These five lies that you tell yourself about adult friendship are the reason why adult friendship is so hard. Lie number one, everybody's life is a huge party. Unless you live in a sorority or a fraternity, your life is not a huge party. I would get home at the end of the week from work, and I would look on social media, and I would see people out, and I started to convince myself, Everybody's life is a big party. And this is why this lie is so damaging. You tell yourself you're not invited to the party. You start to feel like a loser that nobody likes. You will never feel motivated to make the effort, and you will never feel worthy of the friendships you deserve if you are constantly swimming in the toilet of comparison. So what is the truth? What do you need to do to turn this around? Truth number one.