Our audience is primarily millennials, and we love to... Hey, let's call it for what it is. We love things instantly, right? We're in an on-demand world. So you're saying that people that take part in this challenge, and even yourself, who live this out, you're seeing instant results? Yeah. That's incredible. That's absolutely incredible. No, it's instant. It's absolutely instant, and it's documented, and it's scientifically-backed, and That's why this idea is so freaking exciting, and it's why this book is exploding, because people are experiencing it instantly. I literally was just on the Breakfast Club, and Charlemagne and DJ Envie and Angela have all now tried. They're posting about it strangers are clapping for you and high-fiving you. driven by something that's deep in your heart like it is for me now, making an impact rather than chasing something or needing to prove something, which is all a make-wrong.When you bring it back in-house from a place of feeling accepted and supported and aligned with your true nature, it's unbelievable what happens. For me, 13 years ago, my husband and I were nearly a million dollars in debt. We were about to lose our house. He had gone into the restaurant business and we had secured everything with our life savings and our home. And the first little pizza joint did great. And then as they tried to expand, things got terrifying. And then the first housing crisis hit in 2008, and I found myself in a situation I never thought I'd be in. I was 41 years old. We had three kids under the age of 10. We were 800 grand in debt. I couldn't buy groceries. Every credit card maxed out, the home equity line maxed out, liens on the house. Just absolutely terrifying. And it was during that moment of my life that I created the five-second rule. And this rule, you just count backwards It's 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and then you move. And it cuts through procrastination and self doubt. It silences the hesitation that holds you back. And I became a machine.It was life-changing. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, out of bed. 5, 4, 3, 2, Pick up the phone, pick up the phone and make the cold call. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, turn off the TV and get to work. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, don't snap at the kids. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, don't drink the alcohol. And over the course of the last 10 years, I have become wildly successful. More successful than I ever thought I'd ever be. Made more money than I ever thought possible. And yet when I looked in the mirror, Matt, I still saw a person I hated. I saw all the things I wasn't doing. I saw the Five Second Rule is a self-published book. It was the number one self-published... It's still the number one self-published audiobook in the world. Not enough. I've sold 2 million copies of that self-published book in four years, and it's been translated into 36 languages. Not bad for somebody with dyslexia and ADHD who self-publish their book. That's incredible. Not enough. I launched a daytime syndicated talk show with Sony Pictures television. My dream since being a little girl, taped it at the CBS Broadcast Center.Not enough. Publish the High Five Habit. It's doing extraordinarily well. And I have a Really different relationship to it. And here's why. In April of 2020, when life was punching me in the face, I discovered that high fiving my Self in the mirror silenced the critic and taught me how to see myself as a human being that is worthy of support and celebration and love. It It has broken apart the relentless self-hatred and the relentless focus on what's not going right. And it has reprogrammed my mind to focus on what is going well. And when you can focus on the little things that are going great, it makes you start to see the bigger things that can go great. And when you wake up and you feel a sense of momentum because you know that no No matter what happens today, I have my own back. No matter who doesn't invite me to a party or what best seller list I don't make or what crappy things somebody says about me, yeah, it might sting, but it doesn't change the fact that for the first time in 53 years, I like myself. I respect myself.I encourage myself. It doesn't mean I'm a narcissistic asshole. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than anybody else. The high five habit is about doubling down on compassion for yourself and support for yourself and kindness toward yourself. And that changes everything because your relationship with yourself is what determines what your life feels like. If you look in the mirror and you see what's wrong, you will step out into the world and experience what's wrong. If you look in the mirror and you hate yourself, you will in and disrespect yourself and reject yourself. You will step out into the world and you will allow other people to disrespect you because you just did it in the bathroom with yourself. When you learn as a habit to look in the mirror and treat yourself with respect and compassion, to treat yourself as if you like yourself. And the gesture alone, I don't even want you to say anything. I just want you to raise your hand because your mind recognizes this gesture as something you only do to somebody you actually like and respect. When you start to demonstrate that to yourself every single morning, it changes how you show up in the world.There isn't a damn thing anybody could say about me or to me that would change the fact that I respect myself. Because every morning when I stand before myself in the mirror, I show myself that I respect myself by high-fiving myself for where I am. I'm still here. I'm breathing. I'm going to try again today. That's powerful. I almost forgot the most important habit that helps with self-love and self-acceptance, and that's the high-five habit. All right, I'm going to explain it. The high-five habit, super simple. Don't ever think this. I will do an entire episode about the high-five habit, probably in January, because there's so much science to cover and so many stories to tell you. It's also the subject of my New York Times best-selling book called The High Five Habit. But let me just tell you what this habit is, because it is the thing you need to know, based on science and research, to have a breakthrough in self-acceptance and self-love. Here it is. Tomorrow morning, after you finish brushing your teeth, put the toothbrush down, and now I want you to do the high five habit, and this is how you do it.First, you look in the mirror. For many of you, that's going to be the hardest part. 50% of men and women, based on our research, cannot or will not look themselves in the mirror because they do not like the person they see. That is sad. I don't want you to be surprised if simply looking at yourself in the mirror is really difficult. Step two, you are then going to raise your hand and high five your reflection. I know. It sounds dumb. It sounds stupid. Why would somebody do that? I'll tell you why somebody would do that in a later episode, because the science is so profound the neuroscience, the research on motivation, the research on mindset, the research on how the dopamine gets... It's just unbelievable what happens when you simply high five yourself in the mirror. I just want you to practice it and trust me on this one. Now, let me tell you what's going to happen. When you go to raise your hand, I don't want you to say anything. Nothing. It's just about the action and watching yourself high five yourself. The action alone of high fiving yourself does all the work neurologically, physiologically, chemically, and psychologically.It will take less than five days for you to have a breakthrough in self-love if you simply look in the mirror every morning and send yourself into your day by high-fiving yourself in the mirror. You may laugh. The reason why you laugh is because your brain releases dopamine. This is really normal. You might burst into tears. That's also very normal to simply try something that I'm telling you, we've had 164,000 people in 91 countries go through a five-day challenge with me called the High-Five Challenge. I'll tell you about that in a minute. And the results are just irrefutable. This is the fastest way, based on science, to start rewiring your brain and to have a breakthrough in being kind and loving to yourself. And it works at a reprogramming level in your nervous system and in your brain.And it's all in the book. But I just want you to trust me on this. And so the best way to do this is let me coach you and support you because I have developed They're free. That's right. No money, nothing to buy. Free five-day challenge. It's called the High Five Challenge. H-i-g-h, the number 5 challenge. H-i-g-h, the number 5 challenge. Highfivechallenge. Com. Register for free. If you want A true breakthrough in how you speak to yourself, how you feel about yourself, loving yourself. This is the fastest way to do it, and I would love to coach you. So, High Five Challenge. I'll see you in it. So let me just tell you the story of the high five habit, because then it'll make sense for everybody around the hair net on the brain. So I did not intend to write this book. Let's start there. After the success of the five-second rule, I got all up in my head and thought, Okay, I got to have a book that's successful again. It's got to be the five decisions. It's got to be the... And I wrote literally three or four different books that were all horses, really bad books.And that's how you usually figure out what's good is by starting by doing something really bad. And so I find myself in the pandemic, and this is not a pandemic book. Everybody's got a story about quarantine. Everybody's life got completely turned upside down. There were tremendous blessings from the pandemic, like For our family, for example, thankfully, nobody died from it. And we got to spend time with our adult children that we will never get back again, period. But my business, in the very beginning, went into a freefall. I had been hosting a daytime talk show. We were filming at CBS Broadcast Center. It got canceled with five minutes notice when they found COVID. And so I was fired from my dream job. Oh, my God. Let's just be honest about what that is. I don't know if you know this, but- Is this another one? Your producer reached out. I was supposed to be your last guest on your final episode. Yeah. So there's another connection, see? All right, I'm done. I'm leaving. Something awesome is happening. Something awesome is happening. Let's call the signs, everybody. So then Every single speech starts to cancel, of course.Then, Houghton Mifflin, who was my publisher at the time, canceled my book contract, my fault, because I had not produced a manuscript in over a year, which meant I had to return money I had I already spend. Then my kids come home from college, and like everybody else, everybody is in a freefall, emotionally, anxiety, panic-stricken. The whole team goes virtual that I manage, and everybody's mental health is going down the drain. And I start having flashbacks to 2008, when Chris and I nearly lost everything. And I found myself one morning. I walked into the bathroom. I'm standing there in my I am leaning against the bathroom sink. And this is a moment that I think everybody can relate to. I'm brushing my teeth, and I catch my reflection in the mirror, and I think, God, you look awful. You look exhausted. Your neck is saggy. One boob is hanging down lower than the other. Your gray hair is coming in. Woman, you are tired. I felt tired. I felt the weight of responsibility and sadness on my shoulders. And then, of course, once you have one negative thought, it's like lint in a dryer. It starts collecting.And so then I think, Oh, my God. I got up late. And my Zoom calls in eight minutes, and the dog's at my feet. I hadn't walked the dog yet. And I just wanted to check out. I just wanted to go to the couch and lay down. I did not want to have to deal with the responsibilities of my life. I was so overwhelmed, and I know everybody can relate to this moment. And even though I am one of the most booked motivational speakers in the world, I couldn't think of a thing to say to myself. And so as corny as it sounds, I literally found myself raising my hand, and I gave myself a high five in the mirror. Cheeseball city. But I'll tell you, something flipped. I was like, Okay, I felt my shoulder. I'm like, Okay, I can do this. Get back in the game now. Let's go. That was it. That was it. The next morning, this was when the next weird thing happened. I woke up and I immediately thought about that moment in the mirror. Here's how I would describe it. You know how if you and I were going to meet for a cup of coffee?For me, if I'm about to walk in and see you, I'm getting excited because I'm about to see you. When I wake up that second morning, I'm actually thinking about that moment in the mirror and this idea of seeing and being with myself. Now look, I'm 52 years old. I probably have spent the first 45 years of my life either criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her. So I get in to the mirror, and there I'm with myself. And research, new research out of the University ofraising your hand. This is a field of study called neurobics. I in your basal ganglia. From a lifetime of doing that. I believe you. I love you. We got this. I celebrate you. I see you. Keep going. Come on. Here we go. So when you raise your hand to your own reflection, it activates all that messaging and marries it with your own reflection. Is that not crazy? Silence is the critic and starts to reprogram the neuropathways in your mind. And because it is associated with physical movement, what we know, based on research, is the fastest way to create new neuropathways is an unexpected connected physical movement, married with a thought pattern.So that's just the beginning of this. So I did this for a couple of weeks. I started to feel my mood lift. I started to feel myself feeling optimistic and positive. I had my high five attitude back on, like this want to know the single best way to motivate kids to do something challenging, it's to say nothing and to give them a high five. This was so profound that the researchers, and we'll link to this study, changed changed the name of the study to include the surprising power of a high five, the surprising motivational power of a high five. That's how exciting this is. And I think you can hear this because I stumbled onto this by mistake. I started high fiving myself right after I had gotten fired, basically, from hosting my own talk show, and I needed to give myself a pick me up. And I just instinctually, one morning, raised my hand and high five the mirror. And the immediate effect that I felt of the dopamine in my mind and the boost in my mood and this sense of, Okay, I got it. I can do this. I can face this. Having my own back, demonstrating it to myself during a really low moment. It was the beginning, that first domino that fell, of an entirely new relationship with myself. It's what led me to get into intensive therapy and to start getting serious about my happiness And I think you know everything comes back to you and the relationship that you have with yourself.And so we're going to go deep on this because the relationship that you have with yourself is the single most important thing in the world. And in addition to sharing this research and this simple habit with you, I want to unpack some of the things that people experience when they do it, because I've had so many questions about this, like this one from Theresa. How do I stop beating myself up and forgive myself for my past mistakes? I can't believe how many years you waste beating yourself up for past mistakes. And the reason why we do that is we don't know how to forgive ourselves because we don't know how to accept ourselves. We don't know how to accept the failures, the regrets, the disappointments. We don't know how to accept. We don't know how to love ourselves through it. And that-changing, profound, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear as a spouse just how much my husband was struggling and how the simple assignment of looking yourself in the eyes was impossible for him to do at that time. Mel, I have some bad news. Your entire 2022 was just booked solid with keynotes from all of the people that visited your website in the last 12 minutes, because what you just said was absolutely accurate. Every leader just needs to be reminded, right? We're We're all under pressure. We're all trying to survive. We all have issues going on in our life. We're trying to pivot,a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

strangers are clapping for you and high-fiving you. driven by something that's deep in your heart like it is for me now, making an impact rather than chasing something or needing to prove something, which is all a make-wrong.

When you bring it back in-house from a place of feeling accepted and supported and aligned with your true nature, it's unbelievable what happens. For me, 13 years ago, my husband and I were nearly a million dollars in debt. We were about to lose our house. He had gone into the restaurant business and we had secured everything with our life savings and our home. And the first little pizza joint did great. And then as they tried to expand, things got terrifying. And then the first housing crisis hit in 2008, and I found myself in a situation I never thought I'd be in. I was 41 years old. We had three kids under the age of 10. We were 800 grand in debt. I couldn't buy groceries. Every credit card maxed out, the home equity line maxed out, liens on the house. Just absolutely terrifying. And it was during that moment of my life that I created the five-second rule. And this rule, you just count backwards It's 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and then you move. And it cuts through procrastination and self doubt. It silences the hesitation that holds you back. And I became a machine.

It was life-changing. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, out of bed. 5, 4, 3, 2, Pick up the phone, pick up the phone and make the cold call. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, turn off the TV and get to work. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, don't snap at the kids. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, don't drink the alcohol. And over the course of the last 10 years, I have become wildly successful. More successful than I ever thought I'd ever be. Made more money than I ever thought possible. And yet when I looked in the mirror, Matt, I still saw a person I hated. I saw all the things I wasn't doing. I saw the Five Second Rule is a self-published book. It was the number one self-published... It's still the number one self-published audiobook in the world. Not enough. I've sold 2 million copies of that self-published book in four years, and it's been translated into 36 languages. Not bad for somebody with dyslexia and ADHD who self-publish their book. That's incredible. Not enough. I launched a daytime syndicated talk show with Sony Pictures television. My dream since being a little girl, taped it at the CBS Broadcast Center.

Not enough. Publish the High Five Habit. It's doing extraordinarily well. And I have a Really different relationship to it. And here's why. In April of 2020, when life was punching me in the face, I discovered that high fiving my Self in the mirror silenced the critic and taught me how to see myself as a human being that is worthy of support and celebration and love. It It has broken apart the relentless self-hatred and the relentless focus on what's not going right. And it has reprogrammed my mind to focus on what is going well. And when you can focus on the little things that are going great, it makes you start to see the bigger things that can go great. And when you wake up and you feel a sense of momentum because you know that no No matter what happens today, I have my own back. No matter who doesn't invite me to a party or what best seller list I don't make or what crappy things somebody says about me, yeah, it might sting, but it doesn't change the fact that for the first time in 53 years, I like myself. I respect myself.

I encourage myself. It doesn't mean I'm a narcissistic asshole. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than anybody else. The high five habit is about doubling down on compassion for yourself and support for yourself and kindness toward yourself. And that changes everything because your relationship with yourself is what determines what your life feels like. If you look in the mirror and you see what's wrong, you will step out into the world and experience what's wrong. If you look in the mirror and you hate yourself, you will in and disrespect yourself and reject yourself. You will step out into the world and you will allow other people to disrespect you because you just did it in the bathroom with yourself. When you learn as a habit to look in the mirror and treat yourself with respect and compassion, to treat yourself as if you like yourself. And the gesture alone, I don't even want you to say anything. I just want you to raise your hand because your mind recognizes this gesture as something you only do to somebody you actually like and respect. When you start to demonstrate that to yourself every single morning, it changes how you show up in the world.

There isn't a damn thing anybody could say about me or to me that would change the fact that I respect myself. Because every morning when I stand before myself in the mirror, I show myself that I respect myself by high-fiving myself for where I am. I'm still here. I'm breathing. I'm going to try again today. That's powerful. I almost forgot the most important habit that helps with self-love and self-acceptance, and that's the high-five habit. All right, I'm going to explain it. The high-five habit, super simple. Don't ever think this. I will do an entire episode about the high-five habit, probably in January, because there's so much science to cover and so many stories to tell you. It's also the subject of my New York Times best-selling book called The High Five Habit. But let me just tell you what this habit is, because it is the thing you need to know, based on science and research, to have a breakthrough in self-acceptance and self-love. Here it is. Tomorrow morning, after you finish brushing your teeth, put the toothbrush down, and now I want you to do the high five habit, and this is how you do it.

First, you look in the mirror. For many of you, that's going to be the hardest part. 50% of men and women, based on our research, cannot or will not look themselves in the mirror because they do not like the person they see. That is sad. I don't want you to be surprised if simply looking at yourself in the mirror is really difficult. Step two, you are then going to raise your hand and high five your reflection. I know. It sounds dumb. It sounds stupid. Why would somebody do that? I'll tell you why somebody would do that in a later episode, because the science is so profound the neuroscience, the research on motivation, the research on mindset, the research on how the dopamine gets... It's just unbelievable what happens when you simply high five yourself in the mirror. I just want you to practice it and trust me on this one. Now, let me tell you what's going to happen. When you go to raise your hand, I don't want you to say anything. Nothing. It's just about the action and watching yourself high five yourself. The action alone of high fiving yourself does all the work neurologically, physiologically, chemically, and psychologically.

It will take less than five days for you to have a breakthrough in self-love if you simply look in the mirror every morning and send yourself into your day by high-fiving yourself in the mirror. You may laugh. The reason why you laugh is because your brain releases dopamine. This is really normal. You might burst into tears. That's also very normal to simply try something that I'm telling you, we've had 164,000 people in 91 countries go through a five-day challenge with me called the High-Five Challenge. I'll tell you about that in a minute. And the results are just irrefutable. This is the fastest way, based on science, to start rewiring your brain and to have a breakthrough in being kind and loving to yourself. And it works at a reprogramming level in your nervous system and in your brain.

And it's all in the book. But I just want you to trust me on this. And so the best way to do this is let me coach you and support you because I have developed They're free. That's right. No money, nothing to buy. Free five-day challenge. It's called the High Five Challenge. H-i-g-h, the number 5 challenge. H-i-g-h, the number 5 challenge. Highfivechallenge. Com. Register for free. If you want A true breakthrough in how you speak to yourself, how you feel about yourself, loving yourself. This is the fastest way to do it, and I would love to coach you. So, High Five Challenge. I'll see you in it. So let me just tell you the story of the high five habit, because then it'll make sense for everybody around the hair net on the brain. So I did not intend to write this book. Let's start there. After the success of the five-second rule, I got all up in my head and thought, Okay, I got to have a book that's successful again. It's got to be the five decisions. It's got to be the... And I wrote literally three or four different books that were all horses, really bad books.

And that's how you usually figure out what's good is by starting by doing something really bad. And so I find myself in the pandemic, and this is not a pandemic book. Everybody's got a story about quarantine. Everybody's life got completely turned upside down. There were tremendous blessings from the pandemic, like For our family, for example, thankfully, nobody died from it. And we got to spend time with our adult children that we will never get back again, period. But my business, in the very beginning, went into a freefall. I had been hosting a daytime talk show. We were filming at CBS Broadcast Center. It got canceled with five minutes notice when they found COVID. And so I was fired from my dream job. Oh, my God. Let's just be honest about what that is. I don't know if you know this, but- Is this another one? Your producer reached out. I was supposed to be your last guest on your final episode. Yeah. So there's another connection, see? All right, I'm done. I'm leaving. Something awesome is happening. Something awesome is happening. Let's call the signs, everybody. So then Every single speech starts to cancel, of course.

Then, Houghton Mifflin, who was my publisher at the time, canceled my book contract, my fault, because I had not produced a manuscript in over a year, which meant I had to return money I had I already spend. Then my kids come home from college, and like everybody else, everybody is in a freefall, emotionally, anxiety, panic-stricken. The whole team goes virtual that I manage, and everybody's mental health is going down the drain. And I start having flashbacks to 2008, when Chris and I nearly lost everything. And I found myself one morning. I walked into the bathroom. I'm standing there in my I am leaning against the bathroom sink. And this is a moment that I think everybody can relate to. I'm brushing my teeth, and I catch my reflection in the mirror, and I think, God, you look awful. You look exhausted. Your neck is saggy. One boob is hanging down lower than the other. Your gray hair is coming in. Woman, you are tired. I felt tired. I felt the weight of responsibility and sadness on my shoulders. And then, of course, once you have one negative thought, it's like lint in a dryer. It starts collecting.

And so then I think, Oh, my God. I got up late. And my Zoom calls in eight minutes, and the dog's at my feet. I hadn't walked the dog yet. And I just wanted to check out. I just wanted to go to the couch and lay down. I did not want to have to deal with the responsibilities of my life. I was so overwhelmed, and I know everybody can relate to this moment. And even though I am one of the most booked motivational speakers in the world, I couldn't think of a thing to say to myself. And so as corny as it sounds, I literally found myself raising my hand, and I gave myself a high five in the mirror. Cheeseball city. But I'll tell you, something flipped. I was like, Okay, I felt my shoulder. I'm like, Okay, I can do this. Get back in the game now. Let's go. That was it. That was it. The next morning, this was when the next weird thing happened. I woke up and I immediately thought about that moment in the mirror. Here's how I would describe it. You know how if you and I were going to meet for a cup of coffee?

For me, if I'm about to walk in and see you, I'm getting excited because I'm about to see you. When I wake up that second morning, I'm actually thinking about that moment in the mirror and this idea of seeing and being with myself. Now look, I'm 52 years old. I probably have spent the first 45 years of my life either criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her. So I get in to the mirror, and there I'm with myself. And research, new research out of the University ofraising your hand. This is a field of study called neurobics. I in your basal ganglia. From a lifetime of doing that. I believe you. I love you. We got this. I celebrate you. I see you. Keep going. Come on. Here we go. So when you raise your hand to your own reflection, it activates all that messaging and marries it with your own reflection. Is that not crazy? Silence is the critic and starts to reprogram the neuropathways in your mind. And because it is associated with physical movement, what we know, based on research, is the fastest way to create new neuropathways is an unexpected connected physical movement, married with a thought pattern.So that's just the beginning of this. So I did this for a couple of weeks. I started to feel my mood lift. I started to feel myself feeling optimistic and positive. I had my high five attitude back on, like this want to know the single best way to motivate kids to do something challenging, it's to say nothing and to give them a high five. This was so profound that the researchers, and we'll link to this study, changed changed the name of the study to include the surprising power of a high five, the surprising motivational power of a high five. That's how exciting this is. And I think you can hear this because I stumbled onto this by mistake. I started high fiving myself right after I had gotten fired, basically, from hosting my own talk show, and I needed to give myself a pick me up. And I just instinctually, one morning, raised my hand and high five the mirror. And the immediate effect that I felt of the dopamine in my mind and the boost in my mood and this sense of, Okay, I got it. I can do this. I can face this. Having my own back, demonstrating it to myself during a really low moment. It was the beginning, that first domino that fell, of an entirely new relationship with myself. It's what led me to get into intensive therapy and to start getting serious about my happiness And I think you know everything comes back to you and the relationship that you have with yourself.And so we're going to go deep on this because the relationship that you have with yourself is the single most important thing in the world. And in addition to sharing this research and this simple habit with you, I want to unpack some of the things that people experience when they do it, because I've had so many questions about this, like this one from Theresa. How do I stop beating myself up and forgive myself for my past mistakes? I can't believe how many years you waste beating yourself up for past mistakes. And the reason why we do that is we don't know how to forgive ourselves because we don't know how to accept ourselves. We don't know how to accept the failures, the regrets, the disappointments. We don't know how to accept. We don't know how to love ourselves through it. And that-changing, profound, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear as a spouse just how much my husband was struggling and how the simple assignment of looking yourself in the eyes was impossible for him to do at that time. Mel, I have some bad news. Your entire 2022 was just booked solid with keynotes from all of the people that visited your website in the last 12 minutes, because what you just said was absolutely accurate. Every leader just needs to be reminded, right? We're We're all under pressure. We're all trying to survive. We all have issues going on in our life. We're trying to pivot,a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

raising your hand. This is a field of study called neurobics. I in your basal ganglia. From a lifetime of doing that. I believe you. I love you. We got this. I celebrate you. I see you. Keep going. Come on. Here we go. So when you raise your hand to your own reflection, it activates all that messaging and marries it with your own reflection. Is that not crazy? Silence is the critic and starts to reprogram the neuropathways in your mind. And because it is associated with physical movement, what we know, based on research, is the fastest way to create new neuropathways is an unexpected connected physical movement, married with a thought pattern.

So that's just the beginning of this. So I did this for a couple of weeks. I started to feel my mood lift. I started to feel myself feeling optimistic and positive. I had my high five attitude back on, like this want to know the single best way to motivate kids to do something challenging, it's to say nothing and to give them a high five. This was so profound that the researchers, and we'll link to this study, changed changed the name of the study to include the surprising power of a high five, the surprising motivational power of a high five. That's how exciting this is. And I think you can hear this because I stumbled onto this by mistake. I started high fiving myself right after I had gotten fired, basically, from hosting my own talk show, and I needed to give myself a pick me up. And I just instinctually, one morning, raised my hand and high five the mirror. And the immediate effect that I felt of the dopamine in my mind and the boost in my mood and this sense of, Okay, I got it. I can do this. I can face this. Having my own back, demonstrating it to myself during a really low moment. It was the beginning, that first domino that fell, of an entirely new relationship with myself. It's what led me to get into intensive therapy and to start getting serious about my happiness And I think you know everything comes back to you and the relationship that you have with yourself.And so we're going to go deep on this because the relationship that you have with yourself is the single most important thing in the world. And in addition to sharing this research and this simple habit with you, I want to unpack some of the things that people experience when they do it, because I've had so many questions about this, like this one from Theresa. How do I stop beating myself up and forgive myself for my past mistakes? I can't believe how many years you waste beating yourself up for past mistakes. And the reason why we do that is we don't know how to forgive ourselves because we don't know how to accept ourselves. We don't know how to accept the failures, the regrets, the disappointments. We don't know how to accept. We don't know how to love ourselves through it. And that-changing, profound, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear as a spouse just how much my husband was struggling and how the simple assignment of looking yourself in the eyes was impossible for him to do at that time. Mel, I have some bad news. Your entire 2022 was just booked solid with keynotes from all of the people that visited your website in the last 12 minutes, because what you just said was absolutely accurate. Every leader just needs to be reminded, right? We're We're all under pressure. We're all trying to survive. We all have issues going on in our life. We're trying to pivot,a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

want to know the single best way to motivate kids to do something challenging, it's to say nothing and to give them a high five. This was so profound that the researchers, and we'll link to this study, changed changed the name of the study to include the surprising power of a high five, the surprising motivational power of a high five. That's how exciting this is. And I think you can hear this because I stumbled onto this by mistake. I started high fiving myself right after I had gotten fired, basically, from hosting my own talk show, and I needed to give myself a pick me up. And I just instinctually, one morning, raised my hand and high five the mirror. And the immediate effect that I felt of the dopamine in my mind and the boost in my mood and this sense of, Okay, I got it. I can do this. I can face this. Having my own back, demonstrating it to myself during a really low moment. It was the beginning, that first domino that fell, of an entirely new relationship with myself. It's what led me to get into intensive therapy and to start getting serious about my happiness And I think you know everything comes back to you and the relationship that you have with yourself.

And so we're going to go deep on this because the relationship that you have with yourself is the single most important thing in the world. And in addition to sharing this research and this simple habit with you, I want to unpack some of the things that people experience when they do it, because I've had so many questions about this, like this one from Theresa. How do I stop beating myself up and forgive myself for my past mistakes? I can't believe how many years you waste beating yourself up for past mistakes. And the reason why we do that is we don't know how to forgive ourselves because we don't know how to accept ourselves. We don't know how to accept the failures, the regrets, the disappointments. We don't know how to accept. We don't know how to love ourselves through it. And that-changing, profound, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear as a spouse just how much my husband was struggling and how the simple assignment of looking yourself in the eyes was impossible for him to do at that time. Mel, I have some bad news. Your entire 2022 was just booked solid with keynotes from all of the people that visited your website in the last 12 minutes, because what you just said was absolutely accurate. Every leader just needs to be reminded, right? We're We're all under pressure. We're all trying to survive. We all have issues going on in our life. We're trying to pivot,a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

-changing, profound, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear as a spouse just how much my husband was struggling and how the simple assignment of looking yourself in the eyes was impossible for him to do at that time. Mel, I have some bad news. Your entire 2022 was just booked solid with keynotes from all of the people that visited your website in the last 12 minutes, because what you just said was absolutely accurate. Every leader just needs to be reminded, right? We're We're all under pressure. We're all trying to survive. We all have issues going on in our life. We're trying to pivot,a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

a very low moment. I am standing in my bathroom. It's a moment I know every woman can relate to. They're in my underwear. I'm looking in the mirror, and of course, I am picking myself apart. I'm like, I hate how I'm getting really jowly right here, and I don't like how I've got these big lines that are starting. And then I notice I don't like these marks right here that go this way on my neck. I've covered them up with foundation. And then this boob hangs lower than the other boob. And I'm just picking myself apart because that's what I've been doing for the past four decades. That's what almost all women, and even men, do it, too. This is what I'm finding based on the research of the book. And then as soon as my mind is negative about my appearance, my mind goes negative about my day. Oh, God, I forgot to text Lisa back.

I need to finish up that report. Oh, my gosh, my first Zoom meeting is a night. Oh, the dog needs to be walked. And now I'm going down the road negative about the day. The whole vibe is, and I don't know what came over me, but I just literally had nothing to say to myself. I really felt overwhelmed, just an average low moment, and I found myself, as pathetic as it sounds, raising my hand and high-fiving my own reflection in the mirror, brawless in my underwear. It felt good. I put my shoulders back. I felt a little bit likeyou raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.

you raise your hand like this, it is so programmed in your mind to associate belief, cheering, empowerment, celebration, with the high five itself, that it's impossible to go, God, I hate my neck.

Boy, is that cellulite ugly? You can't do it because this part of the mind immediately takes over and does all the Do the positive stuff with a high five. It's crazy. Try it tomorrow morning. You will not be able to criticize yourself. Now, there's another piece of research around this, which is when you do a high five, we did one, the first one we did, right? We didn't quite hit each other in the right good smack. So what did we do?We did it.Correct. Because a good high five requires you to be present and intentional. Isn't that cool? Yeah. All of that in a little high five. And so What I started to notice was that I was in real-time shifting my relationship to myself. Instead of criticizing the woman I saw in the mirror or ignoring her, I was developing a partnership, a trust, a sense of self-validation. A, I have my own back. I see you, Mel Robbins. We're going to have a great day today. We got this. No matter what it is that life is going to throw at us, you got this. That's how it all started. Then, of course, I put it on my story after a couple of weeks of doing it, and people around the world started to post pictures of themselves doing it.

Then all of their stories started rolling in about the difference that it was making. There was one woman that said that she's been struggling with body dysmorphia for 20 years, cannot look in the mirror, and after five days of doing this, can stare at herself in the eyes with a grin. Five days. Five days. The reason why is because of the lifetime association that you have with doing this for other people. When you try this tomorrow, here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of your bathroom mirror and take a moment and just be with your sofa a second. Then if there's resistance to raising your hand and high-fiving your own reflection, what is that resistance? Hey, it's Mel. Thank you so much for being here. If you enjoyed that video, by God, please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing. Thank you so much for being here. We've got so much amazing stuff coming. Thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family. I love you. We create these videos for you, so make sure you subscribe.