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I'm doing great, Dave. Thanks for taking my call.

Sure.

What's up? My question My question today is about spending a lot of money on a big trip for my family.

Cool. Sounds fun. Yeah. Do you have a lot of money?

That's the question. I retired last year, and I feel like I'm doing pretty well. I guess the question is, if I don't have all the money saved, is it okay to take it out of retirement? We're going to Disney for my whole family, and it's like 20 people.

You're paying for the whole thing?

I'd like to. It's for my retirement.

How much do you have in your nest egg?

About 1.1 million.

Okay. You're going to spend, what, 40, 50,000 bucks?

Right. I think I'll have about 30,000 saved by the time we go. We live on my pension. My husband and I live on our pension in his Social Security. I haven't taken any money out of there, and I don't have any debt. How old are you? 62.

Yeah, I think you ought to do it.

You do? Even if it's a lot of money?

Yeah, it is a lot of money. But you have a lot of money. You're a millionaire. I don't spend like that. You're a millionaire.

I know. I just don't spend like that.

It's really hard to spend money. Well, that's how you got a million dollars. I don't think you're going to do it again. The reason I don't think you're going to do it-No, no, no. I don't think you're going to do this every year. This is probably a one-time hit. By the way, your 1.1 million, if it's invested in good growth stock mutual funds, it should make another 100,000 this year that you're not going to use because you live off your pension, right?

Right.

It'll be 1.2 million. You're spending some of your income.

Okay.

You're not actually spending out of the nest egg. Does that make sense?

Yeah. Well, it feels like if I'm taking it out of there- You are. I will end up taking it out of there, some of Anyway.

I mean, if you take $20,000 bucks out and you save 30 and you spend 50, that's a lot of people and a lot of Disney, but that's your choice. You live like no one else so that later you can live and give like no one else. Here you are living and giving because you're having your family go, but it's something you get great joy out of watching all those little kiddos run around Mickey land.

That's right.

I took the whole stinking bunch on a Disney Cruise one time. The whole bunch, the whole fam damly. They all loved it. I hated it, but they loved it.

Well, it's a one-time thing.

Yeah, my job was to pay for it and be quiet. Let them enjoy it and not ruin it with me being a grouch. But it was just great.

Did you wear the Mickey ears?

No.

I would have forced that on you. If I had been a part of the Ramsey family, but that's…

It's just not my gig, okay? I'm sorry. But that's a lot of small humans may or may not have bathed well trapped on one boat, okay? That's all I'm saying. Yeah, including the ones we brought with us. They're no exception. But anyway, it was fun. They had a blast. We got great pictures with every freaking princess that ever was a princess or thought about being a princess and every character. Rachel Cruz was in heaven because Disney's her thingy She probably instituted this whole thing and talk me into paying for it. I don't know.

I promise you without knowing.

Have fun. This is what you've worked for. Go do it. Enjoy it. Don't think a thing about spending too much money because it's not too much. That's right. You probably don't need to do this twice a month, but if you do it once and it's a big one-time celebration, you're going to be in great shape. You've done a wonderful job handling money. You're millionaires. I'm so proud of you. Congratulations. This is why you've done all that stuff, to get to do this with all the grand babies and the great grand babies or whatever it is that all these people add up to be in your group there.

Have a blast. I was just going to say that I would stop thinking about how much you're spending because you've just walked through it with Dave. This is a priceless memory. If you make it to a grand old age, and we hope you do, this will be something that you will think about and reminisce about for a long time. I don't think you can put a price tag on it. I think this is a great decision. Go and have an absolute blast.

Yeah, absolutely.

Get a a couple extra toys.

It's why you do that. Pay extra for the front-of-the-line passes or whatever the crap it is. What do you call that stuff? Fast pass? Is that what it is?

I don't know. There's actually a couple levels to that. There's a fast pass.

Take the top level. If you're going to spend that money, do not be inconvenienced by the other people that are there.

Nobody wants to stand in line for the log ride or whatever that thing is.

You and I are the worst possible people to ask these questions. It's too bad our resident Disney expert, Rachel, is not here today. I know.

We should have phoned her. We should have phoned a friend.

Phoned a friend. Arnold's with us in Baton Rouge. Hey, Arnold. How are you?

Hi. Better than I deserve. Good.

What's up?

I have a question. I'm 24. I've been out of college for a year. My wife is 21, and we own a house. We're both engineers. I make 85, and she makes 93. We got one of those FHA loans for our mortgage, and we put three and a half % down, and I'm trying to at least get to that 20 % ASAP to get rid of the PMI. We're a little over $270,000 left, and we're putting in an extra 1,100 a month in principle only.

Rock and roll. How can I help?

So we're at six and a half % right now. I'm wondering, I hear these There are rumors that the mortgage rates are going to go down later this year or later on. I know you can refinance, but what's the rule or your guidelines for that?

Just a break-even analysis. It's a break-even analysis. Let's say that rates dropped from... Yours is six and a half, you said? Yes, sir. Let's say you could get a four and a half. That's a 2% spread. Let's say you got 200,000 by then, still outstanding. So 2% of 200,000 $4,000 would be $4,000 a year you would save, right? Okay. If your refinance cost is $8,000, how long at $4,000 a year savings does it take to break even? Two years. If you're going to be in debt long enough to break even, then you would talk about refinancing.

Okay.

You could do it on 1%, you can do it on a half a %. But obviously at a half a %, it's going to take you seven, eight years to break even. It's probably not going to make sense. But anywhere Anywhere from a 1% north of their savings, you can start running the calculation. But it's simply take your savings annually and divide it into the closing costs or the refinance. That's how long it takes you to get back to even for having refinanced and then everything from there is gravy on the biscuit, right? Mm-hmm. That's a break-even analysis, and that's how you would do it. That's how you decide. But obviously, we don't have to worry about that today. This is the Ramsey Show. I've got some good news and some bad news. The good news is that people have started buying life insurance to protect their families at levels not seen since the 1980s. The bad news is many of them are still buying crappy cash value type plans. I don't care what you call them. Whole life, universal, variable, adjustable, flexible. They're nothing but a waste of your money. Don't be confused and let someone sell you a plan that sounds better than it really is.

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Hi, Dave. I'm good. How are you?

Better than I deserve. What's up?

I have a pretty straightforward question. I talked to my dad yesterday, and he wants me to pay for his life insurance policy. He said I should think of it like an investment, and he doesn't want to actually pay for it himself. I just wanted some advice on maybe how I can talk to him about paying for his own life insurance, or should I pay for it myself? That's so weird, isn't it?

When you heard When you heard that, you had to go, Say what? I don't know if you said it out loud, but you said it in your head, didn't you, Frankie?

I did, and he said it to my mom, and he said, Because he's not going to be receiving any of the benefits, I was like, Well, that's the point. He was saying, Since he's not going to be receiving it, I should pay for it since I can think of it like an investment.How.

Old are you?

I'm 24.

How old is he?

Sixty-five.

Is he ill?

Not necessarily. I mean, he has some health issues, but I mean, for his age, he's- But his death is not imminent as far as we know. Right. Yeah.

So you could be doing this for like 30 years.

Yeah.

I think that's a hard pass. That's a big no. Nope, let's just call that. Let's check the box beside, Now, your question was, though, how do I talk to him about it? Just go, Dad, I'm 24. I'm going to be doing other kinds of investing rather than in your death. I don't think we're going to go this way, but thanks for the offer.

Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I think that- Pretty simple.

You don't need to be snarky about it, although it's really tempting. But it doesn't serve any purpose to be snarky about it other make you feel just because it's just strange, and he knows it's strange. I don't know. Your dad does stuff like this often, doesn't he?

Yes, he does. Yeah, he's got quirky.

Quirky. Quirky dude. Okay. I would Just smile and say, Dad, thanks for the offer. I've thought about this, and I talked with my financial guys, and they said, I should just be doing regular investing rather than investing in your death. I'm just not comfortable doing that. But thanks for the offer. No. I really wouldn't go into a bunch of… I wouldn't go into a long, lengthy discussion about it. It's just two sentences and no.

But what I'm going to do is I'm going to play this back for him later. Okay, that's fine.

You could tell him. I said, Obviously, he's quirky because that's a really quirky thing to say to your 24-year-old daughter, dude. If you're going to play it for him, I mean, I wouldn't do that to my 24-year-old daughter. You've got other things you should be doing with your life rather than investing in your dad's death. I mean, and besides that, mathematically, it's a bad investment because insurance companies make money on insurance. The probability of his death and the payout is less than the premiums that they think they're going to receive. If they don't receive premiums equal to the payout before he dies, they lose money on the insurance. If they do that often enough, they go out of business. So insurance companies make money on insurance, which by translation means it's not a good investment. It is a good purchase for those of you out there. We had a debt-free scream yesterday, I believe, or the day before yesterday, that the young lady's husband was killed in a car wreck. He was 30-something years old. Two months before they were debt-free, two months before that, he had gotten life insurance and he had a brand new baby.

Now, that's a good time to buy life insurance. That's perfect. I mean, that family is taken care of because that young man was just a stellar dad and husband. But this is a completely different thing. It's not a good investment, mathematically. It is a protection for your family in the case of a horrible event happening. But if your dad doesn't... He's 65, he may not need life insurance. If he's got enough money, he could just not buy life insurance. I'm 63, I don't have any life insurance. I have a huge pile of money and no debt. If I die, Sharon's going to have a party. She doesn't need life insurance, okay? It'll be a big party. I guess not if I die, when I die. If I die before her is what I should say, right?

Well, we will celebrate.

We know that that's her plan, and I'm a little worried about it.

I mean, the data probably backs it up. I would just say this, that this is like common core math. It just doesn't make sense, and we already have good math. We don't need to invent something. This is just a wacky idea. The minute I heard it, it just wacky. You can't, by the way, reason with wacky. You just got to move on quickly.

Yeah, I wouldn't. No, dad. No.

You didn't have to deal with Common core math, but I'm glad because it would have made the top of your head explode.

It must have been what happened. Okay. Joel is in Chicago. Hi, Joel. What's up?

Hi, guys. Pleasure to talk to both of you, finally. I have a question about a to-debt question. I just started listening to you guys a couple of weeks ago. I've been watching your podcast or listen to your podcast every day, nonstop. Me and my wife been talking about this, and we're getting ready to start the baby steps. We have the 1,000 already set. The issue that I'm having is, I can get We have some quick numbers real fast. We're about 25 to 30 in credit card and personal loan debt. We have about 31,000 in two car loans, 122 in our mortgage, and we have a second home, which is our first purchase that still sits We're at about 40,000, and that's being rented currently.

What's your household income?

We make around 140 combined before taxes.

Your question is simply how to start the baby steps?

Yes.

Okay, we get on an every dollar budget. You and your wife are in agreement that we're going to get out of debt, and we're going to sacrifice to do that because if you didn't have any of these payments, you'd have a lot of money, agreed?

Exactly.

That's the whole idea. Do you have any savings that's not in retirement?

No, just the 1K for the startup.

You got the baby step one. Okay, then we're going to list all these debts, smallest to largest. We're going to pay minimum payments on everything but the little one. We're not going to see the inside of a restaurant unless you're working there as an extra job and you're not going to go on vacation. You are broke people that make $140,000 a year, and you need to clean up this $70,000 worth of stupidity before you do anything else. It's stupid butt car loans and all this other mess you've got. You got to get disgusted about it and attack it and attack it and attack it to where your friends think you've joined a cult.

I agree. The one thing I did wanted to mention is the one car loan we owe 2,000 on it, so that'll be gone in the next four months.

We'll be done with that. No, it doesn't take four months to pay off 2,000 when you make 140. You do that the first month.

Yeah, I agree. I totally agree with that. The second thing is the second car is our second vehicle. Which is an SUV. That one's the one that's sitting at about $29,000. I told my wife, we need to just get rid of the car, and that's where she's- No, I wouldn't.

Writing me on it. I wouldn't. The best way to get your wife on board is not say, I want to sell your car.

That's actually just a weekend vehicle. I drive a work vehicle Monday through Friday.

Is that your car?

It's both our cars, but we use it because we have three kids, so it's a larger vehicle for the family.

You have a work car?

Yes.

That you own?

It's a company vehicle, but I think it's a normal car.

Okay, so it's a company vehicle. Okay. Then she has a car?

Yes, which is the one that's about to be paid off, and that's her community vehicle to work every day.

And then the other one has 29,000-odd on it?

Yes.

Well, her car that she owns Carrier family?

Yeah, we'll fit. My oldest is about to finish high school, and the other one, the smallest one is 10 years old. So we fit. Not much space, but I told her something we could do if we really wanted it.

The other thing you could do, what's the rental worth?

I think about 120, 130.

You could dump it and clean up the whole mess, but either one of those is fine, or neither if you want to just bust all the way through it. You're going to trade sacrificed lifestyle, scorched earth lifestyle longer. You're going to stay in the mess longer if you don't move one or both of these other items. That's the decision the two of you can make together. This is The Ramsey Show. There aren't many places you can save hundreds of dollars a month and still give you great service, especially with health insurance. That's why Health Trust Financial is the only health insurance company Ramsey recommends. Health Trust Financial objectively compares the top health insurance providers to meet your needs and budget. Remember, the service is free and there's no commitment. Go to healthtrustfinancial. Com. Healthtrustfinancial. Com. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, is my co-host today in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions, and you can join us there anytime you'd like. The coffee is free and the homemade cookies are free, and you can watch the show from 1:00 to 4:00. The coffee and the cookies are worth the price. The show is questionable, but you can come hang out with us.

There's usually 50 to a couple of hundred people sitting out here. In the lobby of the Ramsey Solutions, right here where we do the show, is the debt-free stage. Andy and Tesla are on that stage. How are you guys? Good, Dave. Thanks for having us. Absolutely. Tesla, did I say your name right? You did. Good. Okay. Making sure I didn't mess that up because I hesitated there for a second. All right. Where do you guys live? Dayton, Ohio. Oh, fun. How much debt have you paid off?

$134,100 in seven years.

Way to go. And your range of income during that seven years? Between 80 and 100,000. We're just a little north of that now. Cool. What do you all do for a living? I'm an X-ray and CT technologist at a local hospital. And I'm a massage therapist at a local hospital. Oh, wow. Is that where you all met? No. We met through high school. We're high school sweethearts. That's fun. So seven years, 134,000 in Dayton, Ohio. Would that be your house?

This would be our house.

You paid off your house? Yes. Looking at weird people. We're weird, yes. How old are you two weirdos? I'm 33. And I'm 36. You have a paid-for house? Paid-for house. We have a paid-for house. Wow. What's this house worth?

Anywhere between $2.25.

And $250,000. Excellent. Excellent job. How much have you guys got in your retirement net stake now?

Close to 200. We were hoping to hit that goal at the end of the year here, 200,000.

You're going to bump up about a half a million dollars towards the networth, right? Yeah. You're going to be millionaires soon. We're almost halfway there. Yeah, way to go. I mean, easily by the time you're 35 or 40, you'll be millionaires. Yeah, way to go, you guys. Yeah. Awesomeness. We're pretty excited about that. I'm so proud of you. What happened seven years ago that made you decide you could and should pay off a house? Yeah. Before we got engaged, he told me to read your books because he had already read them. Then we got married, and then we did the financial peace course.

We originally paid off $46,000 in 12 months in one week when we got married.

On those were on student loans.

Student loans. That was in 2015.

We got married in '14. So you worked the plan right up the baby steps. We just did the baby steps, and we had some hiccups along the way. It wasn't perfect, but we did it to the best of our ability. When we got the house, we wanted to have children, and it was get a house.

We didn't want to have them in this little apartment. Sure. That's where it got tough for us.

We couldn't have children easily, and we didn't keep track exactly, but we spent between $8,000 and $10,000 with fertility treatments over about a course of a year. We weren't focused on the house at that time. We were just trying to-That's fine. That's a perfect time to do it. That's exactly what we'd listen to your show and you advised others to do. Then we were told we could not have kids naturally, that we needed to go through IVF. We were not taking out a loan. No, we weren't about that. No. We saved up the money that we needed, and we were planning to do IVF July of 2020, and I got pregnant naturally with our first wife. So all the money- Got a signing bonus. Yes. It was fun. So all the money that we saved up went to our house.

I love it.

As soon as we had the first one- We wanted to make sure everything was okay with him. We were good. We had another one, and we held on to it for a little bit there. Then right after we knew, like you say, have a healthy, happy home, we went ahead and did it, and we were done. I love it. Way to go, you all. That's a great story. Yeah, thank you. I think I know somebody else that happened, too.

Yeah, it's exactly right. Our youngest daughter, same situation. Doctor said it's not going to happen. We pursued adoption and then- Adopted two kids. Adopted two boys. When we brought the second one home, he was 12 days old. We found out Stacey was pregnant. We went from one to three in nine months. I don't recommend that at home. But I got to ask you this because this is a really It's a unique story. I think it'd be fun for young couples, couples your age, some younger than you, some your age. Why? Now, on the other side of paying this house off. They hear us talk about it.

Why should you pay off your house?

Why does it matter now? What does it feel like?

There's two good reasons right there in our little sons there, Eli and Isaac.

It was just something we've manifested as we got engaged and as we got married and something we've just always wanted to do and be in a situation where we can control our own destiny.

Somebody else isn't controlling it for us. You make $100,000 a year, you got a no payment in the world.

I hope she's okay with this, but she's getting her master's degree in September. She's going to have a master's in healthcare admin. What will that do for your income immediately and even long term? Do you have an idea?

Right now, I'm staying put, but if something opens up, it will just increase our income. It'll It'll just be a nice cherry on top. The nice thing about it is my work is very helpful, so they've paid for most of it.

It's just a two-year deal with that, but that's taken care of. Even if she wants to leave, we can pay for it right now. We got it there, and it's just all done. See, okay, here's what I want everybody to hear. How care-free you are with going, If it doesn't, I do this. See, the whole thing on this is freedom. That's it. That's the play. You guys can just make your own I love that answer. That's what I want people to hear. You're so relaxed, by the way, when you share all these options. It was challenging.

It's challenging, but you can do it.

When the brakes go out in the beater car in the KFC, you're using the E-brake to get through there, you're like, Hey, we got to get that next car. It's like, We don't want to be back in those positions.

That's great. It's been a lot of fun along the way, and we laugh a lot.

We argued. The other big tip that I listened to your show when we were in our apartment, we sat across from each other doing the budget, and it was miserable.

I remembered you hearing you say about, sit next to one another. We changed that.

It changed everything right now in a hurry and put us on the same page. That was a big key moment in our journey there.

Way to go, you guys. All right, what's your biggest tip to get somebody out of debt? If somebody says, How do you do that? How do you pay off your house? What's the secret to getting out of I think you just got to be on the same page. It's challenging, but we went over numbers all the time. All the time. Adjusted our budgets. Adjusted our budgets.

We became very comfortable with talking about that amongst ourselves.

Then just having that why. We want to be free. We don't want people to control us. We want to control our own situation. Then we just couldn't be happier with it and how it's worked out and where it's projected. We're proud of you. Congratulations.thank you.Thank you so much.Thank you so much. Well done.Thank you. Well done. All right, let's bring the guys into the picture here.Hi, honey.Come on, you. Come on, Eli. I can't come to you. You got to come to me. How old are they? This is you. I This is Isaac. He's one. And that's Eli. He's three. Okay, perfect. Very good. Way to go, you guys. That's fun. That's as good as it gets right there.

This is the real deal. We've been there, brother.

No worries. No worries with us. It makes a great video for you. All right, Andy and Tesla, Eli and Isaac, $134,000 paid off in seven years, making 80 to 100. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one.

We're debt-free.

Yeah. Those two little boys don't even know how big a hero that mom and dad are. They've changed their whole family tree. I mean, they're going to be 35, 36 years old millionaires. They're already half millionaires. They make 100. They have no payments in the world. They've set themselves up to take care of themselves, those little boys, and anything they need to do in the future. So well done. Such heroes. People, when you take control of your own life in a culture that has told you that you are a victim for everything, when instead you decide, I'm not going to be a victim, I'm going to be a victor. When you take control, we immediately at Ramsey label you hero. Because you're standing out, you're standing up in a culture that's lost its backbone. Stand up and stand out. Do it. Time to be a hero, boys and girls. Got little boys like that that need heroes in their lives. This is the Ramsey Show.

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I like that idea, a little motivation.

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I'm good. How are you guys?

Better than we deserve. What's up?

Okay. My question is, I'll give you the question, and I can give you some context. My question is whether or not we should look at buying a home next spring, probably a little after the new year, or if we should continue to rent. We sold both our primary home and a rental property in January of this year to help us get out of debt faster. The original plan was to rent for the next four years while my oldest is in high school, and then we were going to move out of state. But now we're wondering if it would be better to buy a house next spring after we've saved up a down payment and just live in the house for the following three years.

The oldest graduates from school.

Yes. He will be a freshman this upcoming fall.

You're willing to move the other kids, but you're not willing to move the oldest?

Yes. We would have a very tight window between the oldest graduating. The reason we're not moving before is because I have shared custody of him, and we can't move.

The other kids are with your current husband, and he's with a former?

Correct.

Now, logic is kicking in. Okay. Because I I'm trying to figure out why we had to be, why this guy was so special that we had to wait on him but no one else. But now I get it. Okay, makes sense. He thinks he is. Well, I know, but he's listening. He's a freshman, so that goes with the territory. Now I get it, though. It makes sense. What you're saying is very logical. Okay. The The answer is a math formula. What we've got to try to guess at is what we think houses are going to go up between the time you buy it and the time you sell it. Okay? Fort Collins, Colorado is a good market. I know the market. It's a strong market. My guess is that if you said, Okay, a home in this neighborhood, talk to a local Ramsey-trusted real estate agent and say, If we were to buy a home in this neighborhood, what would we think the appreciation would be per year for three years, percentage-wise? Is this going to go up 8% a year, 10% a year, 4% a year? What do we think it's going to go up?

They can actually provide you hard data on that. You can pull up a statistic in the MLS, a real estate agent can pull this up for you. It says, In this neighborhood, the average appreciation for the past five years has been X %. For the past 10 years has been Y %. You could use something like that percentage. Now, obviously, the last five years have been wacky, last 10 years have been wacky. It's not a normal, quote, real estate market. Agreed? Agreed. But you temper this information with the knowledge that hopefully the next five years is not as wacky as the last five years. But you look at that. The second piece of data that you could look at is in that neighborhood for the last five years or four years or three years, what has been the average days on the market, D-O-M? Okay. Let me give you two possible math examples to show you how you would use these numbers. All right? You say the math, because they usually correlate. If the houses aren't going up much in value, you probably take a while to sell them. Agreed? Agreed. It's not a super hot market.

You might hear a 270-day average days on the market, nine months average, and it only goes up 2% a year. If that's the number you get back, you don't buy a house because it's not going to go up enough to even break even with expenses when you sell it after three years. Follow me? That makes sense, yes. And it's going to be hard to Well, but the other side of that equation is what if it said, okay, average days on the market is eight days. This is a white, hot market, and the appreciation rate has been 12% a year. Well, in three years, that's 36% 20%, right? Yeah. Well, you're going to make some money, and you're going to be able to get out of the house. That market's super high. You're probably not going to be all the way on either one of those spectrums, but that's how the formula informs you whether or not to buy. Is It needs to go up during the three years at least 7% a year. Okay. That's going to be 20%, and then you're going to have expenses that are going to be 10% to 12% when you sell the house.

Yes. Then you're going to make a little money, but if it's not going to go up at least that much, you're not going to make money and you're going to wish you didn't do this. You'd be wishing you'd rent it. You see how I did that calculation?

I do, yeah, and that makes total sense.

Okay. You You could call one of the Ramsey trusted real estate agents off our website. They'll help you do that right now, knowing that maybe they can help you buy a house next spring, and you can tell them which neighborhood you're looking in.

Perfect. We actually have one we use to sell our house.

Oh, okay. Did they do a Did they get a job?

Yeah, they did amazing. It was such a smooth process. We sold two at one time. It was a lot, but they did awesome.

Very good. Well, that's what we want to hear. It's always dangerous to ask that on the air. No, it's not, because we vet those people so hard. We know that they're amazing. They're very good people. These real estate agents are amazing that we have in our system. Folks, that's the thing. If you're moving into... I'll tell you where that formula comes up for a lot of you out there is if you're military and they move you every two years, That just means you're not buying. Because when you run this formula on a two-year, very few markets are going to make sense. It means you're renting. If the military is going to move you every two years, you're probably a renter. And that's okay. Just be piling up to buy when you get out of the military. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's The Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create actual amazing relationships. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, number one best-selling author of the book Paycheck to Purpose, where he helps people do work that they love. He does that on the Ken Coleman Show, too, on the Ramsey Networks every day.

He's my co-host today. Open phones at 888-825-5225. Thank you for joining us, America. We're so glad you are here. Laura is with us to start off this hour in Kalamazoo, Michigan. Hi, Laura. How are you?

Hi, Ken and Dave. I'm so excited. Thanks for taking my call.

We're honored to have you. How can we help?

Well, my husband and I did our debt-free screen last June. We're on Baby Step 7 now. We have two working teens at home. They work because they know if they want spending money, they need to work hard and earn it. Currently, we're having them save half, spend half. I don't know why. That's just what we're doing. They don't have a budget it. We haven't helped them with that yet. I'm calling to ask, what are the best strategies to guide our teens in your principles?

Very cool. How old are they?

My son is 14, 14 and a half. He just got his first job as a bus boy, and although he started a dog poop scoop business last year, so he's a hustler, and my daughter's 19. She's home from college and working this summer.

Okay. All right. Well, all the budget is, is we tell her money what to do before it leaves.

Yeah.

Okay. It could be as simple as a yellow pad, and you You put the number you're going to earn this month at the top of the yellow pad, and you put down five or six, seven things you're going to spend the money on until there's nothing left, and that would include savings. What would you say the 14-year-old would earn in a month? Give me a guess.

About $300.

Okay, let's just put $300 at the top. If you want him to save 150, you just take savings, $150, right? Then you say, what else would he spend money on games? I don't know. What's a 14-year-old spend money on these things?

Oh, my word. They buy cologne, they buy food at the mall. It's random.

Well, I mean, so personal Items, food, entertainment.

Yeah, movie tickets.

If you want to go to a concert or a movie ticket or something like that. Just put three or four categories down through there and say, Okay, what are you going to spend your money on? I really don't mind what he spends his money on as long as he does it on purpose before it leaves. Because what happens is something will jump up in front of his 14-year-old face or her 19-year-old face They'll go do that, then they haven't got money for something later, like car gas.

That's how adults that don't do a budget live, panic to panic.

Yeah.

Is it 50/50 save spend Split.

Appropriate or- It's okay. You can do whatever you want to do. I don't care. I would add a category. I would say give.

Yeah.

Give, save, spend. If you can teach kids to work and earn money and then teach them to give, teach them to save, and teach them to spend wisely and intentionally, you have done a great job as a parent.

I love that. That's really helpful.

Yeah, that's what we do with Financial Peace Junior. That's what our high school curriculum, that's homeschool curriculum for teaching kids in-depth about all the parts of money. But budgeting and working is certainly part of it. Even the book, let me send you the book, was Rachel's number one best seller, her first number one best seller, Smart Money, Smart Kids. I did the book with her, and it was me, it was the dad and daughter, both voices in the book of how to teach kids to be smart money, to be smart money, smart kids. Oh, yeah. I'll send a copy of that and you guys read through it. It goes a lot more in-depth than what we're doing. But the core principles are those four things: work, give, spend intentionally and wisely, and safe. If you can build those muscles and youngsters age appropriately from 3 to 23, they can leave your house and they won't have to come back, except for a visit. Yeah.

Right.

They don't end up boomeranging because they don't know how to live.

Laura, I want to encourage you that it's... One of the best things you can do is teach, model. You speak to whatever part of the budget, your process, and how you and your husband do it. But I would encourage you to just back away once you do that teach and model. I just think one of the best lessons is failure. I think we as parents, and I'm speaking from experience where I've stepped in and rescued. I would not step in and rescue because we're not talking about a whole bunch of money. But one of the best ways for a kid to learn budgeting is to screw it up and to be in a situation where I didn't plan that. We were going through that with one of our kids right now, and he just blew through some money. He came in, I went, Man, that stinks. Sucks to be you. I'm not kidding you. I literally walked out of the room. It was really hard for me. But I'm just telling you that we forget as parents sometimes that failure is the greatest teacher Because you've given context. That's my little encouragement is don't try to rescue.

Remember, their brains aren't developed like yours. They're going to think things about money and do things with money that seems just absolutely wild and wacky. By the way, it is.

They're wild and yanky. They're teenagers. One other thing I'll add to this, and if you want to take it even further, it depends on how much you want to mess with this, but we had our kids at 14 and 15 years old open their first check checking account, and they ran the money through the checking account. I made them learn to write a check, which it turns out was an archaic exercise that no one actually does anymore because they never wrote a check in their life, I don't think. I think they had debit cards then on those accounts, and that's how they used all the money, was through the debit card, which is fine, I don't care, but I wanted them to learn to keep up with and reconcile, balance a checking account and manage a checking account. Because people run those things in the overdraft. Like, just, Oh, I guess if I can just keep pulling the card out, they'll just keep paying it. It's like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding It's a fabulous story in the book when Rachel bounced the check. I came home and there's NSF fees. She's 15 years old, laying on the kitchen counter.

Oh, boy. I made her go. Her mother took her, drive her down to the bank, and sit with the bank branch manager and apologize for lying because she told that bank she had money in her account and she didn't. The kid never bounced a check again. I'll tell you that. She's still in therapy, but she never bounced a check.

Laura is enjoying Rachel's trauma way too much. That's so good.

I love it.

But I mean, that's the stuff we did. It's just you have to learn to do these things. If I We can let you pay one or two NSF fees, and the guy actually waived the fees because he thought it was so funny that she came into the office. No apologies. But you can learn this lesson and never bounce a check the rest of your life. That was valuable. It's well worth it. Valuable. This is The Ramsey Show. Ken Coleman-Ramsey personality is my co-host today. Thank you joining us, America. Tabitha is in Denver. Hi, Tabitha. Welcome to The Ramsey Show.

Hi there. How's it going?

Better than we deserve. What's up?

I'm seeking some advice. My husband and I don't agree on whether or not to pay off our car loans. I'd like to pay them off, but he does not agree with that.

He likes being in debt on a car?

He tells me, and I quote, Paying off our car loans is giving away free money based off of our low interest rates.

So he actually believes that people build wealth by borrowing on their cars?

I don't understand it, to be completely honest. It's something that we argue about pretty frequently, actually.

Okay. How can we help, do you think?

Well, I'm looking for ways that I can explain to him why it would be worth it to pay the debt off.

Can I ask a quick question, Dave?

Really quick. What's the interest rate on these two loans?

In total, we have 27,000. So 20,000 on one, and it's 3.49% on interest, 7,000 on the other, and it's 2.94% interest. Okay.

Well, let's address the theory that he's operating on first, okay? And then let me just tell you, I don't think we can convince this guy. I don't think he has any desire to be convinced. I think he's already made his mind up, but I will answer your question anyway, okay? In other words, I don't think this is going to work, but I'll tell you. What he's His premise is that if you can borrow money at, what did you say the interest rate was 2.7%, right?

Is that right? One of them is 2.94, the other one is 3.49..

Okay, so let's just call it 3%. If you can borrow money at 3% and you could invest it in a good mutual fund that made 10 or 12%, you're making the spread. Okay? However, he's not doing that. He didn't invest the difference. There's no $27,000 investment out there as a result of having borrowed on these cars. So his premise is 100% theoretical. In other words, it's bull crap. Now, the problem with his premise, it sounds like if you invest money at 10% and you borrow at three, aren't you making a seven spread? Maybe. But if you made a seven spread, you have to pay taxes on it, and you've increased your risk load, your stress load, and you've strained your relationships in your household. And by the time you've done all of that, you really didn't make any money. So it's a bloody joke. Because 7% on $10,000 is 700 bucks. 7% on $30,000 is $2,100. No one ever got rich on $2,100 a year, ever, mathematically. So again, his premise is absolute bull crap because the numbers break down when you tear into it. Another reason we know that is, is that we have done, we have worked with millionaires for decades.

And a couple of years back, we did the largest study of millionaires ever done in North America. We studied 10,167 of them. I wrote about it in the book Baby Steps, Millionaires, and I'll send you a copy of it as my gift. That might give us a chance at helping this guy, but I don't think this guy wants to be helped, so I usually can't help people that don't want to be helped. But anyway, as we studied 10,167 millionaires, we found that 89% of them were not millionaires because of inherited money. In other words, they invested money, they handled money wisely, they lived on less than they made, they got their house paid off, they stayed out of debt, and they built wealth. And that's how 89%, nine out of 10 of America Because 24 million millionaires right now, that's how they became millionaires. As we studied, Tabitha, 10,000 people who are rich, not broke people car payment and an opinion. But people who actually are rich, the number of them that we found that became wealthy due to borrowing on their car at 3% and investing the amount instead at 10%, the number of people that did that to become millionaires out of 10,000 of them was precisely zero.

None of them used your husband's plan to become wealthy. None of them. What that statistically tells us is your husband is wrong like you thought. He loses the argument. Now, that still doesn't answer your question, how do we convince him? I've told you three times already, I don't know if we can. But I'm trying to tell you, you're not crazy, you're accurate. He's looking down like you're some juvenile that can't do math, and he has high math figured out. When it's quite the opposite, your women's intuition was way wiser than his screwed-up half-but attempt at mathematics.

I would go so far as to say this is a cop-out. This is a quick little line that he's manufactured from social media or some social message out there or some car dealer who's sold him these cars. This is his quick Heisman Trophy stance to you. I don't want to talk about it because I don't think he actually wants to- She doesn't know what that means.

It means you put your stiff arm out.

You might know what it means. The point is this. I know what it means. Thank you.

Okay, good.

Thank you. Here's my point.

I had to think about it.

Okay, I'm sorry. That's okay. Here's my point. I think it's a cop-out because he doesn't want to do the hard work that you're asking him to do, to budget, to sacrifice, to pay these things off. That's my take. I think I'd push in a little bit further as his wife and say, I don't feel safe financially carrying this debt. I think you got to have a real conversation. I think it's a marriage conversation because he's allowing for a financial conversation.

Yeah, and there's a lack of respect towards you that's just not okay. It's getting me riled up and giving you this answer because I hear him sneering a little bit in this like, You just little lady.

I think so. I had the same feel like that little line he had in his holster, and he just pulls it out, flings it at her, go away. It does feel dismissive.

I got this. It does. The Hilarious thing is, is he's 100% wrong. He's totally wrong. It's 100% wrong. And Tabitha wins. Now, how to get him to do it, Tabitha? I don't know. Probably not all the snark that Ken and I are employing. It probably won't work. You're going to have to be more loving in that. But I think he needs to hear how important this is to you, and he needs to hear that he has to respect you. Now, my wife and I can have a good argument about most anything, but I'm going to respect her opinion, and At the end of the argument, we may do one, we may do the other. There's no set rule that one of us has to, quote, win or not. But we're going to do it in a respectful way, meaning that I'm not going to be dismissive, and she's not going to be dismissive. You're just a man. You don't understand. She tries that sometimes. She tried that when we're putting furniture in the new house, I'm an idiot because I don't know anything about decoration because I can't even match my clothes. The problem is she's-Is that an actual quote?

No, I mean, but that's basically the tone, right? That's great. Because it's also accurate. I have to think about my clothes a lot just to make sure something doesn't flash. That's so funny. Yeah, and you don't know anything. You're just a knuckle dragger. You don't know anything about decorating, right? I don't. But I do know what I like, and it's my freaking house, so I get a say. There's that. You don't get to dismiss me. I agree. She doesn't get to dismiss, and I don't get to dismiss her. Her opinion, too. She lives in house, too. It's our money, too. We have to work through this. This is called marriage, and sometimes it's a challenge.

Yeah. Tabitha, roll it back on YouTube and let him get mad at us. That's why we do this. That'd be okay.

I'm pretty good at pissing off reluctant spouses. It's like a gift because they're wrong. This is the Ramsey Show. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, is my co-host today in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions on the Debt Free Stage. Cameron and Chelsea are with us. Hey, guys, how are you? Good. We're doing great, Dave. Welcome, welcome. Where do you all live? State College, Pennsylvania. It's near Harrisburg. Love it. Welcome to Nashville. How much debt have you paid off? We paid off 151,307.40. I like it. How long did this take? 42 months. All right, good for you. And your range of income during that time? Our range of income was 71,000 to 171,000. Wow. What do you all do for a living? I am an audiologist. I'm a software developer and also serve part-time in the Army National Guard. Well, thank you for your service. You're welcome. How do you go in three and a half years up $100,000 in income? I Graduated. Oh, there it is. And got a job. Oh, there it is. So the 151,000 might be student loan debt. It is. All of it? Almost all of it. Okay, what else? We have $12,000 in a car loan.

Okay. All right. And then the rest is student loans. Okay. So you got out of audiology school and immediately kicked the income in. Way to go. You guys were looking at that going, Uh-oh. But we also have 151,000 to go with this gift of debt. What was the plan? How did this work? How did How did we end up doing Ramsey? We go back a little bit further. Our story started right after we got married. How long you been married? Since 2018. Okay. Right after we got married, her parents actually gave us your Financial Peace University DVD box set. Oh, yeah. But we never opened it. Of course not. It actually sat in our living room for about two years. We never touched it. It makes a good little coffee table when you first get married. Then through an online audiology group, shout out to Molly, somebody who messaged Chelsea, offered to sponsor us to take Financial Peace University online. We took FPU, and then after the first class, we sat down, did our monthly budget, wrote down all of our debt, and got really nauseous and realized that we had a problem. Scares crap out of you, doesn't it?

It does. We realized we were spending about $500 a month on restaurants and other things that we really didn't need at all. So it was game on from there. We started, and we were doing pretty good for about a year. And then in 2021, we coordinated an FPU class for a of our friends. And we realized that we really weren't being gazelle-intense. We didn't tighten down the budget the way we should have. And from then on, it was game on. We realized we were doing it wrong, needed to make a change. And we started listening to your podcast every day to get that motivation going. And we started meeting weekly to talk about the budget and started working DoorDash. We delivered food at night after we got off our full-time jobs. And That was it. It took a lot of work. Worked your tail ends off. We did. Then you get out of school and get a bigger shovel. How long you been out of school? Two years. Two years, okay. So two years of this, three and a half year plan. Basically, almost half the time, you've had the big shovel, and prior to that, you were just scrapping.

Yeah. Way to go, guys. Way to go. You got to feel like accomplished. We do. It does. It's a ginormous weight off your chest. You guys are heroes. Well done.

I'm just curious, what was the greatest challenge for you two in this process?

I think the working extras. We had our full-time jobs, but I think that the getting off at five o'clock and Pushing through. Yeah. Deciding, Hey, we're going to go out until 9, 10 o'clock and deliver food. When she had a doctorate degree and I'm working as a software developer, delivering food just feels not like something you want to do at night.

Well, is there a sense of pride there in a negative way? It's like, Come on, what am I doing? That really starts to play games with your head, doesn't it? It does. Yeah, it does.

Yeah, that's very cool. I talked to a pastor one time who was leading financial peace, and he decided he was going to get an extra job, and his extra job was valet in cars. He said it was really rough when the guy that is in my congregation came up and I had to park his car. He said that was a real pride knock. It was hard. Way to go, you all. Way to go. Was it worth it? It was. Absolutely. How you feel now? Surreal, really. Free? Yes. Well, a month before, we paid off a A month before we paid off everything, a month after we paid off everything, we actually had our daughter Katie. Oh, wow. We paid off everything, and then a month later, she arrived. Wow. We worked through all of that, too. I'll just say the The feeling of sitting in the hospital waiting for your baby to be born and knowing that you don't owe anybody anything is a great feeling. You didn't have to think about the money. You can just be there. She will never live in a house that has debt. Isn't that cool? Yeah, it is.

That's pretty cool, you all. You guys are heroes. You changed your family tree. You did it for her. That's an awesomeness right there. That's noble. Very well done. Very well done. All right, when people ask, they say, I've got $150,000 in student loan debt. I'll never get Out of debt. Don't they say that? Yeah. They say it all the time. Sure hope the President will forgive it because I can't ever pay it off. I'm stuck. You weren't waiting on Biden or Trump to take care of your life, thank God. Instead, you said, We're going to do this. What's the secret to paying off 151,042 months? I think definitely the budget and communication. I think that was the two biggest things that we took away from this is our communication with one another, too, is completely different than it was three and a half years ago. Now, have you guys watched Debt Free Screams on YouTube? All the time. Okay. You hear people say that exact answer all the time. They say communication and budget. And yet when you did it, it didn't feel like when you actually did communicate and you actually did a budget, it didn't feel like it did when you heard somebody else doing it.

When they said, Oh, yeah, of course, it's a budget, it's communication. But then When you actually do it, it's like, wow, that really is it. When you can put the numbers on paper and actually see the progress, you realize that how would you do it without this? Amazing. Very well done, you guys. Very, very well done. All right. Ms. Katie was... Oh, how old is Ms. Katie? She is 11 weeks old. Oh, my goodness. That's a good enough reason right there to do all that work. Yeah. And you never have to work extra. She'll never know it. Yeah. Wow. She'll never know those long hours. I like it. Well done. Well done. Beautiful. Changed your whole family tree. You guys are heroes. Excellent job. Cameron and Chelsea and Katie. Right on cue. Harrisburg, Pennsylvania State College, 151,000 paid off in 42 months, making 71 to 171. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one. We're debt free. Can you imagine the audiologist covered her baby's ears? I saw that. Before she screamed. I saw that. That was a pro-move. That's a pro move right there.Pro hack.Love that. Well done. We've actually got little headphones for them in case their parents really want to scream because it scares some of the kids sometimes.

But that's so cool. What a neat couple. Man, what rock stars. They just did it, man. They just did it. I mean, that's hard. They did this on no money for the first half of their journey. Then when she starts making some money and they add the overtime to it and the extra jobs to it, boom, we get out of there and we're done, baby. We're done.

The thing I'm always inspired by when we hear these stories, and this is the latest example, is these are men and women who decide that they're willing to do what it takes now to be able to live the way they want to live in the future. At the end of the day, whether you're changing your life, your physical life, your emotional life, your relationship life, you got to make that decision that there's some hard work that you got to go through in order to live the life you want to live. They're standing on the other side of this with a brand new baby. I mean, literally brand new. That's really cool stuff.

Very neat. This is The Ramsey Show. Hey, guys. Are you ready for The Secret to help you reach those money goals that you've dreaming about? It's simple. You got to get on a budget. With our budgeting app, EveryDollar, you'll get intentional with your money and build the habits that will make those dreams a reality. And we'll be with you every step of the way, from your first budget to that retirement home on the beach, download every dollar for free on the App Store or Google Play. Remember, today, download every dollar for free on the App Store or Google Play today. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality, number one best-selling author of the book Paycheck to Purpose is my co-host today. Our question of the day today comes from Travis in New Mexico.

We are a family of six. My wife and I are both turning 45 this year. Income-wise, We make about $400,000 a year before taxes. Wow. 5% to 15% bonuses before tax. We're living paycheck to paycheck and cannot seem to get out of this. We're about 1.1 million in debt, including our mortgage. We spend more than $20,000 $1,000 every month on expenses, leaving close to nothing to put towards extra debt payments other than vacations costing $15,000 to $20,000 a year. It is almost impossible to cut into other budget items. We need help on a game plan. Yeah, you need a game plan, but the statement, it's almost impossible to cut into other- To live on $400,000 a year in New Mexico. Yeah, it sounds like we've got some emotional issues with some poor decisions we've made, because if you're living paycheck to paycheck on that spend every month, you're just out of control.

Yeah, there's something really… I mean, everybody out there that's making $100,000 a year and saving money is laughing at you right now. That's just ridiculous. Okay. Yes, the vacations need to go away. Yes, you probably have some stupid cars you can't afford. You may even bought a house you can't afford. I don't know. But I don't know what decisions you've made that eats up $400,000 a year, and you don't seem to think you have any room in that budget. Don't tell me it's because we have a family of six. Bull crap. Lots of families of six live on 50 and 60,000. All over America. Sorry. I don't have enough information here to give an intelligent answer. That's right. But I don't... We We spend more than 20 on expenses leaving close to nothing. It's almost impossible to cut into other budget items. My only guess here from 30 years of doing what I do is that one of you, either you, Travis, or your wife, is an absolute child. One of you is a princess. One of you gets everything they want, and the other one is afraid of them, afraid to tell them, You're a freak.

You're out of control. We're stopping this. You're a nut. We're not doing this anymore. And you're afraid of them to say that. So I don't know which one of you it is. I think it's you, Travis, the way this is worded. But you could just be scared of your princess wife. I don't know. But somebody here has put the emotional barrier Europe that this is reasonable, and no one in America listening to this right now thinks this is reasonable. Even people in Washington, DC, who can't balance a budget if they had to look at you making 400,000 a year and say there's nowhere to cut and don't think that's reasonable. Even a congressman would look at your budget and say that's not a reasonable statement. That's a bold statement. Wow.

I don't know if it's true, and you're always right. I I mean, it sounds like a Congressional budget where essentially, you know what I'm seeing here? And all joking aside, I think you actually put your finger right on the nerve of this deal. Just because you say we want the country club membership and we put it in the budget, doesn't mean it should be in the budget.

It doesn't mean you need to be in the country club. That's right. When you got this- But it's where our family... Oh, shut up. We eat there every Sunday after church, and you're broke, and you make 400K. Shut up. Yeah, I don't know what it is. We have some excess in the budget. Our My children are all... Have you seen the thing? I saw it the other day. It's the funniest thing on travel baseball.

Oh, I think I know what you're talking about.

I guess it was a reel. Somebody sent it to me. Congratulations, your son just made the travel baseball team. That means that you will have no weekends for the rest of your life. It will cost you $26,000 upfront and an additional $124,000 a year in travel and expenses. When he graduates, he will never play ball again. Yeah, it's so true. Congratulations, you've made travel We can't cut that out, though. I mean, it's like,. That's right. It falls in that. There's an emotional barrier to cutting it, not a reality barrier. That's what I'm smelling. Absolutely. Because it's nothing else. There's no other explanation for this ridiculous statement. Travis is stupid, man. You're going to have to do something different. You keep doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting what you've been getting. That's the definition of insanity. Continuing to do the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. You have to change, and change is hard, but it's not as hard as being broke and making 400K. I hope I'm shaming you into doing this. It's a spiritual gift of mine. All right, Ralph is with us in Phoenix, Arizona.

Hey, Ralph, what's up?

Hey, how are you? It's great to listen to you.

Thanks, man. How can we help?

Well, I have been struggling to keep my head above water for quite a long time, fighting with... I have $75,000 in credit card I'm in IRS debt.

I'm not in security. Which is which? You have $75,000 in the two. How much IRS? 44,000. Okay. And so 30 in credit cards? Yes. Okay.

All right. The credit cards are in a debt management plan. I'm paying 700 a month on that.

Okay. The IRS, I'm still negotiating with them.

I expect I'm going to have to pay them about a month.

You're negotiating them on the payment amount? Yeah. Okay. How did you end up owing the KGB? I mean, the IRS 44k.

I took some money out of my 401k and didn't pay taxes on it.

Oh, there's that. Okay. Where'd that money go? It went into a house I built and then sold, and I lost the money.

I got scammed and a couple of things.

I've had a real run of bad luck and bad decisions, and I'm just determined that I'm not going to spend the rest of my life like this. What's your household income?

Well, I'm on Social Security and I'm working part-time, so I'm probably making somewhere around 50K.

How old are you?

67.

Okay. You're going to put the IRS on a payment. You got the credit cards on a payment. How can we best help you today?

Well, I'm so tired of living like this, and I've had this thought that maybe I should sell my house, take the equity, and pay off all my debts, and just downsize and start over.

What do you owe on your home? $250. What's it worth?

Four and a quarter.

Okay. So you would be free and you'd have 150,000 minus 75, so you'd have $75,000 in your pocket.

Right.

And you're going to buy what?

I don't know.

My credit score is 73, so I don't know what I'm going to get for a mortgage. You're not.

Yeah, exactly. What I've been fantasizing about is buying a nice fifth wheel rig and living in that somewhere.

No, we don't want to die in a trailer. No, that's not a retirement plan, dude. I don't like it either. Yeah, you're just trying to... What you're after is freedom, but that's not going to get you what you want. How's your health? How old was she?

Knock on wood, good.

Are you married?

No.

Divorced a long time ago. Okay. All right. If you sold the house today, you would be free, and then you rent something as inexpensively as possible for two years and let your credit score heal because it'll heal over time when you don't have any payments and you get rid of the IRS. Right now, it's not healing. As long as the IRS is sitting there, your credit score is going to stay down, period. You're going to be renting for two years. You're going to be 69, and you're going to be buying something at that point. During that time, however, you will not have any of these payments. If you can keep your health up and continue to bring in the income, you can stack some cash on top of that 75 or 80 we got left over, right? But So your purchase would not occur for two years, though.

Yeah, I just don't know what I could rent.

I'm at house payments 1900, and what am I going to rent for close to that? You need to rent for less than that, even, and you're probably going to move away from where you are right now in order to do that.

You got any buddies that are single that need to rent and cut their costs? Maybe time to go back to the roommate situation, my friend. That's right.

I've given that a lot of thought about getting a roommate. I have a friend of mine staying with He's been cat sitting for me because- I think I'd do it the other way around. I think I'd be the roommate, sell this house and clear the debt. That was Ken's idea. That's a thought. It's not a bad thought. You got a tough one there. This is The Ramsey Show. Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's The Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create actual amazing relationships. Ken Coleman, Ramsey personality number one best-selling author, is my co-host today. Thanks for joining us, America. We're glad you're here. John is on the line in San Francisco. Hey, John, how are you?

Hey, Dave, how are you doing?

Better than I deserve. What's up?

Hey, I'm seeking advice on how I can get my name out of a house loan. I purchased a home in 2008. I was valued at 200,000 under my credit with my girlfriend at the time. Her in-law offered $40,000 to help us with a down payment with the promise that we pay them back when we refie in a year. The girlfriend at the time and I broke up months later. I wanted nothing to do with the house. I left. We went to a UPS motor replace to get my name removed out of the title, and the in-law's name got added on the title. The loan, though, stayed in my name with the promise of getting my name out of the loan after a year or so. I've tried countless times to initiate a refi for the house, but it never works out with the in-law. Either they didn't get approved or the credit at the time wasn't good, or they did not turn in paperwork, et cetera. Sixteen years later, the house loan is still under my name. The title is under their name. There's now renters in the house managed by a rental company. It has an equity of about $400,000 at this time.

I recently reengaged with them with a new mortgage loan advisor in the picture two weeks ago to reattempt another refi to get my name out of the loan. It's taking them two weeks to just send back documents to get the process going. I feel like it might end up to be another unsuccessful attempt. My question is, what can I do in this situation? My ultimate goal is to get my name out of the loan this summer. I want to move on in my life with my family. I also wanted to ask if I have any rights to the equity of the house whenever it gets sold.

You want the equity out of the house?

Is there a place for that? Really, my ultimate goal is just to get my name out of the loan and out of my credit. That's my number one priority. Okay.

All right. You're a case study on what not to do. Don't buy a home with your girlfriend. Super, don't buy a home with your girlfriend with her parents putting down the down payment. And super duper, don't do all that, and then later deed the home over to them without getting your name off the mortgage. That should have been done simultaneously, or you should have kept your name on the mortgage. You shouldn't have done any of this to start with. It's a disaster. It's why we tell people never buy a house with someone they're not married to. You even refer to them as the in-laws, and yet you were never married. It's just a girl. It's your ex's parents, your ex-girlfriend's parents is all it is. They were never in-laws because there was no law involved in this. No, never were married. Okay, what do you make?

I make about 150 to 200K a year.

Okay. Have you sat down in person with them, or has everything just been by phone or email?

I was in person with them, I want to say, three weeks ago for a graduation. I had a daughter with a girlfriend.

Oh, there There's that. So this is the grandparents of your daughter?

Right. Yeah.

And the plot thickens.

Yes, it does. Okay. And she just graduated from high school?

Yes.

Wow. Okay. Well, there's a lot of stuff you can do here, and none of it's going to be pleasant if you want to get rid of the mortgage. Okay? So one is obviously what you've been doing, and if they go get a new mortgage and get it out of your name, then easy. That one's going to be pleasant. If You can persuade them, assist them, even write a check for them to be able to get the loan. I would do that because of the fact that they are the grandparents of your daughter. Before I heard that, I was going to go more scorched earth because these people have been dragged, buttoned along for a long time. Now, if they won't do But your options are aggressive. That's your only options that are left. I assume there's nothing in this whole stupid deal written down, is there?

No.

Okay. No partnership agreement of any kind, no transactions or anything else. Okay. All we've got is what you said and what they said. He said, she said. What I would do Next, if you want to get this aggressive, is sit down with them in person and say, I really have to get this loan out of my name. I need to move on with my life. My daughter has graduated from high school. She's moving into adulthood. You guys need to make this come to an end for me. If you can't, we need to figure out something else. One option, folks, is for you to sell the house so that you can pay off the loan and get out of my name. That's an option, and you can do that voluntarily. Folks, if you don't do that, if you want me to buy you out of the house, I will give you a few thousand dollars. I don't know if you got any money at all. John, have you got any money?

Yeah.

How much money have you got?

I want to say we have at least saved up 50K for emergency.

Okay. If you bought this house for 50K back from them and they deeded it to you, that would be a deal because it's got a lot of equity, right?

Right.

I'll give you guys 50K and you deed it over to me if you don't want to sell it. But they'd be smarter to sell it and put the money in their pocket, right?

Right.

Okay. Those are two options, folks. If you don't want to do that, then I'm going to ask a judge to rule on this situation because you're taking advantage of me and I have to stop it. The The judge is going to require you sell the house, and that's going to involve me suing you. I really don't want to do that. It's going to be very expensive. It's going to be long and drawn out. You're going to hate it. I'm going to hate it. Everybody's going to end up mad but the lawyer. Who's going to cash our checks. I don't want to go that way, but if you guys are just going to sit on your thumbs, I'm going to have to. You're going to force me to do that. Now, that's pretty aggressive, and you can file a lawsuit over this in air quotes partnership dispute. You'd have to talk to an attorney about the basis for that. But basically, you're forcing them to liquidate the asset to make good on their promise in this partnership that's gone awry. That's the legal basis for what I'm talking about. But you're going to end up suing these people if they won't voluntarily go get a new mortgage or sell the property or deed it over to you.

And that any of those proposals are fairly aggressive, but it's time somebody get off their thumbs here, and that somebody is those people, the grandparents of your daughter. This is the Ramsey Show. Did you know that 54% of small business owners say they spend too much time in their business and not enough time on their business? That's why they have such a hard time scaling their businesses. Fortunately, Entree Leadership Summit is the leadership event designed for business owners like you to level up your skills so you can level up your business. You'll get insights from best-selling author, Jim Collins, Babylon B. Ceo, Seth Dylan, and two-time World Heavyweight Champion and entrepreneur, George Foreman. Summit will refuel your leadership tank and give you an action plan to build the business you really want. It's all happening in Denver, next May, 18 through 21. It's time you join the thousands of small business owners who have already mastered the skills it takes to scale a small business. This is a leadership conference you don't want to miss. Go to ramsey solutions. Com/summit to reserve your seat today. Ken Coleman-Ramsey personality is my co-host today. Thank you for joining us, America.

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Hi, good. Me and my husband are huge Dave Ramsey fans, so we're really excited to be on the call.

We're honored to have you.

So Me and my husband have been doing really good at budgeting. We've been following Dave Ramsey plan, and we actually finally had some wiggle room in our budget to put extra debt payments. We've sold some assets and stuff, but then he lost his job last week. Now we're back to the point where we're trying really hard not to use credit cards. We were looking at- He didn't get any severence? No, it was a small company, and It didn't end on good terms. No, unfortunately, no. We were just high and dry.

Just dumped? Yes. What do you make?

Well, I'm self-employed. I started a bookkeeping business, and I've been doing it full-time for about six months now, but we're making about $10,000 a month gross.

What are you netting?

I'm paying myself about $45,000.

No, I didn't ask that. I asked what you're netting. You make $10,000. You run a small business. You have a net profit per month. What are you netting on $10,000? What are your margins? You're a bookkeeper.

About $5,000. It's a pretty good profit.

Yeah. Why can't you live on $5,000 a month?

Well, because we've made stupid mistakes and we lived above our means. We know that. We have $100,000 in debt.

Not counting your house?

Right, not counting our house. On what? Which is 88,000 is our house.

I said not counting your house.

Right.

You have 100,000 not counting your house or counting the house?

Not counting the house.

Okay, what's the 100,000? What debt?

Credit cards, consolidation loan from medical debt, things like that.

How much is cars?

Actually, we have two older vehicles, so they're It's paid in full.

Okay, so it's all credit cards and debt consolidation from other credit cards?

Yes, and medical stuff, too.

A hundred thousand dollars? Yes. Okay. All right. That's Pretty close to about $5,000 a month in payments. Yeah, okay. What was he making?

About $4,000 a month.

Doing what?

He was a generator of service technology Mission.

He works on generators? Yes. Okay. Like commercial, obviously.

Yeah, like whole house generators. Yeah.

We're talking mechanical work? Yes.

Service, repair, maintenance.

How long ago did he get laid off?

A week ago. A week?

Towards the end of last week, yeah.

Oh, not even a week. Okay. Yeah. Ken?

I got to jump in and say he needs to be getting busy right now doing as much freelance mechanical work until he can get another mechanical job. I can tell you in his particular talent field, I know he's specific in that generator field, but with his ability, he should be getting as much work as he can until he lands another gig, at least completely replenishing what he was making. But this is not a, Oh, we're trying to avoid credit cards. No, he's going out and he's working like crazy, fixing stuff everywhere. I mean, your area of where you're at, North Carolina, fantastic job economy. If you're anywhere near Raleigh, North Carolina, we're talking about a booming economy. A lot of people, a lot of cars breaking down, a lot of machines. He is getting after it. Two jobs, three jobs. If these are part-time jobs, like I said, just filling in at a garage where, Hey, we need a couple of extra hands around there. It's intensity. Intensity. He has such a transferable skill right now to where per hour, he should be making really good money and quickly.

Bottom line is someone who knows how to turn a wrench, regardless of what they're turning it on. Someone who knows how to analyze something like a generator breaking down and diagnose that can work on a lot of different things. That's what Ken means by transferable skill. What we want to encourage him to do, and you to encourage him to do, is to get over the shock and the pain of having been fired and dumped out on the street with nothing. Get over that anger as fast as possible because the best revenge is success.

Right. Well, and so he was helping me. Part of our gazelle intensity was he was helping me bookkeeping at night. Because I'm very small. We were considering letting him try to help me grow the business because I could use an extra hand.

Does he know how to do bookkeeping?

He can help me with some of the more basic things, yes. Yeah, but that's extra. He's been working with me.

Sure. At night, that's okay, but you're not going to be able to pay him what he could make out in the marketplace, are you?

No, not immediately, no. But it's one of those hard situations where I can't really grow the business.

You don't have the ability to invest He's in your business right now. You have to have the money now. He has to go get a work. That's right. Him working in your business right now is an investment that you don't have the money to make. He has to go create an income right now. Like by next week, I want him working somewhere, doing something. To keep the wolf away from your door so that you guys get where he needs to bring enough you guys can eat and pay your payments. Then we can start talking about Building up the business, working at night, working weekends. Maybe he shifts and goes a whole other direction with his career, even. I don't know. Is there something else he's talked about doing that's fun?

Yeah, he's pretty talented. He's pretty well-versed at a lot of different trades.

You're well aware right now that the trades are just a boom. It's the best thing to be in because you can just get hired in 20 seconds. That's why Ken and I are sitting here encouraging you to do that.

Kelly, Hey, just to show you, I just googled, Mecanic Jobs in Raleigh, North Carolina. I'm looking at three right here. One just says, Maintenance Technician. I haven't clicked on it. It was $25 to $35 an hour, full-time. No No degree required. Includes health insurance. I mean, you understand this. You understand it. Yeah. Okay, so this is just about, let's move on.

He can make $40 an hour.

Absolutely.

Well, we're a little over an hour away from Raleigh. That just was the closest city.

Drive your butt over that direction and get a job. Hello. Yeah, I get it.

I get it. But there's lots of things in your area where people need someone to Dave's point that can turn a wrench. Yeah.

And your husband knows I'll do that. He's talented, he can do a lot of stuff and then continue to grow your business. And if he wants to quit and join that business someday when you guys can get large enough to justify that. But you called me in a crisis. The first thing we have to do is put the crisis to bed. We have to triage. And then we can come back later and talk about investing and growing your business. That's the first thing. Don't get the two confused. And your husband's very marketable. And once he gets past being pissed off or being fired, so he needs to go do this today. Move today. Urgency. This is the Ramsey Show. Are you planning to sail with us on the Live Like No One Else Cruise? Then you It's better to book your cabin before they're sold out. If you're on Baby Step 4 and above, come aboard March 22nd through the 29th of 2025 as we set sail for Turks and Caicos, St. Thomas, San Juan, and the Bahamas. Join me, the Ramsey personality and a ton of special guests for the ultimate debt-free celebration. Book your cabin because they are going fast.

Head to ramseysolutions. Com/cruise today. Ken Coleman, Ramsey. Personality is my co Host today in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions on the debt-free stage. Mark and Stacey are with us. Hey, guys, how are you? Hi. Hey, we're doing good. Welcome. Where do you all live? We are outside of Annapolis, Maryland, in Odenton. Oh, fun. Welcome to Nashville. How much debt have you guys paid off? Just under $93,000. All right. How long did this take? Do you remember? 19 months, 10 days. Love it. Okay. And your range of income during that 19 months? We started off at 178,000, and last year we ended over 200. Good for you. Well done. What do you guys make? I mean, what do you do? I'm a licensed esthetician. And I'm an IT professional. Awesome. Very cool. Good job, guys. What debt was the 93? Okay, well, I have a list because it's a lot. Okay. We owe the IRS money. We had three credit cards, two cars, four cell phones, two personal loans, Peloton, and a 401k loan. And a partridge and a poultry. You guys were normal. Pretty much. Yeah, we borrowed on everything in sight. That's pretty much normal.

Wow. So what happened 19 months ago, what was the wake-up call, and how did you get tied into Ramsey? I discovered the podcast and started listening to that, downloaded every dollar. We have two teenagers, so realizing that we had no money for college was a driver. Yeah, scared the crap out of you. Just sick and tired of not having enough money. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. You start listening to this crazy podcast, and you come home, and Mark said what? She's definitely the brains of this operation. I mean, she listened to you guys endlessly. I heard your voice constantly in our house. Like a finger nail down a chalkboard. Yeah, she is endless. But it's great. But he paused his 401(k) Okay. Oh, wow. That was huge for him because he did not want to do that. Yeah. You went along for the ride. I did. At times, begrudgingly, but you did it. That's good. Good for you guys. Well done. Thank you. Very fun. An endless podcast Gas Absorption, which gives you a lot of instruction, a lot of little nuanced ideas on things to work on. What did you guys do from that point?

Really just worked the plan. I'm a purist, but budget. We worked with what we had. Yeah. What do you tell people the key to paying off 93 in 19 months is? The things that I wrote down that were important to us were... Well, actually, hold on. Just making a decision. I mean, it's that simple. I had heard your podcast before, but it didn't stick. But once we decided following your steps as prescribed, exactly, don't question it, and then combining accounts. We were married 20 years this year, and we just did that. Wow. Was that weird? Did it feel real awkward? It was a little bit, but totally worth it. Then six months later, you go, Why didn't we do this earlier? Yes. Pretty much. That's the way most people experience it. You had your own deal for 20 years, and then you slam-dunk together. It's like there's a culture, there's a shock runs through your system. But then once you get a new rhythm, it's like, Well, we should have been doing this all along. Right. And being flexible because things always change. Yeah, they do. Even in 19 months, they do. Yes. That's very cool.

Very true. Way to go, you all. Thank you. You've been married 19 years. Have you ever been debt free during the 19 years? No. We've never not had a car payment. Wow. Always a car. And I have said, I will always have a car payment. Sure. That was permission to get a new car if you were going to pay one-off. As soon as we get paid off, we can't live without a payment. We got to go get another one. That's it. That's the way the mindset of the American works now. But not you. You're weird now, officially. You're the best weird. When normal is broke, you don't want to be normal. It's that simple. Way to go, you all.

Yeah, I have two questions. The first one is a quick one. Do you still have the Peloton, and do you use it?

We do still have it, and I use it every day.

All right. That's huge. That's big. This is for you, Mark, and you're a hero in this, too. This is actually, I think, would be fun. I'm not in any way calling you out. But as the reluctant spouse, we've seen that on you and you're hearing the story. What would you say to other spouses who right now, their spouse is beating up the podcast. They're on YouTube, they're listening on radio, they're just talking about it all the time.

Very similar situation that you were in, because I think you have a unique perspective here.

What is the key when you're the reluctant spouse and you got one that's on You just have to be patient with it, suffer along through the process. That's good.

Like I said, she's the brains of the operation, so I followed her lead, and I started paying attention to the things you guys were saying and just cooperating with her and trusting the process, of course.

Even when you don't agree necessarily, you're not A hundred % bought in. Is that what you're saying?

Correct, yes. One of the big things was eating, and we didn't get to eat out a lot, and we just had to have the specific things that we ate.

I see a little trauma there, Mark. You're like, here's some food items that you don't ever want to eat again.

There's some good news is the food scene in Nashville is incredible. That's right. So you're going to be able to find you some great- You get to splurge while you're here now that you're dead free. Way to go. That's true. That's so good, you guys. Thank Thank you. I completely agree with that. I don't want to put words in your mouth, but the way... Those of you listening only, you're not seeing what we're seeing with Mark. But it looks to me like as I'm watching you, you said she's the brains of operation two times, but I think you went along with this just because it meant a lot to her and you love her. That is true. Yeah. Not necessarily had anything to do with you liking it. She's really fired about this, and I love her, so I'm going with it. Yeah. Cool. Thank you. There's nothing wrong with that. That's a good thing. You're a good man. That's a good man. Well done. You guys are incredible. Thank you. Heroes. You changed your whole life. You changed your whole family tree permanently. I hope it's permanently. Well done. Never going back, man. Never going back.

Now that we're free, now that we're combined, it's all on. Game on, game on, game on. Very cool. Now we can actually send these kids to college and pay for it. Yes. That's right. Because we got a couple of hundred thousand bucks a year and no payments. Ding, ding, ding, ding. Proper College choice. Good choice on what we're going to study to make it worth it. Both of you got those fields. Both of you got great fields that you're in.So very cool.Thank you so much. Very cool. Very cool. Thank you so much. All right, bring up the kiddos, introduce them. Let's hear their names and ages. This is Sadie. She's headed off to a community college in Maryland. All right, Sadie. She's 17, and this is Chase, and he is 16, and he is a junior in high school. All right. Way to go, you guys. Very cool. I love it. Excellent job. All right. From Annapolis, or just outside Annapolis, Maryland, Mark and Stacey, Chase and Sadie, 93,000 paid off in 19 months, making 178 to 200. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Ready? 3, 2, 1. We're dead free. Yeah. Yeah.

Buy that man a steak. Yeah. Yeah, right. And a couple of appetizers. I love it. Congratulations, you guys. That's powerful. That is powerful. It is interesting the dynamic that goes on when one spouse gets fired up and what you've got to work through. That was fun to watch. Mark's a really good sport, but a good guy, obviously, as well. Because there wasn't a stop Stacey once she got on it. You can tell she's a dog on a bone, man. She's getting That's right. That's a lot of fun. They did it. They did it. They did it. $93,000 paid off in 19 months. Now, think about that, guys. That's a lot. Some of you sitting out there going, I've got student loans, and I'm stuck, and I'm a victim. Shut up. Roll up your sleeves. Suck it up, buttercup. Look at what those two just did. They proved it. They're heroes, man. Their kids are going to college now. You know why? Stacey looked up and said, I don't have the money. That scares me. I feel like a bad mom. I'm not doing this. They happened to life.

Instead of everything happening to them, they just decided, We're going to happen to this problem, and that is just inspiring. Yeah, pretty incredible. Way to go, heroes.

Way to go. This is The Ramsey Show. Our scripture of the day, Psalms 1:1, blessed is the one who does not walk in a step with the wicked, or stand in the way that sinners take, or sit in the company of mockers, Mockers. Sit in the company of mockers. Al Bernstein says, Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction. I'll go with that. I can resemble that. Folks, selling a house the Ramsey way makes home buying and home selling a blessing instead of a curse. The Ramsey Trusted program is the only way to find an agent you can trust that we trust to keep you on track with what we teach here at Ramsey Ramsey and get the best offer on your house or find the right house for you. We send you some of the top agents in your area, and we have vetted them, and that's the only reason we trust them. Many of them we've worked with for decades. We interview them, we decide which one you want to work with, and then Ramsey, you decide which one you want to work with. Then Ramsey Trusted Agents have years of experience.

They know how to get a house sold. Check them out. Find a Ramsey trusted real estate agent for free at ramseysolutions. Com/agent. Kyle is in Memphis. Hey, Kyle, welcome to The Ramsey Show.

Hey, Dave. Thanks for taking my call.

I appreciate it. Sure, man.

What's up? Hey, so I'm currently trying to decide if I should quit my day job and pursue what is currently my side hustle. I have a degree in landscape design. I really enjoy doing it. What I do is I build custom outdoor living spaces, patios, pergolas, big kitchens, and stuff That's your side hustle? That's what I did full-time. My wife is in dental school.

I'm sorry. What's your side hustle?

Doing that. Okay. What's your job? Your day job? I'm just a project manager with a commercial construction company.

Okay. How much are you making on your side hustle? Well, right now, I've grossed 100,000 for the year right now, and I've netded 48, 49, something like that. What do you make in your day job?

Sixty. We're really close, right? No, you already made 48. I already made 48. Yeah, I know, but he's making 60. I'm saying he's close to- No, he made 48 In six months? In six months, I'm sorry.

Anualizes 100. All right.

I'm making more at your side job than you are at your day job. That's right. Yeah, interesting. Why would you stay?

Well, the kicker is we're only in Memphis for another 18 months.

My wife is finishing up dental school in just under two years, and we don't know where we're going to go, but neither her family or my family is from Memphis, and we're definitely getting out of there.

During the 18 months that you're there, you have the ability to make $100,000 a year working on your own, right? Yeah, I do.

Or you could work for the other people and make 60. Or you could do both. Well, that's the kicker. So I approached my current boss and wanted to make sure I was in the clear because we're a commercial construction company.

What I'm doing is all residential, but it is still construction. So I wanted to make sure I was up front and that there was no compete issues. He gave me the green light. I guess he wasn't aware of the scale of the projects I was doing and how efficient I could be at doing them, doing a whole project like that on the weekend. So he came back after about two months and said that he had changed his mind and he would only allow me to do it if I brought him my lead database and all the customers that I had run demographics on to advertise to. But Let him pick through them, run the leads he wanted to sell them, and then give me the rest. He doesn't sell them in that market, you're saying? Exactly. So now he wants to get into the market? No, I think it's more of a pride thing.

No, I'm I'm sorry.

He wants to sell to your leads. That's correct.

But they don't currently have a product line in that segment, you said.

That's correct.

So now because you're successful, he wants to open up in your segment. That's correct. He's taking authority he doesn't have. It's not his call. Yeah. Bye-bye. Can I just jump on what we said earlier, Kyle?

Because Dave's right, you're making more money in the 18 months that your wife is finishing school, but you don't have to leave right away. This is a transition plan for you. You're making more, which means you're saving more. Now, if you and your wife figure out where we want to go in the great United States, wherever you want to go, well, guess what? You're still working for yourself. You take some time and figure out, All right, I've got experience. I know how to build this business. Where is the best place to go? I just think that it puts you in the absolute best position, short term and long term, to go ahead and cut ties and work for yourself.

Is there something going on or at the current place that I'm missing? Because you painted this guy up to be a complete opportunist crook. He's been with the company for 40 years.

Everybody knows he's a problem, but they can't really get rid of him because he's been there so long. He's a It was a problem all the way around. I don't know. If you want to stay, I would jump above the chain of command. I'd go above his head and say, Look, here's what he told me, and now here's what he's trying to do.

I'm going to quit if you guys enforce what he wants me to do. I'm going to put his head on the block. Okay. Well, I mean, we'll be I was hoping you guys would say that because I was- You have nothing to lose. What are they going to do? Say, No, we're going to keep him.

He's been here 40 years. He's a problem. You're screwed, fired. And then you go do your thing.

You don't lose anything in this conversation.

You can swagger in there with a take this job and shove it attitude. That's right. You don't have to be a smart ankle, but I would go to his boss and say, Listen, so-and-so told me this on this date. You don't happen to have that on an email or anything, do you? No, I did it all in person. I probably should have got that. No, that's fine.

I would have followed up with an email for CYA, but especially if you know the guy's a potential problem.

But anyway, too late now. It doesn't matter because you're going to keep doing the side gig. The only question is whether you're going to continue to work at this place. If you're taking our advice, that's what we're advising you to do. If you want to just walk out, that's fine, and go do it, that's fine. If you want to keep both, potentially, but have an adversarial relationship with said goober, then you probably jump over goober's head and you sit down with his boss and go, Look, he told me this. Now he's telling me this, and I'm not going to do that. Now you guys have to decide, are you going to allow me to do this or are you going to force me to quit?

Yeah, a quick follow-up on this, Kyle.

What do you think that his boss is going to say to you?

You got a gut?

Yeah, Real quick, tell me what you think.

What's your gut telling you that they're going to say?

Are they going to fire you or are they going to work it out? I think he'd tell me, You need to quit or you're getting the boot. Yeah. Okay. I've got a quick… Dave, I want to run this by Dave real quick, Kyle. I want Dave to take on my second thought. I think I call this dude's bluff. I think he's a bully. I think he's a bully who's been somewhat successful. We see this all the time in small business, and they're scared to deal with him because they perceive value in him. I think he's a bully. If that's true, I wouldn't go above his head because of that very reason.

I just look at him and go, Hey, man, all due respect. I don't have to give you any leads at all. That's not what you told me.

I'm just going to keep doing my thing. Just be respectful, like Dave said.

Not be a jerk about it, but call his bluff.

See if he's got… You think he'll fire you? He might. But like you said and what my whole logic was, So what?

Not that big a deal. Is he a bully?

Am I on to something or am I wrong?

I don't mind being wrong. Cowardly? Yeah, I think it's more of a cowardly thing. He's not a people person. He's very detailed oriented and he's- Are you taking time away from your current job to do your sad hustle? No, sir. I strictly do it evenings, weekends. You're not cheating them in any way? No, sir. I'm with Ken. I believe I'm going with Ken on this. Call his bluff or just walk out, one of the two. Either one is fine with me. That's right. Either one is fine with me. There's nothing fun about this whole thing. I'm probably just leaving. I don't want to deal with that crap, but life's too short category. That puts this hour in the books. We'll be back with you before you know it. In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus. Dr.

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