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We look through the lens of what I want, this is about acquiring things. And the problem is that when that is your focus, those things become very important because that defines who you are, you believe, and it results in only a very shallow sense of happiness and one that's quite transitory. You have to keep feeding that machine versus eudamanic happiness, which I believe most people want to aspire to. And that is having a sense of purpose and meaning in your life that drives your behavior. And that is a type of happiness. It's not as exhilarating necessarily as hedonic happiness, but it is very deep. And it is one that supports you in the sense that when you just think about who you are as a human being, what you have accomplished, what you've done to improve other people's lives, it gives this very warm, deep, calming feeling, and I think that's what everyone ultimately strives for.

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I am absolutely thrilled and honored to welcome doctor Jim Doty to the Passion Struck podcast. Welcome Jim.

It's great to be with you John, thank you for having me and actually I'm looking forward to our conversation.

Jim, I want to start with your backstory. You had a really tough childhood. You even say that life felt like a punishment or a curse. Your father was an alcoholic and your mom suffered a stroke. Neither was able to give you the attention that you deserved. How did that impact your self esteem and self perception to the idea that external forces controlled your fate?

Well, I think unfortunately that is the tendency of people to feel that way, that you have no control, you don't have any agency, and of course with that type of background, my mother was chronically depressed, attempted suicide, we were on public assistance. It really is quite hard to expect that somehow in that type of an environment you're going to believe you have any self agency because you don't feel you have any control. And in fact it's a chaotic situation. You never know what's going to happen next. So your threat mode is always turned on, which of course makes you tense and you're always waiting for the unexpected. So it's also hard to focus. And this is why so many children from these types of backgrounds actually are not able to succeed in life. They don't have the tools, they don't have the guidance. And unfortunately now it's called adverse childhood experiences. A lot of these people, unfortunately become addicted to drugs or alcohol or have mental health issues. Now, of course, there's also a few that quote unquote succeed, but unfortunately for a number of them, it's from the perspective of nobody cared about me, I had to fight to survive, and I don't have to help anybody because nobody helped me.

And of course, I'm the antithesis of that, actually.

Thank you for that, Jim. I understand that when you were around twelve, you met a woman named Ruth at a magic shop. Can you tell us how her mentorship started to change your life?

Well, as we were talking about at that age, I had this sense of hopelessness and despair. What's sad for a lot of children is when they're in that type of environment, oftentimes they blame themselves that somehow I did something that caused this, which is a type of baggage which of course, nobody wants to carry with them, but unfortunately, a lot of people do. And when you don't have access to mentors, if you don't have access to the resources necessary to get over the hump, if you will, or these types of disadvantages, it's very hard and often disempowering. What happened was that I ended up at this magic shop because I had an interest in magic. But in this particular case, what happened was when my parents would get into arguments or there would be significant chaos at my house, I would get on my bike and ride as far and as fast away as possible. And in this particular instance, I ended up at a strip mall where there was, in fact, a magic shot. Now, the interesting thing about that interaction with her was that this is a person who had this radiance about them, this smile that just made you feel comfortable.

And the type of interaction wasn't one, which oftentimes in the context of going into a store and you see a kid who is either shy or clearly disadvantaged, where you're looking down on them, you're suspicious. You don't know what they're going to do. This lady treated me like an equal. She looked me in the eye and she created what I would call a sense of psychological safety. And when that happens, actually, your threat mode is diminished and you feel okay. And in this context, her and I began having a conversation. And after about 20 minutes, she said to me, I really like you. I'm here this Summer for another six weeks, and if you show up every day, I'll teach you something that could, I think, really help you and that led to her interacting with me every day for about an hour and a half to 2 hours. And it was profound, because what happened was she taught me a technique of meditation or mindfulness. And of course, at that time, which was in the late sixties, this terminology was not used at all. And in fact, to my knowledge, nobody was using these types of techniques.

And the other aspect was ultimately she taught me a manifestation practice. And the combination of the two of those in many ways liberated me because I had this mindset. And if you want to call it a limiting BElieF, that I was not worthy, did not deserve, or I couldn't achieve what I wanted to.

That story is from your first book into the MAGIC Shop, a neurosurgeon's QUesT to discover the mysteries of the BraiN and the secrets of the heart. In that book, you describe a number of tricks that Ruth ended up giving to you. Can you discuss the one that's about how to reframe your situation?

That's interesting, because all of us carry a perception of ourselves, and whether it's true or not is irrelevant because your brain doesn't process things that way. But for many people, especially in a situation like mine, you have an inner critic which is repeatedly telling you're not worthy, or you don't deserve love, or it's not possible. And what I thought was that was truth. But what I ultimately learned is that, by the way, in which we evolved as a species, we have this negativity bias. And what I mean by that is that as we evolved as a species, the most important thing was our survival. So we are highly attuned to situations which put us at risk. So we turn to negativity. And this is why, of course, you don't see tv shows or let's say the news doesn't focus on positivity, it focuses on negativity because that's what you naturally turn to, because that's what puts your life at risk, or at least how we evolved as a species. But we also have a tendency to take that reality and then turn it in on ourselves and process this narrative that tells us that we're not good enough or we're not worthy.

And it's a side effect of that. And I know from talking to so many people that this essentially affects everyone to greater or lesser degrees. And certainly at that time, that was a big voice in my head, and she taught me a way to look at the world in a different way. And part of that was to realize that was not truth and that I was limiting my beliefs and in some ways, creating a prison for myself that I was building. And the walls got higher and the room got darker, and which, of course, aggravated my lack of belief in myself. And so she taught me to look at the world through a different lens. And once I was, if you will, kind to myself, it actually changed how I saw the world, which was actually through the lens now of compassion, recognizing that everyone is suffering and that all of us should focus on how we can relieve the suffering of others. Because when we can get out of our own heads and stop ruminating on our situation and see that others are suffering, they can be extraordinarily powerful. As the Dalai Lama has said, if you want to make others happy, be compassionate.

If you want to be happy, be compassionate.

Yes. It rings so true. It reminds me of the work that Dacre Keltner does at UC Berkeley.

He's a good friend of mine.

I absolutely loved his book awe, and having him on the podcast, and we talked about how he discovered in his research that we find awe most often when we are observing or performing acts of service.

No. And in fact, as you probably know, I have my own podcast called into the Magic Shop, shockingly. But actually, Dacre and I had a conversation about that exact same thing. And it's interesting. You may or may not know Karen Armstrong. And Karen won the Ted prize in 2008. She's our former nun, and she's written a number of books about, actually, religion. But what she did when she won the Tet prize was that she actually met with 19 spiritual and religious leaders. And at the core, fundamentally, of every religion is compassion. And again, so many things that have spanned thousands of years are actually what has been learned experientially. And in the case of religion, oftentimes dogma wrapped around it. But it also supports many truths that have now been proven by neuroscience, and that is that when you're kind and compassionate, when you're thoughtful towards others, this actually stimulates the release of oxytocin and other neurotransmitters, which actually stimulate the reward centers or pleasure centers in our brains and makes us feel better when we care. But more importantly, it also shifts from our threat mode, or stimulation of our sympathetic nervous system to stimulate our parasympathetic nervous system, which is our rest and digest system.

But in this mode, we're open, we're thoughtful, we're caring. Our creativity, our productivity is increased because we have access to this part of our brain called the executive control network. And that's like the CEO of making things happen. But also is the part that responds to caring and thoughtfulness when it is, if you will, activated in its best way.

In your new book, Mind Magic, the Neuroscience of Manifestation and how it changes everything. You tell the story of a woman named Anula, where you describe how her chronic anxiety and overwhelming stress hindered her ability to focus and manifest her intentions. From the neuroscience perspective that you were just bringing up, can you describe how mental states like anxiety disrupt the functional connectivity within the brain's large scale networks that are actually crucial for manifestation?

Sure. So, as I was saying, if you look from an evolutionary perspective, our physiology works its best when you're kind and thoughtful, when you care. Now, what do I mean by that? You have to understand that as a species, we're one of the few where our offspring don't run off into the forest or the jungle. We actually have to care for them for well over a decade. Well, of course, that costs in terms of time and resources, and that's why we have a genetic imperative to care. Well, what stimulates us to care? When we care, we release these neurotransmitters, which fill us with pleasure. We're happy, we feel good about ourselves. But it also shifts, again, as I said, from engagement of our sympathetic or threat mode, our sympathetic nervous system, to our parasympathetic nervous system. But this has a huge effect on these large cognitive brain networks, and many people don't appreciate that. Understanding how these work actually can be extraordinarily powerful in actually self agency or a manifestation. As an example, when your stress mode is stimulated, your sympathetic nervous system, it actually limits your ability to have access to the executive control network.

But it also does other things. As an example, we have an area or cognitive network in our brain called the default mode network. And when we're mind wandering or daydreaming, this actually is focused on self referential knowledge, who we are, but also aspect of daydreaming. It is creating narratives about who we want to be or what's possible. When the sympathetic nervous system is stimulated, this oftentimes leads to rumination or this negative self talk, which then has a detrimental effect on the other three, and what we call task positive networks, which are the executive control network, what we call the salience network, and the attention network. So if you start out with this rumination or negative aspects, it can limit your ability to manifest. But the other aspect about it is that the nature of what our western society calls success, which oftentimes is translated into wealth, power, position, for many people, is an aspiration, but oftentimes it's an aspiration based on fear and insecurity. You want to do these things to get outside affirmation that you're okay in the context of the baggage that you carry or the experiences that you've had, or the maladaptive bonding that you've had.

That then leads to negative self talk. And so you believe, especially when you get this information as a child, you believe that if I do this, if I do that, then everybody's then going to look at me and admire me and. And give me the self affirmation. And that is going to fill the emptiness that I feel inside myself. And this is where traditional manifestation goes awry. And you look at books as an example, like the secret, which is all about I. And the problem is, and this happened to me when I was twelve. Ruth asked me to make a list of ten things that I wanted. And as a twelve year old, I was looking through that lens, and it was all about the eye. I didn't understand at that time, or at least have enough clarity to understand deeply that I could get all the I stuff, but it wouldn't fill me. And so on that list, it was, I wanted to have a mansion. I wanted to drive a Porsche. I wanted a Rolex watch. I wanted a million dollars. And ultimately, I manifested every one of those things. And imagine here I had a house overlooking the ocean in Newport beach, on a bluff.

I had a penthouse in San Francisco at the top of a building. I had my private elevator. I had a villa in Florence. I had a Porsche, Ferrari, a Range Rover, BMW, Mercedes in my garage. I was dating all these beautiful women, and all my friends were telling me what a great life I had and how, wow, you've done so much. Yet I was never more miserable than at any other time in my life. And the reason was because it was all centered around me, and it was all centered around trying to fill the void and the insecurity and the shame that I carried. And ultimately, I reflected and then realized that the way to make these brain networks work their best, actually, is if you focus on being of service or caring for others. And two things happen. One is when that is your focus, you shift from what you think you want to understand at a very deep level what you need.

Thank you for that, Jim. I want to explore that just a bit further. How do you feel that what you just described relates to Henry David Thoreau's famous words, quiet desperation, that I feel so many people are feeling today?

Well, I think it very much relates because in some ways, you're lost and you're trying to understand what is it that I'm missing, or what is the destination where I need to be going. And oftentimes we don't have a mentor, a guide to help us get there, and then we go and choose the wrong path. And then, of course, as I described for myself, I went down this path and it was a dead end in terms of fulfillment. And in many ways, this relates to this concept of hedonic happiness versus eudamanic happiness. And what I mean by that is, when we look through the lens of what I want, this is about acquiring things. And the problem is that when that is your focus, those things become very important, because that defines who you are, you believe, and it results in only a very shallow sense of happiness, and one that's quite transitory. You have to keep feeding that machine, versus eudamanic happiness, which I believe most people want to aspire to. And that is having a sense of purpose and meaning in your life that drives your behavior. And that is a type of happiness.

It's not as exhilarating necessarily as hedonic happiness, but it is very deep. And it is one that supports you in the sense that when you just think about who you are as a human being, what you have accomplished, what you've done to improve other people's lives, it gives this very warm, deep, calming feeling. And I think that's what everyone ultimately strives for. And it's not that the acquisition of stuff is horrible. Listen, I certainly appreciate nice things. I like living in a nice house. I like being able to do what I want to do in the sense of having freedom, but that requires financial resources. I am in no way condemning somebody, working hard to achieve. Again, what our modern society says is success. In fact, I drive a porsche. The point, though, is, and the big difference is none of those things define who I am as a person. And what I mean by that is, while I enjoy them, they're wonderful, they're fantastic. I have no attachment to them. If they are all gone tomorrow, I will wake up having gratitude, feeling incredibly happy and thankful that I have been able to do what I've been able to do in this world, and it's okay not to have them anymore.

And that's the difference, because a lot of people, their identity, their ego is so defined by things that they're terrified of what will happen if they lose them. And I think that's the big difference. That's the big insight. And that, in fact, is the change in perspective which actually allows you to maximally manifest a life and one that you can be proud of.

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You and I have different careers, but share a very similar story. I was also on a rocket ship in my professional career. Like you, I prescribed myself to a single minded, unrelenting path of material achievement driven by the prodding of my inner critic. Therefore, I really liked in the book how you used the analogy that the life that you were leading was like a heart blockage, where the common treatment is angioplasty, which only provides temporary relief. You use that analogy to describe how what you really need to be focused on is the ignorance about habitual behaviors and emotional distress that are causing the plaque in your heart in the first place.

It's very true. And the problem is that the behaviors that we're taught as an example, this striving for achievement which we're talking about for yourself, in some ways we get programmed on that under this false belief that if we just get that, everything's going to be fine. And in some ways it also relates to buddhist philosophy that attachment and craving are the source of all suffering. But the problem of course, is, as you were just noting with this metaphor, is that unfortunately we always try to take the easy way out and meaning that your brain is lazy oftentimes and takes what's familiar versus the unknown. But when you keep doing the familiar, you keep getting these heart blockages if you will. The cholesterol, if you will, keeps building up. And then you have to keep going back for this temporary procedure. And you could say that the acquisition of things cleans the arteries, you think? But the problem is you keep clogging them again with things, versus in some ways, it's like changing your diet and understanding that the things, or chasing things only leads to narrowing of your arteries. That will require an intervention, versus if you actually change your diet, well, then the arteries not only will clear, but they will stay open.

And that is the changing of your diet. From the perspective of I want to, how can I be of service? And that is a very powerful thing. And it is truly an analogy or metaphor that does represent this oath.

Jim, I think that is a great one. And an analogy that I often use is that of the kitchen stool. And I talk about this as if my life has been two different kitchen stools. My previous kitchen stool that I was sitting on had multiple supports, but there was one that was much larger than the other supports underneath it. And that was the constant grind that I was living in. And then I decided that I had a choice. I could create my ideal life, which consisted of doing different supports underneath my stool that were in balance. And I chose those supports to be things like physical health, emotional health, mental health, spiritual health, relationship health, financial health. And then I started to manifest. How do I go from the actual self, where I was at, to this new version that I pictured in this new stool, with these different supports that were in harmony with each other? And I bring this up because manifestation can be a tricky thing. A lot of people don't want to believe in it. And you mention in the book about the unfortunate misunderstandings surrounding manifestation that are often skewed towards materialism.

How does your approach, in magic mind, aim to correct these misconceptions and realign the practice with more meaningful life outcomes?

Well, what we were talking about earlier, in some ways about religion, through hundreds, if not thousands of years, through repeated experience, there are certain truths that we have learned that are deeply embedded in us. But because of our lack of knowledge, we wrap a dogma around them. And so what we find is that things, as an example, like manifestation, they do have a kernel of truth to them, but it is wrapped around what you could call, or pseudoscience. As an example, if you look back to a term that's frequently associated with the moose side of manifestation, it's this law of attraction which began in the first and second century ad with the hermetics, who had this concept of what's above connects with what's below. And this was looking for something outside of yourself, or some sort of magic or power or omniscient being that will judge you worthy, and then you get what you want. If you're only aligned with, quote unquote, the universe. Of course, the problem with that is on some level you can actually beat yourself up, or it creates a negative because you're saying, well, it didn't happen, therefore I'm the problem.

And of course, that's not true at all. The reality is that the universe could care less about you. What we don't understand is the power within ourselves to change our lives. And this power is extraordinarily powerful, and we have to reclaim our agency. As an example, I was telling you about, I kept looking outside for the universe to make me whole, or these external affirmations. And the reality, as you have learned and I have learned, is that you are the only person who can make you happy. But what the interesting paradox is, you're the only person that can make you happy. But you have to then look outside of yourself for those actions and interactions in the world and with others that will give you that gift of happiness. And you can understand how powerful that is. A minute ago we were talking about goals, aspirations, or attachment to a goal. And the problem with that, as you were pointing out for yourself, your existence was based on this stool that was held up by this belief that to make you whole was to accomplish. The problem with that is in many ways that is an I or me focused narrative.

And the problem is, when you're so attached to attaining those goals or climbing that mountain, it comes at an extraordinary cost. And often that cost is lack of relationship with those around you, your loved ones. And this is why often so many people who have been so driven have been through multiple divorces, they don't know how to have relationships, because everything about them is focused on the me I want and this false narrative that if I get it, then everything suddenly is going to be perfect. And it doesn't happen. Because the power of these achievements actually must be looked at in the context of by achieving this one, how does it benefit the greater world, but also understanding that on that path, it's not the end point, it is the path itself. And it is on that path where you develop relationships, connections. And we know from looking, as an example, at the blue zones, where these villages are places in the world where people live routinely over 100, which represents how we lived a few hundred years ago, or a few thousand years ago, or the work that's been done at Harvard over the last 85 years on the adult development study, which many people call the happiness longevity study.

What we know is that the way to decrease engagement of our sympathetic nervous system, our flight, fight or fear response, is through what? It's through connection. It's through support from others. It's from depth of relationships. When you have that, that shifts you from engagement of your stress mode to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system, which is that system, when one is engaged, makes you happy and fulfilled because you're caring for others, but it also makes your physiology work its best. So when I said earlier that attachment or craving or this desire that goes deep into you to achieve, when that is what you're focused on, that in and of itself is going to create suffering. There's nothing wrong with having the goal. It's what you're attaching to the goal and its importance. And if the cost of achieving that goal is at the sacrifice of everything else, what is it that you've done and why are you doing that?

That's a really enlightening way to think about it. Jim, I recently had Angela Duckworth on the show where we were discussing West Point, and I wanted to use this as an opportunity to thank you for your army service.

Well, yes, and same to you. I actually have to say my experience in the military, and it may be counter to other people's, was an extraordinary gift for me. It allowed me to go to medical school without a huge financing of it. It allowed me to learn something about life and about myself. And in many ways, what happened there actually was even a gift in regard to manifesting not only obtaining my residency, but also actually being stationed in Honolulu for my tour. And so I am very proud of my service and very happy and thankful that I had the opportunity to serve.

Thank you for sharing that and going back to Angela Duckworth. For those of you who are unfamiliar with her book grit, she starts it out by talking about cadets at West Point and what allowed them to have the fortitude to get through beast barracks. I have to go through the naval Academy, which is very similar. And in our interview, I was talking to her about passion and perseverance, which are the two ingredients that she say relate to grit. And I told her that I thought from my own time at the Naval Academy that those were two extremely important things. But I thought she was missing the core concept of intentionality, which to me is all about manifesting the life that you want. It's really understanding when your life is not going in the direction that you want it to and course correcting yourself back onto the right path. To me, this is very similar, the behavior science that Angela studies on self control. I wanted to ask you, Jim, is this the same way that you look at this interplay between intentionality and passion and perseverance?

Absolutely. It's funny, I just had a conversation. I don't know if you know a woman by the name of Kyra Bobinette, and she's a physician, but she also used to be the chief wellness officer at Aetna, which is, of course, a large insurance company. But we were having this conversation, and again, as you were talking about what Angela has promoted, unless you have a mindset that understands these other aspects, and in some ways what Kyra talks about is an iterative mindset, then you can get lost. And I think that's an important insight, and I think that's one of the things that's missing. Because, again, if you look at the popular narrative, also of the woo woo pseudoscience aspect of manifestation, especially as promoted by the secret, it's a very self serving aspect. And yes, you can achieve, but if you're standing on the mountain by yourself alone with nothing else, what is it that you've achieved?

I absolutely love that Jim and I wanted to go through some of the steps in your book. There are a total of six of them. And as I mentioned to you before we came on the show, my new book, which came out in February, titled Passion Struck, is very complimentary to your book. Your first step, you, title, reclaim your power to focus your mind. In my book, I had a very similar principle to that, which is actually the last principle that I outline in the book called conscious engager. This chapter is really about how to make the main thing, the main thing in your life. And I feel like you do that by intentionally focusing on the main thing in your life that you want to manifest. Can you describe what you're relating to in this step?

Well, I think there are a couple aspects that intersect with that step. One of them is to understand what you have been manifesting. And I think this is necessary to really look at your life in its totality to that point. And we were talking about adverse childhood experiences and trauma from childhood. What so many people don't appreciate is that those experiences become baggage that we carry throughout our lives and become patterns of behavior that, on one hand, could be very good if the circumstances are there, but also one that can be very self limiting in terms of your belief and possibilities. And I'm sure you're aware of the fact where people will sit there and say they're trying to examine their life and they'll say, gosh, I don't understand it. I've been married three times and I keep marrying an alcoholic, abusive person. And you're going, why does that happen? Well, it happens because on an unconscious level, you have programmed this into the type of person you wanna be with unconsciously not knowing it. Because what happens is, as an example, if you have an abusive parent who is abusive and then comes to you and says, I really love you, though, then you get locked into this thing between love and abuse, and then that's what you keep seeking.

So one of the first things is to examine the life you're living presently and understanding what have been the barriers that have stopped you from living the life you want. And then the other side is understanding that what you've done is you've put your happiness outside of yourself. Meaning that many people from those types of backgrounds also are trying to fix people in the hopes that then they'll be fixed and then our relationship will be okay. And you have to actually also understand that when you do that, you're giving your own agency away. So you have to take your self agency back and then understand, one, why you chose the path you've chosen, but also two, what is it that you actually want to manifest?

Thank you so much, Jim. This leads me into your step two, which is similar to the first principle that I write about in my book, which is all about the concept of life. Crafting your second step in a similar way is clarifying what you want. They are both really aimed at trying to find out what it is that you want in life. How do you recommend that listeners can clarify what they truly want?

Well, I think it has to come back to actually seeing. And what I mean by that is, if you are filled with the repeating narrative of who you are as being unworthy, not worthy of love. I'm not able to do this. I'm limited. I'm not smart. Well, then you paint a picture of that and remember, your brain doesn't know the difference between truth and reality. As an example, if you were to consciously focus or visualize yourself being a weightlifter, actually your muscle mass will actually increase simply based on that belief. Now, you're not going to be Arnold Schwarzenegger because there are many more aspects of that. But my point is that you have the ability to change your brain, but you have to understand what is it you need to make you happy or to make you have the life you want. And you have to understand that if you reflect on your life, what are the things that are most powerful? And typically it is who cared about me, who gave me love, who made me feel comfortable, who gave me the gifts of their time or resources to be with me. And those are the things that are the deep things within most of us.

And when you sit there and reflect, you say, well, then, if those are the things that are the gift to me that have allowed me to achieve or feel comfortable, well, isn't that what we're here for? And isn't that what everyone wants? And then when you reframe it from this constant I want with this ultimate understanding that the I want is unhealthy for you not only in the context of your physical and mental health, but it's unhealthy for you in the context of living a full life. Because that you're always judging yourself, you're always judging others. When you let go of this attachment and see through a different lens that everyone is suffering and that you have the ability to improve the lives of others by the actions and choices you make in life, and realize that when you do so, when you're open, when you give to others, that you actually get this immense benefit back. And oftentimes it changes your perspective from one of self interest only to one of how can I be of service? And then you change what you want. And as I said, chasing the hedonic side of happiness, which is the I want things that chasing leads to a shallowness and a transience versus chasing of I want to be of service and care for others, and then I get all these other gifts.

That is powerful, it's deep and it's long lasting.

Thank you so much. Jim. The last one of your steps that I really wanted to go into, since this podcast is all about intentional behavior change, is step four. How do you recommend embedding intention into your subconscious?

And I think that's really the most important question because all of us are manifesting all the time. And in some ways it's like an individual who says, I want to be a runner, I want to run a marathon. Well, every day we get up and walk around and we could sit there and say, well, geez, I want to be a marathon runner. But one of the aspects is you have to show up and it takes work. It's not a one and done or okay, yeah, I said it. Okay. So you have to understand that if you want to manifest it takes work. Well, what is the work? One of the first aspects is understanding, and we see this in some of the woo woo neurosuedoscience stuff, of what you need to do. But again, it's wrapped in this dogma. But the first thing you have to do is clarify the intention. What is it that I want? But also how do you embed it into your subconscious? And what so many people don't understand is that who we are ultimately comes down to how we define ourselves. And if you then create an image of who you want to be and understand that 99.99% of who we are is from our sensory organs inputting information, of which all of that goes to maintaining homeostasis of the functions of our body.

But there's a small percentage of which we have the ability to consciously interact with. And the reason that's important is because there's something called value tagging. And value tagging is where you define an intention and you're able to put it into your subconscious. And this is where these other two networks come in that I mentioned earlier, the salience network and the attention network. And so once you value tag something, then it becomes important to you as an analogy, and I'll give you maybe a couple. One is, I'm sure you've been to parties that are noisy. Yet if your name is mentioned, no matter how noisy it is, you turn to that. And the reason is because who you are, your identity is deeply embedded within you. So even if it's the lowest sounding thing, you will turn to it. Another example is a few months ago, there's a project I've been working on that has been important to me that I, if you will, am attempting to manifest. I value tagged it, and I was at a coffee shop, very noisy. Yet in the din of all of that noise, I heard some words associated with that project, which then led me to interact with these two individuals who are now working with me on this project.

And the reason is that it was value tagged, and it became salient in that it became important to me. Once it became important to me, this then focused my attention network. And the two of those then resulted in empowering the executive control network, or sort of the CEO, our memories, experiences, and the drivers of making our beliefs reality to act. And so how do you embed this? Well, one of these ways is very traditional ways in which we manifest, actually, and which is in common popular culture, but it has to be for the right reason. And that is you write down your intention, you read it silently, you read it aloud. You visualize yourself in that position. And the important thing is to understand that the most critical aspect is repetition. So that by repeating it over and over, it's as if you're looking through a window that is initially fogged. But as you further and further empower your subconscious to manifest, that window gets clearer and clearer. And you mentioned Anula here. She was a student who had failed at getting into medical school, had all this self doubt. And once she shifted from why she was doing what she was doing, which initially it was in some ways self serving, she wanted to make her parents happy.

When she shifted how she looked at the world to say, I want to be a doctor. To be of service to people, which secondarily will make my parents happy, everything changed for her. She changed her perception. The window cleared. And ultimately this resulted in her, through this type of mind training, if you will, or what's outlined in the book, to develop a calmness and a sense of agency regarding her purpose. The other analogy which I use is Jim Carrey. Jim Carrey used to look at the audience, and it was, well, I'm here, and they're giving me something. And that's how he looked at this. He changed completely when he reframed it and said, I'm here to be of service, to make my audience feel better. And in some ways, another analogy, and I'm sure you're familiar with Jimmy Page of the Led Zeppelin. He used to express a great degree of anger. Because everybody wanted him to play a stairway to heaven. And he thought that these people were being selfish. And that he should have the right and they should want to listen to his latest music. But ultimately, what he understood was that song meant so much to so many people in terms of experiences they had in their lives.

That they held closely to them. And they so wanted to just hear it again from the guy who created that. And when he changed his reference points and understood that his job and actually what made him successful. Was giving people what they wanted and needed, the anger and hostility he had towards doing that dissipated. And he was actually joyful that he was able to give that gift to people.

Funny enough, the first concert that I ever attended was Led Zeppelin with my uncle when I was two years old. He put me on his shoulders for the show. When I think of a modern band in a situation like you were describing, I think of the Dave Matthews band. And I love going to see him in concert. But I have to go to four or five concerts in a row to hear him play all the songs that I want to hear exactly.

Yep.

I want to conclude today by asking you, in terms of practical application, what are some of the immediate exercises or routines that a listener can start doing today out of your new book, Mind Magic?

Well, in some ways, this very much intersects with mind training. And I think so many of us are so distracted by social media and living in this modern world that we always have this jumble of things in our heads and it's hard to focus. I think one of the first things is being able to sit quietly and calm your mind. And there are many resources, including my book, of course, that gives you a path to do so. What I think confuses so many people is, especially if you're already anxious and stressed, is this view in your head that somehow you have to sit on a mat with your palms up like this, and that's the only way you're going to get access. But the reality is you can get this without stressing yourself. Because again, this isn't a contest that you're there to win. So you have to simply relax. And whether it's standing up, whether it's lying down, whether it's walking through a forest, simply not being distracted and being with yourself and understand that's okay. And looking as you're doing this through the lens of how can I be of service? The very nature of thinking about how can I be of service to others?

How can I improve the lives of others? What magically happens is the very nature of doing that when you think about who cared for you is very calming. And then once your brain is calm, you can see the true nature of reality instead of being so distracted. And that's one you deserve. Love. You are worthy. And that you have immense power within yourself to change not only your life, but the life of so many people around you.

Jim, your book is absolutely fantastic. Thank you so much for joining me on the podcast today. And I wanted to tell the audience I highly recommend this book and that you pick up a copy.

Well, thank you, John, and really, what a gift to hang out with a fellow veteran. And thank you for your time. I do appreciate it and for all of you, I do hope you enjoy the book and I look forward to seeing you again, John, and hopefully we'll have other interactions.

Sounds fantastic. Thank you again, Jim.

Take care.

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