One thing that's really struck me is how hard it can be to simply know what you want. Let me ask you right now, what do you really want?

I want to move to New York this year.

I'd love to have a place on the lake to get away with my family.

Okay.

And she's like, Okay, why?

I made a lot of... I was going to cry. A lot of promises to myself as a little girl, and New York has always been one of them.

Then she's like, Do you need a Lakehouse for that to happen? It just was this very personal thing of feeling like I miss the amount of time we spend together when they were little.

Hey, it's your friend Mel, and I'm so glad that you're here with me today so that we can spend some time together. It is always such an honor to spend time with you. I just want to acknowledge you for choosing to listen to something that could help you create a better life. And if you're a new listener, welcome. Welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I'm so glad that you're here, and I'm particularly glad that you're listening right now today to this episode. And if somebody shared this with you, and that's why you tuned in, the next time you see them, could you tell them thank you for me? Because they must really care about you. If they sent you this episode, wow, it means that they want to help you get what you want in life. Isn't that cool? This episode, by the way, it's a little bit different from the normal amazing episodes that are here on the Mel Robbins podcast. Because what you're listening to today, I have designed specifically as a workshop to help you gain the clarity and the courage and the conviction to answer one of the most important questions in life.

What do you really want? And before we jump into it, let me just explain a little bit about the episode today, because it's one of these really special episodes that I do every once in a while that I design and create, and I think about it more like a free workshop. It's just a way for me to do a little more, just go the extra distance. I want to do that for you because you have made the Mel Robbins podcast one of the most popular, listen to, and watched podcasts in the entire world. I just learned this morning that we're about to surpass 150 million downloads of this show, from those of you that are listening and from our subscribers on YouTube, where, by the way, you can watch every single episode of this podcast for free. And so that's why I want to go to the extra distance, because I know that you listen to the Mel Robbins podcast because you want to create a more meaningful and fulfilling life. So as a thank you, I do these workshops several times a year. In fact, I did I'm going to do one in January on the science of setting goals that almost a million of you have already taken.

I'm going to do another one on the science of goals this coming January, so you can look forward to that one, too. In April, you and I did one about moving from thought to action, how you make things happen. Almost a million of you have completed that workshop. I am so excited to be back and share this workshop with you as well. And this one, this one is It's extremely important because it's going to cover a topic that a lot of people miss, which is, how do you answer the question, What do I want? And this is so important because I personally think that the reason why so many people feel stuck or unsatisfied or even a little lost in their life is because if you don't know what you want, you're never going to get it, because you don't even know what direction you should head in. And the other reason why this matters is Because if you can't answer the question, What do you want? You don't know what you value or what you prioritize, which means people who do know what they want, they're always going to come before you. So getting clear about what you want is the very first step to everything, really.

And this is a hard question to answer because people can give you advice on how to make something happen, on the steps to take, but no one can answer this question for you. You have to answer this question for yourself. And so I've designed this episode as a workshop to help you get laser-focused on what you truly What do you want at this exact moment in your life. And before we jump in, I just want to set this workshop up and tell you what you can expect. Like all of the workshops that I've done on the Mel Robbins podcast, this episode has a free companion workbook, and you can download it at the URL, melrobbins. Com/what. W-h-a-t. That URL, again, is melrobbins. Com/what. And when you Go to melrobinds. Com/what. And when you go to melrobinds. Com/what, you're going to find a link, and you can download the workbook. You can also find that link in the description as well, and you can also find it in the show notes. And if you're driving right now or you're taking taking me on a walk with you, you do not need to hit Stop and then Download and come back.

No, no, no, no, no, I'm going to guide you through a series of questions that will help you get to the truth about what you want in your life right now. And so I will also remind you of that URL, melrobbins. Com/what, toward the end of the episode. For those of you who are going to listen while you drive and walk so you can come back and get the workbook later. My mission today is to guide you through a proven series of questions and exercises that will help you gain the clarity that you need to answer this really It's a really important question. What do I want? Because once you know what you want, it's super easy to organize your spare time and your energy and your focus and take the steps to help you start moving toward it. And before we jump in and I guide you through the I want to remind you, share this with absolutely everyone that you care about, whether it's someone in your life who's in college and needs to pick a major, or maybe someone in your life has a really big decision to make, or maybe there's somebody who you just simply see a bigger future for themselves than they see for themselves right now.

I personally believe that we are all capable of achieving remarkable things, but you don't achieve them unless you know what you want. And the The first step is getting clear. In fact, I'm in the middle of a lot of big decisions in my business right now, and I've been using the exact same process and framework that I'm about to walk you through to get very clear about what I want in my business next. What you're going to learn applies to every decision that you could make, whether it's a decision about your kids, a relationship, your business, your health, your goals. And so I want you to think about this episode as a resource that you can come back to over and over and over again, wherever you are in your life, whatever decision you need to make. I mean, maybe you started college, and you're in a different place now than you were a year ago, and you're thinking about changing your major. Maybe there's something going on in your relationship. When you fell in love, you were a different person. You had different priorities. And now you're confused, and you're trying to decide, What do I really want?

It's not It's really normal to change your mind and your desires and your goals. It's unavoidable. And clarity. This clarity that I am going to teach you today, this is a skill. And so is the courage of having conviction about getting honest with yourself, about what you truly want and what you value at this exact moment in your life. And you can learn how to do this, and you're going to learn today. And the reason why this is important, I'm going to say this One more time. Only you can answer this question for yourself. Not your significant other, not your kids, not your parents, not your friends. You. And if there's someone in your life that you really want to empower, then send them this and give them the framework to help them answer the question and find the direction that they need. Because if you can hear my voice or You can watch me right now on YouTube. You will benefit from this workshop. So here's how this is going to work. You're going to download your workbook when you get a chance at melrobbins. Com/what. And the workbook is important because it's a way I'm going to go for you to take the framework I'm about to walk you through and dive even deeper and get more clarity about what you want right now.

And to help you figure out the direction you need to go or the decision that you need to make or Or even solidify something that you want to do, but boom, you just needed that like, Yeah, I'm on the right track. Because when I started this podcast just over 18 months ago, I just wanted to get the thing started. I'm very clear Mel Robbins, you need to get this thing launched. In fact, if you've ever read my New York Times bestselling book, The High Five Habit, there is an entire chapter in that book about the fact that I was dreaming about launching a podcast. Now, that book was published in 2021, and I used the same framework that I'm about to walk you through to get very clear that what I wanted was to launch a podcast. I was so sick and tired of thinking about it That I finally was at the point that I want this, I need to do it. And walking through the framework, I'm going to walk you through in just a second, gave me the direction that I needed in 2021. And then I spent the next two years just studying what other people were doing and Creating a game plan to execute against.

And finally, 18 months ago, I started the dang thing. And so answering the question, What do I want? It was easy a couple of years ago. I want to start a podcast. Boom. Direction. Go. Without answering that question, I wouldn't have a podcast right now. I would have been consumed by a bazillion other things. I would have been busy moving in in the wrong direction. And that's true about a life, isn't it? There's a lot of people moving fast, but they're not going anywhere because they don't know where they want to go. And when I ask myself, What do I want? And I think about the podcast, my goal and my sense of direction and where I want to head next, it's not just to do it. I see something so much bigger now that I have clarity about what I want. And now that the podcast is out into the world and I hear from you on a daily basis and the impact it's making, Holy cow, what I want is on just a totally different level. And this is one of the reasons why you see me do these workshops for free. It's one of the reasons why we create YouTube versions of the podcast episodes that are oftentimes longer and include more content that aren't in the listening part, because I want to go bigger.

And here's another example of how this question and figuring out what you want changes over time and why you need to keep doing this process all the time in your life. And what I wanted when our three kids were in high school and middle school, very different from what I want now, that my husband Chris and I are about to be empty nesters, It's only with the clarity of knowing what you want, why you want it. It's only with that clarity that you have direction in life. If you don't You know what you want, you're merely a passenger, and the winds of chance are just steering you in whatever direction. You're like a sailboat without a rudder. I want you to take the wheel and get clear about what direction you're going to head in next. And in order to kick us off, I just want to share a story with you about what a profound process this framework is. So at the end of last year, our team went on a team retreat, and we went to this absolutely amazing retreat center. And when we designed this off-site, there were just a couple of rules.

First of all, absolutely no work, no talk about work, no phones, no laptops, no doing work. It was just three days for our team to be together, to unwind, to do yoga, to go in the sauna, to get a massage, to connect with your colleagues. It was absolutely extraordinary because we had been busting our rear ends on this podcast for over a year. We all lived in our bathrobes the entire time. It was so great. It wasn't even an HR violation to be with your colleagues in bathrobes at dinner. It was the first time that we had ever done anything like this here at 143 Studios as a team. And after working on this podcast for a year and creating 104 episodes in one year, we needed it. Holy cow. And it was fantastic. And so this retreat center not only had a spa and exercise classes and meditation stuff, but it had all these kinds of courses and sessions that you could do on all these different topics. And so my business partner, who also happens to be my sister-in-law, Christine, she is the Chief Financial Officer and the Chief Operations Officer of the company.

And so Christine, who I've known for more than two decades, is almost like the opposite brain of me. This woman is a numbers gal. She is spreadsheets. She is very analytical and smart. She is super black and white. She is not into the touchy-feely stuff at all. And so she signs up to do this class that truly changed her life. Christine, you've agreed to come on reluctantly and talk about it. Tell me, what was the class?

So the class was manifesting.

Manifesting?

Manifesting. And And so I'm thinking, this is a nice... This will be something I can sit in the back of the room, just listen to. I've already done cardio drumming and some nutritional cooking class. So this is going to be a listen and learn.

And so you walk in, and what happens?

It's me and the instructor.

Just you and the instructor?

Just me and the instructor. And I'm like, Oh, shit.

And once you walk in, you can't walk out.

You can't walk out. You're stuck. I walked in, and she's excited to see somebody's shown up. And so I'm sitting there, and she hands me a worksheet, and we're waiting to see if somebody else is going to show up. Luckily, one other person walked in.

Okay.

And so then she's like, Well, normally this is a presentation, but since it's such a small group, let's do some just personal work. Let's talk about what you're here to talk about.

You were probably like...

Yeah, I'm basically like, Want to die. I'm like, I have no clear purpose that I've shown up for that I'm trying to realize. I'm just looking for something to do.

Okay, so it's you and one other person. One other guy. And now we're going to do deep work.

Now we're going to do deep work.

And so how does it start?

So basically, we're both sitting there, and the guy's like, Okay, I'll go first. And so she's like, Okay, what are you thinking about? And he was trying to sell a rental property he had. So very whatever. And the whole time I'm thinking, Oh, my God, what am I going to talk about? What am I going to talk about? I'm barely like, Okay, he's still talking. I'm still thinking. I was just trying to come up with something. And so then she's like, Okay, how about you?

What do you want?

What do you want? What's something you're trying to attract? And so I just put it out there. I'd love to have a place on the lake to get away with my family.

Okay.

And I'm thinking vision board, 20 something, my vision board of all these things that I wanted to have accomplish. And so not putting a whole lot into it, but just thinking like that. And she's like, Okay, why? And I'm like, Well, I think it would be fun. It's something my family and I can enjoy. And why? I'm like, Well, my kids are in high school. They're gone a lot. They're busy with sports and friends, and I don't see them as much as I used to. And she's like, Well, why do you think a Lakehouse will change that? And I'm like, Well, we're going to get away. We'll be together. And then she's like, Well, why? Do you need a Lakehouse for that to happen? And just was this very personal thing of feeling like time slipping away and feeling like I miss the amount of time we spend together when they were little. And so it was just this thing that seemed flashy and very removed became very personal and not at all what I had walked in there for. And it was a conversation around, she's like, Well, they're still going to leave, right?

And so I'm in tears now. And this thing that I did was like, Oh, this will be a fun one. And she's like, Are you ready to do this now? And I'm like, Well, no, I'd have to save up in a bit of while. She's like, So they're definitely gone by the time you're working for this house that they're not even going to enjoy, because by the time it comes to pass, they're going to already be gone. And it was just really this realization of thinking about the time that we had together when they were younger and when we were just, their whole life revolved around our family, and that time had been a long time past. And really came away from the whole thing just very grateful for that realization. And I had shared it with the team of just like, because everyone was sharing, what classes have you taken? What are you And just this realization of this thing that seemed like it was this wish, dream thing really wasn't what I wanted. It was that I wanted the time with the boys and that I could have that now. I just needed to ask him for it and make that a priority.

That's amazing.

Well, it was because it just is like you get so caught up, I think, in a lot of the things that are flashy or fun, and it's really not what it was all about. I think it was just, for me, it was a breakthrough and very emotional because like you said, I'm not a huge, really reflective person that puts... I'm very logical. And so to have this break down in this class that I was not expecting or anticipating, which just was just a gut check for sure.

And life-changing.

Life-changing because I came back. I shared it with the team because we were sharing about all the classes that We had. The fact that I started crying in this class was surprising everyone who knew me from work. But I went home and I shared with the boys and made it a priority that we are making that time on a weekly basis to spend a little bit of time together, and that it's not a build-up for these big things, whether it's a trip or other things. It's really just the time at home and enjoying it while I have them.

Yeah. The thing that struck me about that experience and you sharing it is that, first of all, a lot of times when you think you know what you want, which a Lakehouse makes a lot of sense because you have friends that have a Lakehouse, and the boys love going up there with their friends. And so it makes sense to be like, Oh, we need one of those, too. I want one of those. And you paint the picture. And when you go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper and you get to the root cause of why, oftentimes Sometimes the thing that you want is right in front of your face. And the irony is that if you just stay at the surface and you chase that thing, you would have spent so much time working, trying to save the money for it and been so busy. Let's just say you could even put a down payment, then it would be about the renovation or the painting or the this or the that, that you would miss all the time while they're still home. I got a lot out of that, too, because I do I find myself waiting for those big moments.

I, like you, am very aware of the time that's passing and want to maximize the amount of time that I have when the kids are right in front of me. Beautiful. How How does that realization of truly getting to the core of what you want changed how you live your day-to-day life?

Well, I think part of it was I came home and I said, This is important to me. I've been honest with them. I'm just saying I miss the time that we used to spend I know your lives are busy and bigger, and your world is much larger and will continue to get larger. But I need some time while you're here. Whether it's driver it or doing those right. I don't complain about those things at all. I'm just enjoying it while I have it. And I've got great kids. I'm so proud of them. And I think part of it, too, where I'd like to think it, that when I shared the, Hey, I miss the the time that we spend together. I think they've missed it, too. Because I think it's been able to put it out there and then for us to just be much more intentional. And then it's also easy for them to be like, Oh, my mom's making me do this Sunday, not so fun day, deal. But I think it's just been something that I think has been good for all of us.

Do you still want a Lakehouse? It'd be nice.

It's nice, but it's not the point anymore.

I know you sharing this is going to resonate with millions of people that listen. Other than saying it out loud to your family, is there anything else you put in place to make sure that you stay moving in this direction?

Well, I think it's just prioritizing it. At the end of the day, it's just what is really important to me. And so as much as the Lakehouse would be nice or some fancy things, at the end of the day, it's really just the time with the people that you love and I'm really appreciative that while it's there. It doesn't have to be big and fancy.

Well, Christine, I just want to thank you because it's a really personal story and a really profound one. What I love about the story that you just shared with us is that not only is the emotion palpable, but it illustrates the fact that so often what we think we want isn't what we want at all. That there is something at a deeper level that strikes to the core. What's interesting is that here, Christine was at a work retreat, and she walks into a manifesting class. If you listen closely, the person that was leading this little retreat used an engineering principle that is often taught in business school. It's called the Five Ys. It was developed by Sakichi Toyoda, the Japanese industrialist, inventor and founder of Toyota Industries. He developed the Five Why's technique in the 1930s. I mean, it's amazing. And Toyota still uses this technique to solve problems today. And it's one of my favorite problem solving tools. And it helps you get down to the root cause or the root emotion so So quickly around why you want something. And it's a way that you can test whether or not you want something, or if there's a deeper reason why you want something.

And so here's how you use it, and I'm going to walk you through this. You just ask yourself, What do I really want? And then you ask why four times. Why do you really want that? Why? Why now? Why? And every Each time you ask why, it forces you to dig a little deeper, and you get closer to the truth and to the answer that you're actually looking for. And you heard Christine share that wisdom as she was reflecting back. And in the workbook, I guide you through this exercise. And what I want to do to make sure you really understand how this works is I'm now going to invite my daughter Sawyer to join us, and I'm going to walk her through in real-time this framework of the five whys, and you're going to hear her explain what she wants and then go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper to the core. All right, Soi. Thanks for being here.

Of course.

Tell everybody how old you are.

I'm 25.

And what do you want?

I want to move to New York this year.

And why do you want to move to New York?

I have always wanted to move to New York since I was a little girl.

Why have you always wanted to move to New York since you were little?

I think that it has always just felt very energetic, as if there's an energetic pull that I have to live there, and it's always been on my bucket list, and so I'm making it happen.

And why has Has it always been on your bucket list to live in New York City?

I think that I've lived and went to college in Boston for the last 25 years, and I am really ready for my next step in life and to prove to myself that even though I've always wanted to live in a new city, that I actually can.

And why is it important to do it now?

I think that I always envisioned myself in my 20s living in New York, and so I'm in a stage in my life where it feels right for me.

Why do you want to move to New York?

I feel like there's just a lot of possibility there. It feels like growing up in Boston and going to school in Boston, I love the city so much, but I'm just ready for something bigger and more uncomfortable and more extreme. I am really looking for a fresh start in my life. I know that if I am able to make this happen, that I would be extremely proud of myself and would have kept my word as a little girl. Oh, my God.

Now I'm going to cry. It's literally about keeping a promise to the little you. Yeah.

Don't cry. I'll cry.

Oh, my God.

That's pretty deep. Yeah. I feel like I made a lot of... I wasn't going to cry. A lot of promises to myself as a little girl, and New York has always been one of them. So I'm ready.

Of course, as your mother, I wanted to know what the other promises are that you made to yourself.

Well, one of them was backpacking around Asia, which I just checked off for four months. Another one is starting my own business whenever that happens in the future. Definitely new New York. One of them was being Kendall's tour manager, but I think that is no longer on my to-do. Why? Maybe it will be, but she needs to figure I got to figure out some stuff first.

You know what's interesting is that this little framework that you went through, it allows space for all these other things that you want, but I think it It makes you laser focus on the thing that's the most important right now and why it's the most important. Because when I asked you, What do you want? You could have said, I want to launch my own business.

But you didn't.

You said, I wanted to move to New York.

Yeah.

And in answering the series of the five whys, you got deeper and deeper and deeper to the core reason. Like, I'm going to get really choked up. And it's really about keeping a promise that you made to yourself as a little girl. And now's the time to do it. That is so beautiful.

I remember When I was in my freshman year of college, we had this class called Courage to Know at Boston College with Luke Jorgensen. And an assignment we had was to to write a eulogy for ourselves. We worked on it all semester, and our final assignment was to read it out loud in class. You were there. I don't know if you remember.

Oh, I will never forget this day.

I had never written a eulogy or honestly been to many funerals and feel lucky for that, but was very inexperienced, I would the day, and people start going around reading through their eulogies, and people are saying they've solved cancer and gone to space. Just the list goes on. Of a Accomplishment, accomplishment. Accomplishment, accomplishment, accomplishment. I started to sink in my seat. My God. So embarrassed. When it was finally my turn, I told my teacher out loud that I think I did this assignment wrong because as I was reading my eulogy, the entire thing was about living in New York with my sister. It basically was about how she graduated from Boston College, and she moved to New York, and she had three beautiful children. Two Australian shepherds. Two Australian shepherds. And then I died, like, peacefully. Surrounded by family. Surrounded by family. And there was nothing about a accomplishments or what I did other than moving to New York in the entire thing.

Well, it sounds like you lived a big, beautiful, fulfilling life.

I hope so. I'm currently trying to do that.

Well, it was Parents Weekend, and so there were all these parents in the class, and it was a small seminar class. I remember this like it was yesterday because you were one of the last people to go, and everybody that read, you're right, it read a list of accomplishments at an academy awards ceremony, where one thing after, I'm cured cancer. I've done this. And then there was the one artistic type whose obiturary began with he was shot in the face on a sailboat at the age of 25. Oh my gosh. Remember that? Yes, that was crazy.

Oh my God. That was crazy.

He needs therapy. And so then it got to you. And you wrote this amazing description. I'm going to start crying again. You're right, you moved to New York and you lived with your sister, and you were married for 60 years and had three kids and two Australian shepherds. That you were surrounded by friends and family when you died. I think that's what we all want.

Yeah, for sure.

And so I'm really glad that you're going to keep this promise to yourself.

Me, too.

I think you're going to find a good apartment.

I hope so. So, Mom, what do you want?

Okay, well, What do I really want right now? I want to write this fantasy novel series.

Oh, okay. I thought you meant the other one. No.

The current I want to write a fantasy novel series with you and Kendall.

Are we disclosing the name of it right now?

Absolutely not. Okay. It is a book idea that we came up with probably 12 years ago while we were sitting on a beach Beach, and you were 13 years old, and I still have the handwritten notes as we described the theme and the characters and the fantasy world and the plot lines. I have thought about that since the day on that beach, and it is just right in front of my face. It might be because I've just mainlined the Court of Thorn and Roses audiobooks. When I asked myself, Why do I want that? I would love to do a creative project like that, and I would love to do it with you.

Why?

I think it would be amazing to get lost in a completely fictional world that we've created.

Why?

I am just yearning for a creative process that feels exciting and that doesn't have the deadlines and the demands of work. Like something for the just joy of getting lost in something.

Why?

I think it's because everything that I do right now has a deadline, and it feels like it It just is like, Oh, my God, oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God, oh, my God, and I want to feel something more expansive than the current way that I'm creating Writing things, and I've never done anything like this, and frankly, it scares the hell out of me because it's something that I don't know how to do. I have no idea how you write fiction. I have no idea how you build a fantasy world. I have never done it.

Why?

I'm dying to get lost in something, and I think that's the reason. I'm really looking to get time back, and It seems like this project and really having a world to escape into would allow me just the space away from the constant demands of absolutely everything that I do right now.

That makes a lot of sense.

And what's interesting, as I say all that, is that I don't I don't have time to write this right now. I don't have time for another project. So what I actually want is similar to what your aunt Christine was saying, that I want this project so badly, and I want to start on it and start collaging images around it and imagining it because I have no room for myself right now. Every thought is about work. Every My thought is about something related to you guys or dad or the dogs or the cat or something that I need to do. I just want just some freedom from That obligation of constantly thinking about something that's got a deadline attached to it or someone that needs something. This just feels like something that's all my own. I think what I actually want is more time to myself doing nothing. It's ironic that somebody that is overworked right now and doing too much would create yet another project to then be the reason that I need to escape, just like Christine would see a Lakehouse as a way to get what she really wants, which is more time with her kids and her husband and her family while her boys are still home.

It's really illuminating. I still think we should write it.

Yeah, we have to.

We're going to. Maybe not today.

Maybe when you retire. So what are you going to now do with this insight?

First, I'm going to take the wisdom from the 5Y framework and focus on that. And that is, I desperately need time to myself. Time away from work, time away from deadlines, time away from taking care of everybody else. And that might just be making sure that it's not a 10-minute walk I take in the morning, but I actually get up and go for a half an hour walk. It might be that I spend more time on the weekend just out in the garden doing nothing, which is time that I really enjoy by myself. It might be that instead of turning on the TV, I drop into a book, like something that allows me to escape the constant thinking. Does that make sense? Yeah. I just need more space. I could even see going away for... All of a sudden, what popped into my mind was doing a meditation weekend, where I just go alone and I do something for me.

That's amazing.

Which is something I can do now, and I don't have to write a three-part fantasy trilogy to do it.

Yeah.

All right. Now I'm talking to you. What do you really want? And now let's go a little deeper. Why do you want that? Okay. Why? Why do you really want that right now? Let yourself go there. Allow yourself to open up. What do you really want? And what's Really at the root of it. And allow yourself to have that moment. You heard Christine have it? You heard Sawyer have it? You heard me have it? There's something deeper for you to discover. And what I love about the deeper insight is that you can pull that into your life now. Yes, you can go get the Lakehouse. Yes, you can move and get a fresh start. Yes, you could write the novel or change the job or really make anything that you want happen. But when you know why you want it, that time is slipping through your hands and you want to make the most of it while you can with the people that you love, that you made yourself a promise when you were really little, and now is the time to see yourself yourself have the courage to keep that promise. Or maybe it's just that you want time to yourself, that there's something that you've been neglecting for you.

It's not the thing on the surface that you need, you need the deeper thing, and you need to figure out how to bring it into your life now. That is a sense of direction that is meaningful, that has purpose, that is profound. What do you really want? Because when you can answer that question, and you can answer why you want it, you know exactly what to do with your life. And there's something that I really want right now, and that's to tell you in case no one else tells you, that I love you, and I believe in you. And I believe in your ability to not only figure out what you want, but to turn your life in that direction and to move toward it. Now, go do it. And I know what I want. I want to thank you for being here with me on YouTube. I want to thank you for sharing this episode with the people that you love. I want to thank you for downloading the workbook. And I also want to tell you, in case no one else tells you, that I love you, and I believe in I believe in your ability to figure out what you want and then turn your life in that direction, and go for it.

Normally, I send you to another video, but I want to remind you of the workbook because this really matters. So make sure you download this. Hit subscribe because when you do that, it tells me you love these workshops. If you want to watch another one of our workshops, they're all listed in the description below. But your job right now is to answer that What do you want? Just know that your friend Mel Robbins will be here with a new video every single day to inspire and empower you to go get what you want.