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Hi. You were out of town, I saw on Instagram. Yes. Welcome back.

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Thank you. I went to Arizona.

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It was a last minute. Tell me everything.

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I got invited to... There was an abortion rally on Saturday, and then- Pro or? Well, I know. I'm still on Still undecided. Pro, definitely pro. But then I saw that Trump is doing his first rally coming straight out of his conviction.

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My God, what a sentence. What a stupid sentence.

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Yeah, it's not okay. That just came out of my mouth. I saw he was doing a rally on Thursday, and I was like, Well, if I'm going to go to Arizona, I'm going to go to both. I ended up going to the Trump rally and interviewing a lot of men. Trump supporters? Yes, Trump supporters about women's bodies. I quizz them on women's bodies, basically, to see how much they knew. I didn't get a single no from anyone. Oh, wow. I was pretty heartened by that. I don't know how much you want me to get to it.

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I'm curious.

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First of all, I'm just going to say it. He's going to win. Based on just the experience I had and how similar it is to 2016, where just there's so much enthusiasm for him, and it was so normal. It wasn't the fringe. In 2016, it was like, you were like, why are people so angry? Who are these people? Where are they coming? It was these fringe groups of people who have never voted before. Obviously, there are a lot of people who have voted before who voted for him, but it was a radical movement. Now it was just teenage sons and their moms and families and a diversity of ages, a diversity of everything. It just struck me. I've not been to a Biden rally yet, but the enthusiasm gap is scary.

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I'm very scared as well. I mean, I do I feel, though, that's, generally speaking, how these parties divide. Republicans, generally, are quite enthusiastic about their candidate, always. I do think there's generally a portion of Democrats that are very enthusiastic or loud, but there's also a big portion that's just being quiet. I just hope those people... You can say quiet, but you have to vote. It's just a numbers game. I mean, there are more Democrats and Republicans in this country. If we were required to vote, it would be no question. But there are so many hurdles.

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Yes. So many. The whole theory of the right treats their... They don't treat their voters like voters. They treat them like fans, like wrestling fans. Yes, 100 %. In 2016, people were enthusiastic about the first female president. There was enthusiasm, but there was also a lot of people who weren't.

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For sure.

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But I feel like now with Biden, everything is happening in the war, I'm worried.

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Yeah, I'm worried as well. Anyone who's like, The War, if you think Trump or any Republican would do anything different or make it so much worse, you are kidding.

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He is going to make it worse.

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Yeah. If you're a Democrat and you're like, Oh, I don't like what Biden's doing with the war, I understand. But this is a binary choice, if you must like it like this, which I personally don't. But it's a lesser of two evils. This is the way we have to approach I'm not so much worried about the Republican. I'm worried about Democrats. I'm worried that Democrats are just going to be like, sit it out.

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Exactly. And there's nothing that Trump could do at this point that would make those people not vote for him. I mean, he's a foulin at this point. But Biden, there's a lot that he Right? There's a lot to... Basically, Trump has very little to lose, unfortunately, and Biden has a lot to lose. We'll see. It's going to be interesting. But that's why, again, we were focusing on abortion rights and on women's rights. I think when you focus on those things- The issues. Yes. It's a very A scary picture if a Republican is in the White House. It's already. Yeah. And he's single-handedly responsible for over-training Ro. And he'll keep doing crazier and crazier.

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Yeah. Okay, but was it fun? Yeah, it was. I like it. Yeah. You're in your element. Yeah.

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I like being out in the field. It was so hot. Oh. Fifty people passed out at the Trump rally. Oh, my God. Hold down stretchers. I interviewed the firefighters because they were hot. And Yeah, it was mayhem. It was 110.

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Oh, they probably weren't drinking their Element.

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I forgot my Element, actually, and I have been chugging it since I've been back. You must. Yeah. Element required. But Yeah. How was your week?

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My week was good. Well, I do think I ate too many chicken burritos from Aarwan. Oh. I was eating them exclusively.

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For how long? Like, two weeks.

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Maybe more. I didn't count. Maybe just two I want to keep eating them every day exclusively. I love them. But then I had one dinner that was not Aarwan chicken burrito, and my body could not handle it. It got so accustomed to only eating Erwan chicken burritos. It was rejecting itself.

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Oh, God. That's an expensive habit.

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I know. So then I thought, oh, shit. And my pea was smelling weird. Like chicken burrito? Like chicken burrito It wasn't chicken burrito pea, but I was like, I wonder if I need to just add a little bit more variety back into my diet.

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Based on your pea. I don't think I've ever eaten something that changed my pea. That's fundamental.

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Oh, no, that's a real. That's very real. You can eat certain foods that will change. Also, just your whole vaginal pH. For sure.

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That I know.

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Lemon, obviously, is very good. Asparegrus. Asparegrus is bad. It's bad? Well, it's not bad. It's good. Yeah. Have you never done that?

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I don't think I assess my pea.

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Oh, my God. Asparegrus pea is very specific. Okay. Maybe you just don't eat it very much.

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I do. I eat a lot of green vegetables. Is it all the green ones or just asparegous? No, it's asparegrus, specifically.

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Interesting. Asparegous pea, it's very common.

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Maybe we didn't get it in Canada.

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It's like periods in the water. No, I think more people definitely know about asparegous pea. I agree. Maybe you should try it tonight. Eat some and then see if you smell it. It's very, very distinct. Okay, got it. I wonder, though, if it's also like Cilontro where some people don't have it, but I'm pretty sure it's something in the Asparegus that causes a smell. Anywho, I'm adding some diversity back in to my diet that's on the docket. I'm on a kick.

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Did you hear about Erwan's sunscreen smoothie? I saw it last night. What is it? I would have sent it to you. I didn't know you were on Erwan. Okay, so- I'm on a kick. It's Erwan's new sunscreen-inspired smoothie by Classic. It's like a brand.

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Is it Vacation Brand?

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Yes. Oh my God. Vacation Brand Smoothie. First of all, I love that brand.

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I do, too. And we just interviewed for Armchair Anonymous, someone who works for that brand. Okay. Which is so weird. There's been some sim glitchies lately. That is one. My friend Molly, she has a very distinct face. She's beautiful. She has this gorgeous face. And a couple of weeks ago, Jess and I saw a woman at L&E Eleni. Shout out Eleni Oyster Bar. And she looked just like Molly. She had the exact same face. And I first noticed it because she's half Ecuadorian. And so she has a beautiful skin color as well. And I saw this woman and I asked Jess, is that the same color of Molly's skin, or is it a little lighter or darker? And he was like, I think it's the same. And then I was like, whoa, her face also looks exactly like her. And he was like, yeah, weird. But she had this gray streak in her hair. She was really cool looking. A gray streak is like, bucket list.

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I hope one day to be cool enough.

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I was like, whoa, this is so weird. She looks just like her. And then I told Molly, I was like, oh, my God, we found your doppelganger or your twin or something. And then yesterday, I was with Jess again at Spina We tried Spina. You finally did it? Yeah. This really good Italian restaurant in Glendale. I looked through the window and there's another Molly. What? Yes. I was like, I think that's that girl from L&E. But then there was no gray streak. No streak. It was a different Molly. It's evidence that there's just this cookie cutter that the Sim... The Sim is just making replications and then making small changes, adding a gray streak, long hair, Big boobs, small, tiny adjustments, but it's the same.

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Yeah. To see if you're aware.

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I think it's an accident.

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Oh, it's an accident. Yeah. Okay. That makes sense. So it was trying to do Molly?

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I wasn't supposed I wasn't supposed to see that person. I wasn't supposed to see three Mollies. That was a glitch. Eric says, If we pay too much attention to the glitches, they're going to unplug the sim. So it's a little scary.

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The fact that we're talking about it, the sim is going to be embarrassed and then like...

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Unplug. Right. Like we're getting onto it too much. I know, but I can't help but be aware.

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Sure.

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And then talk.

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Well, do you think that it's a thing where now because you're seeing Mollie everywhere, you're going to see her everywhere?

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Well, I hope not. I love her face, but it's unsettling to see it everywhere. Maybe it was the girl and she dye her hair and grew it out really long. That's possible.

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Or she's wearing a wig. Or it's Molly just fucking with you.

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I know. It could be. Okay, I'm sorry. Back to Erwan Sunscreen Smoothie. What's in it?

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Good question. Let's see. I was on Instagram. Lameg. I'm guessing it's like a Pina Colada situation. Oh.

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Coconut base, creamy tropical flavor, sea salt, blues, Bira Sure. Are you interested in trying it?

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I think I have to. Okay. Right?

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I'm not so into their collab smoothies. Even though I think it's cool. If they want a collab, I'm available. I am tech available. Wait, what would be your smoothie? Probably something chocolate because I'm brown. That makes sense. That's all I have.

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They don't have a chocolate one.

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Yeah, which is crazy. They have, but-Not a collab. Not a collab. So they could. The chocolate ones are always the best ones. Maybe I could do a mint chocolatey one. That would be good. With actual peppermint. Like tea. Peppermint tea. Oh, you love tea. I love tea. Yeah. Mixed with cacao, probably some protein. Maybe a little almond butter in there. I don't want to give this away for free, but- No, exactly. There's going to be other pieces to this. And Erwan, if you're listening, I'm here for you.

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Does Erwan just exist in LA?

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I think so. Wow.

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Why aren't they branching out?

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Expanding out. I don't know, but it's a good move because when people come here, they want to go. It's like a tourist attraction at this point. I was just looking, speaking of that, I was on Emily Sunberg. She has a popular substat called Feed Me, and She wrote something about C. O. Bigelow in New York, the pharmacy. I have had those rose salves and the little things from C. O. Bigelow.

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I have no idea what you're talking about.

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Oh, okay. What is it? C. O. Bigelow. I thought you would know because you're a New It's like C. O. Bigelow. It's a brand. It's a pharmacy. But they also have their own brand. So they have this rose salve that was really popular. I think it maybe is still really popular, but you can use it anywhere on your lips or I don't know anything. And it's in a little tin. It's really cute, but they have other products as well. I didn't even know that it was a pharmacy. I thought it was just a brand. And turns out it's this pharmacy in New York, and it's really cool. And they have all these cool products, and they makeup and hair. You can order some stuff online, but not everything. It's really smart because now I'm like, When am I going to New York next? I have to plan a trip so I can go to C. O. Bigelow.

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I've never heard of this place.

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I know. I'm shocked.

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Wait, I want to Google it and see the logo.

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I think you'd recognize The Logo.

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T-o Bigelow.

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They've sold some of the products other places. I think they used to sell it at Bath & Bodyplace, the little rose salve, which is maybe when I first tried it.

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When I do images, it just pulls out Deuce Bigelow, Mailjiggalow. Oh, that's different.

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Are you spelling it right?

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B-i-g-a-l-o? B-i-g-a-l-o? E. Oh, E. I was writing Bigelow.

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With a W at the end, too. Bigelow. It'll self-correct.

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Oh, I know this brand. Okay, Yeah. It's in hotels and stuff.

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But it's a pharmacy.

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Okay. I didn't know it was a big deal.

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Yeah. So now I got to go.

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Okay. Well, let's go to New York.

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Go to New York. Go to the pharmacy.

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Go to Crookadeal.

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Yeah, for real. Oh, for real. That rimes. Eruan is the CEO Bigelow of LA. If you can only get the Hailey Bieber smoothie in LA, people are going to come get it. Do you think people... Oh, man, I wish you had asked at the Trump rally.

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About Aruan?

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About Aruan, about Haley Bieber, do they know as much as we do about... Okay, do they know about the Hailey Bieber smoothie in middle America? That's a great question. Middle America is an offensive term. I'm not going to say that. Flyover State. Yes. Much better. You know what I mean? I do. If we pulled America, how many people know about the Hailey Bieber smoothie?

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I would say 50/50.

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I think a lot of people do now because of TikTok and stuff.

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That's the thing. I feel like I know it because I'm online. Who knows Haley Bieber, period? 70/30, I think. Because of Bieber. Because of Justin Bieber.

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95% of people know Justin Bieber.

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Wait, I saw this video. I can't remember. It was like finding people who don't know who Trump is and just talking about him. I wish. I know. It'd be interesting. I was on another phone date last night, and the guy was like, I was on a date with a woman. It's great. But she didn't know that there was an election this year. And that was a deal breaker. Would that be a deal breaker for you?

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Hmm. That's tough.

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How hot would they have to be?

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Oh, my God. Pin in that. I guess I would be interested to know more. Right. Like, whoa, how? Where do you live? What do you do? Are you actively trying to be totally removed? Because then that's could be interesting. But if you're just an accountant who doesn't know, no, that's weird.

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It's weird. I think it's almost like you have to really try.

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Personally, I don't think anyone's hot enough to not know that there's an election. Although, what is going... Okay, are the Olympics happening or not? Yes.

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Why are I'm not saying it like that?

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Because I have seen zero- It's true. About the fucking Olympics. It's summer, and it's the summer Olympics. What's going on? Why haven't we seen anything? I have not seen any videos of Training of promos. Notoriously, I cry at Olympic promos. I haven't cried once because I haven't seen anything. Then I was like, Is it getting skipped? Where is it? Paris, July 26th. It's in Paris. I know it's in Paris. That was a mini crossword clue, and I got it because I know that. But where is it in the world? I'm saying, Why isn't anyone talking about it?

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Do you think it's because we're not watching TV and we're not getting ads?

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Why isn't it on social media?

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It's weird. I wonder if it's the war stuff.

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I wonder if it's getting overshadowed by the war and the election.

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And there was this really bad election. The European Union voted and worse than Trump, I think, like Marine Le Pen, this super right wing party is going to win.

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In France?

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This might come out in a week, so it won't be relevant. But they did very well in the European Parliament election. And so now they're going to have a French election, and she's probably going to win. So there's just a lot of stuff going on. But to your point, I think this could maybe bring people together.

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We could use an Olympic event It's an Olympic event.

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This year could really use an Olympic event.

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It really could.

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I think you should do something for the Olympics. I think you should call them up.

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And I can be their Hypeman. Yeah.

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I mean, you should do gymnastics cover. Are you going to do stuff? Oh my God. I would love You should watch and do live coverage.

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Well, I guess maybe. I don't know. I don't know if I have time.

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Be the change you want to see in the world. Like be the Paris Olympics.

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Well, that's once it starts. We need to get people excited about it. That's what we're doing now. That's what this is about.

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Our show is now about Paris Olympics.

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Oh, my God. We should do a segment each week leading up to the Olympics, getting people hyped up. I like that.

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We're definitely going to do that.

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I'm going to do an Erwan smoothie. Olympic theme.

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The Olympics should have a smoothie.

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Exactly. If sunscreen can have a smoothie, why can't the Olympics? I mean, oh, my God. They need a new marketing team, the Olympics.

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They do. Yeah, some things run amok.

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Oh, God. Okay. Also, no, I won't say that. That's bad. But I wish it was more available. I mean, it's on Peacock, I guess, because MBC- I think that's partly why, honestly.

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I know. I think that's what's going on.

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How can you watch it? I I need to talk to them. I got to get in there.

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Do you have a vibe of if you were an Olympic athlete, which one would you be?

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That's a great question. I think you should tell me what I am. I think you would be a runner.

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Oh, I love that. I do run a lot. That's cool. I want to say gymnastics because I know how important it is to you.

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Magnificent Seven.

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Magnificent Seven. But that's too obvious. But I do see you doing the thing with the ribbon.

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Oh, no. Rhythmic gymnastics. No shade. But that is not for me.

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Not for you. You're more of a bar girl.

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It's just like dancing around.

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Exactly.

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No. I'm an- Okay, this is aspirational.

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This is, I think, what I want for you, for myself. I think this is selfish. It's like, because then you would do TikToks with me. Oh. We could do one together. That would be a dream come true.

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Oh, my God. It's like you've never met me.

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I know, but now it's not connected to anything about you. It's your body. And I think just as long as someone catches you when you fall in the water.

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Before I get to the water. Actually, I mean, yes, Ariel-wise, because I do have some experience in that, I see what you mean. But I think my boobs are too big to be a diver.

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They push them The baiting suits are intense. You're almost flat.

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How? That would hurt.

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Yeah, you're right. Which sport do you have to have the small- You're allowed to have big boobs. Big, you're allowed to have big boobs. Or it would be helpful.

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Never helpful for any sport. I don't think. For the most part in sports, you have to strap them down. Wait, what about floating?

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Does it help you float? Could you be a really good- Floater?

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Floater.

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Like water polo? You'd be good.

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Does it help you float?

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I don't think so. I don't I don't think so. For sure. It's pockets of...

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But it's fat.

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Oh, I guess. Technically- I was going to say pockets of air.

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And memory glance. It's definitely not air. Although there's different densities. Some women have denser boobs than others.

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Are yours dense?

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I don't know. I think maybe. Well, how do we know?

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Have you touched other boobs?

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No. But I've seen other boobs. I mean, I assume mine are probably similar to my mom's.

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Does it get this down? Because I got mine from her. Of course. That's crazy because my mom has giant boobs. Me and my sister have no boobs. I don't think it's genetic. Okay, who will that?

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We do need to know if boob size is genetic.

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Boob size?

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Breast size because let's try to get some science. My mom, I have bigger boobs than her, but she has good size boobs, and I think my grandmother as well.

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What about butt? Because me and my sister both have good butts, no boobs. I'm like, did we get that from my dad?

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You could have got more of your body.

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We got the boobs and the butt from your dad. Yeah.

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Without a doubt, genetics form the cornerstone of breast size determination.

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But expand on that.

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Our familiar lineage blueprints many aspects of her physical form, including breast size. You'll likely manifest this trait if you've inherited genes for excessively large breasts. What the hell? It skips a generation. But it is two people. So I mean, maybe you probably got more of your dad's body.

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Or my dad's boob jeans.

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Boob jeans. Yeah. But I also think, generally speaking, there's like body type. You often match a parent's body type or parts. Have you ever looked at a part of yourself and been like, I am looking at my dad's blank dick? No. I'm kidding. But my legs are very similar to my dad's. Okay. Sometimes I look at them and I'm like, wow. I 100% got that from him.

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I have the same thing with my dad. We have a bump on our I have an extra bone.

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Like a sit. Oh, a bone.

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It just sticks out. My sister has it, my dad has it, and I have to check if Milla has it, actually. My niece, but we call that the plank bone.

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Oh, that's cool.

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Sometimes throughout time, me and my sister look so much like my dad, but my sister, as she's aged, now starts looking a lot like my mom when she was her age. They both have the cheekbones. It's interesting how your face changes.

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Yes, for sure. Okay, the pin about being hot?

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Yes. Okay. Great.

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I watched Challenges this weekend.

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How was it?

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Have you seen it yet?

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I wanted to go see it. Remember, I bet... I know. Then I was like, She's seen it.

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We were going to go see it a long time ago, then we didn't. But then I rented it this weekend. Oh, you did? Okay. Yeah. And oh my God, it's so hot.

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I've heard it's like a sexy movie.

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Before it came out, I heard it looks so hot, right? It was like so sexy. I was excited about it. Then when it came out, I heard mixed things. And so then I lowered my expectations, and I was like, I don't even know if I to see this. But then I had time on Saturday, and so I rented it. Oh, my God. I thought it was so hot. The boys are so hot in that movie. And back to a couple of weeks ago, or maybe it was last week when we were talking about rodent boyfriends, which I really... That's the last time I'm going to say that phrase because I don't like it. I think it's very rude.

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To brats or to men?

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To men. Who wants to... If they said rodent girlfriend, I personally would not find that flattering. I can't speak for everyone, but I see what people mean, and I am doubling down that is my type. Oh. I find it that look so hard.

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Tell me more about the look.

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I mean, it's how you described it. It's not cookie cutter pretty, but yeah, I find it so attractive. And then I watched the Italian movie that I've been trying to watch for also months, La Chimera. I rented that as well. And that has Josh O'Connor, the brunette guy in Challenges. So I had a whole Josh O'Connor evening.

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Oh, interesting.

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He's so hot. Okay. And he also plays Prince Charles in The Crown, the young Prince Charles, which- I need to Google him. I didn't realize until I was told. But anyway, so I had a whole Josh O'Connor evening. It was all extremely hot. La Quimera is incredible. It's such a good movie. It's very It's odd. It's very Italian. It's artsy, but it's beautiful. And about death and longing and lovely. Wow. I recommend La Chimera and Challenges.

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Were you surprised by how attracted you were to this type, or were you like, Oh, that's always been my type?

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Yeah, I think I'm like, yeah, that's your type.

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Wow. Oh, that's not my type at all.

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Oh, he's so charismatic. He's so hot. I think my type is upon first glance, you might just be like, oh, yeah, that's a nice looking person, whatever. You're not thinking twice, really. But there's so much personality infused. You build a charisma. They both were very charismatic, but he especially. Really hot. And then it led me to ask a bunch of my friends if they'd ever had threesomes. Okay. And pretty much no one had. Wow. Yeah, which I was surprised. But have you had them?

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I've never had one, and it's so off-brand for me. I really want to... I have a friend of mine that laughs me all the time because I've been in a lot of situations where he was like, That was a threesome. You left the room, but that was a threesome. Going to be a threesome? Yeah. And I didn't get the memo. So I think there's a certain vibe that I don't I got up on. I've basically missed out on a lot of threesoms that I could have been a part of.

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Okay. Now, in the threesome world, in this zone, because when I was watching this, it was It was just a threesome make-out. It wasn't a crazy sex scene or anything, but it was hot. I did think like, I should probably do that before I die. That seems like something I want to do. But it's so specific. I only want to do it if it's two guys and me.

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Oh, okay.

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They're just both really into me.

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Yes, that's the ideal. Yeah.

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You have to plan it so specifically.

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I think you could find that in a second. I don't think that's going to be hard for you to find.

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Maybe I'm not soliciting them. Just for our Listeners, this isn't like, I'm not putting this out there to strangers.

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I mean, put it out in the universe.

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I am putting it out in the universe. I think I want to know them. No, I don't want to know them. I don't want to... Do it in a submission form for a website? Exactly. I definitely don't want to do that. Then I was talking about this. I started talking about it with friends, and people had different opinions of who they would want to be in the threesome. A lot of people want to come into a couple, which I found interesting. That's not for me.

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Would you rather be the couple?

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If I had to pick between those two, I'd rather probably be in the couple. But I don't want to be in a couple. I want it to be all singles. This has to happen before there's a relationship. All singles and those two single men are attracted to me. Yeah.

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That's what I want. And they're not doing stuff to each other.

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They might do a little. They kissed a little bit in the movie, and it was high. Okay, okay, okay, okay. You have to watch it. It was all... It was one big mix. They were all making out at once at one point, which was interesting. And then she manipulative in this movie. She's a very interesting character. But so they're all making... They're kissing her, and then she backs away so that they end up just kissing each other. So who do you want to be if you could design it?

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So I have a lot of different roles that I've thought about. So I would love to coming to a couple because it's the best case scenario. You're just like, they're like, so happy to see you. You're just there for the night, and then you leave, and you don't deal with any of the emotional stuff. You're just this fun little treat. That's true. I would love that. I also have a weird... I don't know. I have this fear of being cheated on and also a fantasy of cheating.

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Do you think they're related? Maybe. Because of the fear. You know why we like horror movies? Because we're scared, but we want to live that out in a way and in a way that you have control over.

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Yes. Oh, that's a good idea. Okay, that's probably it. Because in the fantasy, it's happening, but I'm in control.

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It's not happening to you. Exactly.

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I'm doing it. Oh, that's interesting. Okay, you have to resolve that for me. So I have that, too. But I don't have a preference in terms of the genders. I think I would just be excited whatever is happening. But I like the idea. I do think there's something very luxurious and, I don't know, pleasurable, indulgent about two servants. I know.

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That's how it felt in the movie. They're just obsessed with her. And I wouldn't love that practically, but sexually, that would be fun, of course.

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Yes, right. Practically, it would be annoying.

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I mean, would you take- It ends up getting very complicated as it would be. Sure, as all things do.

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Yes. But I think it's a thing where I think I haven't been... We have to be open to it. That's all.

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Well, that's true. I would probably have to be fairly- Planted out? Kind of, because I'm not thinking about that ever in life. I'm not thinking about sex at all in life, walking through it, generally, unless something exciting happens. So I don't know. They'd have to be so hot. It would just be for sex. Like, that's obviously that's the only purpose of a threesome. It's not for falling in love. That seems so complex. That's exactly what I don't want is emotions because then the whole thing gets fucked up.

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I think what feels stressful about being the couple and bringing someone in is that you have no idea. And I think that's my fear with it, that I might think it's fine, and then something happens in there that then means I'm not...

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And then it can grow. And watching your partner. I don't know about that.

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I know. I'd have to be sure that they really don't... Let's say we're bringing in a woman that her personality is not good. I have to know that there's no way they're going to get along beyond this.

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For me, I just want it to be two guys always.

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Okay, so you're not interested in the other way around. There's no world where that would happen. What? Where there's another woman and a guy.

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I mean, it might, but probably not because the point to entry for me doing this in general is like...

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Hot guys?

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Well, no, it's just high. It's going to be hard enough for me to find myself in this situation to begin with. And if I'm already like, then I'm definitely not. Since I feel, eh, about it being two girls, that's not going to happen.

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Okay, got it. Got it. Got it.

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You know what I mean?

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You've never seen a woman that you're like, Oh, she's like, you're really on this Kinsey scale, like a zero?

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Well, I don't know if I'm a zero. I mean, I definitely think women are pretty, but yeah, I don't.

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You're not. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not interested.

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Yeah. But also mixed in with that is I don't want to feel like I'm competing. And if it's two women, I don't think you can help but do that. I think men, they might have that sense of competition, but they also have big egos, and I feel like they could get over it, especially if they're strangers.

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Sure. Do you think that guys fantasize about that, or is that just a pure female fantasy? Because guys fantasize about, I think, threesomes with two women. Of course. Yeah. But that one of two guys, just like...

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No. Straight men probably don't fantasize about that. But I think they do it. I don't think they're like, I would never. I think that's still because it's a heightened sexual experience, I think they do it. Do you know anyone who's had a threesome?

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Should we call them?

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Well, Jess has. I asked him. He was like, Yeah, I've had a lot.

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My friend just had one at Burning Man.

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How was the genders?

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It was the couple and her, and it was during the whole mud situation, too. So it was high stakes.

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Oh, they thought they were going to die.

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Yes, which made it even better. And then she just was hanging out with them, and then they ended up back at their camp or tent or whatever. And then it just happened. Wow. Yeah.

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Did she like it?

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Yes, she did, actually.

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Interesting. Yeah.

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I mean, do we have a question? Not really. We're just going to call them up and be like...

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Probably. I don't want to put anyone on this I don't think it's a good spot either. Also, there's no... There is no question. It's just like, oh, wow. Anyhow, so that was my hot pin.

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I love it.

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It was fun. I definitely recommend the movie. I think La Chimera is a better movie, probably. But Challenges was hot.

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I think it's good to watch. I'll watch it. I started couples therapy the new season.

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Oh, my God. Oh, speaking of, well, not really, but they have a polycule.

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Exactly. That's what it made me think of.

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But that's not a threesome. We have to be clear. Orna told us that when she was here. They're not a throuple. Right. Because they're not all together.

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Do you think, okay, so if you have a wedding invite and you get a plus one, but you're in a trouple.

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Oh. Or a polycule.

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Are you entitled to a plus two? Or is that like...

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No. No. Definitely not. No. That's an interesting question. The polycule is different because the three aren't hanging. I mean, sometimes they are hanging out, but that's not the point of the relationship. The point is these two a couple, and then separately, these two are. Yeah. But a throuple, that's different. And if your friend, what would you do if... Yeah.

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I feel like if I was in a trouble and my friend was like, Here's a plus one, I'd be like, Are you really my friend?

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No. It's hard enough to even invite have a plus one. Each individual person at a wedding costs so much money for the people throwing the wedding. It's expensive.

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But I think it should be no plus one or making you choose Which partner you're going to bring? I mean, that's a tough combo.

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I guess if I was in a thruple and I was invited to a wedding, I had a plus one, I would tell my boyfriends, they would have to decide.

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Wait, I love this for you. You should have two boyfriends. Have you ever thought about that?

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No. I don't even have one boyfriend. How can I possibly have two?

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I think you should entertain it. That just sounded right to me. Coming out of my mouth. It just sounded correct.

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My boyfriends? Well, it probably sounded correct because I talked about Ben and Matt as being my boyfriends. Right.

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But no, it felt right on a visceral level. Anyway, just something to think about.

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Well, who knows where this life will take me. But I would put it in their hands. I would say, I have a plus one. You two decide if If you both don't want to come, I'll invite Jess. There we go.

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Sounds like a fun plus one.

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I know. He's the best plus one. Yeah. I thought about that after we went to Carlsbad that I thought was Palm Springs on our little 24-hour adventure, Jess and I. I was Man, well, this is so funny because the first thought I had when I was going and I was like, I don't want to go. And it was before he had offered to go. We talked about this here. I was like, this is why people have partners so they can just have a buddy all the time. And then Jess came and it was incredible and it was so fun. And then we left. And then I was like, oh, my God, if I had a partner, I wouldn't have brought Jess. And that sucks. And then what happens if I do have a boyfriend or boyfriends? They're just going to have to be fine with Jess coming to everything.

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I think that's normal. Also, there's plenty of... I mean, it was on a weekday. Your boyfriend might be working. It would have been totally fine for you to... Not fine, but even great, right? That you bring Jess. You don't have to bring your boyfriends everywhere.

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My boyfriends might get... I don't know how they're going to feel. They could get mad because I might be like, well, Jess is coming to everything. We do it all the time. Oh, because you prefer- Oh, because you prefer...

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But you're comparing Jess to- Well, I don't know who they are. Yeah, exactly.

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I just mean Jess is a staple, and I'm not going to not have him around or go to dinner with him a lot or go do things with him. My boyfriends can come, too, but that's going to be part of the package a little bit.

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That's great. I think that's normal. You shouldn't stop hanging out with your friends just because you have two boyfriends. I'm going to be so busy. You're going to be busy. That is the thing.

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Yeah. There's a lot of people in this scenario.

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If you had two boyfriends, would you want to be all living together or are they separate? And do they have other girlfriends? No.

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In this case, no. I don't like it. I think we all live together.

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I see it.

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I don't see it. I mean, this is so not. It's not for me. In couples therapy, even the polycule, which is not a thruple, seems so complicated and hard. And spoiler, he's sitting there with the two of them, and he has his hands on both of them. And sometimes in the middle, we'll kiss one of them. And I'm like, What? I mean, I'm old and I guess, really It's just hard for me to imagine feeling open in that situation.

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You have to talk so much. Already being in a relationship, you're talking all the time about your relationship. I mean, good and bad, but like, double that. That's so exhausting. And you're talking about the other relationship with the other relationship. It's a lot of talking. I commend people who can do it.

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All right. Well, let's do some questions. Okay. Oh, this is good. Okay. This is from Anonymous. My husband is calling his mom, mommy, and it's giving me the ick. Hey, Liz and Monica, my husband and I just moved in with my in-laws, and we've got one little girl and another one on the way. We've been figuring out the new dynamic. It's honestly been so nice to be with them, and I've always gotten along great with his parents. As we've been trying to establish boundaries with our daughter, my husband has gone back and forth between calling me mom with her and referring to his mom as mom instead of grandma. I get that it's probably confusing for his brain since she is his mom, and that's what he calls her. However, he started to call both me and his mother mommy, occasionally to our toddler. And now it's happening more often that he calls his mom mommy when he's talking to me about his mom. It's not the end of the world, and I could probably just point it out in a joking way and he'd stop. But it gives me such an ick to hear this 30-year-old man call his mother mommy and be so casual about it.

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How do you guys think I should go about bringing it up? I don't want to cause ripples or make him feel dumb, but it's so weird to hear him call her that. Can't wait to hear your thoughts and what the sync squad has to say. I get it. That would ick me out. But because it's new, I think you could call it out. If it's an old thing, then I think you just have to be like, This is weird, but this is what their relationship is. But since it's new, I think you could just be like, Do you notice you've been calling your mom mommy a lot? I would just say it like that. I hope everyone can laugh at it. Who knows where that'll go? He might be like, Yeah. Is that a problem? Who knows? But I would just straight up say it.

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Same. I think you're so right. Do it early. Because what's hard is that if you suppress it and then it goes on and on and on, then he'll be embarrassed. Exactly. He said it for that long. Exactly. Cut it early. What about Daddy? Oh, God. Is Daddy less bad than mommy?

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I think it's less bad, but that's because we're women. That's probably unfair. It's not less bad. Really? Yeah, it sounds just as gross to me. Okay.

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I call my dad. I still call him Daddy. Daddy. Is that bad?

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It's not bad.

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But see, I don't say mommy. To me, daddy is Daddy, it's a fun, playful. And with my mom, I don't say mommy. I don't know. It has a connotation of being a baby.

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Right. I mean, they both have connotation.

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Yeah, they each have also weird sexual- Sexual-sexual-sexual-edible stuff.

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Yes. But none of us are having sex with our parents. No. It's fine. But I would have to say something. Okay, what if you were dating someone and then they said, Liz, you call your dad Daddy? Would you feel embarrassed? I would.

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But then I would be like, oh. It would make me a little sad that I had to give that up. Yeah, it feels in a way of like, there's like a deep meaning to it. I think of like, I'm still a kid, and somehow if I'm old now, then that means my dad's going to die. It goes real quick.

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Yeah. It's heavy.

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Okay, Kat, from the age of literally the first grade, called her parents by their first name. No, that's insane.

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I swear to God. So where did it go? When she was little? Little. She still does that. Of course.

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But when we were little, it was never mom and dad. It was like...

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I know people who call their parents by their first names when they're talking about them. And it's a little bit in jest, but I don't know anyone who calls their parents by their first name to them. Yeah. It's funny, right? That's very funny. If my kid did that, I would kill myself. That would make me so sad.

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We should do a prank to our parents. We're going to go home and just call Hey. And then film them turning around. Because you've seen students have done that with teachers, where they prank their teachers by being like, Hey, Brandel. And then Mr. Robinson turns around. He's like, It's Mr.

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Yeah. Well, that's just disrespectful. It is. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't you think most parents, well, sentimental parents anyway, probably remember when their kids stopped calling them Daddy or mommy. I mean, I think I would remember.

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What do you call your mom? Mom. Mom and dad. Mom and dad. Interesting. I think that must have happened young, I think.

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Teenager? Oh, earlier than that. Really? I think.

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Oh, my God.

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Probably middle school, maybe like fifth or sixth grade. Oh, wow. I can't remember the last time I called my dad Daddy. I really can't. But I definitely did. It probably coincided with the times. I used to, before bed, go find my dad and say good night and kiss him good night. And then that stopped, too. And it probably all happened at the same time. What a horrible day for him. That's so sad.

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It's part of... I mean, I never stopped, though.

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If you start saying dad now to your dad, is he going to be so sad?

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My dad doesn't notice a lot of things, but I think he would notice it.

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But when you talk about your dad, you say my dad. I've never heard you say my daddy.

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So my daddy, that would be weird. Do people do that? Well, my guess is they do if that's what they're used to calling them. Well, that's his name to me, but I'm not like... And probably, honestly, no, even when I had boyfriends around, I still would call him dad. I was like, I just can't call him anything else. Weirdly, what I did when I was around that age, I started calling him Poopoo. That's weird, I got. And poops? Like, make it short. I just called him poops. Wait, at one age?

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And he did not like that. Wait, at one age?

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Of course.

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Who wants to be called Poopoo?

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No one wants that. Because French is papa. So I think I just made it fun, like Poopoo. And he just was like, I don't get it.

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Wait, so did you call him by the French?

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Both. Because we speak English and French. That's sweet. And I think there's that, too, of mama. There's not really a shorthand for that in French. There's not a cooler dad.

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Well, in England, and so then in India, my mom called my grandpa, papa, and then her mom, mommy. And that's English. But that It didn't feel kidlike. But remember on the Princess Diana casket, there's a card from the boys, and it says mommy on it? Oh my God. Her mom or something. I know it's so sad.

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I guess mom.

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Yeah. Anyway, that's really sad. But okay, so- Bring it up. I think you can bring it up since it's new.

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He'll want to know.

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But the thing is, if he says it's really important to me that I call her that, if you say to your boyfriend, it's really important to me I call him that because he might die if I don't, then you're going to have to be like, okay.

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That's it. It seems like it's just a... There's a lot going on. It's a tick. Yeah. And he didn't notice. It feels like it's that situation. Okay.

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How are you going to feel if you have kids with someone and they start referring to you as mom? Like, this is common, right?

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Everyone does this. That's what my parents do, too.

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Yeah. Like, dad called, mom called, whatever. It'll be a weird shift, I think. I know.

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I never thought about what that was like for them. Being a kid, you don't think about any of it. You're just like...

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There's critical moments where these things shift over. I think I'm going to feel mixed about it. Oh, this is sweet because we're family. I'm mom. This is dad. This is baby. But also, you don't want to just become mom to your husband and vice versa.

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I think it does happen, and then it can... You want to preserve the relationship.

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You know? Right.

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Rob.

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We don't call each other Mom and Dad. But you would say to Calvin, Go see Mom. It's in this-It's in the vernacular.

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Yeah.

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Your identity is changing, though, when you have kids, so you're taking on Mom and Dad. So it's natural feeling.

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It's like an additional role, not a replacement.

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But I think in many dynamics, it is a replacement.

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Yeah.

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And that can get tricky, I think. For sure.

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And the kids become everything and preserving the relationship is hard.

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Yeah. You know what's funny? It's like, I never hear my mom address my dad by his name. When she talks about him in public or something, she'll say his name. But to him, she doesn't address him.

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They don't say each other's name.

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My dad does. My dad calls her Nimmie. He has a nickname for her. But she never says, Ashoke. I think she just says, Hey. If she's shouting to him, she is just like, Hey.

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Really?

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I think so.

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That's so funny.

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It's not great. I have very little memories of her saying his name out loud. I think also nicknames are fun.

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My niece, for some reason, I think she would hear me and my sister say Daddy. And so she started calling my dad Addy. Oh, that's cute. And so now we all call him Addy. It was a few years into this, and we were like, Do you mind that you're Addy? Mila would do these placements or these letters, and then Addy would be there and we were like, Do you mind that? And he's like, No, I like that my own nickname. Yeah. That everyone it's standard. Adopted that. But you have a special one.

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Oh, that's sweet. Yeah. What does she call your mom?

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Mamie and Adine. Mamie is the French version for grandma.

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Oh, it is. I think nicknames are cute.

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I like nicknames a lot.

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I also like nicknames that evolve over time. There's a group of people in my life who call me Mon, and that's indicative of a time. And now the pod calls me Moni, which is indicative of a time in a group. It's interesting how it bops around. And maybe I said this, but once I was dating this person quickly, and they tried to call me Mo. And I was like, No. No. That's not going to work for me.

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Mo is not you.

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It's really not me at all. What are yours? Elie.

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Is that your niece's? No, that's my nickname.

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Your niece is getting all kinds of nicknames. Elie?

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Elie. Because it's Elizabeth, and the shorthand is Elie. And Ellie. People call you Ellie? Everyone calls me Ellie. Yeah. In Quebec.

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Is it weird to be Liz?

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I think it was weird them. For a while, they were like, Hey, Liz. It was like a joke.

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Stupid American Liz.

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At the same time, I chose it. I remember the first time I went on TV and they were like, What do you want for your car on? I think I did a poll with my friends. I was like, Do I say Elizabeth Plank or do I go by Liz Plank? And they were like, Liz Plank is better.

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When was this?

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When I moved to America in 2013.

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So you've only been Liz since 2013?

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I went to a university in English, and there people started. Even though I never called myself Liz, they I would call me Liz, but I never introduced myself as Liz.

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You would say Elizabeth.

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Elizabeth. Maybe by the end of university, so many people were calling me Liz that maybe I started. If I was speaking to someone in English, I would say Liz, but it really started when I moved.

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It's a new name.

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Kind of.

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Do you feel like you've embodied it?

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I don't know. You tell me.

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I mean, it's hard to know what's like chicken or the egg, but I do not see as an Elizabeth. Actually, me neither. Liz feels very accurate. So that's great.

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Did you have a nickname growing up?

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Mon. But my My parents didn't. They call me Monica. They've always...

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That's it. There was no pet name.

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No pet name. Mon happened with my friends, and that was very standard. They all call me that. Still, like Calleigh. It's funny on the connections chain because it's Calleigh Calee, Max, her husband, Robbie, who's my friend from home as well, and Dax, and me. And so, Robbie and Calleigh call me Mon, and Dax calls me Monny. And so they're all saying it And it's funny all in one place. I like it, though, when, specifically, because I don't see Robbie all the time. He lives in Georgia. So when he says it, it's a reminder of that time, and I like it.

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It's such a sweet. You're right. It harkens back to a time. There's like a warmth and a specific feeling, right? That is brought up. Elizabeth.

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Elizabeth. Okay, let's see. In-law's gifting my husband a house and explicitly keeping my name off ownership. This is from Natasha. Hi, Monica and Liz. My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. We have three children together and own two properties. My in-laws are planning on gifting a house to my husband and explicitly keeping my name off ownership. I know the gift is part of distributing their wealth now rather than after their death. My issue is not the gift being given to my husband, but rather the sticky situation of me contributing to whatever mortgage is left on the property, unknown to me, ongoing repairs of the property, and my contribution to an asset that ultimately won't belong to me. We are in our late 30s, so we have a long time left to care for this property. I also assume this arrangement is being put in place in case my husband and I divorce, which makes me feel icky. I have moved internationally to be closer to my husband's family. I work full-time and make a good wage. The situation has really bummed me out. What are your thoughts on this?

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Thank you. Of course, it bums you out. That would really bum me out. I'm sure they're just trying to be extremely practical. This is very like, lawyerly. It's like a prenup. It's the similar thing where, emotionally, it feels It feels horrible, but practically, it's the smart thing to do. I'm sure that's the way the parents are looking at this. Practically, we should just put it in our kid's name. But of course, it hurts your feelings. Then the contribution part is tricky. If you're paying into the mortgage and then it's not technically yours, that's weird.

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Why are you paying into the mortgage if you don't own it?

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Does it technically matter if they get divorced? It's still shared assets, whether it's in her name or not. If it's an inheritance, then no. That is probably why. They want to make sure that it's his regardless.

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I feel like inheritance is different. It's a little bit like student debt. I feel like there are some things that are separate. I understand you feel left out, but it feels like that's okay to be separate.

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You think this is different from an inheritance?

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Well, isn't this an inheritance? That's what it sounds like.

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I think they are approaching this as an inheritance. Yes, exactly. As instead of money, again, as she said, after they die, it's like, We have money now. We are going to give our kid. But it's hard. Maybe there is a conversation with the husband about, I feel weird with the husband, not the parents, about the contribution piece. I feel weird because this is now fully in your name, yet I am contributing to it. What should we do about this? Something feels often uneven, and how do we together make sure I don't feel like that?

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You have to have the conversation. I don't think you should be contributing something you don't Right.

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This gets complicated. They should have just given him money.

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But they're probably trying to save on... I don't know anything about this, but they're probably saying... Yeah, there's some tax. Because if you take... Then you have to pay taxes on it. Yeah, exactly. This is probably a way to...

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Get around that. Right. Yeah, I would just talk to your husband about it and say you're feeling weird about this. Confused.

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Yeah. It also depends what are you doing with the house.

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Oh, that's true. They might not be living there.

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From what I understand, they're not living there. They'd just be owning it and, I guess, running it out and making...

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Oh. If you're If you're not living there and it's his house, maybe you do say, I don't know if I should be putting my money towards something that's not ours.

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I am happy to contribute if it's ours. He could put it in both their names.

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He could probably change it, maybe. I don't know.

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This is getting above our pay grade.

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This is getting legal. Legalese. What do you think about prenups?

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I think you need a prenup. If you can't get through that with your partner, you probably shouldn't get married. My God, I just heard about a prenup. This divorce lawyer, he has a very popular account, and he was like, The I ever saw, and it was enforceable, was that the woman lost $10,000 per month from her alimony for every 10 pounds that she put on.

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No.

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And you said it was enforceable, and there was nothing we could do because she agreed to it. What the fuck? So it was like a way for the husband to make sure that she maintains a certain- But if it's for alimony, they won't even be together. Maybe the threat of it, I don't know, that her allowance would go down. But she agreed.

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Oh, no.

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So don't do that. Be careful. But no, I think a contract is just good to put things in. Again, the amount of times that I've been with someone where I'm like, I'm going to love you for the rest of my life, and it doesn't happen that way, or even friends or people you're working with. There's so many situations that things change. Exactly. Yeah. You should always have a contract no matter who you're working with, and especially if you care about them. Yeah.

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Okay, let's see. What is our... Maybe we could do one more quickie. Do we have any quickies? These are all... Okay. Well, the rest of the questions are too intense for us to take on last minute. So we'll probably end it there, and then we'll come back to them next week. And that's that. Hopefully by next week, you'll have watched Challenges, and you can weigh in. Okay, great.

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I can't wait.

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Okay, bye. Bye.