I am a flower freak. I love growing them. I love cutting them. I love arranging them. I love sending them to people. Can you tell? I love flowers. And there's one thing that I love almost as much as I love flowers. And I guarantee you this simple thing is right in front of your nose. Are you curious about what it is? Good. I'm so excited. Today, you and I are talking about one of the most beautiful, awe-inspiring, and simple things that you can do to make yourself happier, to make life a little bit better. And not only is it going to make you happier, but it also spreads the love and joy and happiness to other people. Now, this one thing that we're going to talk about today is not only beautiful, it is awesome. And it literally also inspires awe. But it's also really cheap. I mean, in fact, it might even be free if you know what you're doing. And I'm going to teach you today how to know exactly what you're doing, because we're talking about flowers. Yup, not just flowers and how beautiful they are, but the science and research about the impact that flowers have on your life, on your health, on your relationship chips.

It's astonishing how much research there is. Now, I love flowers, and I always have them in my house. I have them growing outside. I buy them at the grocery store. I love fresh-cut flowers. You may be the person that loves vegetable gardens. That's not me. You may be the person that loves growing tomatoes on your deck or on your balcony. That's not me. I have a cutting garden for flowers, not a vegetable garden. That's how much I love flowers. Why? Why do I What's your favorite flowers? Well, probably the same reason you love flowers. I mean, if you stop and think about it, doesn't a flower just lift your mood every single time you look at them? And now, after a This conversation today, I just have so much science and research to share with you. It's jaw-dropping. According to research at Harvard Medical School, fresh flowers in your home has such a positive impact on your mood, on your mental well-being. Let me tell you about this research. Dr. Nancy Etkoff of Mass General Hospital here in Boston, she's at Harvard Medical School, did a study that proves that living with cut flowers in your apartment, in your home, strengthens feelings of compassion.

Cut flowers decrease anxiety and worry? I know that if you're not a flower person like me, you're probably like, What? Flowers? Come on, Mel. It's easy to be skeptical, right? And so you may be thinking, Well, okay, how exactly did Dr. Etkoff and her team at Harvard measure how flowers make you feel? I dug into the research for you, and here's what I found. They had people in this study live with fresh-cut flowers in their homes for less than a week, and then they measured them before and after. The study showed that people who had fresh-cut flowers in their house felt an increase in feelings of compassion and kindness for others. Why? Well, I want you to stop and think about a moment when you really did stop and smell the roses. Maybe you're listening to me right now as you're on a walk, or you're sitting in a stoplight in your car. Look around. Is there something blooming? Just think about how insane it is Like, for real? How the heck did this living work of art unfold in front of my eyes from the dirt? That you take a tulip, and it starts with this It's like dried up, brown bulb, and you stick it in the soil, and it just bursts through the soil, and it shoots up this green stem, and then this beautiful flower forms.

It's so beautiful. And you also know that it's fragile, that if you touch the petals too hard, you'd rip it off. Just staring at a beautiful bloom, it activates this sense of the beauty and the fragility of life within you. And I think that's what activates kindness and compassion as you look at it, and you just go, Isn't that beautiful? And you feel yourself softened. That's what the researchers are talking about. It's also why instinctively, you send flowers to somebody when they lose a loved one, don't you? Or you send flowers to someone on their birthday, or when you want to express this love that you have for someone who's in your life. You send flowers because they stand for something. Flowers represent joy. They represent beauty. They represent awe. They represent the fragility of life. So does it really surprise you that in this study from Harvard, that people in the study said they felt less negative after being around flowers in their house for just a few days? It doesn't surprise me at all when I really stop and think about it. Of course, it would have that impact on you. In fact, that's not all the research found.

The researchers at Harvard found that the blooms brought people so much joy, that they started reporting in the study that they were looking forward to seeing the blooms first thing in the morning. I'm going to ask you to stop and think about that finding for just a moment, too. When somebody sends you flowers, right? Or you take the time to cut flowers. You buy a beautiful bouquet for yourself at the farmer's market, and you bring them home. And then you put them in a vase, and you put them somewhere. You typically what? Put them in the dining room table, or you put them in the middle of the island of the kitchen, or you put them on your desk, or the dresser next to your bed so you can see them. Isn't it true that when you have beautiful flowers in your kitchen, that simply walking into the kitchen and seeing them on the table or on the counter or on your desk, it just makes you feel better? In fact, this morning, I was out with the dogs. So the dogs always wake me up, and then I let them out, and I was walking around the yard, And I cut a bunch of lilax off the bush.

And when I got into the house, I'm arranging the lilax into this glass vase, and I put them in the kitchen, and I stand back, and I smile at them. And it's like having a friend greet you. In fact, before I jumped on the mic, I walked back down to the kitchen to fill my water up. There they were. And bonus with lilax because you can smell them. And so you have this amazing bonus. You see them, they're beautiful. They're like a work of art. They're there like a friend greeting you. They smell great. And look, it takes a lot to get me out of bed. I'm not the person who will get out of bed for donuts or for bacon being cooked in the kitchen. Even some days, my two dogs, Homi and Yolo, they'll be sitting there like, Come on, mom, I'm not rolling out of bed. But I will roll out of bed to see the dollias that I cut, Blooming in the Kitchen, because that is a beautiful, beautiful site. This plays right into the research, because in this study at Harvard, it was proven that flowers also provide a boost of energy.

You've felt it, haven't you? But I bet you didn't notice it. See, I believe that that energy that the researchers are talking about comes from that tiny feeling of awe. That when you really look at a flower and you marvel at it for a second, there's this just feeling of being awestruck. And that's where this energy comes from. It's like a life force energy. It's almost like sunshine in a vase. They make you smile and feel better. And now you know why? Because the research says it's true. And you want to know something that's also cool? There's even more science about flowers. There was another study done by researchers at Rutgers University that It's all about what happens when you give flowers as a gift. Wait till you hear this. This is like mind-blowing. When you give flowers as a gift, it activates something inside you that makes you feel more emotionally connected to the person that you're giving flowers to. How cool is that? And let's go back to that research from Harvard, because I think I know why the gift of flowers makes you feel more connected to the person that you're giving flowers to.

Flowers are almost like a surrogate for you. Flowers are just like a representation of your love. The flowers are a reminder to the person that you send them to to smile. They're a thing of beauty. And because they're alive, it's like sending them life force in a vase. And then you get to put something on the card. And when you write something on the card, guess what? The flowers even take on a bigger meaning, because the flowers represent the full sentiment of what you just wrote on the card. I love you. I miss you. Get better. I believe in you. Congratulations. Can you tell in my voice, I'm just smiling, even talking about flowers? And I bet you are, too. You want to know why? Because right now, as I'm talking about flowers and the beauty of flowers, and the awe-struck feeling of really taking in a beautiful bloom. And I'm talking about how it makes you feel more connected to people, and the moments in life where you send them to people. I guarantee you, you're thinking of someone. You're either thinking of someone who sent you flowers recently, or you're thinking of someone who you're like, Oh, I should really send them some flowers.

I love that person. And yeah, you should. In In fact, I got a story to tell you. Just last week, I had a really hard week at work. We are growing at hyper speed. There's a lot of changes going on. I'm working on my next book. Oakley is graduating, so I am just feeling burnt out and tired. I've been up here in Vermont, just crank it away. And earlier this week, a friend of mine, Dr. Judith Joseph, who is this extraordinary MD, PhD researcher who has been on Mel Robbins podcast. She is unbelievable. She sent me the most just insane arrangement of flowers. I am talking jaw on the floor, two delivery people have to carry it in. It was the size of... You know those exercise balls at a gym? They're usually that bluish color, and you see people sit on them and do sit-ups on them. They're probably three feet in diameter. You know what I'm talking about, right? This arrangement that Dr. Judith sent to me was that big. I remember, this must have been a decade ago, I once saw Oprah Winfrey post a flower arrangement that either somebody had sent her or she had sent to somebody else, and it was an arrangement of either bright or like 400 roses.

And it was this massive mound of flowers. I thought at the time, I have never seen an arrangement like that. That is the most extraordinary thing. I will never receive anything that extraordinary because I will never do anything that incredible that that would be done. Like, literally, I remember seeing that over a decade ago. And the arrangement that Dr. Judith Joseph sent was an arrangement on that scale. And it was all my favorite colors. It was all the jewel tones. It was like, coral, peonies, and pink roses, and oranges, and apricots, and just... You know what I'm talking about? It was like a jewel box, three-foot globe of the most incredible flowers. And it went to our studios in Boston. I wasn't in our studios in Boston last week. I was three and a half hours away in Vermont. And you want to know what? I literally felt sad that I missed them. It goes to show you that flowers represent the person who sent them. It's as if one of my most favorite people stopped by the office while they were in town, and I wasn't there to see them. And so my heart sank, and I'm not going to be able to enjoy it.

Like, Oh, my gosh, I'm seeing the pictures, and I want to see them. And so you know what I did? I I gave them to a person on our team, Charlotte, who has been burning the Midnight Oil. She has been killing it. And I just said, You know what, Charlotte? I think you should take these home. You're going to need four of your colleagues to help you get them to your apartment, but you should take these home, and you should enjoy them all weekend. And you know what she did? She got them home, and she kept sending me photos of the flowers all weekend and just talking about how much joy they And in every photo, you could see that the flowers were opening a little bit more, and this arrangement was like a living thing. And this is what the researchers are talking about, this connection. The flowers that Dr. Judith Joseph gave to me connects me to Dr. Judith. And then I shared them with Charlotte, somebody that I love and somebody that I wanted to do something awesome for. And that connects me to Charlotte. And the story doesn't end there because that was midweek.

I walk into my house here in Vermont on Friday, and we had been working all day. I've got this little cabinet that was my great grandmother's that sits in the entry of her house, and it's got this marble top. It's this antique cabinet that was in her house in Buffalo, New York. Normally, you know what's on top of that? Dog leashes and dog treats. Although we don't have the dog treats there anymore because Yolo has figured out he can jump up and eat the dog treats on the thing. I know, naughty. Normally, it's like dog leashes and people's keys. Sitting there on Friday at the end of a work week, there was an arrangement just like the one that Dr. Judith had sent to me at the studios in Boston. I nearly fell over. I pulled the card out, and I'm like, Who the hell sent? It was from my sister-in-law, Christine, who's also my business partner. She's the Chief Operating Officer, and she knows just how much I've been working. I burst into tears. I burst into tears. The thing was so freaking heavy, I couldn't even carry it into the kitchen. I had to get Chris to help me.

And she must have sent a photo of the arrangement that went to the studio in Boston to a florist here in Vermont and was like, Just do this, because that's exactly what showed up. And I burst into tears because I just felt so connected to her. I felt so seen. It would have It's not the same thing if she had hopped on a plane and flown here from Chicago and been standing in the entry waiting to give me a hug. And they've been sitting in the island in our kitchen for 10 days. And every time I walk into the kitchen, It's as if Christine is sitting in the middle of the island waiting to give me a hug. The research is right. They make me feel better. The flowers make me feel connected to Dr. Judith and to Charlotte, and to Christine. I know you've felt this, haven't you? I want you to know that when you send a beautiful arrangement to someone else, especially if it's out of the blue, they feel it, too. They feel your They feel seen. And every time they see those flowers, they think of you. And by the way, this works for everybody.

Flowers is not something limited to a gender, because flowers are about love, and beauty, and life, and connection, and magic, and awe. That's why they're so powerful. And when you give yourself flowers, guess what? You honor your beauty. They are an act of love to you. And when you send them to someone else, you honor them. And get this? Get this? This is great. I've only scratched the surface on the research here. The research also reveals something crazy cool about giving somebody flowers. You ready? Flowers is a gift in comparison to anything else that you could give to somebody, okay? You know what flowers reveal? They reveal that you're likely to be viewed as successful, caring, and emotionally intelligent by the person who you send them to. Because people who receive the gift of flowers in a research study responds with what science call a true smile. Not a fake smile. You've gotten a present where you're like, Oh, thanks. Yeah. Thanks for the bottle of wine I don't drink. Yeah. Oh, thanks. Yeah. This framed picture that I think is hideous, that I'm never going to put in my house yet. Thank you for that.

A A true smile is what people have. You can't help it. And here's more on the research. People who receive flowers as a gift, based on studies, report positive moods that last for days. Here's what the study found. The study found that, quote, the presence of flowers also led to increased contact with family and friends. And so I want you to really think about this, right? Because that could be a detail that you're like, Okay, whatever. Think about the The last person who sent you flowers. Just think about that. What did you do? Well, you either called them, right? Or you sent them a text with a photo of the flowers. Why? Because the second you received them, it made you feel connected to them, which made you reach out, which then increased your connection with that family or that friend. Now see, what I love about the research and this topic, is that you know this. I mean, that's why we send flowers, right? Because you know this. You know it's a good thing to send flowers because you're thinking of this person and you know it feels really good to receive flowers, and so you know this.

But what you didn't know is that simply putting one little flower in a little glass next to your computer while you work, it somehow makes you feel better. But now you know the research. You don't have an excuse anymore to not do it. Anytime you want to do something uplifting for yourself, get yourself flowers. Anytime that you want to do something uplifting for someone else, get them flowers, because Harvard and Rutgers are now telling you. They have spent time. They have researched this. They have studies that has a proven and lasting impact. And here's how I want you to apply All this research to your daily life. I'm going to boil this down to you, okay? You ready? Number one, always have fresh flowers in your house or on your desk or next to your bed, somewhere where you can see them. Why? Well, you know the Search, okay? You know that it makes you happier. You know that it boosts your mood. You know that it gives you something to look forward to. And check this out, it makes you feel more connected to the person who gave them to you. When you give You're self flowers, you feel more connected to yourself.

If you want to have a better relationship with yourself, if you want to be kinder to yourself, if you want to feel like you're worthy, buy yourself flowers. Pick a flower from your garden. Stick it where you will see it. Because that little flower in the vase that you gave to you is evidence that you matter. It's evidence that you're kind to yourself. It's evidence that you're connected to It's evidence that you believe that you deserve things of beauty. You believe that you deserve to feel good. And look, I know it sounds silly. I'm asking you to do it, and I'm daring you to do it. And then I dare you to tell me it didn't make you feel a little better. Because it's not silly. Treating yourself with kindness, making yourself feel like you're worthy, doing small things that prove to you that you want to take better care of yourself, that's not silly at all. That's how you live a better life. That's how you feel better about yourself by proving it. Here, I'm going to give you my tip. You're going to love this, okay? Because you can go to a florist, and they could be very expensive, and you might not be near a farmer's market, or you don't have a garden, or you don't have a balcony or a deck where you can grow some flowers in a pot.

No problem. Here is the best tip I can give you. When you go to the grocery store, I don't care where you live in the world. They always have a little flower area, right? Here's what I want you to do. I want you to skip all the mixed bouquets that they've made up. They're too expensive. They charge more for those. And I want you to head straight for the little buckets where there's a single group of a singular type of flowers. You know, there's the bucket with tulips, there's a bucket with lilies, there's a bucket maybe with peonies, there's a bucket with flowers that are in season no matter what time of year it is, whose names I don't know that last forever in a vase. You get what I'm talking about. You want to buy the single bouquet of the single type of flower. Here's why. Number one, they're cheaper. They're cheaper than a mixed bouquet. Number two, when you take them home and you cut the ends off so that they can suck up the water and they look like a lot crisper and cleaner, you can then separate them. Because in every bunch, there's usually somewhere between 5-12 You have stems of flowers in there.

You can separate them and you can put them all over the house in just little jars. And then you got fresh-cut flowers everywhere for the cost of one bouquet that might have only been $5. And because you're getting it at In your grocery store, you can do this year round. Your grocery store always has flowers. Got it? Good. So do it for yourself. Now, here's a second way that you can leverage this research. Today, when you're When you're out and about and you're taking your walk, or you're running to the farmer's market, or you're heading to the grocery store, or you pass a flowering tree, or you walk by your neighbor's garden, stop. Stop. Even just stop You know how a lot of restaurants have taken the time to plant planters with just beautiful flowers, whether it's in the entrance to the restaurant, or maybe they have flowers out on the back patio? Stop. Take one minute and just marvel at how freaking unbelievable and complicated and insanely gorgeous a single flower bloom is. And if you follow me on social media, particularly Instagram, you've probably noticed I'm always posting flower photos because I am always just in awe of how extraordinary they are.

In fact, every Friday night on Instagram, I tend to do a roundup of the week of photos, and there's almost always a flower booming. Almost every day on the stories on Instagram, you'll see a closeup of some flower that I've grown or some flower that I've seen in my travels, because it's almost like a form of meditation. If you stop and smell the roses, or stop and just look at the intricate detail of the flower in front of you, you have to be in the moment. You can't be thinking about your work deadline and just admiring all the little speckles that are on the inside of the petal of that lily. You can't. You can't be worried about the past. If you are admiring the hundreds of petals on a peony that is opening up in front of you. You can't be up in your head beating the hell out of yourself, telling yourself you're not good enough. If you are looking at a daffodil and just taking in the fact that it's bright yellow on the end of one petal, and as it gets toward the center of the flower, it gets a little bit lighter, but then the center part has orange, and holy cow, I've never noticed the red.

You're in the moment. I always have a flower cut and sitting in a little jar right by my sink. I always do this. Why? Because as I'm washing the dishes, which I do, it seems, a hundred times a day. Do you feel like that? You're always at the freaking sink, washing dishes. You see the flour, and all of a sudden, You stop thinking about the future or the past. You stop griping about the dishes you need to do. And I just stare at the flour, and I take it in. And it is a form of moving meditation. It cues me to be in the moment. In fact, right now, I know you're listening to me, but if you're on YouTube, you can see behind me, I've got all these flowers that I have grown. I cannot believe I grew those flowers. There's these huge red tulips, and there's these beautiful, what's called variegated lilax. It's the sensation, lilax variety. It's purple with these white lines around the outside of the petal. And then there's this vase to my left of these pink, pink, pink tulips. And they're this beautiful apricotty pink. And if you really, really stare at the tulip.

It's got this white stripe that goes up on the inside, and then you look on the inside and you know the little things that the bees... See, I love flowers, but I don't even know the technical names. I probably wouldn't be able to pronounce them anyway. It doesn't matter. I still admire it. When the bees go in, and then they get drunk on the pollen, and there's those yellow things that are standing up in there. Like, holy cow, it's just incredible. And it's all around you. And admiring it outside at restaurants, and in the park, and on the and passing your neighbors. It's free. It's free. And now you know the research that simply taking in the beauty of a single bloom helps you tap into this sense of awe. It lifts your mood. It boosts your energy. It will make you smile. And here's the third thing you can do. You're going to put flowers in your house. You're going to stop when you see them. You're going to send somebody that You care about flowers. Yep. It doesn't matter where you live in the world. You're either going to stop by the grocery store and grab some and hand deliver them, or you're going to look online.

There's a bazillion amazing growers that you can find locally, places you can send from that are actually more affordable than you think. My friend Jody, I've talked about Jody a lot on the podcast. She is my best friend, if you're a new listener, my best friend from elementary school. She recently moved back to Western Michigan, where we grew up, because her parents are getting older, and she wanted to be closer to them, and she wants to be there to help take care of them. It was a big emotional move. You're 56 years old, you're single, you're moving from San Diego, where you've lived for six years, and you've had your big job, and now you're going back to live with your parents, to the small town of Western Michigan. I mean, that's a lot. I knew that I was not able to be in Western Michigan, so I sent a surrogate. I sent her an orchid. And when she first got it, she reached out, and she was just like, You know when somebody writes you a text, and you're just like, They're writing it like, Oh. Then when she first reached out, she's like, Oh, Mel, this means so much.

You're so sweet. I just can't believe it. Well, it's now six weeks later, and just two days ago, She sent me another photo. This thing is still in full bloom. And she wrote to me just two days ago, I'm sitting here on this finally warm night as I look at this orchid. It is so lovely, and it reminds me of you. Isn't that awesome? It's my way to be there with her and support her. And I was really trying to think about, Okay, why exactly? Why do flowers boost your connection to someone else? Why is that? Because the truth is, I could have easily sent her a book. I could have sent her a gift certificate for a massage. Lord knows, when you move home to take care of your parents, you need one. But when you send those gifts, they're great gifts, don't get me wrong. But let's just unpack this, right? The thing about flowers is that they're alive, and they're beautiful. There's that energy and the awe factor. It's almost as if that living, breathing, beautiful flowering orchid is a stand-in for you. It's true, isn't it? Think about it. You can't look at a bouquet that somebody sent you and not think first about the person who sent it to you.

I challenge you. Try to look at a bouquet of flowers that somebody sent you for your graduation or your birthday or just because. And not think about them. I'll give you another example. Right now on my desk, there's a flower arrangement. No surprise there. But this one is from a company called United Talent Agents. These are the agents who I work with who represent the Mel Robbins podcast and our digital business. I want to give a huge shout out to Oren and the team over at UTA. But they sent me this really beautiful arrangement, and the card that came with it is sitting on my desk. The arrangement is in honor of this huge milestone that you and I have reached a hundred million downloads on the Mel Robbins podcast. A hundred million. I mean, the fact that a hundred million times you put earphones in and you hit play, or you jumped in your car and you turned this on, or you went for a walk, and you took me with you a hundred million times. You've invited me into your life. If I could send you flowers right now to show you how much I love you, how much I appreciate you for inviting me into your life the way that you have, I would send you one of those three-foot A huge globe arrangements like Dr.

Judith sent me that requires two people to carry it up to your door. That's what I would do. And so I was reflecting on the phone with Orn, like, Holy cow, dude, 100 million downloads? Eighteen? That is no joke. And so the very next day, I'm sitting up here above the garage, working No way on the podcast, like, There's a knock on the door, and flowers arrive. I opened up the card, and it says, Mel, 100 million is no joke. You should be so proud. Here's to a hundred million more. We love you, your UTA team. Now, those flowers and the fact that they took a card and said what I said, Those flowers aren't flowers. It's as if the whole team is sitting here with their arms around me as I'm just working away at my desk going, We are so proud of you, Mel. Keep going. Keep going. And the card, I'm one of those people that I keep a good card. I keep a good flower card. I know you do, too. And can you believe there's even more research and science on this topic? I don't need any more reasons to want to be cutting flowers and looking at flowers and sending flowers.

But there's this research about the act of generosity. It is scientifically proven to make you happy when you do something generous for somebody else. I mean, how many more reasons do you need to get on the flower bandwagon with me? Whether you are being really generous with yourself. Let's start with you. Start with you. Buy yourself those flowers. In fact, don't ever go grocery shopping Ever again, if it's in your budget, without spending $5 on flowers for yourself. If you can grow flowers, and if you can't grow flowers, admire flowers. Go out of your way. Do give flowers to your Friends, it will make you happy. It will make them happy. It's like a two-for-one happiness boost. And I want to give you another tip, okay, about the grocery store. Because, again, we're going to remember, walk past all the mixed bouquets. They're too expensive. I want you to go straight for the single variety that are wrapped up, right? The tulips, the peonies. Here's what I want you to do next. You're going to grab them, but then you're going to walk up to that counter at the grocery store, okay? And even if you are living in a city that has a lot of bodegas, so think about New York City, tons of listeners in New York City, tons of listeners in Toronto, in London.

You got those grocery stores that have flowers on the outside of the store, so you pick them up outside. Even there, you take Take them inside and just ask either the person working at the counter at the flower place where they sell the balloons in a grocery store, or take them inside to the couple that's running the bodega and just tell them, This is a gift. You don't have to say it's a gift for you. You know what they're going to do? For free? They cut the stems, they cut the plastic off and take the price tag off, and they rewrap it in nice, clear plastic or a nice, clean piece of paper. They do it for free. It's like now a super nice gift, and it's for you, or it's for somebody you love. And by the way, you want to know something super cool? You know the person that's working that counter at the grocery store? They're either bored out of their mind, or they would be stocking vegetables. So when you walk up and say, Hey, could you help me? This is a gift. They're like, Everybody gets so excited. Yeah, I'd love to.

And oftentimes, you know what they do? They literally cut it. They cut the stems. You see them start fluffing up the flowers and arranging them to make it look nice, because they get to They do something beautiful, too. They get to be around the flowers, too. They get to be part of the gift, too. So you're not putting anyone else out. By asking somebody to wrap them for you, you're making someone else happier. So have I convinced you? Yeah, really start loving and living with fresh flowers? I hope so. Have I convinced you to start giving them? Because it's not just petals and blooms, and flowers that make you happier. All this research is even bigger than flowers. Because check this out. When I started digging in, I found all kinds of amazing research on the impact that plants can have on your well-being and your mental health and your concentration, and also the impact of gardening itself. And I cannot wait to tell you about this crazy study that was done with plants, because this study next to something that Dr. Adam Alter, Professor from NYU, he was on the show recently, and we were talking all about the brain and happiness.

If you didn't hear that episode, no problem. Always linked in the show notes if you want to go deeper. But he did this bit about the research that's been done on the impact of getting out in nature and how it impacts your brain and can make you happy your and help you lower your stress. And so I want you to listen to Professor Adam Alter on the Mel Robbins podcast talking about the research and how being in nature improves happiness and lower stress?

The thing about nature is that apart from actually being asleep, being in a natural environment is replenishing. It basically turns that dial upside down, and so your energy starts to climb again. So it gives It gives you back a lot of what is sapped by that very focused attention. Because when you're in a natural environment, your attention is still grabbed by things. You might hear a bird, you might hear the running water, you might look at trees, whatever it might be, looking at the ocean. But that The way of less focused attention is really restorative. There's actually a whole body of research called attention restoration therapy that focuses on exactly this idea that being in natural environments is one of the best forms of medicine we have. I think one really useful thing and why nature is so great is because it's timeless. That I think one way to measure how well you're living is, are you spending at least some of your day in an environment that is timeless, that is not attached and tethered to the here and now, that is not about the latest screen, the latest device, the latest tech, the latest gadget.

So when you are sitting in a forest, you could have been doing that a thousand years ago and seeing exactly the same thing. And I think there's some value to living at least part of our lives every day in an environment that is timeless. Don't you just love that?

Running water, nature. Holy No wonder I'm a happier person now that I live in Vermont, and I'm around nature all the time. But you may not be around nature all the time. So if you can't get outside, don't you worry. Dr. Alter has got you covered because in that episode, he also talked about how just having the presence of nature near you, like a plant in your apartment, or being able to see a tree outside your window, how that alone can impact you. So just listen to what Dr. Alter said What about that research.

If you're in an apartment in a big urban environment, you don't have that option. Even little trees, little plants that you have in the apartment, the sound of a little fountain that you have with running water, that stands in for that experience, too. Is just spend, say, Five minutes a day doing absolutely nothing but taking and drinking in that natural environment, even if it's a tiny one in your apartment. If you can get out, all the better. But it's very important to do that, I think, as a daily practice.

I think that's so cool that these simple All things can become a daily practice. That's why I'm so excited about this, because it's so accessible. It's right in front of your face. It's not just Dr. Alter who's doing this research. There's a study that I found from researchers in the UK where they looked at plants in your home. Simply having plants in your home or near you can increase your concentration by up to 20%. What does that mean? It means this. If you work from home, let's say you have a little desk at home or a place where you're trying to get things done, researchers say, put a plant on the desk or on the counter nearby you. Why? They want it near you in a place where you're trying to focus. And the research shows that simply having that plant near you, on your desk, near you where you're working, can boost your concentration by 20 %. Now, when I read this, I was like, why? Why the hell would a plant boost my concentration? Well, the researchers dug into why, and they believe it's because of two reasons. Reasons. Check this out. Number one, plants improve air quality because they reduce CO₂ levels.

I want to explain why this matters when it comes to concentration and focus. So there is this really interesting study done at Harvard's TH Chan School of Public Health. Researchers did this massive study about productivity and focus at work, and they had people in six different countries. This study included the UK, the US, China, India, Mexico, Thailand, They had people at work sit near air quality monitors, and the air quality monitors were detecting when the CO₂ levels went higher. When the CO₂ levels would shoot higher, the researchers would make the folks at work perform tests that measure things like memory, how fast your brain is working, how well you can do certain tasks. Now, check this out. This is where it gets really interesting. This global study found that higher CO₂ levels in an office has significant impact on an employee's cognitive functioning, including lowering your response time, interfering with your ability to focus, and it also affects your productivity. This is a very real thing. In fact, this is so real that when we first opened our studios in Boston, where we tape a lot of the expert interviews for this podcast, we started noticing that after we were in the studio and When the experts and I were talking for 90 minutes, I could literally feel my energy leave my body.

My focus was starting to decline, the room was stuffy, and it wasn't the conversation. It was literally as if there was some gas being poured into the room. So we put in a CO₂ monitor. Holy cow. Simply by being in a room where we're doing a lot of talking because of the interviewing, the CO₂ levels were spiking, and that was impacting focus and brain processing. Isn't that crazy? We had to take steps to improve the circulation in the room. We put in an air filter. We also started opening up windows in between interviews. Now that I've learned about this research, you better believe Mel Robbins is bringing in the plants, and we are putting it in the studio because we clearly need help with the CO₂, and so do you. This is legit a really cool thing you can do for yourself. Put a plant on your desk, help with the CO₂, and let's get that focus going. All right, you ready for the next piece of research? I mean, seriously, how much research is there about plants and flowers? Turns out a lot. This next one is about gardening. I want to welcome back in all of you listeners who are my veg garden lovers, honestly, I got to give you some huge props.

It's astonishing how much work a vegetable garden is. I got to tip my hat to you because I do not have that in me. But It is so cool that you are into that. But I want you to check out this research about gardening, whether you garden or not, whether you like flowers, whether you like veggies, whether you don't garden at all. Because this research about gardening, it relates to whether you are growing vegetables, whether you're working in a flower garden, you could just be working in your yard, or you could be volunteering and helping at a local farm or helping do a project at the local elementary school. I mean, this is something that I do. I volunteer with a A local farmer. I help this friend of mine, Annette. She has this flower farm called Fleur Farm. A bunch of women in the community, we all get together in the spring and in the fall, and we get our hands in the dirt because we're trying to help Annette get 50,000 dolly bulbs into the ground. Here's why getting your hands in the dirt matters. Whether you're volunteering to clean up a local park, or you're helping a local farmer, or you're Getting your hands dirty in your own backyard.

Wait till you hear about the connection between digging in the dirt and happiness. According to research, gardening boosts two feel-good chemicals in your brain, and the reason why it's going to blow your freaking mind, it boosts dopamine and serotonin. Now, I want you to stop and think about your own life, okay? When was the last time you had your hands in the dirt? Were you helping mom and dad plant something? I remember for me growing up, this is what we did every single weekend. I got my love of flowers and gardening from my parents. And Memorial Day in particular, which is usually the end of May here in the United States, always marked the beginning of summer. It was like, boom, gardening season is on. And depending on where you live in the US or where you live in the world, you never want to plant any plants on the ground before the end of May because the frost could come and kill them. So end of May, Memorial Day, United States, Mel Robbins growing up in Western Michigan. We would load up into the Jeep Wagoneer, and we would drive to the garden center, and I would go with my mom, and we would walk up and down the aisles, and she would buy all the plants for her pots and all the plants that were annuals for her beds, and we would spend all weekend long with our hands in the garden.

It was one of my most favorite things to do with my mom and dad, that ritual of getting the plants, getting the beds ready for the season, getting them You can see it's all going to come into the ground. In fact, that's where it comes from. That's why I love this so much. And maybe you grew up doing this, too. And even if you didn't, those experiences that you've had where your hands are in the ground, where you're picking something or you're digging something, it's primal. This may be a little woo-woo, but it's almost like you're getting in touch with your ancestors, right? Because it's how we evolved. And when you hear the research study as to why dopamine and serotonin kicks in, it's going to freak you out. Because the truth is, there is a very real connection between you, your life, and this planet, this living, breathing planet that you live on. I mean, think about the last time you were digging in the dirt, right? You shoved the shovel in, you're turning it over. It's like an act of creation. It's powerful. You are literally clearing space for something new to grow.

I mean, it's so cool. I just love getting my hands in the dirt. And if you're a fellow gardener, I can feel it. You're like nodding. You're on your walk, you're nodding along. People are walking past you going, What is that weird person doing nodding along with a big smile on my face? You're probably now going, I got to go to the garden center this week. I got to get my plant. I got to go. I got to go. It begs the question, though, how exactly does dirt make you release serotonin and dopamine? Well, researchers have an answer. It turns out the contact with the soil and a specific soil bacteria called Mycobacterium vaci triggers the release of serotonin in your brain. This is all according to research. Now, serotonin is Also, what you've probably heard researchers talk about is the happy chemical. Lack of serotonin in the brain causes depression in people. Here's something else that I found in my research. There's a release of dopamine in your brain when you harvest anything from your garden, whether it's fruits or vegetables or berries or even the flowers that you cut that you've grown, you get a little drop of dopamine.

Now, dopamine Phenamine, as you probably know, is tied to this reward center in the brain. It has to do with craving and reward and drive. It gets really interesting when we dig into the research, because it explains That's why we all flocked apple orchids in the fall, right? We all want to pick apples. Right now, where I live, it's all about picking your own strawberries. Maybe it's picking your own strawberries or peaches where you are. And I got to tell you something funny. My mom is really funny about the pick your own farms, because she grew up on a huge cattle and produce farm in upstate New York, outside of Buffalo. For those of you in the Buffalo area, we're talking about Bipperts Farms. That's my grandparents and my aunts and uncles. Say hello if you stop by. And so she grew up on a farm picking produce. And so we'll drive past a farm where I am, or when I visit her in Michigan, she's like, I grew up picking that crap. I'm going to pay and just pay for it in the basket. I'm not picking it anymore. I'm not going to pay to pick.

She's very funny about that thing. You and I, we pay to pick. But you're not going to believe why. Well, researchers have this theory that the response and this reward that you get, the satisfaction of plucking a berry off a branch, This response has evolved over nearly 200,000 years of hunter-gatherer society. Now, stop and think about that. It makes sense, right? When your survival depended upon you finding food, of course, when you found food way back in the day, there was a flush, a reward of dopamine, released in the reward center of the brain, and it triggers this mild state of bliss or euphoria because, Oh, my God, I'm not going to die. I found the barrier. I was forging for. Modern society, you and I feel that when we see a bag of potato chips, but our ancestors were like, oh my gosh, thank God. Holy cow, I found a potato. I'm not going to die. The dopamine release can be triggered today by simply seeing fruit or a berry, or smelling one, as well as the action of plucking the fruit. Here's a little tidbit for you that really, really It blew my mind.

This same principle of seeing or picking a berry and getting that drop of dopamine, you're like, Oh, my God, I found the thing that's going to keep me alive. It's the exact same biological process that creates compulsive shopping disorder. Kind of crazy, right? Why? Well, because you're picking things off the shelf. You're finding a deal. It's like the sad, modern version of the hunter-gatherer mechanism, rewarding for finding something. It's wild. Maybe that's why I'm a compulsive gardener, because I'm constantly feeling rewarded by growing things. I just think it's so fascinating, don't you? That all this stuff is right underneath your nose. And as I'm unpacking it, and you look at the research and we explain it, That you just know it's true. You know it's true. That all the research and the science is underscoring that blooms erase the gloom that you may feel. I I mean, literally, it is the most beautiful, simple, and fabulous way to be happier and to feel better in your day-to-day life. So starting today, I really do want you to take this research and just apply it and see how you feel. I want you to have fresh-cut flowers in your house.

Why? Because it's proven to make you feel happier. And when you do that for yourself, I know that you are going to feel like you're doing something nice for yourself. And that's a really great way to improve the relationship that you have with yourself, your sense of self-worth. Do it. And I do want you to either give some flowers or send some flowers to someone that you love. As soon as you're done listening, think of one person. They're going through a hard time, or you just miss them, or they did something cool. And just drop some flowers by or send them something. It doesn't have to be fancy. Really, it's just the thought and the card. And I do want you today to stop and spend a minute and do this moving meditation with me. Just gaze at the work of art that is a flower in bloom. And if you want to concentrate more, you now know the research. To be more productive, Just put a plant on your desk. How simple is that? Something nice to look at. I just love that. It can sit right next to that single flower that's blooming in the cup.

They can be like your little friends sitting there, just cheering you on, keeping you company, boosting your mood. And if you don't have plans this weekend, figure out how to get your hands in the dirt. Go help a farmer. Work in your garden. Help your mom and dad out if you're lucky enough to still have them around. I mean, that's what I'm going to do this weekend. I wish my mom and dad were living close by because I would go I'd go dig in the dirt with them. I'd go to the garden center with my mom. But on Sunday, I'm going to be with my friend Annette, and I'm going to be getting my hands in the dirt. And come September, I am going to feel the reward because my house is going to be filled with fresh-cut dahlias from those fields. And even the thought of it just puts a huge smile on my face. And in case no one else tells you, I want to tell you that I love you, and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life, a more meaningful life. And I think oftentimes we think that that means the big stuff.

And this research Really proves that a better life is right under your nose. Because there are simple things like fresh-cut flowers and getting your hands in the dirt or sending something to somebody that you love that actually bring joy into your life right now. And you deserve that, so go do it. All righty, I'll talk to you in a few days. And for you on YouTube, thank you for being here with me. I hope that all of this flower talk has put a huge smile on your face place. And in case no one else tells you, I want to tell you I love you. I believe in you. I believe in your ability to create a better life. And oftentimes, we get so focused on the big stuff that you forget about the profound small things that you can do that are right under your nose. Seriously, it is possible for you to feel better in your life today. It is possible for you to feel a little bit more joy and beauty in your life today. So go get some flowers and put them where you live, because I know it will put a smile on your face, too.

And just thinking about that makes me smile for you. So that's it. I love you. I believe in you. Go do it. And one more thing. I know you're thinking, Oh, my God, Mel, I want to watch more. Do me a favor. First, hit subscribe because that tells me you love this content. And it also supports me in being able to bring you all of this inspiration and these research-back strategies every single day. So just hit subscribe. Please, please, please. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I know you can't send me flowers, but you could hit subscribe. That's how you can do that. See, I'm smiling, and this is a true smile. Also, I know you probably want some more inspiration, something beautiful to watch, so check out this video next. I for you. Think about it like me sending you a bouquet from me to you. I know you're going to enjoy it.