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Hey, everyone. This is Lewis Howes, and I am so excited to invite you to the Summit of Greatness 2024 happening at the iconic Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles, California. This is more than just an event. It's a powerful experience designed to ignite your passion, boost your growth, and connect you with a community of other inspiring achievers. Join us Friday, September 13th, and Saturday, September 14th, for two days packed with inspiration and transformation from some of the most incredible speakers on the planet. Don't miss out on this to elevate your life, unlock your potential, and be part of something truly special. Make sure to get your tickets right now and step into greatness with us at the Summit of Greatness 2024. Head over to luishouse. Com/tickets and get your tickets today, and I will see you there. Welcome to this special masterclass. We've brought some of the top experts in the world to help you unlock the power of your life through this specific theme today. It's going to be powerful. So let's go ahead and dive in.

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So many of us can think in our minds like, Okay, I'm dissatisfied. I'm not fulfilled. I don't know what I want to do. But we try and think our way into an answer rather than start getting into action to try different things, to sample them. You can take a class, you can take a physical class, you can read a book, you can start talking to people. There are so many different strategic ways to engage in an idea without quitting your job, without putting yourself at risk, without doing anything that would jeopardize your well-being in the current moment, but set yourself up for success down the line. Yeah, interesting.

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What do you think is... You weren't this huge success overnight once you started live coaching. It took you three years to become certified, I guess, right? Yes.

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And then you started to pick up-And I didn't even become certified. I graduated. I finished all of my courses. But then there was this whole other certification process. And to be really honest, I didn't feel called to do it. I had other things by that point that I was like, okay, I want to get a product out there. I also got involved with health and fitness. So there was only 24 hours in a day, and I chose not to get certified because it didn't feel like I needed to.

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And you could pick up clients along the way anyways. You don't need to be certified to coach people.

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I was more interested in, could I get someone results? Was I a good coach? Could I positively impact their life? Could I help them get to the place where they wanted to go? Could I be an awesome coach, again, from experience, not just because I had a piece of paper? So that, for me, was more exciting, and that's what I focused What do you think people need to do in their thought process, in the approach, in learning about that it's a journey?

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Because obviously, again, you didn't have clients overnight. You weren't this big success then that you are now with Marie TV and B-School and all the things you've been up to. It's been a journey. It's been like a 10, 12, seven-year journey, right? Absolutely. To get to where you are now. Yeah. And people want the results now. They want to be rich, they want to be healthy, they want to be wealthy in all the sense right now. Yes. How can people start Coaching Things Differently to dream big, but also be realistic.

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Yeah. I think that there is a mindset that I adopted, thankfully, in my early 20s that really saved my butt, and that I think it can really help most people because I'm a driven individual. I'm incredibly ambitious. And most people in our day and age, there is that bit of wanting instant gratification, but I think that it sets us up to be unhappy. And so for me, I often wrest with, Okay, well, how do How I reconcile the fact that I have big dreams, I'm not where I want to be yet, yet I don't want to be miserable until I get there because I'm smart enough to know that when I get there, my dreams are actually going to get bigger. So I'm just setting myself up for a life of misery. Yeah. Thank goodness. Business, I discovered this whole philosophy of living in the moment. And it was really a set of practices. And I learned how to get out of my head and really live in the here and now, and not by sitting on some mountaintop or oming all day, but to really engage in the present moment. Like, this moment is it.

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This is it. And I call it in the book that I wrote, Making Isn't This Your Business. Like, whatever is happening in this moment, I'm going to just approach it and attack it. Like, I'm meant to be here. This is my party. No matter what's going on, if I'm bartending and I'm working seven days a week, if I'm scrubbing somebody's floor, which I did. I mean, I was a personal assistant. I cleaned people's toilets. I did whatever I needed to do because I didn't want to be a desperate life coach because I thought that's the most horrible thing in the world, needing paying clients. I said, Let me make money bartending and cleaning people's toilets or doing whatever I have to do so that when I'm coaching people, I can coach them out of my skillset and my desire to make a difference, not out of needing their money. So this idea of making is this your business trains you to love this moment, but you're also super-pumped about where you're going. So it's not like you lose sight of your dreams. It's not like you lose your ambition, but you strike this It's a really interesting balance of being fully here and now and fully excited about where you're going.

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And I think that saved me.

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Yeah, I think it's like being in a dance of living in the now, but also aspiring for the future of what you really want, which can be in a year, 10 years, or whatever it may be, right? Yeah. And I just did an interview with a guy named Donald Schulz, who said something that goes like, There are only two days a year you can't work, and it's yesterday and tomorrow. And I thought that was interesting when he said that. I was like, Yeah, you You really got to be present. Obviously, you can dream about tomorrow and dream about your vision and what you want to create and plan for the future. But you've got to be present in today's journey. Yes. And appreciate what you do have, not what you don't have, right?

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Absolutely. And anywhere you find yourself, it is up to you whether or not you're going to be miserable there or you're going to make it awesome. And I remember so many times going into another bartending shift. And of course, if I let my mind run wild, my mind would say, what are you still doing here? If you were smarter, you would have a full business by now. When is this ever going to happen? And I really trained myself to go, whatever. I'm here right now. How can I make the best drink possible? How can I have so much fun with all the people that I'm working with? How can I give these people a great experience so that at the end of my shift, I'm not exhausted from being miserable for 6 hours. And I can actually go home, yeah, a little bit tired, but not feeling like I'm wrong in my life.

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Or I'm worthless.

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Or I'm not talented enough or I'm not smart enough. And it was a really great training period. People often ask, they're like, Are you really always this happy? And I'm like, I'm not always happy, but I'm a damn happy person most of the time. And I have my bad days, but I really think so much of success is about your attitude that you bring to the table. And you got to bring it to the table every single day, no matter what stage you're at. And for me, I didn't fully transition into my full-time business. I think most people don't know this, seven years. Wow. So when people tell me, Oh, I have this day job, and I'm so miserable.

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Seven years until you're doing what you've been doing now.

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Kind of. So there was a whole period, again, this multi-passionate thing. When I was starting my coaching practice, I started to recognize that even just calling myself a coach felt limited. And I had this dream of dancing, and I love hip hop. Never had any formal training in the world. I also love fitness. So there's a lot of things that I wanted to get involved with. And I realized when I was about 25, I said, if I don't do all these things right now, I'm going to regret it. I realized that if I take some my attention away from coaching, sure, I won't get there as fast as I would have if I put all my attention there. But it's not my truth. The truth is, I want to dance hip hop. I want to go do some cool things out on the road. I don't care if I'm not making a ton of money or not this, quote famous person. I didn't care at all about that. What mattered to me was, am I living the life that I want to live?

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I love that. I want to talk about mastering the things that you don't like doing along the journey, like mastering the perfect drink or bartending that shift, just becoming a master. Because I remember doing some jobs. Sure, we all had jobs we don't love. I used to be a truck driver for about three months until I couldn't do it anymore. But I would try to master timing, getting to my location and then getting back in as quick as possible, and master the roads and everything was about mastery, even in those little things that I didn't like. Why is it so important to try to master the things even though we don't like or we're not fully passionate about along the way? Why do you feel like that's important?

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I think it's all It's about quality of life, right? You take you wherever you go. And if in those moments, you're doing a job that you're not really excited about, but you have to be there for eight hours, you have a choice. You're either going to be miserable for eight hours or you're going to engage like a champ, and you're going to show up and be amazing. And I got to tell you, so many opportunities for me have come from me training myself to show up like a champ wherever I was. So for example, I taught hip hop at Crunch. And did I think I was going to teach hip hop I was forever? No. But I wanted to be the best hip hop instructor I possibly could be while I was there. And because my classes were filled and because I taught a good class, the higher ups chose me to be someone who auditioned for Nike. And gave me this opportunity. And then I got to be a Nike elite trainer and travel to Europe and all over the place.

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And weren't you the first one?

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I was one of the first four. Even when I was bartending in college, because I would do such a good job on this one person's cappuccino, that's how I got my job on the floor of Wall Street.Wow, really?Really. Because they were like, You care so much about what you're doing. What do you want to do after you graduate? They knew I was a college student. I said, I'm a finance major. I can't see myself in corporate finance. I can't see myself at a desk, but I don't know what else to do. And they're like, You know what? My brother works on the floor. Give me your resume. So for me, this idea of mastery and showing up, just you own it, the opportunities that can come when you do that, you can't even predict. Not I'd like to mention how you train yourself as a human being in terms of your own happiness and your own fulfillment. When you show up with that attitude of, I'm going to master this. I'm going to bring my A game, you feel better, you have more energy. The results are going to be better. You'll leave your day feeling just incredible rather than miserable.

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Yeah, that's great. Gratitude is something that I'm a big proponent of, and I know you are as well. Can you speak about the power of gratitude and how it affects everything in our lives?

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I think it's the most incredible transformation transformational tool that there is because if we're still alive, we have something to be grateful for. All of us have challenging times in our life. Things go wrong. Everything hits the fan. We all feel like failures. We feel frustrated. Nothing's going our way. We should probably give up. Why are we even here? I don't think there's any human being on the planet that doesn't have those days. And I have them, too, where you just wake up and you're like, Goodness, what is going on? How did all this happen? And for me, it's the first thing that I go to I need to start to turn that around internally and ask myself, Okay, you know what? I feel like crap right now. I want to cry. Everything sucks. But I'm still breathing. I look around, I'm like, Okay, roof over my head. I went to the fridge. There's food in the fridge. And I know because of so much of the work that we do, that there are millions, in fact, a billion people that don't have those basic things, that can't say they have a safe roof over their head, that don't have food in a refrigerator.

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They don't even have running water. So for me, it's a really great check immediately to say, Okay, great. I feel like crap, but I got all these things. How can I start to turn this around? And then I go to one of my other favorites, which is everything is figure outable that I learned from my mom.

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Don't you have it on the wall over here or something?

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Yeah, we'll get a shot I love that. I do because when you're in a tough spot, what matters is your beliefs and your psychology and what you're going to do in that moment, no matter what the circumstances are. And for me, that gratitude piece is first because it starts to shift everything. And then going to everything is figure outable, which is my belief, helps me get into problem solving mode and go, okay, whatever the situation is, what do I need to do? What actions do I need to take? Do I need to pick up a phone? Do I need to go out and exercise? Do I need to put on some music? Do I need to just sit and cry? What do I need to do to move myself ahead in a positive, powerful way?

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What's your daily routine like then? Do you wake up and express gratitude? Are you meditating? Are you expressing gratitude throughout the day? What's What's it like? Are you working out mentally, emotionally? What's your plan every day?

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So there's a couple of things that I always make sure that I do. But again, I'm someone who, ironically, I'm a little bit of a paradox in this sense, where I love structure. And Josh, my fiancé, he makes fun of me. He's like, You're the most organized, structured person I've ever met. And I rebel against it at the same time. You want flexibility, too. Freedom. At the same time, completely. So meditation always happens. Whether it happens first, second, or third, depends on how I feel. Do I need my little cup of mate when I wake up first? Do I need water when I wake up first? Do I just need to chill for a second when I wake up first? Green juice is another thing that's always fit in there. And then exercise is really... That always depends on the flow. Depending on what's happening with myself and my business and my creativity, sometimes it happens in the morning. That's always the ideal time. But there's often times when it doesn't. And it has to either get shifted a little bit later or later on this week, I'm going to this super early morning dance party from 6 AM to 9 AM.

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I'm like, This is awesome. So I try and change it up. But the meditation and the green juice and just getting myself really centered and ready for the day, that's what I do. And then in terms of productivity, though, the night before, I always make my list for the next day. Really? Oh, my goodness. Because my schedule is such that there's so much variety. So there could be interviews, there could be phone calls, it could be travel, there could be shoots. And if I don't get myself set up the night before, I don't feel like I I can dive right into the day with strength and clarity. So I look at all the things that are happening, if there's any outside appointments and all of my tasks, like the important things that need to get done, those are listed first, and then the time is blocked out, and then the rest of the day can be awesome.

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So would you say setting an intention the night before is really powerful and setting yourself up to win that day?

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Yeah. And for me, it's not so much of an intention because I think my DNA is such that I want to just murder it. Do you know what I mean? I'm going to just crush this. It's going going to happen, and I'm going to have a good time. But for me, it's actual clarity of what are the most important things that need to get done and what are the things that would be great. But if for whatever reason life shows up or things have to get moved around, they can move on.

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Yeah, I think I saw a video of you talking about important and urgent and to actually focus on doing the important things first.

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Always.

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Always first, and then get to the urgent things later, because the urgent things will always-They'll always get done.

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Because if they're really that urgent, you will Will take care of them. You will. But in our digital age of so much information coming at us constantly in the way that most of us have habituated ourselves to have our phones ding, to have little alerts come up, to have everything come in, that we trained ourselves to hit the refresh button on our email like a little crack addict.Instagram.Oh, my. It's insane. But we've done this to ourselves, and we have to systematically undo it if we want to actually move the ball ahead on major projects.

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How do we start undoing these things, these habits that aren't serving us or that aren't really moving us forward to achieving our visions.

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I think awareness is the first step to any major change. And so you just got to get real with yourself about your crappy habits. You know what I mean? And be honest about, yeah, I just spent 2-3 hours getting sucked into Facebook and comparing myself to everyone else and looking at, oh, my God, they're doing so much better than I am. And what about this? I think being honest with yourself and awareness of what you're doing that's not working so that you can replace Place it with a habit that does. And I mean, that simple practice. If anyone just at the end of their workday sat down and took a look at, Okay, what's the most important things I need to get done tomorrow? And actually time blocked it. Like, okay, writing that blog, even writing that blog post is probably going to take me 30 to 45 minutes. Okay, that's on there. Having a meeting with the team, that's at least another 30 minutes. Writing this brand new whatever, that's an hour. All of a sudden, you'll see your morning is pretty spoken for. You You should not be going to email. You should not be taking phone calls, and you shouldn't do anything else but those important things.

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Yeah. I'm a big fan of coaches and mentors, and I feel like my entire athletic career would not have been the way it was without having great coaches. And my years or seasons, I should say, reflected the coaches I had. If I had great coaches, I typically had a great performance or I felt great. When I had coaches that were negative, it was really weighing on me and the results were not as powerful. Who have been your mentors or coaches or influential people along your your lifetime? And growing up, I should say, then who are your mentors and coaches now?

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Growing up, I I have some influential people. My parents are amazing human beings. I remember when I was in high school and I was on the cheerleading team, which, by the way, I tried out to be a cheerleader, I think, I don't know how many years, and I got rejected. Really? All of them. Oh, yeah. I stuck. I was horrible, but I kept at it until Well, they finally said yes. I figured out what I was doing wrong and got in. Then I went right to being captain, so it paid off. Nice. I remember that my cheerleading coach in high school, she saw how hard I was willing to work. It really impressed me because she said, You know what? The other girls in the team probably aren't going to like this decision that I move you up to captain, but no one else. I created a whole fitness circuit so everyone could get strong, so we could hopefully win a competition. I would do a lot of the choreography for the team because I love to dance. And so that was really important for me when she rewarded me based on my work and my work ethic and what I was bringing to the table versus how long I had been on the team.

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And that was very influential. I know in college, I had some great teachers who just would always challenge my ideas and help me see things from a broader perspective. And then as a professional, I always meet great people, and I consider myself a lifelong student. I love learning. I always have a stack of books. I'm always hungry to learn a new idea or see a new concept or figure out something that could help myself and help other people. I remember Deepak Chopper was a far away influence when I read The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, that book totally rocked my world. My yoga teacher who taught me about meditation when I was 17, she was huge. I've always loved Oprah ever since I was a little girl. So that was the far away. Who doesn't love Oprah? I mean, Anyone who doesn't, I can't even deal with them. I understand different strokes for different folks, but the folks that are mean to her, I don't even understand it. And of course, Tony Robbins, I remember. He was my gateway drug, really, to the world of personal development. And I was so impressed with who he was.

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And yeah, those are people that I feel like I've always held in my heart and always looked to and admired and really appreciated the work that they do and who they are in the world.

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Do you have Are there mentors or coaches right now that you work with on a daily basis or that you hire to support you?

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I try and hire people in areas that I really need the help right now, like where the business is at this moment. We have such a clear vision for where we want to go. Again, sometimes I wish there were 48 hours in the day because there's so much that we want to do, and I have to hold myself back so I don't work 17 hours every single day. But for example, a lot is changing in the online world right now. A lot. Especially in the digital landscape and when you're selling digital learning products. One of the things that's changing are the tax laws, both in Europe and here in the States. So for me, right now, what we're looking at investigating, we're working with different tax attorneys because we want that expertise. But I'm always talking with people. If I have any challenge in the business, I look to go to someone who is a master in the area that I need specific advice on. So while it's not one person-It's a coach for the moment or for that season.

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Exactly.

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Depending on whatever the challenge or the opportunity is that I really want to leverage or make sure that we're ahead of the game, I try and find the best person that I think that can advise me based on their experience. Got you.

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Do you think it's valuable for people to have coaches in their life? Definitely. To either hire or unofficial mentors or something like that.

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I mean, I rely so much on my team and my friends and the people that I love that I think, whether you want to call them a coach or depending on what vernacular works for you. Don't need an official. Yeah. Yeah, but I do. And I think that there's nothing wrong with asking for help or saying, You know what? No one in my life really is willing to listen to me about the things that I want to talk about, the business I want to build. So I want someone who's totally focused on me, dedicated, can help me get results. I think it's awesome. I've had that many times in my life. It's just at this particular moment, everything is so full. I feel like I've given myself enough homework. You know what I mean? Sure, sure, sure. For the next 6-8 months. But I do think they're valuable.

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To actually change the world, change people, you need a curriculum. You need to be able to give them empowerment and tools to be able to help to do that. And if you're going to actually make it, I always tell people, you can't sustain the mission if you don't make the money, which was a big thing for me because I came from nothing. My background a bit. Growing up in Montana, we just had nothing. We grew up in poverty. My parents were working super hard between the two of to raise us four kids. Literally, till this day, I have no idea how they did it. So my ambition was like, maybe someday I can make $40,000 because the richest people in our town didn't make that money. But that also can get in the way because sometimes people They let their ambitions or their financial hopes based on where they grew up, and they let their past or their current circumstances dictate the dreams for the finances they want in the future. And then what happens? They do something that becomes really popular. And they're like, Oh, this is working. And The number count they're watching is the fans and the followers, which is great.

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But what I'm always saying is, please make sure you build a business because if suddenly you're not as popular or you go broke or something happens, God forbid, if you haven't built the infrastructure to carry your message, then you're not being a responsible messenger. An influencer without a business is a popular person who's busy.

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Yeah, all the time. And stress because they're not making any money, they can't pay their rent. I was having a conversation with Jay Chetty about this about a year and a half ago. Because I was always trying to push him to earn more. He was like, I'm happy with just making, I don't know, I think it was like 100 grand or maybe a few hundred grand, right? I'm not sure the exact number, but he was like, I never felt like I needed to make more money because I felt like I just want to serve people. I want to give as much as I can. And I said, Well, you're really doing a disservice unless you start earning more because you can hire more people and transform It's a good way to live those lives. You can use the resources to create bigger projects, bigger production of movies and videos that can then infect people in a positive way.

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Yeah, people have to get out of their way about money. And it's the hardest thing. Trust me, it was like there were parts of When we did our first launch, when we did our first seminar, afterwards, I went broke because I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know so much. Just completely went broke. Had to live with my girlfriend, who is now Denise, my wife. She was buying my groceries. She was supporting me. She was the only person who knew what I wanted to do and really the only person believing and cheering it on. I had that great support.Wow. People say, You're so lucky, but I'm like, I am. I had a car accident that smacked me in the head and made me say, I want to live my life. Luck number one. Luck number two, great parents. Luck number three, a girl that believed in me when I didn't even quite believe in myself.What year was this?I met Denise in 2003.We were together five years, and I propose. So we've been together a long time. But I remember even sitting there when I was bankrupt, and she's sleeping in the bed, and I'm on this little desk next to the bed, and I'm writing, and all my bills, and my paperwork, and my vision boards were on the bed.

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And as I'm typing, she comes over and craws under the covers to go to bed. And I look over and my woman, sleeping under my bills, I was literally. I would say none of us want to be responsible for the pain in other people's lives because of an inaction. I just hadn't taken action, but I also didn't... I just didn't have any attachment to money my whole life, even now. You've seen what we do on our big trips. I'm like, Let's go. I go crazy.Helicopters and this. Whatever. It's like, Have a great time because I don't have an attachment to it. But what I do have an attachment to is the mission. I want to help people achieve their goals faster. I want to help people realize they have a second chance on this planet every that they wake up. If you have a second chance every day, that's evergreen. Every day is your life's golden ticket. You get to choose when you woke up this morning, what's my attitude going to be, how I'm going to treat people, what I'm going to focus on, what I'm going to make happen, how I feel. We get to choose these things to an extraordinary extent.

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So my whole thing is like, Hey, you have a second chance. Use that. And this time in your second chance, in your next relationship, in the next job, in the next moment, be more intentional. Be more service You know, lead with more heart. Make sure you're doing things that bring you meaning. If I really believe that as I tell it to you, then I would have to build the infrastructure to sustain it. That's where the business thing comes in. I had to go, All right. And there was nothing about this business I was attracted to. Like, literally. You're very introverted. Very introverted. I'm still, I'm awkward. Even right now, I'm awkward in a meeting. You've been with me on a deck by a pool. I'm different. I'm more relaxed Just a little bit. But I had to learn everything a bit. I had to learn how to speak. I was terrified of public speaking. I had to learn how to do video, which was a super awkward, hard thing. Now we've had 250 million video views, but the number I'm really proud of is 15 million hours of my online training has been watched.15 million hours.That's a lot of.

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That's annoying. But that's instruction. No cat videos, no memes, no reposting other people's That's like online training content, 15 million hours. That's a lot of teaching. We have 27 online courses. 27 I've done, and I was terrified of video. I had to learn podcasting, I had to learn how to write books. But all I had was at When my car accident, I said, I want to inspire people to understand we all have life's golden ticket. We have a second chance. We can all live, love, and matter if we make that our intention. So let's start measuring ourselves and being more purposeful. Then I had to figure out how to do it. Well, you have to master your mindset. You have to master your habits. You have to be better in your relationships. You have to live for something.

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Optimize your health.

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Yes. If I really believed in that, I had to step back at some point and not go, What are my strengths? Because my strengths were sitting on a couch and eating Cheetos. It's like at some point, you go, No, no. What is I want to be of service to? High performers don't often ask, Just what are my strengths? I'll just do that. They say, what is required to be of service here? And let me grow into that. I had to grow into a business owner. I had to grow into a community communicator. I had to grow into a writer or in a podcaster. I didn't know how to do any of that. I just had something I wanted to share and teach the world. I had to learn how to be a researcher and conduct like, original full scale psychological research, which was high performance habits. I didn't know how to do any of that. But if you believe you have a message in your heart, you'll know that you have to build the infrastructure for it. Because if you don't make the money, you can't sustain the message. It's hard. You're advising to Jay, it was really great because he's doing great now because he's changed that approach.

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Yes. And now he still cares about impacting as many people as possible, but he knows that the business model needs to be there, and he's been crushing it on both sides. He's been doing amazing.

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Yeah, that's great.

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Now, who should be thinking about becoming an influencer? And who is it for and who is it not for? Because you're the introverted guy. So if you're introverted and you're scared and you've never spoken before, you've never written a book, should you even be thinking, Maybe this is for me or maybe it isn't?

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I'm just thinking in my head as you're saying that how many of our friends and fans are like, It's not introverted.I know. But I always say, listen, you can't write six books and not be an introvert. You can't sit and do the hundreds of hours of curriculum development without being introverted. No, I think introverts can come. Exoverts can come. It's somebody who says, You know what? I want to be a person of influence in the world where I'm affecting positive change. You want to figure out how to have a career doing that. It's those two things. First is the heart and the soul of it. It's like, I want to create positive change. I want to be a role model. I'll say, no one seeks to become an expert or a thought leader, which is what we used to call it. Now we just call it influencer. But no one seeks to become an influencer unless in some way they have the role model mindset. That mindset that says, you know what? I want to do good. How about the people see that and maybe inspire them. I want to lead my life in a way that's an example for other people.

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As soon as you decide to adopt the role model mindset where you say, I want to be an example for other people, it requires you to do the hard stuff.It.

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Does.to work out.Stuff you don't You don't want to do everything.

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You don't want to do. You don't want to work out. You don't want to push yourself. To be a role model, you have to demonstrate integrity and discipline and service. And most people, they won't challenge themselves that much. I think first is the role model mindset. So first, I have that. I want to effect positive change. I want to be a role model for other people. I want to inspire people. I want people to see the passions I have and maybe learn from those passions. And I want to give people empowerment. And then the other side of it is, Oh, well, I wonder how I do that and get paid as a career. Because while influencer is the popular word right now, this industry has been there for hundreds of years with publishing. It's just changed now. Influencer influencers sit on top of more publishing platforms than we used to have access to. But at the end of the day, we're still publishing content. We're still promoting and pushing work out in the world. But people go, How do you make money? Well, now you can earn money in so many ways. So many ways.

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The The problem is most influencers come up today think they're going to earn money just by doing brand deals. I'm going to get popular and do brand deals. I'm like, Oh, they don't understand the model. It's like what we say in Montana, where I'm from, the time to have the map is before you enter the woods. Yeah. I'm like, If you're trying to figure out the influencer space and you want to know all 12 major ways to monetize your voice, your content, your message, your brand, you should learn that as a menu before you pick one. Most people are earning this much when they can be earning 10 or 12 times more if they just understood the model, but they think they're so clever and they're inventing this. I know so many people are like, Oh, we're not. I'm original. I'm doing this. I'm like, This was here before. You know what I mean? Just you and me, too. We rode in on giant shoulders. And so I think it's for people who really have those two things.

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But there's more money to be made now as an influencer than there ever was before. There's more opportunities, there's more models for making money, different methods. And you've got a couple of key themes and a framework on becoming an influencer, figuring out your message, the model, the mechanisms, everything. I want to break them down. The first thing you talk about is the message, just getting clear on your message is what I'm assuming, right? Yeah. As an influencer, Is it important to know what your message is? And how do you find your message if you're trying to become an influencer?

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Yeah, because the death of most influencers, they don't realize is their randomness. Right. They're just excited. I'm going to post everything. I'm going to talk about everything. But they've never created a cohesive message that their audience goes, I get her. I understand her. It's not like you have to say the same thing over and over and over, but there has to be something that means something to you. One thing I admire about what you do, buddy, is how you talk about greatness. That theme and that messaging is so tight. And honestly, over the last three years, when I listen to your show, I'm like, he's just dialing this in. You know your word choice now. You know your phrases, you know what you're saying. It's not just being repetitive on those. It's just that's who you are. And that integrity of your message is being shown. So you better be intentional about the person you're trying to become. Because most people think about message, they go, Oh, so I need to have a mission statement, Brandon? I'm like, no, no, no. You are the message. The integrity of who you are and how you show up energetically and how you treat other people, that's the message.The.

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Role model mentality.Yes. Yeah, the role model. You become a role model of your message.That's.

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It.yeah. Yeah, because that's what integrity is. It's like people are going to watch you and go, Are you congru It's so frequent here and there. And if you're not, that message feels funny to them. But you and I both know a lot of influencers, they've never done any deep introspection. They've put on 50 different clothes and beautiful Instagram things, but they don't know who they are.

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Yeah. Or they got the mental health challenge, which is what we're to talk about later. But the message is getting clear on your message and the theme of your brand, the theme of your influence, I think is key. Listen, it doesn't mean you have to be a perfect human being. You're going to make mistakes, you're going to learn, you're going to But it's like trying to be congruent with your message consistently. For you, it's high performance habits. For your book, you talk about it in your podcast, you talk about it in your events, you live that and you showcase that. For me, with greatness, it's like, what are the core themes of living a great life and business, health, relationships, and everything involved. It's trying to do the best to live that all the time and talk about it consistently.Including.

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The failures.Absolutely.That's part of it.Showcasing.

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The failures. I think when influencers showcase their It's just the mistakes and failures, it makes them more real, more likable.

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Yeah, that's why everyone likes me because I'm a hot mess all the time. Exactly.

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You got to get clear on the message first. Do you have a mechanism for... It's like, I like everything. How do you figure out what your message is? Is there a process or just some journaling that you could share with people? Yeah.

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First sitting down and saying, what do you want to be a role model on? If you want to be a role model, what is it about? And how does that translate into a person's real What would you say to an actual person to help them or inspire them? You just have to start writing those words like, What would I say? What would I say? It's that old thing of if you could put a message on a billboard or if something was written on your tombstone, what are those things? For me, a lot of people know it's like live, love, and matter. Because when I faced my death as a 19-year-old kid, I was like, Oh, I learned I really want to live life. I learned because I was a heartbroken kid, I wanted to love again and feel my heart again. I learned that life is super short, so you better make your difference. So live, love, and Matter became central to everything I did for 15 years. Every message revolved around that because that was me, and that was a unique experience I had. I think a lot of people have to go and dig down deep into their experiences of their life and say, What were some of the gifts of the lessons that I learned?

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Some of the awful things that happened to us or the challenging things, those struggles, there's a story there, and that story can reveal some lessons or things that you might be a role model to for people. It doesn't have to be so finite that just like, this is it forever. Because you'll keep evolving, you'll keep learning. But there's there's hints there, and you can go dig in your past to find those hints. You can also just ask, what are the passions that I really feel in my heart that I just want to communicate right now. Some people it's like, well, that's fashion for them. Some people it's health for them.Being a mom.Being a mom, being an educator, just showing everyday life. That's fine because ultimately, again, you are the message. So the most important thing isn't to figure out what am What am I going to say? It's the most important thing is who are you?Who.

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Are you is the key.Dick.

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Deep, man.Assuming.

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That question.Yes..

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Who are you? One of the things we do is I ask people, come up with three words that describe the best of who you are. That's great. These are aspirational words. If you think of three words, When I'm at my best, these three words really define me. Then I say, Okay, now, figure out what are three words that really describe the best of you when you're with other people? How do you treat them? Then what I have to do is I literally have them program in their phone as an alarm.

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Yeah, I have that on my alarm. Still 8:30 AM. You still do? Yeah. That's it. I need to change to 6:30, but it's like an 8:30 AM reminder. That's it.

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Mine's still in here. I've been doing this for whatever. There was my 9:00 AM, dynamic, bold, and confident. That was for today. Because I was like, I'm usually a little more reserved in Lewis's interviews because he's the man. Be a little more bold and competent.

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I have loving, giving, achiever.That's it.Yeah, loving, giving, achiever. I could probably change that, too. Yeah.

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I switch mine every week, but So three words that you would describe as yourself and then three words that you would want other people to describe you as or that you would describe yourself. Yeah, so three words you describe yourself as, the best of who you are. Yeah. And that's just you, your identity. And then the other one is more like relationships. Three words to describe how you are with other people. For example, my word there, bold. That can describe me as a person, how I think. But I wouldn't want you to ever go, Well, Brenan, when he's with me, he's real bold. That's different. How you are with other people people should have a certain definition and description, and how you are by yourself should have a certain... And that's how you start to know yourself. Like, Oh, I'm like, this is a person. And with other people, I'm like, this is a person.

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It's like shaping your own internal identity of your qualities and reminding yourself of who you are.

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Labeling yourself a little bit in a positive way. Because most people, they take the labels the world gave them. Oh, you're just the athlete, Lewis. If you just took that and that was all you ever owned and you never explored beyond that, we wouldn't be here. That's true. We're because you explored who am I? And you are still doing that. So am I? It's not like it's a thing that stops, but people want to see you working that through.

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I think 15, 20 years ago, in my teens, I used to say, Man, you suck to myself all the time. You're a loser. You suck. I hate you. I'd say these words to myself, You're never going to do anything better than this person, or you're never going to be enough, whatever. I would say these things internally, and those start to shape you as well. And they start to shape how you your way you treat other people, your reactions, and how you treat yourself. That's right. So I think this is a very powerful, simple exercise that we've been doing for so many years now that we forget the power of this. But I'm glad you made this reminder because I never say those things to myself anymore. It's always like, you're kind, you're loving, you're passionate, you're wise, you're giving, you're caring. I say these things all the time. I never even say anything negative, ever.

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You give yourself patience on the days you're not. Absolutely. And that's a hard thing for people because they're supposed to be kind, and one day they're a jerk, and then they're, I'm a jerk, and they go back to that old bad label. But it's like, what your audience wants to see if you're an influencer is you working through the development of you. They want to be on that journey with you and see like, Oh, I see him or her becoming because they're willing to ask the hard questions about themselves and explore who they are. Because you can't be an influencer and not explore who you are. Even the great presidents of our time were always in motion of exploring who they are, the great business people. It's not like Elon Musk has been exactly Elon Musk exactly 10 years ago as he is today. It's like you're seeing this evolution, this change, and sometimes it's a hot mess, and other times you're like, Oh, this person's... People want to be on the journey with you as you're exploring who you are. If you're not exploring who you are, you're not growing. If you're not growing, the audience is not growing.

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Starts to die.They're not interested.So true.

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Get clear on your message, figure out your three words, and that's a great start there. Now, the next thing is figure out your market. What do you mean by that? What is a market?

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One, I don't like that term, especially for guys like you and me who we do so many walks of life listening to your show and my show.

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Multiple industries and markets.

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Yeah, I look at the analytics of... When I look at the Brennan Show podcast, it's like, holy crap, all these countries, all these... You can't. If you come to our events, I've gone to your events, too. You can't do a demographic run in that audience.

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Not like all 32 two-year-old male sales executives in the car industry. No.

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That's the old world of marketing. You had to speak to one specific person. What people don't understand if they've never studied the history of marketing is that the reason that niche marketing came out, that concept of just identifying one person to talk to. And some people now say, Identify your customer avatar. I'm like, No, you're identifying avatars. It's plural. Because the reason that came so popular in marketing back in the day was only for one reason, because in the '20s, the golden age of marketing advertising, you only had so much budget to run a certain ad on one platform. So you really had to get super niche and narrow. Now we're able to reach a couple of billion people. Now, we're able to have broader conversations. So what you want to do with your market is try to understand, what are the aspirations of the people I want to serve looking like? It's about the aspirations, not about the demographic.It's.

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The mindset.Yes. I always talk about that. For me, school of Greatness is not about the 32-year-old mom with two kids. It's more of a mindset and a mentality. Yeah. And that's what we look for, someone with a growth mindset. I call them conscious achievers. People are looking to achieve in their life, but in a conscious way. They want to grow personally, and they want to impact people around them. I love that. If they have that mentality, then you're a part of the community, and that's who I try to speak to. But it could be a 16-year-old or a 60-year-old. It It could be people from all over the world, but it's this conscious achieving mentality.I love that.That's what I focus on.

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I love that. You got to have that. You got to have that. I want to tell people all the time is, if you're not out with your students, your fans, your followers, and you're not really getting to know them, at some point you're going to lose that audience because you just don't know them. It's true. You need to know what's in their heart, not their age. You need to know what's in their heart, not every part of their background or where they were raised and Everything. I was like, That market analysis is overdone, and corporations love to pay for that. When they do deals with me, they're always like, Tell me everything about your people. I'm like, They have the aspiration to go to the next level.

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That's it.

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For me, that's it. That is my market. I have always, for the last 15 years, marketed and talked to people who were in that transition moment of their life and ready to go to the next level. I didn't speak to those who were just starting. That was my audience who didn't know what person. I always went high-end in the sense of I speak to people who are ready to go to the next They've already got one level of security or sense of themselves or success. And now they're like, You know what? Next level time. So they're in that phase. We're gearing up. They're like, Here we go. They're not like, Oh, I don't feel motivated. That wasn't my audience. My market was an aspiration to go to the next level, and I was focused on that. And it's what made for me with our brands, how did you do all those seven-figure launches, 28 of them? I spoke to that aspiration So people knew, this is for me.

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This is for me. So in like a 20 seconds, say you were doing a video to attract the aspirational mindset or the heartset of this individual. You have a video that spreads out to the world, and you know it's going to attract a certain type of person to come into your offering. What would you say in 15, 20 seconds, a few key words that would be leading people into where you wanted them to go, so it was the right mindset. What would you say?

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You're somebody who you feel like you've tried everything. You've been at this for years. You don't feel like you've gotten that breakthrough just yet. You're doing good, but there's too many days you don't feel as motivated or as driven as you really want to to go to the next level, and you feel like you need some more empowerment to really achieve that next level. Not just get inspired or motivated because that can come and go, but rather you're looking for real tactical solutions that will help you earn more, that will help you become more, that will show you step by step. This is how you reach that next level. And not for my opinion, it's that I've spent 15 years researching the highest performing people on the planet. What they do is very specific. And if you're honest, you haven't been very specific. You've been random. And because you're good, you already have some success, you're able to just go through the motions. But going through the motions is the killer of the high performer.It's true.Right? Becausegood to great. Yeah, that's right. You can be good, but that's not going to take you to the next level.

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So I'm going to assume you're already good, but you sense inside that there's a restlessness and there's a struggle there that you don't know what that breakthrough feels like. But you also, you're very aware of this next level. You have a dream, you have something you want to achieve. So let's just dial in your motivation. Let's dial in your habits, but let's It's going to give you the discipline and the willpower to make it happen.

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So get clear on your message to the market. Then there's a method. What does a method mean?

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I always love to talk about method with people. It's like method acting? Yeah, for real. It's like, Picasso had a method. Van Gogh had a method. Beethoven had a method. They were thoughtful about the art of what they did. And influencers need to think about that. You thought about, I want a podcast that's going to be like this. Exactly. And as you honed that in over the years, the podcast got better because you brought more intention to the method.

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That's true.

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Actors who just show up and read the words, not good. But the greats, they're so thoughtful about the turn of the phrase and how they're going this. The great musician, the great artist, they obsess about the actual art of the thing. Because, again, just showing up, especially when you're good, it's going to limit you. Now you want to be more intentional and say, What is this? It's like I've I've heard with you before, having the blessing of working with Oprah, she starts meetings by asking, What's our intention here? Greatness requires a lot of intention. It does.

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It doesn't just happen by showing up. You got to get You're really clear on the results and the experience you want to create.

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Yeah, you see a really high-achieving influencer do a photoshoot way different than somebody who's not high-achieving. The intention and the placement of things of where this goes and how this works.

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Closing everything.

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That's method. That's like bringing art to the method. When I wrote Motivation Manifesto, I was like, Okay, I'm going to write a book that's never been written before in its tone that hasn't been seen in hundreds of years. I was like, how do I figure that? I'm like, it was an art project. If what you are doing as an influencer It doesn't feel like an art project, you're just simply doing it wrong, and you're going to burn out, and you're going to quit.

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Give me examples of methods for someone like a Rachel Hollis and a Jay Shetty. What's their method from your point of view?

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Jay is super intentional about his videos. I sit them down and we did Influencer Day with him, and I asked him 40 questions. How do you do these videos? He's intentional from when the video is changing, to the tone of the music and when it's lifting, to when other people appear in the video versus just him. He's intentional about the length of the video. He's intentional about what day the video is posted.He's made it.Time, everything. Because what most people do, slot it together, throw it up. He's really trying to dial it down to a very specific process that draws emotion from people. That's a method.

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His thing is viral video.

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Yes.

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It's artistic viral video that creates an emotional feeling for someone. It's not just like this scientific videos or how-to videos. It's like an emotional feeling that people want to watch and share.

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You've thought they were that, too, as well. That's why you've got hundreds of millions of views. Absolutely. It's just like, versus guys like me who sometimes just put up a very inspiring video, but we didn't put the B-roll in. We didn't put the music up and down. We didn't clip it at the right spot.It's a different method.Exactly.Different method, different results. To those who put more into the method, they win. They're the better the artist. An influencer has to understand you are in the art of impacting people. If you're in the art of impacting people, you better focus on the art as much as the impact.

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That's really good.

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That's become my obsession is getting people to understand you don't read a book to check a box, you don't go to school to impress your parents. You do it because the skill that you will acquire lets you do something in the world that other people can't do or you wouldn't be able to do, and that has a material impact on your life.

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I feel like you and I are very similar in the that we talk about skills a lot and acquiring new skills. I think when you have a down phase or a breakdown phase, that's when you should think about what are the skills I'm lacking that could benefit me so this doesn't happen again. I remember my early 20s had a lot of free time because I was I'm looking on my sister's couch. I just obsessed over skills. When you learn a skill that is hard that you don't think you can accomplish and you actually master it, for me, I feel unstable. I feel like I can accomplish anything. I feel like even in a setting where I feel uncomfortable, as long as I know in the back of my head, I've got these other skills that maybe they don't know about that I could pull out at any time, it just makes me more confident. I don't know if you feel the same way about acquiring skills.100%.Yeah..

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It's interesting, and I know you talk about it. So some people in your audience, I'm sure, have a sense. But I think of you very differently than they think of you. I don't think of you as on-air talent, though you were obviously very gifted at that, because I've spent so much time with you outside of that talking strategy around, how do you grow How do you get good at YouTube? How do you build a business? Like, whatever. And seeing how adept you are at those skills, that's where it gets interesting. So that people understand that all the things you talk about, all the training that you do and stuff, it isn't the part that they see. The School of greatness is the tip of this very large iceberg of skills that you're building. And that, to me, is the fascination. When you're not focused on the tip, but you're focused on actually building that foundational set of skills, what you can do with your life and what you can make as the tip of the iceberg that other people will recognize becomes really interesting.

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It's interesting. My skill was never... I'm a good interviewer or a host or anything. I never learned that skill. My fear was connecting with people. As a teenager, I learned that in order to become successful in my life, I had to learn how to connect with people and build relationships. I turned a fear into a superpower of building relationships. Then translating that into, Okay, let me interview people, was another thing I had to learn, but it was never my gift from birth. It was a skill I had to acquire and overcome. What was the greatest fear in the last five years that you had to overcome that has now become a skill or a superpower? Power for you?

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I think the only thing that I've thought through like that is I feel like Kobe Bryant when he split from Shaq. And it was like he wanted to... He obviously had a championship with Shaq, but could he win a championship on his own? And so my last company was so successful, but I did it with two partners. And so now to have a new partner in Lisa, it's like, Okay, can I also lead this team to a championship? And so that drives me in a way that I find so fun of like, Okay, cool. Hey, as a part of that group, smashed it. But can I do it over here? So that reinvention, trying things and letting myself feel the weight of like, Hey, you got to prove it, buddy. You had a big success once. Can you do it again? And so doing that under new circumstances, to me, I love that. I love the excitement of, Can I? Will he? Won't he? So that's a lot of fun. But that's something that I think if I thought about the world differently. So I don't value myself for achieving it. So whether I achieve it or not is irrelevant.

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But showing up every day and sincerely pursuing it is what I value myself for. And I like to feel that weight of like, Hey, maybe you won't. Maybe you're going to fail. Maybe it was only you as a part of this collective. Hey, you did a great job there. Or maybe it was just that moment in time. Yeah, you rode a wave. But over here, can you create something from scratch? Can you repeat it? So, yeah, that. I don't live in a space of letting that be a fear. Sure, sure. But it's a cousin of that feeling.

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I think it's exactly what you're asking. Where do you think all success starts with?

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Well, the fast answer is mindset. Going back to the only belief that matters, you said it. The way you act is ultimately all that matters, and the way you act follows what you allow yourself to believe. Believe, or maybe a better way to say it is what you choose to believe. So if you choose to believe that your energy and efforts will result in more skillset, then you will actually put energy and effort into getting that, which means you actually will get the skillset. But if you think, Well, my talent and intelligence So no matter how much I work, I'm never going to get better. I can't be a fast pig. And if you don't think that putting time and energy into it will yield anything, then you won't put time and energy into it, and you thusly won't get the skills. And if you don't have the skills, then you can't do the things other people can do. And so people just get stuck because they don't have the only belief that matters. So they don't put the time and energy. And so that's where everything starts is, are you putting the time and energy into getting better, yes or no?

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Yeah. And when you When do you get the most angry and reactive? Are there things that make you reactive?

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Yes, very much so.

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Maybe not angry, but like, this frustrates me. Don't do that.

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I think the same, and I think you're right. I'm not somebody who's quick to anger in 99.9% of my life.

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You might not scream with anger.

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But I want to, Lewis. That 0.1% really does get from me exactly where you're going, which is when When I see somebody, accept excuses, make excuses, do less than they can, and it impacts me. So if I'm honest, if it's just impacting them, I don't get angry, I feel compassion. But when it's like, and now you're dragging me down, now you're slowing me down, now you're trying to talk me out of something, now you're telling me I dream too big, now you're hurling stones at me or whatever because of something that you've got on you, and I'm freaking you out because of how I'm moving or what I'm going for or whatever, that actually It actually does make me angry.

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So how often does your team make you frustrated if they're not taking responsibility 100% in time?

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Because we have... So one thing I learned back at Quest because we grew so fast, and I just wasn't smart enough at the time. You're only as good as what you write down. You can be small and communicate everything in these interpersonal relationships. But as you get bigger, it goes away.

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Yeah, and hope people have it memorized or something. Interesting, you're only as good as what you write down. You can be small and communicate everything in these interpersonal relationships. As you get bigger, it goes away. Yeah, and hope people have a memorizer or something. Interesting You're only as good as what you write down. Correct.

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When you're running a company.

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Yeah. In terms of having a process documented that someone could implement, not just a simple conversation that you hope they memorize. 100%.

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Coming into impact theory, you have to sign It's not a pledge, but it's about as close to a pledge as you're going to get. And it's our culture code document. And it says things like, you will take 100% responsibility for your job. You will be expected to look beyond your role. Just all these things.I love this.One of them is, I only want to play with hardcore money. And it says, This is not a safe space, so do not come here expecting people to be kind. Look, here's the thing. I also expect you to elevate your team and to lift them up and to celebrate them and want them to win and cheer them on and never worry about whether it was your idea. The only relationship worth being in, because all relationships are sacrificed, the only relationship worth being in is where you feel like, Well, this person really cares about me. I want people to retire at Impact Theory. At a time where millennials stay at a company for 18 months, I'm asking them to stay for 40 years. Now, to do that, I've got to give you emotional stability. I've got to give you somewhere where you can build trust trust where people are honest with you.

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But in being honest, people are going to be direct. They're going to say hard things in the spirit of, I want to lift you up. I want to see you get better. Because remember, we believe that you can get better. And if you put your time and energy into improvement, then you actually will improve, and therefore, you get more out of your The company gets more out of your involvement. But I really had to be hard core about that because you'll hear a lot people say, don't hire for skills, hire for culture. Or John Wooden, the best explainer of this, the famous basketball coach. I don't look for the best player. I look for the best fit. That really is true, man. When you get somebody who you can really relate to and you can say hard things and they're receptive and they say hard things and you know they're coming from a good place, it elevates you. And it's fun to be around. As a social animal, we just love I love that stuff. So that's huge. But I'm really hardcore on the way in so that once you're in, we can give you grace.

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Imagine if you were on my team and I don't, I try never to refer to people as employees. I slip up from time to time, but I really think of them as teammates. So if you're my teammate and you're like, Hey, look, man, I'm really having a hard time. My girlfriend and I are just in a dark place right now, and I'm going to need a couple of weeks just to go sort it out. Don't even explain. I got it. Cool. I got you. Tell me what I need to know to be able to pick up the slack for you. We refer to vacations as being sacred. The only vacation policy we have is that it's unlimited. So do whatever you want. Get your work done. You need to be a high performer, yada, yada, yada. But if you need the time to deal with your girlfriend, the death, and the family, whatever, take that time. Be an adult. Autonomy is huge for me. I assume it's huge for most people. But to do that, you've got to say, this is the criteria we expect you to meet.

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You need to be high performing the rest of the time you're here.

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If any of this turns you off, this is not a place for you. It says that in the document. If you're not prepared to do this, this, this, this, thisIt's a safe place. Yes, this is not a safe space.

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What does that mean, not a safe space?

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It means that I'm going to make absolutely no effort to protect your feelings. I'm going to never, ever, ever sacrifice clarity for kindness. Now, I will be as kind. I want to be kind, dude. I want you to be kind to me. I want to be kind to you. My wife is my partner. I would never want an environment that was tearing her down. So it's in the spirit of trying to elevate people. I'm not a Machiavelian guy. That's gross to me. That is such a turn off. I want to, like you would treat a friend, dude, if you're in a dark time, you're going to underperform, and I'm down. I'm with it. I will do your work for you to create the space place for you to have that moment, because I know at some time it's going to be my moment. But that only works if I'm not parasitic, you're not parasitic. It's going to be hard enough if you don't have ill intent. Now, if you are lazy, if you have ill intent, if you are trying to milk the system or whatever, then it's never going to work. But if it's just legitimately you're going through a period we will all go through, which is a very hard time for whatever the hundreds of reasons throughout our lives that we will underperform, be in a dark place, whatever, Whatever.

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If at that moment, people lift you back up, they brush you off, remind you of who you are and who you can be, and they love you and they're there with you, cool. We all get it. But to do that, you really have to have a code of behavior on the way, and you just have to. The every day of it all, what do we expect? And I want to be around hard core people for their own reasons. I don't want to have to sweat you. I don't even want to think about you. I want you to go do your I want to do my thing. I want to be able to count on you to crush it, and you can definitely count on me to crush it. And then if I need you, I will ask, and hopefully you will aid me. And if you need me, fuck, I'm going to run to your side to help you. But I don't want to micromanage. I want you to be good at what you do, to be getting it better every day for your own reasons. And there is a certain subset of humanity that is like that.

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If you get them in your company and you set them free, they won't all get in the But 80%, it's pretty magical.

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What's the best hire you ever made?My wife.Besides your wife.

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There have been a lot, dude. I'm super stoked in my team. How about instead of saying a person, I will give you types of personality There you go.that I find intoxicating. Number one, somebody who is so convinced that they're not yet good enough to achieve their dreams, but so believe they can get there and are what I call a a relentless problem solver. A relentless problem solver is worth their weight in gold. I don't need them to be highly educated. They will educate themselves over time. Somebody who's not afraid to speak to power, that is a big deal. I have a very strong personality, and unintentionally, I shut some personality types down. A quote that popped into my mind one day when a person who shall remain nameless, didn't use these exact words, but basically said, slow Slow down so I can lead. And I was like, yeah, no.

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That does not work. Someone on your team said that. Yes.

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Not an impact theory. But at a point in my life, Sure, sure, sure. Somebody once effectively said, Slow down so I can lead. And I remember being incensed. This person would allow themselves to say those words. That's so anathema to who I am. I could see myself saying, I can't keep up with you. You need to lead. And then I would follow and be the greatest follower that I could be. So that notion of like, I want people that make me sweat. I want people that are like, they're trying to be so good for their own reasons that I'm like, Yo, keeping up with this person is intense. That's intoxicating for me.

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So the times that most frustrate you, you have a code of ethics when people come in. So hopefully you're not frustrated because they understand their accountability, their actions, their behaviors, everything. But what are the times that frustrates you the most outside of your company?

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Just in my personal life?

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Yeah, just in life in general.

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Inefficiency is the only thing that winds me up. It's the only thing that I will say I'm irrational about.Reactive to.

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You see something and you're like…Yeah.

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But nobody in the outside world would know because that's just ridiculous. I recognize that it's an offshoot of something that's very powerful in my life, my obsession with always doing things as efficiently as possible. But I also recognize that life isn't… On my deathbed, I will never say, Wow, I was efficient. Efficiency is useful towards getting to a goal, and so I prize it and I love it and all that. But my wife has tempered me and shown me that sometimes just the connecting, just being with somebody, just sitting and being is It's joyful.It's enough. Yeah. Yeah, not even just enough. It is precisely what the doctor ordered. And I'm not great at that.

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Not having to be efficient all the time. That's something.

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I'll give you an example. My wife on a Saturday will be telling me a story, and I'll be like, Oh, God, please, narrow this down. Say this faster. And every single time I have done that, I have thought that was a really dumb way to handle this moment. Let that part of your brain go. Part of this for her is the joy of telling the story. If it takes her an hour and it's joyful for her, what does it matter? Having to step in and out. I've done everything I can to confuse whether I'm at work or at play. Moments like that where at work, the efficiency really serves me. But now at this moment with my wife, and we may even be talking about work, but it's in a different context. It's a Saturday and just sitting in the kitchen and enjoying each other's time. She'll talk about something that bumps me back into a work mode, and now I'm just covening that efficiency, and it's just terrible for the relationship.

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You know what are the most fun moments for me of witnessing you in the last six years was?No.Can you guess?

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I actually I have no idea.

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I think you saw me. We're in Puerto Rico, and you were sitting with your wife on the beach. You're on a flatbed chair sitting back, just holding her, just sitting there looking into the ocean. No phone, no nothing. Maybe you were thinking about business in some way, but I was like, That's a really nice moment to watch you be calm and be still.

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You're making me emotional, Lewis.

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No, I'm serious, though. This just came to me because I only see you in hustle Walt Disneyland, out of the matrix world, like, Let's crush it. But I was like, this is a really nice moment to just witness for a few seconds, you be present with your wife. I'm sure you do this all the time on the weekends and stuff, but I was like, I want to see more of that as your friend. It can be 10 minutes a week. It doesn't have to be all the time. But this was a beautiful moment that I was like, that's what I think the world needs more in general in their own lives. I'm not saying that's what you're going to do because your personality is I've driven on other things, but I think it's in some ways healthy as well.

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I don't even think you have to couch it. It is extraordinarily healthy. I think it's absolutely necessary in everybody's life, mine included. Part of what makes my marriage my single greatest joy is Lisa is good at what I am not good at. And so very early in the marriage, we said, Okay, you're the canary in the coal mine, so I trust you. If you ever say we need to slow down, I will slow down instantly. You're more important to me than my business. And she's never abusive about it. So whenever she says something like, Hey, let's go sit on the beach, I know, be there on the beach with her. I'm not like, Hey, she's not looking at me. She's facing away on the ocean, so I can think about whatever I want. No, no, no. It's like, that's where you smell the nape of her neck, and you drink in that neurochemistry of that bond.

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How do you silence your thoughts over the obsessiveness of what you want to create in the moment of being present and connected with your partner?

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One, practice, so I meditate a lot out of necessity. And then two, is understanding that when you reinforce force of behavior, you really start to get something positive out of it. So when I'm there, like literally yesterday, there is a smell that my wife gets on her neck if she hasn't showered in a day. So she might skip a shower on the weekend, right? Oh, my God. The Oh, my God. It is the most intoxicating scent ever. And scent is the only of the senses that goes directly to the part of the brain, the emotional center of the brain. Everything else goes into a relay station first. It's the only part that goes directly into the limbic parts of your brain. So that's why when you smell a barbecue, whatever, you're like, I'm hungry. You're just in it. And when that smell is on my wife's neck, nothing else exists. It is just my wife.

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So Lisa, just don't shower every other day. If you wanted to slow down or do something else.

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I mean, that's one trigger. Yeah. So what are you prized? What is your value system? So nothing, not all the business success in the world has brought me the level, the sustained amount, and the amplitude of joy that being in a relationship with my wife has brought me. So I have so much clarity about what my values are. It's just that they don't often conflict. But when they do, and my wife says, Hey, slow down, or, Hey, I need time, or, Let's make sure we take X number of days a year, or whatever, I do it, no questions asked, even though I'm hard charging the rest of the time. And so we do dumb stuff. We shut down for Christmas. Our impact theory, my wife and I just talked about it this year, we will always, and forever, shut down for about two weeks at Christmas. And I don't expect anybody to work. I'm not going to be working. Go be with your family. Don't think about this stuff.

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Does not working for you mean actually not doing any strategizing of the mind, not taking notes, or working on an outline for a potential book, or thinking, Oh, this is a great character for my next movie?

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I would do anything that's fun. But work is fun for you. Yes. There will be some fun things I'm sure that I will do, but I'm more off the radar during Christmas than other times.

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You off the radar for Christmas in two weeks is more productive than most people's entire year on the radar.

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Well, and we can talk about that because I have gone way, way, way out of my way to make sure that I So Lisa and I had enough success, I never needed to work again. So if you're going to work, then you might as well structure for two things. The in the moment joy. So doing this hard thing, I actually find intrinsically pleasurable. And I will say 40% of my work life is that. 60 % is not. But 40 % is I would do this whether I was building a business or not.

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Getting paid or not for it.

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You love it. That's huge. And then the other is impact. So if you can make impact, doing something that you would be doing anyway, that's amazing.

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