now, that wasn't kind. And that response, instead of matching his anger, because I've been frustrated before someone's hit my door,I think no matter where you are in your movie, the scene that you're in is still worthy of reaching backwardsold onto the wig cap. So the weight of the ponytail- Hold the wig cap? And girl. I My husband and I, we were living in Los Angeles. And while we were in LA, my husband has this incredible community. It's vibrant. It's the place where a girl who 're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.What are your parting words?Secure your wig.And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.For sure.And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.

I know what I didn't have because I sat with myself. And when you're in a family, my parents have their lives exploded overnight. People talk about mega churches, mega pastors. No one sets out for it to be mega. People keep coming, and it's like, I guess we need a bigger building. You know what I mean? And so you make these big buildings, and I guess we're supposed to do stuff in the communities. You respond to the need. And while they were so busy dealing with whatever it meant to be thrust into the spotlight, they thought we were okay. They really did. They thought we were okay. But we were lost in a sea of people. And overnight, our lives went from having this family church where we knew everyone to all of a sudden people sending death threats and we need security. And we weren't okay. No one was helping us process what was happening. They couldn't process it. And so I was lonely. I was angry. I didn't fit. So when I think about who I was when I got pregnant, if I just look at me rubbing my belly at 13, I could say, Oh, so cringy.

I could say, Man, that girl was really heartbroken. That girl really needed someone who could see her. That girl really needed someone who would tell her where she fit in this world, or to take her out of that world and to help dive into her own world. I didn't have those things. And as a result of that, I tried to self-suit youth, and I made some choices that I wish I could have done differently, mainly for the sake of my son not having to grow up with me at the same time I was growing up. But I don't feel bad about that anymore because I see the movie. And so if you're watching this or listening to it, I want you to know that you do not have to look at your life one scene at a time, that the greatest gift you can give yourself is to look at it from the opening credits to where you are now and understand that anyone who had what you had in the cabinet would have probably made the same choice. They would have likely ended up addicted, too. Maybe they would have been heartbroken as well.

Maybe they would have been... Whatever whatever your thing is that makes you cringe, if you look at the whole movie, given what you had to work with, I want you to know that you did the best that you could.

I love that you are reminding us to go back to the beginning. Because we not only freeze the frame and we cut us off from the rest of the story, but we also freeze the frame, and we don't even consider the plot line that led up to this. And so we judge it from a frozen moment in time when you do have the full story. And as I listen to you over and over and over again, and just really to each word, the thing that keeps coming up for me is Is this ability to look at the whole movie of your life. The fact that it's so easy to forget, isn't it? This is also your parents' first time being human beings. Yeah. That they're doing the best that they can with what they had in the cupboard, based on what your grandparents had in their cupboard. Hello. That doesn't mean that any of it is justified. It just means like- No, this is what they had. This is what they had. There is this level of My daughter has this term open arms. There's open arms people, which is the physical version of an open heart.

You have this ability to make us want to look at our own movie and story with an open heart and compassion for self. How important is that loving understanding, I guess, is how I would describe what compassion Yeah, for sure.

I would. Looking at your life through a lens of love, not judgment, is an incredible definition of what it means to have compassion. And I think it's responsible to do that when you're going to engage in relationship with other people. Because if you can't look at your life through the lens of love, but you can look at other people's life through the lens of love and feel compassion for them, then you cannot even receive the love that you're pouring God into the world. Or worse, we are harsh with other people because we're harsh with ourselves. Because I can't see my life through a lens of love, I'm definitely not going to see yours. And if I went through this and you went through that, baby girl, grab them bootstraps, and that ain't nothing. Now we're in the struggle Olympics. Who's got it worse? Who's got it worse? You know what I mean? Or we're jealous or we're envious, and we just are not the best people to be in relationship with when we haven't figured out what compassion for our own journey. And especially for doing the work of raising children, loving partners. There is an obligation, I feel, that we have to bring more love into the world.

And love isn't going to come from pursuit. It's going to come from us digging a well within ourselves. And when we dig that well and we hit that spring of love, not just for ourselves, it overflows into how we care for other people. We were at Starbucks the other day, and my daughter, she's 14. She's not aware of anything except for herself. And she slings the door open and she hits the car of the person beside us. And he's coming out of Starbucks at the same time. And he calls her a dumb. He's called her something ignorant, crazy. So I heard him say it, and I go, Now, that wasn't kind. And that response, instead of matching his anger, because I've been frustrated before someone's hit my door,I think no matter where you are in your movie, the scene that you're in is still worthy of reaching backwardsold onto the wig cap. So the weight of the ponytail- Hold the wig cap? And girl. I My husband and I, we were living in Los Angeles. And while we were in LA, my husband has this incredible community. It's vibrant. It's the place where a girl who 're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.What are your parting words?Secure your wig.And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.For sure.And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.

I think no matter where you are in your movie, the scene that you're in is still worthy of reaching backwardsold onto the wig cap. So the weight of the ponytail- Hold the wig cap? And girl. I My husband and I, we were living in Los Angeles. And while we were in LA, my husband has this incredible community. It's vibrant. It's the place where a girl who 're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.What are your parting words?Secure your wig.And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.For sure.And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.

sold onto the wig cap. So the weight of the ponytail- Hold the wig cap? And girl. I My husband and I, we were living in Los Angeles. And while we were in LA, my husband has this incredible community. It's vibrant. It's the place where a girl who 're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.What are your parting words?Secure your wig.And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.For sure.And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.

My husband and I, we were living in Los Angeles. And while we were in LA, my husband has this incredible community. It's vibrant. It's the place where a girl who 're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.What are your parting words?Secure your wig.And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.For sure.And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.

're certainly not defined by whether or not you have your virginity or not. That you can literally be who you want to be beyond gender, beyond the wig, beyond any mistakes that you've made. And you are the embodiment of that. As somebody that's just meeting you and that has watched your life from afar and is inspired by your work, there's no doubt in my mind that that is a thousand % the work that is getting done through your life. You're not aware of it, but it's very clear in the context of your entire life story and your mission and the work that you have just been called to put out into the world, that that is actually what's happening.

It makes so much make sense to me. It does. It makes so much make sense to me because I just- There is no other explanation.

When you think about how much faith you have, and you talk about being the embodiment of something and the intentionality of something, let's Just stay with the word intentionality. What if you did believe, because I know you and I both believe this, that even those things that were so cringy in the moment, we know when we get to the end of the movie and we look back at the entire thing that happened, everything had an order to it. I think one of the most incredible skills in life that you have, that I know that I have, that I am trying to help other people have is the ability to both stand in this moment in this frame of your movie and look back and say, Oh, of course, all of those things land head here. And of course, I would never be here holding the hand of the little me saying, Take this all in. Look at how far we've come without that thing that I once hated. And now I have created room to love and be compassionate for. But I can also stand in this frame and look ahead and know that this is leading somewhere extraordinary.

And that is what I felt compelled to tell you.

I think the idea of we needed another version of what it means to be a woman of God in a culture where there's literally one road, one path, and for the undeniable grace. There's just no reason for the swell of influence. There's no reason. And I think I've Actually, there is a reason. Well, there is. Yeah, I know. That's what I'm saying. I think the intentionality of God to in the midst of while one thing is rampant to be like, You know what? I am going to allow this to happen. It's not going to make sense to anyone. But in 20 years, it's going to make sense because I'm going to use all of these things to create this version of Sarah that is relatable and touchable for a generation that's been lost.

You can't Can't actually be relatable and untouchable without that. And the other piece of this that really struck me is the word undeniable. And when you said there's only one path, that's actually not true. We've just put the infinite other paths in a cupboard.

Yeah, for sure. And that is why I love doing what I do, and I love what Woman Evolve is, because there are all of these women with all of these different paths that have been stuffed in the cupboard. And now they're beginning to believe that maybe there's another path. Maybe there's not just one path. Maybe based off of where I come from in Chicago and South Africa. Maybe we all have a unique path, and I don't have to try and fit myself into this one way of being or disqualify myself because I don't fit in this. That is what makes a woman evolve, what it is.

I see that Because you just also said there's just no other explanation, and I often think about that in my own story. Facing bankruptcy, struggling with anxiety. I have some dumb idea when I am drunk on bourbon to launch myself out of bed like a rocket so I can move fast enough to beat the anxiety. And the series of unexplainable events and coincidences. And there's no other explanation than this divine order. Yeah. And so I am so proud of myself for saying it to you and actually letting it live outside of me so that it could create space for you. If the person listening takes just one thing from the extraordinary amount of wisdom that you have poured into us today, and they focus on one action, what do you want them to do?

I would say to open that It's like, open that cabinet. Open that cabinet and look at every single ingredient of you and to trust that every ingredient ingredient is going to be used in the full edit of your story. For those of you who know a little bit about cooking, you know that there are some ingredients that we buy thinking that we're going to use them, and then it gets dusty because we never actually used it. There are probably some things that you have allowed to get dusty, some dreams, some gifts, some memories that you like that they have dust on them because it makes it harder for you to see them. I would tell you to dust those ingredients off, to put them out on the counter, and to start dreaming.

What are your parting words?

Secure your wig.

And thank you for being with Sarah, Jakes, Roberts, and me today, I wanted to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, that I love you. I know Sarah loves you, too.

For sure.

And we believe in you. And open up the cabinet and go cook up a freaking five-star meal, and I'll talk to you in a few days. For you sitting here watching with me on YouTube, I just want to say, please share this with somebody. Don't just sit and watch. Please do something. Take a minute and subscribe to this channel because it's really a way that you can support me in bringing you new videos every single day. I'm sure you're looking for something really inspiring to watch, to really move you. I want you to check out this video next.