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There's no space that beautiful Victor Frankl between stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space is our power to choose. One of the ways that I think about this is imagine for every single person listening right now. Imagine when you say, I'm sad, it's almost like there is a cloud in the sky. And when you say, I am sad, it's as if you have become the cloud. Okay? But when you start saying something like, I'm noticing that I'm feeling sad, I'm noticing that this is my thought, that I'm not good enough.When you start noticing your thoughts, your stories and your emotions for what they are, you create this space. What starts to happen is you start recognizing that you are not the cloud. You are the sky. What I mean by this is, as a human being, every one of us is big enough and capacious and able and human and messy and beautiful enough to experience all of your emotions. Getting back to your DBT, the bothness of our emotional experience.Yeah, I was going to say that because you can be the sky and you can have a cloud and a rainbow and, like, some lightning over somewhere else. And that had helped me so much to hold these two seemingly opposing things true at the same time. It was something that I'd never done. Family was really fucked up and didn't teach me any of that.It is so powerful. You know, you are not the cloud. You are the whole damn sky. And when we said, you know, why are these skills so important? If we think about emotional rigidity, emotional rigidity, the emotion is bad. I'm locking down into it, I'm pushing it away. And therefore, I don't have the skills to help me to deal with the world as it is. Whereas when we start having skills that we're talking about, the compassion, the labeling, the noticing, these thoughts and feelings for what they are, the bothness, the connecting with values, these are just what I've listed. Here are five skills that are accessible to every single person. Listening. What you're doing is you're now moving from rigidity into why I call my work emotional agility. Because emotional agility is the idea that we can, all of us, experience all of our difficult emotions and circumstances and our stories, and we can notice them lightly, with compassion, with curiosity, and we can still choose who we want to be. And this now is the skill set of capacity and resilience and of agility.Honestly, Doctor David, this has been more helpful to me in business than anything I learned on Wall street. Anything I learned in a book. The emotional regulation and the interpersonal effectiveness, have by far been the things that have helped me more in my business, in my career than anything else. And bringing that back from like pie in the sky, I guess, pun intended. But to say, like, those two things can be true in an interpersonal relationship. Like, I can be really pissed at you, or I can feel pissed at you, but also love you at the same time. Or like I can have a deal fall through, but also feel like in a good place in my business. And those opposing things can both be true at the same time. And that has really, really helped me effectively navigate challenges in business.Oh, it's so powerful. I call this the idea of bothness. When I was very little, I was petrified of the idea of death. And it's normal. Five year old children become aware of their own mortality and they stop recognizing that their parents aren't going to be around forever. And I remember night after night after night, going into my father's room and lying between my mom and my dad, begging my father, saying to him, daddy, daddy, daddy, promise me you'll never die. And my father could have done forced, false positivity. He could have said to me, don't worry, Susan, everything's fine, you know, everything's good. But he didn't. He said to me, Susie, we all die. I, it's normal to be scared. And what I understood, and this is this idea of bothness, what I understood in the way that he was guiding me through those long dark nights is he was saying to me, you can intrapersonally be fearful, be worried, be scared, and you can hold that in your one hand, and in the other hand you can move forward with your courage and your values and your curiosity. And that is interpersonally in our organizations, in our workplaces, can we hold the idea that there is change and we don't like it or that there's a team that we don't feel connected with?Can we hold that idea and also move forward to have the conversation, to create an environment that we want to create, to use our voice, because it's connected with our values? If we can hold both, then we hold our power not from a place of fear, but from a place of being grounded in the reality of the world as it is.And you've said that that conversation with your father happened years before cancer was on the radar.Yes. So I had that conversation with my father night after night and neither of us knew that in ten years he would be gone. And this is how I came to my work. Because after my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and did die, the world around me was telling me to just be positive, to push it aside. They were praising me for being strong and I needed to refine my lesson. And the lesson was that lesson of showing up to the self, the lesson of the teacher who was willing to witness me and to give me space for the truth of my emotional experience. The labeling of the emotion, the understanding that I could simultaneously never in a million years wanted my father to die. I could hold that in the one hand and I could move forward holding in the other hand learning and empathy that I develop for others. And I started to culturally think about, like, what are the ways that we are taught or not taught in our society to deal with the most important part of ourselves, our inner worlds? How are we taught or not taught? And how are those ways actually undermining our wellbeing, not just as individuals, but in our communities, in our families?Because when we in a world that feels pain and we have individuals who don't know how to deal with that pain in healthy ways, we become leaders who don't deal with others in ways that are compassionate. We become leaders who don't have organizations that are healthy. We see the devastation around us. And my mission in life is the practical, powerful skills that can help us to move forward in ways that are healthy.Yeah, because it's going to come back at some point. My father died when I was eleven. And I'll never forget going to the funeral in the morning and then going to the second half of school. So I didn't miss the rest of the school day at that time. I was like, okay, it's fine. And people were like, where were you? I was like, oh, she said, my father's funeral. I didn't know that that was not a thing that like, maybe take the whole day off. And obviously it came back to bite me years later because it will. Even when you suppress it, it's going to come out not in an opportune time. When I was at CNN or something like, this is not the time to be mourning something I should have dealt with when I was eleven.You know, psychologists call this amplification, and it's this idea that when we suppress difficult feelings, there is a short term impact and a long term impact really what this means is we push our feelings down. We push them down. We push them down, and then we are more likely to kick the dog, yell at our child,. And your parent, with the best of intentions might say something like, oh, don't worry, I'll play with you.You know, your parent is heartbroken that you've been rejected at school. What that parent is often signaling is that there's no space for sadness in our house, that we've just got to be happy. And again, you'll be less practice. So to come back to your question. I don't really like to make too much of gender differences around emotions because there is a lot of nuance and there's a lot of individuality in terms of the families that we grew up in. However, what we have found in a number of studies is that boys tend to have far more conversations with parents and caregivers, where parents will say things like, what did you do at school today? Okay, what did you do? And so what that really leads to is a situation where boys are much more about being task oriented and compartmentalizing emotions. It's about what I do. It's not about how I feel. How I feel is going to. It's about what I do. And so what this often leads to is disconnect with emotions. And over time, what this can lead to is, in financial spending, is things like not understanding that I'm unhappy, not understanding that I'm actually buying this thing because it's connected with unhappiness.It becomes much more that my unhappiness in a financial way becomes much more targeted in task. I buy this thing and I feel better. I watch Netflix and I feel better. So there's a task orientation. We know with girls, there's much more conversation around. How did you feel today? How did you feel when no one would connect with you? How did you feel when you were the last person invited to the group? And what this can often lead to in females, again, I don't like making too much of it, is getting stuck in difficult emotions, ruminating, dwelling on those difficult emotions and still making choices. But those choices are often from a place of love to know if you have a tip that anyone can use to invest in themselves or help with financial anxiety.I think the most important aspect of mind work is the recognition that most financial choices are impacted by our emotions. So if you slow down and you say to yourself, what's really going on for me? What's happening for me? And is this connected with my values and who I want to be in the long term, workable way of being in the world? You will be both richer in your bank account, but also richer as a human being. Patient, compassionate and wise.And that's what we advocate, living a rich life in all aspects of the world. Thank you, doctor David.Thank you for having me.Money rehab is a production of Money News Network.I'm your host, Nicole Lapin. Money rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes. Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions. Money rehaboneyoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answer it on the show or even have a one on one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram on Tiktokoneynewsnetwork for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important.Investment you can make.Money rehabbers, you have money hidden in your house? Yeah, just hiding there in plain sight. Okay, so I don't mean you have gold bars hidden somewhere in walls, treasure map style, but you do have a money making opportunity that you're just leaving on the table if you're not hosting on Airbnb, it's one of my all time favorite side hustles. By hosting your space, you are monetizing what you already own.It doesn't get easier than that.For me, hosting on Airbnb has always been a no brainer. When I first signed up, I remember thinking to myself, self, you pay a lot of money for your house. It is time that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it, and your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com. host.

serviced by credit Karma Credit builder and requires a line of credit and savings account provided by Cross river bank member FDIC. Between summer vacations and going to the beach and having the hot girl or guy summer of your dreams, this season can be a little hard on our wallets. A chime checking account helps you reach your financial goals while still enjoying the summer. You a parent and a business person and an author and a loved one and a human that we have multiples that we can have within us. So if we think about then the language that we use with emotions, what we do is the opposite. We say something like, I am angry. And if we think of what we are doing psychologically, there is no space between you and the emotion. In other words, I am or one of me, 100% of me is defined by my anger. There's no space for anything else. There's no space that beautiful Victor Frankl between stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space is our power to choose. One of the ways that I think about this is imagine for every single person listening right now. Imagine when you say, I'm sad, it's almost like there is a cloud in the sky. And when you say, I am sad, it's as if you have become the cloud. Okay? But when you start saying something like, I'm noticing that I'm feeling sad, I'm noticing that this is my thought, that I'm not good enough.When you start noticing your thoughts, your stories and your emotions for what they are, you create this space. What starts to happen is you start recognizing that you are not the cloud. You are the sky. What I mean by this is, as a human being, every one of us is big enough and capacious and able and human and messy and beautiful enough to experience all of your emotions. Getting back to your DBT, the bothness of our emotional experience.Yeah, I was going to say that because you can be the sky and you can have a cloud and a rainbow and, like, some lightning over somewhere else. And that had helped me so much to hold these two seemingly opposing things true at the same time. It was something that I'd never done. Family was really fucked up and didn't teach me any of that.It is so powerful. You know, you are not the cloud. You are the whole damn sky. And when we said, you know, why are these skills so important? If we think about emotional rigidity, emotional rigidity, the emotion is bad. I'm locking down into it, I'm pushing it away. And therefore, I don't have the skills to help me to deal with the world as it is. Whereas when we start having skills that we're talking about, the compassion, the labeling, the noticing, these thoughts and feelings for what they are, the bothness, the connecting with values, these are just what I've listed. Here are five skills that are accessible to every single person. Listening. What you're doing is you're now moving from rigidity into why I call my work emotional agility. Because emotional agility is the idea that we can, all of us, experience all of our difficult emotions and circumstances and our stories, and we can notice them lightly, with compassion, with curiosity, and we can still choose who we want to be. And this now is the skill set of capacity and resilience and of agility.Honestly, Doctor David, this has been more helpful to me in business than anything I learned on Wall street. Anything I learned in a book. The emotional regulation and the interpersonal effectiveness, have by far been the things that have helped me more in my business, in my career than anything else. And bringing that back from like pie in the sky, I guess, pun intended. But to say, like, those two things can be true in an interpersonal relationship. Like, I can be really pissed at you, or I can feel pissed at you, but also love you at the same time. Or like I can have a deal fall through, but also feel like in a good place in my business. And those opposing things can both be true at the same time. And that has really, really helped me effectively navigate challenges in business.Oh, it's so powerful. I call this the idea of bothness. When I was very little, I was petrified of the idea of death. And it's normal. Five year old children become aware of their own mortality and they stop recognizing that their parents aren't going to be around forever. And I remember night after night after night, going into my father's room and lying between my mom and my dad, begging my father, saying to him, daddy, daddy, daddy, promise me you'll never die. And my father could have done forced, false positivity. He could have said to me, don't worry, Susan, everything's fine, you know, everything's good. But he didn't. He said to me, Susie, we all die. I, it's normal to be scared. And what I understood, and this is this idea of bothness, what I understood in the way that he was guiding me through those long dark nights is he was saying to me, you can intrapersonally be fearful, be worried, be scared, and you can hold that in your one hand, and in the other hand you can move forward with your courage and your values and your curiosity. And that is interpersonally in our organizations, in our workplaces, can we hold the idea that there is change and we don't like it or that there's a team that we don't feel connected with?Can we hold that idea and also move forward to have the conversation, to create an environment that we want to create, to use our voice, because it's connected with our values? If we can hold both, then we hold our power not from a place of fear, but from a place of being grounded in the reality of the world as it is.And you've said that that conversation with your father happened years before cancer was on the radar.Yes. So I had that conversation with my father night after night and neither of us knew that in ten years he would be gone. And this is how I came to my work. Because after my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and did die, the world around me was telling me to just be positive, to push it aside. They were praising me for being strong and I needed to refine my lesson. And the lesson was that lesson of showing up to the self, the lesson of the teacher who was willing to witness me and to give me space for the truth of my emotional experience. The labeling of the emotion, the understanding that I could simultaneously never in a million years wanted my father to die. I could hold that in the one hand and I could move forward holding in the other hand learning and empathy that I develop for others. And I started to culturally think about, like, what are the ways that we are taught or not taught in our society to deal with the most important part of ourselves, our inner worlds? How are we taught or not taught? And how are those ways actually undermining our wellbeing, not just as individuals, but in our communities, in our families?Because when we in a world that feels pain and we have individuals who don't know how to deal with that pain in healthy ways, we become leaders who don't deal with others in ways that are compassionate. We become leaders who don't have organizations that are healthy. We see the devastation around us. And my mission in life is the practical, powerful skills that can help us to move forward in ways that are healthy.Yeah, because it's going to come back at some point. My father died when I was eleven. And I'll never forget going to the funeral in the morning and then going to the second half of school. So I didn't miss the rest of the school day at that time. I was like, okay, it's fine. And people were like, where were you? I was like, oh, she said, my father's funeral. I didn't know that that was not a thing that like, maybe take the whole day off. And obviously it came back to bite me years later because it will. Even when you suppress it, it's going to come out not in an opportune time. When I was at CNN or something like, this is not the time to be mourning something I should have dealt with when I was eleven.You know, psychologists call this amplification, and it's this idea that when we suppress difficult feelings, there is a short term impact and a long term impact really what this means is we push our feelings down. We push them down. We push them down, and then we are more likely to kick the dog, yell at our child,. And your parent, with the best of intentions might say something like, oh, don't worry, I'll play with you.You know, your parent is heartbroken that you've been rejected at school. What that parent is often signaling is that there's no space for sadness in our house, that we've just got to be happy. And again, you'll be less practice. So to come back to your question. I don't really like to make too much of gender differences around emotions because there is a lot of nuance and there's a lot of individuality in terms of the families that we grew up in. However, what we have found in a number of studies is that boys tend to have far more conversations with parents and caregivers, where parents will say things like, what did you do at school today? Okay, what did you do? And so what that really leads to is a situation where boys are much more about being task oriented and compartmentalizing emotions. It's about what I do. It's not about how I feel. How I feel is going to. It's about what I do. And so what this often leads to is disconnect with emotions. And over time, what this can lead to is, in financial spending, is things like not understanding that I'm unhappy, not understanding that I'm actually buying this thing because it's connected with unhappiness.It becomes much more that my unhappiness in a financial way becomes much more targeted in task. I buy this thing and I feel better. I watch Netflix and I feel better. So there's a task orientation. We know with girls, there's much more conversation around. How did you feel today? How did you feel when no one would connect with you? How did you feel when you were the last person invited to the group? And what this can often lead to in females, again, I don't like making too much of it, is getting stuck in difficult emotions, ruminating, dwelling on those difficult emotions and still making choices. But those choices are often from a place of love to know if you have a tip that anyone can use to invest in themselves or help with financial anxiety.I think the most important aspect of mind work is the recognition that most financial choices are impacted by our emotions. So if you slow down and you say to yourself, what's really going on for me? What's happening for me? And is this connected with my values and who I want to be in the long term, workable way of being in the world? You will be both richer in your bank account, but also richer as a human being. Patient, compassionate and wise.And that's what we advocate, living a rich life in all aspects of the world. Thank you, doctor David.Thank you for having me.Money rehab is a production of Money News Network.I'm your host, Nicole Lapin. Money rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes. Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions. Money rehaboneyoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answer it on the show or even have a one on one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram on Tiktokoneynewsnetwork for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important.Investment you can make.Money rehabbers, you have money hidden in your house? Yeah, just hiding there in plain sight. Okay, so I don't mean you have gold bars hidden somewhere in walls, treasure map style, but you do have a money making opportunity that you're just leaving on the table if you're not hosting on Airbnb, it's one of my all time favorite side hustles. By hosting your space, you are monetizing what you already own.It doesn't get easier than that.For me, hosting on Airbnb has always been a no brainer. When I first signed up, I remember thinking to myself, self, you pay a lot of money for your house. It is time that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it, and your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com. host.

a parent and a business person and an author and a loved one and a human that we have multiples that we can have within us. So if we think about then the language that we use with emotions, what we do is the opposite. We say something like, I am angry. And if we think of what we are doing psychologically, there is no space between you and the emotion. In other words, I am or one of me, 100% of me is defined by my anger. There's no space for anything else. There's no space that beautiful Victor Frankl between stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space is our power to choose. One of the ways that I think about this is imagine for every single person listening right now. Imagine when you say, I'm sad, it's almost like there is a cloud in the sky. And when you say, I am sad, it's as if you have become the cloud. Okay? But when you start saying something like, I'm noticing that I'm feeling sad, I'm noticing that this is my thought, that I'm not good enough.

When you start noticing your thoughts, your stories and your emotions for what they are, you create this space. What starts to happen is you start recognizing that you are not the cloud. You are the sky. What I mean by this is, as a human being, every one of us is big enough and capacious and able and human and messy and beautiful enough to experience all of your emotions. Getting back to your DBT, the bothness of our emotional experience.

Yeah, I was going to say that because you can be the sky and you can have a cloud and a rainbow and, like, some lightning over somewhere else. And that had helped me so much to hold these two seemingly opposing things true at the same time. It was something that I'd never done. Family was really fucked up and didn't teach me any of that.

It is so powerful. You know, you are not the cloud. You are the whole damn sky. And when we said, you know, why are these skills so important? If we think about emotional rigidity, emotional rigidity, the emotion is bad. I'm locking down into it, I'm pushing it away. And therefore, I don't have the skills to help me to deal with the world as it is. Whereas when we start having skills that we're talking about, the compassion, the labeling, the noticing, these thoughts and feelings for what they are, the bothness, the connecting with values, these are just what I've listed. Here are five skills that are accessible to every single person. Listening. What you're doing is you're now moving from rigidity into why I call my work emotional agility. Because emotional agility is the idea that we can, all of us, experience all of our difficult emotions and circumstances and our stories, and we can notice them lightly, with compassion, with curiosity, and we can still choose who we want to be. And this now is the skill set of capacity and resilience and of agility.

Honestly, Doctor David, this has been more helpful to me in business than anything I learned on Wall street. Anything I learned in a book. The emotional regulation and the interpersonal effectiveness, have by far been the things that have helped me more in my business, in my career than anything else. And bringing that back from like pie in the sky, I guess, pun intended. But to say, like, those two things can be true in an interpersonal relationship. Like, I can be really pissed at you, or I can feel pissed at you, but also love you at the same time. Or like I can have a deal fall through, but also feel like in a good place in my business. And those opposing things can both be true at the same time. And that has really, really helped me effectively navigate challenges in business.

Oh, it's so powerful. I call this the idea of bothness. When I was very little, I was petrified of the idea of death. And it's normal. Five year old children become aware of their own mortality and they stop recognizing that their parents aren't going to be around forever. And I remember night after night after night, going into my father's room and lying between my mom and my dad, begging my father, saying to him, daddy, daddy, daddy, promise me you'll never die. And my father could have done forced, false positivity. He could have said to me, don't worry, Susan, everything's fine, you know, everything's good. But he didn't. He said to me, Susie, we all die. I, it's normal to be scared. And what I understood, and this is this idea of bothness, what I understood in the way that he was guiding me through those long dark nights is he was saying to me, you can intrapersonally be fearful, be worried, be scared, and you can hold that in your one hand, and in the other hand you can move forward with your courage and your values and your curiosity. And that is interpersonally in our organizations, in our workplaces, can we hold the idea that there is change and we don't like it or that there's a team that we don't feel connected with?

Can we hold that idea and also move forward to have the conversation, to create an environment that we want to create, to use our voice, because it's connected with our values? If we can hold both, then we hold our power not from a place of fear, but from a place of being grounded in the reality of the world as it is.

And you've said that that conversation with your father happened years before cancer was on the radar.

Yes. So I had that conversation with my father night after night and neither of us knew that in ten years he would be gone. And this is how I came to my work. Because after my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and did die, the world around me was telling me to just be positive, to push it aside. They were praising me for being strong and I needed to refine my lesson. And the lesson was that lesson of showing up to the self, the lesson of the teacher who was willing to witness me and to give me space for the truth of my emotional experience. The labeling of the emotion, the understanding that I could simultaneously never in a million years wanted my father to die. I could hold that in the one hand and I could move forward holding in the other hand learning and empathy that I develop for others. And I started to culturally think about, like, what are the ways that we are taught or not taught in our society to deal with the most important part of ourselves, our inner worlds? How are we taught or not taught? And how are those ways actually undermining our wellbeing, not just as individuals, but in our communities, in our families?

Because when we in a world that feels pain and we have individuals who don't know how to deal with that pain in healthy ways, we become leaders who don't deal with others in ways that are compassionate. We become leaders who don't have organizations that are healthy. We see the devastation around us. And my mission in life is the practical, powerful skills that can help us to move forward in ways that are healthy.

Yeah, because it's going to come back at some point. My father died when I was eleven. And I'll never forget going to the funeral in the morning and then going to the second half of school. So I didn't miss the rest of the school day at that time. I was like, okay, it's fine. And people were like, where were you? I was like, oh, she said, my father's funeral. I didn't know that that was not a thing that like, maybe take the whole day off. And obviously it came back to bite me years later because it will. Even when you suppress it, it's going to come out not in an opportune time. When I was at CNN or something like, this is not the time to be mourning something I should have dealt with when I was eleven.

You know, psychologists call this amplification, and it's this idea that when we suppress difficult feelings, there is a short term impact and a long term impact really what this means is we push our feelings down. We push them down. We push them down, and then we are more likely to kick the dog, yell at our child,. And your parent, with the best of intentions might say something like, oh, don't worry, I'll play with you.You know, your parent is heartbroken that you've been rejected at school. What that parent is often signaling is that there's no space for sadness in our house, that we've just got to be happy. And again, you'll be less practice. So to come back to your question. I don't really like to make too much of gender differences around emotions because there is a lot of nuance and there's a lot of individuality in terms of the families that we grew up in. However, what we have found in a number of studies is that boys tend to have far more conversations with parents and caregivers, where parents will say things like, what did you do at school today? Okay, what did you do? And so what that really leads to is a situation where boys are much more about being task oriented and compartmentalizing emotions. It's about what I do. It's not about how I feel. How I feel is going to. It's about what I do. And so what this often leads to is disconnect with emotions. And over time, what this can lead to is, in financial spending, is things like not understanding that I'm unhappy, not understanding that I'm actually buying this thing because it's connected with unhappiness.It becomes much more that my unhappiness in a financial way becomes much more targeted in task. I buy this thing and I feel better. I watch Netflix and I feel better. So there's a task orientation. We know with girls, there's much more conversation around. How did you feel today? How did you feel when no one would connect with you? How did you feel when you were the last person invited to the group? And what this can often lead to in females, again, I don't like making too much of it, is getting stuck in difficult emotions, ruminating, dwelling on those difficult emotions and still making choices. But those choices are often from a place of love to know if you have a tip that anyone can use to invest in themselves or help with financial anxiety.I think the most important aspect of mind work is the recognition that most financial choices are impacted by our emotions. So if you slow down and you say to yourself, what's really going on for me? What's happening for me? And is this connected with my values and who I want to be in the long term, workable way of being in the world? You will be both richer in your bank account, but also richer as a human being. Patient, compassionate and wise.And that's what we advocate, living a rich life in all aspects of the world. Thank you, doctor David.Thank you for having me.Money rehab is a production of Money News Network.I'm your host, Nicole Lapin. Money rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes. Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions. Money rehaboneyoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answer it on the show or even have a one on one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram on Tiktokoneynewsnetwork for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important.Investment you can make.Money rehabbers, you have money hidden in your house? Yeah, just hiding there in plain sight. Okay, so I don't mean you have gold bars hidden somewhere in walls, treasure map style, but you do have a money making opportunity that you're just leaving on the table if you're not hosting on Airbnb, it's one of my all time favorite side hustles. By hosting your space, you are monetizing what you already own.It doesn't get easier than that.For me, hosting on Airbnb has always been a no brainer. When I first signed up, I remember thinking to myself, self, you pay a lot of money for your house. It is time that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it, and your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com. host.

. And your parent, with the best of intentions might say something like, oh, don't worry, I'll play with you.

You know, your parent is heartbroken that you've been rejected at school. What that parent is often signaling is that there's no space for sadness in our house, that we've just got to be happy. And again, you'll be less practice. So to come back to your question. I don't really like to make too much of gender differences around emotions because there is a lot of nuance and there's a lot of individuality in terms of the families that we grew up in. However, what we have found in a number of studies is that boys tend to have far more conversations with parents and caregivers, where parents will say things like, what did you do at school today? Okay, what did you do? And so what that really leads to is a situation where boys are much more about being task oriented and compartmentalizing emotions. It's about what I do. It's not about how I feel. How I feel is going to. It's about what I do. And so what this often leads to is disconnect with emotions. And over time, what this can lead to is, in financial spending, is things like not understanding that I'm unhappy, not understanding that I'm actually buying this thing because it's connected with unhappiness.

It becomes much more that my unhappiness in a financial way becomes much more targeted in task. I buy this thing and I feel better. I watch Netflix and I feel better. So there's a task orientation. We know with girls, there's much more conversation around. How did you feel today? How did you feel when no one would connect with you? How did you feel when you were the last person invited to the group? And what this can often lead to in females, again, I don't like making too much of it, is getting stuck in difficult emotions, ruminating, dwelling on those difficult emotions and still making choices. But those choices are often from a place of love to know if you have a tip that anyone can use to invest in themselves or help with financial anxiety.I think the most important aspect of mind work is the recognition that most financial choices are impacted by our emotions. So if you slow down and you say to yourself, what's really going on for me? What's happening for me? And is this connected with my values and who I want to be in the long term, workable way of being in the world? You will be both richer in your bank account, but also richer as a human being. Patient, compassionate and wise.And that's what we advocate, living a rich life in all aspects of the world. Thank you, doctor David.Thank you for having me.Money rehab is a production of Money News Network.I'm your host, Nicole Lapin. Money rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes. Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions. Money rehaboneyoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answer it on the show or even have a one on one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram on Tiktokoneynewsnetwork for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important.Investment you can make.Money rehabbers, you have money hidden in your house? Yeah, just hiding there in plain sight. Okay, so I don't mean you have gold bars hidden somewhere in walls, treasure map style, but you do have a money making opportunity that you're just leaving on the table if you're not hosting on Airbnb, it's one of my all time favorite side hustles. By hosting your space, you are monetizing what you already own.It doesn't get easier than that.For me, hosting on Airbnb has always been a no brainer. When I first signed up, I remember thinking to myself, self, you pay a lot of money for your house. It is time that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it, and your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com. host.

love to know if you have a tip that anyone can use to invest in themselves or help with financial anxiety.

I think the most important aspect of mind work is the recognition that most financial choices are impacted by our emotions. So if you slow down and you say to yourself, what's really going on for me? What's happening for me? And is this connected with my values and who I want to be in the long term, workable way of being in the world? You will be both richer in your bank account, but also richer as a human being. Patient, compassionate and wise.

And that's what we advocate, living a rich life in all aspects of the world. Thank you, doctor David.

Thank you for having me.

Money rehab is a production of Money News Network.

I'm your host, Nicole Lapin. Money rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes. Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions. Money rehaboneyoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answer it on the show or even have a one on one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram on Tiktokoneynewsnetwork for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important.

Investment you can make.

Money rehabbers, you have money hidden in your house? Yeah, just hiding there in plain sight. Okay, so I don't mean you have gold bars hidden somewhere in walls, treasure map style, but you do have a money making opportunity that you're just leaving on the table if you're not hosting on Airbnb, it's one of my all time favorite side hustles. By hosting your space, you are monetizing what you already own.

It doesn't get easier than that.

For me, hosting on Airbnb has always been a no brainer. When I first signed up, I remember thinking to myself, self, you pay a lot of money for your house. It is time that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it, and your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much@airbnb.com. host.